Why Is The #Narcissist Hiding Now?

Summary

In this video, the speaker explores the concept of narcissists 'hiding' after a relationship ends. They discuss the common belief that narcissists are busy seeking new sources of supply, but also highlight the possibility that they may be hiding out of shame, especially if the person they discarded has moved on and is thriving. The speaker encourages viewers to continue living their best lives, as this success can cause narcissists to retreat, showcasing their inability to handle seeing someone they discarded succeed and flourish.

Takeaways

• 😀 The speaker invites viewers to subscribe and engage with the content by liking and following.
• 🔍 The video discusses a unique topic: the idea of a narcissist hiding or being absent from a person's life after a relationship ends.
• 🗑️ The concept of 'discard' is redefined, suggesting that a narcissist doesn't truly discard their targets but may shelve them for potential future use.
• 🔎 Reasons for a narcissist's absence are explored, including the possibility that they are occupied with new sources of supply or 'narcissistic supply'.
• 🚀 The video suggests that a narcissist may hide if the person they were involved with has improved significantly after leaving the relationship, outshining the narcissist's expectations.
• 📉 The speaker describes a scenario where the narcissist's smear campaign backfires because the person they spoke ill of is thriving and successful.
• 👑 The empowerment of the individual who has left the narcissist is highlighted, emphasizing personal growth and resilience.
• 🤫 The idea that a narcissist may hide out of shame is presented, as they see their former partner living a better life without them.
• 🏆 The speaker encourages viewers to continue living their best lives to outshine the narcissist and to take pride in their personal achievements.
• 👋 The final message is to keep moving forward and not to engage with the narcissist, leaving them in the past.

Q & A

What is the main topic of the video?

The main topic of the video is discussing the behavior of narcissists, specifically when they go into hiding or become difficult to find.

What does the speaker suggest when a narcissist is not seen or heard from?

The speaker suggests that when a narcissist is not seen or heard from, it could be because they are busy with a new supply or because they have been shamed into hiding due to the success of the person they discarded.

What is the term used in the video to describe the narcissist's attempt to regain control after being discarded?

The term used in the video to describe the narcissist's attempt to regain control is 'hoover attempts'.

What does the speaker mean by 'shelved' or 'benched' in the context of a narcissist's behavior?

The speaker means that the narcissist has not truly discarded the person but has temporarily set them aside for possible future use.

What is the 'illusion of the new supply' mentioned in the video?

The 'illusion of the new supply' refers to the idea that narcissists are always seeking new sources of attention and admiration, but they may not actually have a genuine new source of supply.

Why does the speaker believe narcissists never truly discard their targets?

The speaker believes narcissists never truly discard their targets because they always keep the possibility of using them as a source of supply in the future.

What does the speaker suggest is a possible reason for a narcissist hiding after a breakup?

A possible reason for a narcissist hiding after a breakup is that the person they discarded has improved their life significantly, making the narcissist feel ashamed of their lies and smear campaign.

What is the term used in the video to describe people who report back to the narcissist about the person they discarded?

The term used in the video to describe people who report back to the narcissist is 'flying monkeys'.

What does the speaker mean by 'bossing up' and 'leveling up' after leaving a relationship with a narcissist?

The speaker means that after leaving a relationship with a narcissist, one should take control of their life, improve themselves, and rise above the situation they were in.

What advice does the speaker give to those who have left a relationship with a narcissist?

The speaker advises to continue living their best life, improving, and showing the narcissist that they are winning and shining without them.

What is the final message the speaker conveys to viewers who have left a narcissistic relationship?

The final message is to keep growing and succeeding, making the narcissist realize their mistake in discarding the person, and to not engage with the narcissist but to focus on their own success.

Outlines

00:00

🔍 The Elusive Narcissist: Hiding in Plain Sight

This paragraph introduces the topic of narcissists and their tendency to hide or become untraceable after a relationship ends. The speaker invites viewers to subscribe and engage with the content, emphasizing the importance of community growth. The discussion then shifts to how narcissists may not truly discard their targets but instead 'shelve' them for potential future use. It's suggested that when a narcissist appears to be absent, it could be due to them seeking new sources of supply or because they are busy with their 'flying monkeys' – individuals who support the narcissist's narrative. The speaker encourages viewers to share their thoughts on the topic, indicating that the video will delve into why narcissists might go missing from one's life.

05:00

💥 Leaving a Narcissist: The Power of Transformation

Paragraph two delves into the scenario where a person leaves a narcissist and experiences a significant personal transformation. The speaker describes this as 'torching the pack' and 'flipping the script,' suggesting that the individual has emerged stronger and more successful post-breakup. The narrative continues with the idea that the narcissist may be hiding because their 'flying monkeys' are reporting back on the individual's newfound success, which contradicts the negative image the narcissist had painted of them. The speaker emphasizes that the narcissist's lies about the individual are being exposed through their current achievements, leading the narcissist to feel ashamed and avoid public presence. The advice given is to continue living a successful life, which in turn puts the narcissist to shame.

10:03

🌟 Shining Bright: Outshining the Narcissist's Shadow

The final paragraph reinforces the message that living a successful and 'lit' life post-narcissistic relationship can cause the narcissist to hide due to the shame of being outshined. The speaker suggests that the narcissist expected the individual to fall after the discard but was proven wrong. The individual's resilience and success are described as a 'shaming' of the narcissist, who now avoids any contact or visibility. The speaker encourages the viewer to continue their upward trajectory, as it is a testament to their strength and a source of discomfort for the narcissist. The conclusion is a call to keep 'bossing up' and 'leveling up,' leaving the narcissist to watch from afar as they continue to thrive.

Keywords

💡Narcissist

A narcissist is someone with an inflated sense of self-importance, often requiring excessive admiration and lacking empathy for others. In the video, the term is used to describe individuals who engage in manipulative behaviors and have a deep need for attention and control. The speaker discusses how narcissists may hide or disappear after a relationship ends, which is a key theme in understanding their behavior.

💡Hiding

Hiding, in the context of the video, refers to the act of a narcissist becoming untraceable or absent after a relationship ends. It is used to illustrate the narcissist's strategy to avoid confrontation or to maintain control by creating uncertainty. The speaker suggests that this behavior can be a response to the individual's improved status post-breakup, which challenges the narcissist's narrative.

💡Discarding

Discarding is a term used to describe the act of a narcissist ending a relationship abruptly and often cruelly. In the script, it is mentioned that narcissists do not truly discard their targets but may 'shelve' or 'bench' them, implying that they keep them as potential sources of supply in the future. The concept is central to understanding the narcissist's approach to relationships.

💡Shelved

To be 'shelved' in the video means to be put aside or temporarily set aside by a narcissist, suggesting that the person is not entirely discarded but kept as an option for future engagement. This term is used to explain how narcissists may maintain control over past relationships by not fully ending them, which is a tactic to keep their 'supply' of attention and validation available.

💡Supply

Supply, in this context, refers to the people or sources of attention, admiration, or energy that a narcissist seeks to fulfill their needs. The video discusses how narcissists are constantly seeking new supply and may hide when their old supply becomes more successful, thereby challenging the narcissist's self-image and control.

💡Triangulation

Triangulation is a manipulative tactic used by narcissists where they involve a third party in their relationship dynamics to create confusion, jealousy, or to maintain control. The script mentions that a narcissist might tell new supply lies about the person they've discarded to create a narrative that serves their needs.

💡Bossing up

Bossing up is a phrase used in the video to describe the act of taking control of one's life and situation, especially after a difficult experience like a relationship with a narcissist. It implies empowerment and self-improvement, which is a central message of the video, encouraging viewers to rise above the challenges posed by narcissistic relationships.

💡Leveling up

Leveling up means improving one's status or condition, often used in the context of personal growth or overcoming adversity. In the video, it is suggested that after leaving a narcissistic relationship, one can 'level up' by focusing on personal development and success, which can lead to the narcissist feeling ashamed or hiding.

💡Flying Monkeys

The term 'flying monkeys' is used metaphorically in the video to describe people who do the bidding of a narcissist, often spreading rumors or engaging in other manipulative behaviors on their behalf. The script suggests that these individuals report back to the narcissist about the person they've discarded, which can influence the narcissist's behavior.

💡Fabulousness

Fabulousness in the video refers to the state of being exceptionally good or impressive. It is used to describe the positive changes and achievements that one can attain after leaving a narcissistic relationship. The speaker encourages viewers to embrace their fabulousness as a way to show the narcissist that they are thriving without them.

Highlights

Introduction to discussing the topic of narcissists hiding in relationships.

Invitation to subscribe and follow the channel for more content on NPD and relationships.

Explanation that narcissists never truly discard their targets, but may shelve or bench them for later.

Discussion on the reasons why a narcissist might be nowhere to be found, including the possibility of seeking new supply.

The concept of 'torching the pack' after leaving a relationship with a narcissist.

How a narcissist's smear campaign can backfire when the person they targeted thrives after the relationship ends.

The idea that narcissists may hide because they are ashamed of how well their former targets are doing without them.

Advice for those who have left a narcissist to continue living their best life and not look back.

The importance of not giving narcissists the satisfaction of seeing them after they've moved on and improved their lives.

Encouragement to keep leveling up and bossing up as a way to put the narcissist to shame.

The realization that narcissists may miscalculate the strength and resilience of their former targets.

The strategy of keeping a narcissist in the rear view and focusing on personal growth and success.

The message that narcissists may hide not because of new supply, but because they are overshadowed by the success of their former targets.

The call to keep shining and winning in life, which can cause narcissists to hide due to the contrast with their own actions.

Closing thoughts on the importance of not engaging with narcissists and focusing on personal progress.

Transcripts

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to grow so today

in this video we are going

to be discussing something that i

don't think i've seen on

youtube at least not as of late

about the narcissist and that

is simply about the narcissist actually

hiding did we ever think

that the narcissist would hide sure

when you're not hearing from them

or you think they're hiding let's talk

about it let's get into it y'all

let's talk about this narcissist when

they

are nowhere to be found

yes sir yes

so after the discard

i'm sure you probably had a few i

had a few hoover attempts whether you

did the discarding or the narcissist did

the discarding

whoever it was it really doesn't matter

because at it if the narcissist did the

discarding

then it's not a discard it's simply

you've been

shelved you've been benched or whatever

you want to call it

basically they put you up for a later

date and a later time

okay whenever that time may

be but it is not

a true discard like what we would think

of a discard

as and really

the discard honestly you would control

the discard

the the survivor the victim the survivor

would control

the final discard because a narcissist

never truly

discards their their targets

okay but let's talk about this

narcissist that you haven't seen or

heard from

so yeah you can't find them i mean on

social media

you can't i mean you they they're just

nowhere to be

found well there could be

a couple of good reasons for that

and i know that um the number one reason

that you

all are thinking oh well the narcissist

is busy with the new supply

uh or the or the illusion i i like to

call it the illusion of the new supply

i don't think they ever have a a true

new supply you know i i think they are

always working up on something because

the nurses is always running around

looking for some other supply to be

uh down with their team okay because it

it's never going to be you and the

narcissist as

a as a team so you gonna be on the team

y'all are not gonna be the team you

gonna be on the team

let's be clear let's get that 100

clear okay so don't ever think

that you're gonna be with the narcissist

and you're gonna be just the only one no

no no no

they do not roll like

that no no it's gonna be

it's gonna be you and and several others

yeah they are they're always looking for

supply

so yeah so we may think that they're

they're

uh with the new supply and

a lot of times that is the case but

there are

some cases watch this there are

some cases where some of you that are

watching this

video

some of you that are watching this video

came out of the relationship with the

narcissist

and baby you torched the pack after you

left

yes yes indeed you

torched the pack okay you

came out of that thing in a blaze of

glory

and you flipped the script when you came

out of that thing and after you got past

the hurt and if you did it like this

because i'm i'm about to tell you how

boss chick would have done it

or a a a king boss okay or

queen boss however you want to

term yourself okay let me just tell you

if you did it like a boss when you left

and you bossed up and you totally

came up on every level

and you looking and smelling and i mean

just

feeling like you had never felt before

i'm talking about

you are just straight doing the doggone

thing

okay after you left out of that

relationship

yeah the narcissist is hiding

because guess what the flying monkeys

the brigade that has been put out to to

have a

to to keep a watch out on you

they're reporting back to the narcissist

what's going on

and if he was if he told the new supply

who you were because he want to

triangulate you he probably mad about

that

because the new supply problem he

probably told the new supply all types

of lies about you and everything else

and the new supply looking at you like

whoa this this

this person right here got i don't know

maybe you made a mistake or maybe you

gave me the wrong person because

man the the person that you're telling

me about they

they are doing some pretty fabulous

things but you know they're probably not

going to tell the narcissist that

because the narcissist told all kinds of

uh untruths all types of lies about you

to the new supply

but when you leave a relationship with a

narcissist okay

and you take that situation

and you throw that in your head

as lesson learned and you turn around

and you boss up you level up

and you give life everything that you

should have given it

with the time that you was that you were

in that that addiction ship with the

narcissist

and you just turned around and you just

made all types of

fabulousness happen after you let after

either you left the narcissist or the

narcissist left you oh baby they hiding

you're not going to find them on the

ground

you're not going to find them on the

book

because you're lighting the book up or

what they call it facebook or fake

book they call it i don't know anyway

you lighting the book up with those

fabulous photos that you got going on

you lighting the grandma i mean it's

litty

all over your social media is litty

it's lit what you think the narcissist

is gonna do

they don't have a choice you leveled up

you bossed up after the discard

basically what you did was you

put the narcissist to complete shame

every lie that they told about you

or told all you and told their their

whole brigade the flying monkeys and

everybody else

every lie that they told on you because

you

leveled up and you bossed up after the

breakup

they're happy to eat every last one of

those lies

every last one of them so watch this

so now because of

everything that they said about you

in the in the uh in the smear campaign

they're having to eat that

you're not sent them and tucking their

tails and limping like a dog with three

legs

they can't take that they can't be on

the ground when you lighten the gram up

like you doing

you lighten the book up like you doing

where you think they

where they gonna go cause all of the

flying monkeys are on the ground they on

the social they on social media too they

watching

but guess what baby what they got to

report

is not what the narcissist wants to hear

so yeah there are some times

where the narcissist you can put that

narcissist to shame

and and you know when you see them

hiding and you can't find them they

they wouldn't turn their little lights

off on on social media you can't

you can't even see them they are shame

baby they are ashamed of themselves

because you are just living your

best life and they can't take it

they cannot take it and guess what

they don't have a new supply that would

even come

close to what you were yeah

even the whole team that they got going

still

can't match the one you that they lost

yeah they hide it

yeah they are hiding darling

they don't look the narcissist does not

want to see

hat nor hair of you

or anyone that is watch this associated

with you

because see they expected you to lay

down and die

once that discard happened

but you didn't do that

you let them know that i'm bigger and

i'm better than that

and i'm even look and i'm greater

than my circumstance watch this

come on here word cause greater is he

who is in me than he

who is in the world

see the narcissist miscalculated you

baby

they did because big bad

let me tell you when you decide to be

better than your circumstance and when

you

decide that you are not going to lay

down and die

for another human being that had

absolutely no right to

pronounce judgment over you nor your

soul

and you get right on up out of that pit

that the narcissist

tried to throw you off in okay

yeah they got to hide they do and i

recommend that they would because what

they see

when they see you winning is shining

like you doing

it's gonna make them hurt even worse

it's gone doggone near slay them

like your fabulousness is doing each and

every day so

listen my strategy here is keep living

your best

life honey you keep bossing up

you keep leveling up and you keep giving

that

narcissist something to look at that

they

never ever ever wanted to see and that's

you winning and shining without them

oh yes because see they had you pegged

wrong baby

they did but it's all good it's all good

it's all good but guess what they get to

look at you now

from a rear view and every now and then

you could just kind of look back and say

hmm

wonder how the view looks from back

there

yes i said it how does the view look

from back there

yeah just think about it because you

don't want to give them any conversation

for what

for what that's done and over with

done and over with so yeah there are

some times

when they are hiding because you have

just

shamed them with all of the success and

the

and the fabulosity that you have going

on and you

bossed up and you leveled up after you

got past

the circumstance of being in that

happenstantual situation

addictionship you bossed up and you

leveled up and look and now you

glowing and you blowing up and that is a

wonderful thing

and i am super proud of you if that is

what you have done

and you got them hiding honey so yes

they are not always hiding because

there's new supply

sometimes they're hiding because guess

what

that real one that got away just put

them to some real shame

yes so you keep blowing up

and you keep blowing up all right y'all

to the next

video you all be blessed and highly

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see you at the top until then ciao