Stop Talking And Listen: Divorce Court - Tavarshia vs Joshua

Summary

In this tense episode of Divorce Court, Tavaria Jones and Joshua Coleman confront deep-rooted issues in their six-and-a-half-year relationship. Their struggles revolve around communication breakdowns, past infidelities, and differing parenting styles. Tavaria feels unappreciated and controlled, while Joshua believes she’s too overbearing. Their family dynamics add to the tension, especially after a traumatic incident involving Tavaria’s daughter. The judge advises the couple to work through their issues with mutual respect, compromise, and better communication, urging them not to let unresolved family conflicts destroy their relationship. Their future together depends on whether they can build trust and balance their needs.

Takeaways

• 😀 The main issue between Tavaria Jones and Joshua Coleman is their communication problems, which have persisted for years.
• 😀 Tavaria feels unappreciated in the relationship, especially for balancing work and family responsibilities, including being a part-time worker and full-time mother.
• 😀 Joshua acknowledges past mistakes with cheating but claims to have matured and now focuses on his family.
• 😀 The couple's issues with trust stem from Joshua’s previous infidelity, including cheating with a coworker and other past incidents.
• 😀 There’s a major disagreement regarding parenting styles, especially concerning the use of electronics and screen time for their children.
• 😀 Tavaria complains that Joshua plays video games excessively, while Joshua feels controlled by Tavaria over this issue.
• 😀 Tavaria struggles with sleep when Joshua isn’t in bed with her after his long work shifts, leading to tension about his need for relaxation time.
• 😀 Both parties express frustration with their differing sexual needs, with Tavaria feeling that Joshua doesn't appreciate her efforts, and Joshua wanting more variety in their intimate life.
• 😀 The couple's relationship is further strained by family issues, particularly with Tavaria's handling of a sensitive situation involving her daughter and a family member.
• 😀 Joshua’s family disapproves of Tavaria’s actions regarding her daughter’s safety and the broader fallout that has impacted their relationship with him.
• 😀 Judge's advice centers on balancing family relationships and communication, urging Tavaria to let go of resentment toward Joshua’s family while ensuring her children's safety.

Q & A

What is the primary issue Tavaria Jones has with her relationship with Joshua Coleman?

Tavaria Jones's primary issue with her relationship is communication problems, feeling that Joshua does not appreciate her, and struggles with controlling family issues.

How does Joshua Coleman view the communication issue in their relationship?

Joshua believes the communication issue stems from Tavaria talking too much and not listening to him. He also feels that she is too controlling over family matters.

What examples of miscommunication between Tavaria and Joshua are given in the script?

One example given is the difference in parenting styles regarding screen time for their children. Tavaria sets limits, while Joshua allows the kids more screen time as long as they aren't bothering him.

What does Joshua Coleman claim about his past infidelities?

Joshua admits to having cheated on Tavaria in the early stages of their relationship, but he claims to have matured and changed, becoming more dedicated to his family.

How does Tavaria feel about the time Joshua spends playing video games?

Tavaria is frustrated with how much time Joshua spends playing video games, sometimes for hours at a time, which she believes takes away from their family time.

What is Tavaria's response to the accusation of being too controlling?

Tavaria admits to being controlling at times, particularly when it comes to Joshua's time and attention, but explains that she feels neglected due to his work schedule and excessive gaming.

What issue does Joshua Coleman raise regarding Tavaria's approach to intimacy?

Joshua feels unappreciated when Tavaria does not reciprocate his sexual desires and wishes she would be more open to exploring different things in their intimacy.

What did Tavaria ask of Joshua regarding their intimacy that he refuses?

Tavaria has expressed interest in bringing another woman into their bedroom, but Joshua refuses, stating that he doesn't think Tavaria would follow through with it.

What is the issue with Tavaria and Joshua's families?

The main issue is that Tavaria cut off communication with Joshua's family after an incident involving her daughter accusing a family member of inappropriate behavior. Joshua's family feels excluded and resents Tavaria for limiting their contact with the children.

How does Judge Lynn Toler suggest Tavaria and Joshua resolve their family issues?

Judge Toler advises Tavaria to allow Joshua's family to visit the kids occasionally, even if she doesn't want them to drop by unexpectedly. She encourages Tavaria to separate her anger about the one family member's actions from her relationship with Joshua and his family.