#Narcissists THINK They ARE GOING To GET By And AWAY! OH BUT THEIR FOOLISHNESS Has A GPS ON THEM!!

Summary

In this video, the speaker discusses the manipulative and toxic behaviors of narcissists in relationships. They explain how narcissists often leave for a new supply, only to return when life turns against them, realizing that their previous partner was a source of stability. The speaker emphasizes the importance of maintaining distance from narcissists, stating that their absence is the only thing that can truly make them face the consequences of their actions. The video encourages healing, self-care, and the understanding that narcissists must face their own consequences without external interference.

Takeaways

• 😀 Narcissists often leave relationships to pursue new sources of supply, but this is typically short-lived and they will eventually return.
• 😀 When narcissists return, it's often because they are experiencing negative consequences from their actions, and they no longer benefit from the grace and mercy they once had.
• 😀 The narcissist’s dysfunctional behavior and lack of self-awareness lead them to repeat their mistakes, which causes their lives to fall apart without the stabilizing influence of their previous partner.
• 😀 Once the narcissist leaves, their previous partner may have been protecting them from the consequences of their actions by providing a buffer.
• 😀 The narcissist doesn't realize the extent of their own dysfunction until they are without the support and mercy of their former partner.
• 😀 The narcissist believes they can return and fix things, but in reality, their return often comes with worse consequences for both them and their ex-partner.
• 😀 The concept of 'grace by association' suggests that the narcissist benefited from the ex-partner’s presence and protection, which shielded them from the full consequences of their actions.
• 😀 Once the ex-partner is gone, the narcissist faces the reality of their actions, and they want to return to avoid facing the pain they caused.
• 😀 The narcissist’s inability to truly change is a reason they continue to make poor decisions and seek validation from others, including their ex-partner.
• 😀 It's crucial to remain firm in your boundaries and not let the narcissist back into your life, as they will continue their manipulative behaviors, and only life’s consequences can teach them the lessons they need.

Q & A

Why is it important for the speaker to stress the idea of leaving a narcissist and staying gone?

The speaker emphasizes that once you leave a narcissist, you need to stay gone because returning to them might seem like an opportunity for them to 'reset' their lives, escaping the consequences of their actions. The narcissist often returns because life is dealing with them harshly, and they want the comfort of the person who previously buffered their consequences.

What does the speaker mean when they say the narcissist is ‘benefiting by association’?

The narcissist benefits by being in a relationship with someone who provides them with 'grace' and 'mercy,' which shields them from the full consequences of their harmful actions. The speaker believes that this mercy is granted by association with the person, who unknowingly protects the narcissist from receiving the full effects of their bad behavior.

How does the concept of the 'grace and mercy' relate to the speaker’s view of the relationship with the narcissist?

The speaker suggests that while the relationship with the narcissist was harmful, the individual in the relationship unknowingly provided grace and mercy to the narcissist. This allowed the narcissist to avoid facing the full consequences of their actions. Once the person leaves, the narcissist no longer benefits from this mercy, and they must face the repercussions of their past behavior.

What is meant by the phrase 'they might get by but they’re not going to get away'?

This phrase means that although a narcissist may temporarily escape consequences by moving on to a new relationship or situation, they cannot fully avoid the negative outcomes of their actions. Eventually, life will catch up with them, and they will have to face the consequences they deserve.

What does the speaker suggest is the ultimate consequence the narcissist faces after the person leaves?

The ultimate consequence the narcissist faces is the law of reciprocity, or karma. Without the person they were manipulating or controlling, they are left to experience the full impact of their past behavior, which often includes suffering or loss as a result of their harmful actions.

Why does the speaker warn against being a 'buffer' for the narcissist’s consequences?

The speaker warns against being a 'buffer' because staying in the narcissist's life allows them to avoid facing the full consequences of their actions. By being absent, the person allows the narcissist to experience the consequences of their behavior, which is necessary for them to learn and face their mistakes.

What does the speaker say about narcissists’ behavior once they move on to a new relationship?

Once narcissists move on to a new relationship, the speaker suggests that it is often short-lived because the new partner is typically just as dysfunctional as the narcissist. Eventually, this will lead to more conflict and problems, causing the narcissist to return to the original person in search of comfort and stability.

What role does the speaker believe ‘the law of reciprocity’ plays in the narcissist’s life?

The speaker believes that the law of reciprocity, or karma, ensures that the narcissist eventually faces the consequences of their actions. They will get back what they’ve put out into the world, and without the person they manipulated to buffer them, the narcissist will experience the negative outcomes of their behavior.

Why does the speaker mention that narcissists think they can 'get by' but not 'get away'?

The speaker points out that narcissists often think they can escape their past wrongdoings by starting fresh with someone new, but they ultimately cannot avoid the long-term consequences of their toxic behavior. They may briefly 'get by,' but they will eventually be forced to face the consequences that they have earned.

What is the speaker’s advice to those dealing with narcissists?

The speaker advises individuals to leave the narcissist and never return. They suggest that once you’ve left, it’s crucial to stay away because returning would allow the narcissist to benefit from your mercy, and prevent them from facing the consequences of their actions. The speaker encourages people to take care of themselves and not to absorb the narcissist’s negative energy.