🔴They Feel Empty! Do Narcissists Care That You’re No Longer With Them? | Narcissism | NPD

Summary

This video explores whether narcissists care when someone is no longer in their lives. While narcissists appear indifferent after discarding someone, their ‘care’ is rooted in self-interest and dependency on the emotional supply they receive. Narcissists struggle with the loss of a significant supply, as it threatens their image and emotional stability. Though they quickly move on to new relationships, these often fail to replicate the unique emotional connection they had with their former partner. The video highlights the complexities of narcissistic behavior, including hoovering and the emotional void that follows the loss of a key source of validation.

Takeaways

• 😀 Narcissists care about losing their supply, but not in the way others expect; their concern is rooted in self-interest and maintaining control over their image.
• 😀 Narcissists lack genuine emotional bonds and view relationships primarily as tools for validation, manipulation, and control.
• 😀 While narcissists seem emotionally detached, they feel the loss of a significant supply because it threatens their carefully crafted self-image.
• 😀 The behavior known as hoovering refers to a narcissist's attempts to reconnect with discarded individuals, often using manipulation tactics to regain control.
• 😀 Narcissists may not miss their supply in a loving way, but they miss the sense of ownership, validation, and control they once had over that person.
• 😀 Hoovering can occur even years after a relationship has ended, showing that narcissists still think about and seek to control their former supply.
• 😀 Narcissists are constantly searching for new sources of supply, but they rarely find the same emotional depth or connection they had with their former supply.
• 😀 The emotional responses and validation provided by an empath are highly addictive to a narcissist, and the loss of that supply creates a profound emptiness.
• 😀 Narcissists often fail to recognize the true emotional cost of discarding someone, which leads them to feel a void that can't easily be filled.
• 😀 Understanding the nature of narcissism helps individuals avoid false hope and enables them to set healthier boundaries, ultimately protecting themselves from manipulation.

Q & A

Do narcissists care when you are no longer in their lives?

Yes, narcissists do care when you are no longer in their lives, but not in the way that most people might expect. They care primarily because they lose a source of supply—emotional validation and control—rather than out of genuine affection or love.

What does it mean when we say narcissists view people as a source of supply?

When we say narcissists view people as a source of supply, we mean that narcissists use others to meet their emotional and psychological needs, such as validation, admiration, and control. They depend on these reactions to feel whole and maintain their self-image.

Why do narcissists seem emotionally detached when losing a significant person?

Narcissists appear emotionally detached because they lack empathy and the ability to form genuine emotional bonds. They do not miss a person for love or affection; instead, they miss the validation and control they gained from that individual.

What is 'hoovering' in the context of narcissistic relationships?

'Hoovering' refers to the behavior of a narcissist attempting to pull someone back into their life after they’ve been discarded. This can involve reaching out through mutual friends or using other manipulative tactics to regain control and emotional supply.

How do narcissists react when they lose a significant supply?

Narcissists often react by feeling a deep sense of loss and vulnerability. Since their self-worth is tied to the validation they get from others, losing a significant supply can create a void in their lives. However, they are typically more concerned with restoring their control than processing genuine emotional loss.

Why do narcissists quickly move on to new relationships after discarding someone?

Narcissists move on quickly because they constantly need new sources of validation. However, this doesn’t mean they forget about the person they discarded. The new relationship may fill their need for supply temporarily, but it rarely matches the depth of the connection they had with the former partner.

What is meant by 'shelf supply' in narcissistic behavior?

'Shelf supply' refers to the narcissist’s tendency to put someone they have discarded on a metaphorical shelf. This means that they might revisit the relationship when it suits their needs, as the discard is not always permanent and may serve as a tactic to manage supply.

How do narcissists view their relationships with empaths?

Narcissists view their relationships with empaths as a source of emotional fuel. Empaths offer the kind of deep emotional responses, validation, and support that the narcissist craves. However, this relationship is often one-sided, with the empath unaware of the narcissist’s manipulative tactics.

Why can’t narcissists easily replicate the emotional connection they had with their ex-supply?

Narcissists can’t easily replicate the emotional connection they had with their ex-supply because each individual is unique in how they interact with the narcissist. The specific emotional reactions, kindness, and support they received were tailor-made to feed the narcissist’s need for validation, making it irreplaceable.

What happens when a narcissist encounters a new source of supply that doesn’t meet their needs?

When a narcissist encounters a new source of supply that doesn’t fulfill their emotional needs, they feel a profound emptiness. They may continue searching for a replacement, but the new person will not provide the same level of emotional validation and will ultimately fall short.