How To Get Women To Approach You

Summary

In this video, dating coach Kate Spring introduces the concept of 'preselection,' a theory that explains how a man can attract women by demonstrating that other women are interested in him. Drawing from psychology, Kate discusses how principles like scarcity and social proof can increase a man's dating value. By showing women that you are desired by others, you become more appealing. Kate provides practical examples, such as talking about female friends or casually mentioning past experiences, to enhance your attractiveness. Ultimately, she encourages viewers to embrace this principle to become more irresistible to women.

Takeaways

• 😀 Women are attracted to men who seem desirable to other women, a principle called 'preselection.'
• 😀 Preselection refers to demonstrating that other women find you attractive, which boosts your value in the dating world.
• 😀 The law of supply and demand can be applied to dating: if you're readily available, your value decreases, but if you're scarce, your value increases.
• 😀 Robert Cialdini's principles of persuasion, particularly 'scarcity' and 'social proof,' are key in making yourself more attractive to women.
• 😀 Social proof suggests that people, including women, are drawn to things that others are also attracted to or doing.
• 😀 Scarcity increases the demand for a resource, and when you make yourself less available, women find you more desirable.
• 😀 To implement preselection, show that you have interest from other women, which makes you seem more valuable to potential romantic interests.
• 😀 If you constantly pursue women or show too much interest too early, it can make you seem desperate and unattractive.
• 😀 A study found that single women are more attracted to men who are already in relationships, showing that women like the idea of pursuing unavailable men.
• 😀 To apply the preselection principle, interact with women in social settings and let others see your positive interactions, making you more attractive to them.
• 😀 Talking about other women in a non-forced, positive way during conversations can subtly highlight your desirability without seeming boastful.

Q & A

What is preselection in dating, and how does it relate to attracting women?

Preselection is the idea that women are more attracted to men who appear to be desirable to other women. By showing that you are preselected, or that other women are interested in you, you increase your own attractiveness to new potential partners.

How does the law of supply and demand apply to dating?

In dating, if you make yourself too readily available, it decreases your value, making you appear desperate. However, by being less available, you create scarcity, which increases the demand for your time and raises your perceived value.

What are the six universal principles of persuasion outlined by Robert Cialdini?

The six principles of persuasion are reciprocity, commitment, social proof, authority, liking, and scarcity. In this video, the principles of social proof and scarcity are discussed as being particularly relevant to attraction.

What is social proof, and how does it affect attraction?

Social proof is the concept that people are more likely to do things that they see others doing. In the context of attraction, women are more likely to find you attractive if they see that other women are interested in you.

How does scarcity influence a person's attractiveness?

Scarcity refers to the idea that when a resource is perceived as rare, it becomes more desirable. In dating, if you are not constantly available, you are perceived as more valuable, thus increasing your attractiveness.

What did the study by Jessica Parker and Melissa Burkley find regarding women’s attraction to taken men?

The study found that single women were more interested in pursuing men who were already in relationships, as they were perceived as less available, adding a sense of challenge and intrigue to their attraction.

How can men apply the theory of preselection to increase their attractiveness?

Men can increase their attractiveness by demonstrating that other women are interested in them. This can be done by spending time with female friends or casually mentioning other women in conversation to signal that they are desirable to others.

Why do women prefer the chase and challenge in dating?

Women often enjoy the chase because it creates a sense of excitement and intrigue. It’s a dynamic that makes the pursuit of a partner more engaging, and they are more attracted to men who seem like they are not easily won over.

What signs might indicate that a man is desperate for female attention?

Signs of desperation can include excessive messaging, constantly liking and commenting on a woman's social media posts, or seeming overly eager to engage in conversations. These behaviors can make a man appear as though he has little else going on in his life.

How can mentioning a female friend in conversation increase a man’s attractiveness?

By casually mentioning that you spend time with a female friend, you subtly communicate that you are desirable to women. This signals to other women that you are already preselected, which can increase their interest in you.