Start life from scratch in late 30s | new country, change job (moving vlog)

Summary

In this introspective video, the speaker shares their journey of life transformation through a significant move and career change. Having lived in three countries, they emphasize the impact of environment on personal growth. The speaker confronts the fear of change and societal expectations, drawing strength from past experiences and the mantra 'be afraid and do it anyway.' As they prepare to leave the UK for the US, they reflect on the importance of embracing life's uncertainties and the power of continuous self-improvement.

Takeaways

• 🌏 The speaker is undergoing a significant life change by moving to a new country and changing careers.
• 📚 They were inspired by Naval Ravikant's book, which emphasizes the importance of three life decisions: where to live, who to be with, and what to do.
• 🏠 The speaker has lived in three different countries, which has shaped their worldview and life opportunities.
• 🔄 They feel that their environment in the UK has become too comfortable, leading to complacency and a desire for change.
• 🚀 The decision to move and change careers was driven by the need to break out of complacency and reinvent oneself.
• 🤔 The speaker acknowledges the doubts and fears that come with such a big decision, but is committed to moving forward.
• 🧳 The process of packing and moving has made the speaker reflect on the accumulation of possessions and the importance of distinguishing between wants and needs.
• 🎓 Skillshare is introduced as a sponsor, promoting the value of continuous learning and skill development for personal growth and reinvention.
• 🔗 The speaker believes that past attempts and perceived failures have been part of a redirection towards a better path.
• 💪 Despite societal expectations and fear of judgment, the speaker embraces the idea of not being 'settled' in the traditional sense and is ready for new challenges.
• 🌱 The speaker is inspired by the quote 'Be afraid and do it anyway,' which they live by and have even tattooed on their body, symbolizing their commitment to overcoming fear.

Q & A

What significant life changes is the speaker going through?

The speaker is experiencing a major life change by moving to a new country and changing their career.

What book influenced the speaker's perspective on life decisions?

The book that influenced the speaker is 'The Almanack of Naval Ravikant', which emphasizes the importance of three main life decisions: where to live, who to be with, and what to do.

How does the speaker's experience in different countries shape their view on the importance of 'where you live'?

The speaker believes that living in different countries has a profound impact on one's worldview, life approach, and the opportunities presented to them.

Why does the speaker feel that their current environment is no longer serving them?

The speaker feels too comfortable in their current environment, which has led to complacency and is not enabling them to be the best version of themselves or accomplish their goals.

What is the speaker's decision regarding their move and why?

The speaker has decided to move out of the UK temporarily to the US for the next 5 years, as they believe this change will better serve their personal and professional growth.

What is the speaker's view on the concept of 'failing'?

The speaker does not believe in the concept of failing, as they see actions taken towards achieving goals as progress, regardless of the outcome.

How does the speaker plan to deal with the fear of judgment and the fear of failure?

The speaker plans to deal with fear by embracing it and taking action anyway, as inspired by the quote 'Be afraid and do it anyway'.

What is the speaker's opinion on the term 'settled'?

The speaker views 'settled' as a state of being content and fulfilled, not necessarily being in one place or having a specific lifestyle, but rather being open to growth and exploration.

What is the significance of the speaker's tattoo and how does it relate to their life philosophy?

The speaker's tattoo, 'Be afraid and do it anyway', is a constant reminder to face and overcome fear, which aligns with their philosophy of pushing through challenges to achieve personal growth.

What is the role of Skillshare in the speaker's narrative?

Skillshare is the sponsor of the video, and the speaker highlights it as a platform for learning new skills and finding passions, which can contribute to personal reinvention.

How does the speaker reflect on their past attempts to move to the US and what they have learned from them?

The speaker reflects on their past attempts as learning experiences that have led to better opportunities, reinforcing the idea that what may seem like failure could be redirection towards a better path.

Outlines

00:00

🌏 Life Changing Decisions and the Impact of Environment

The speaker reflects on the significant life changes they are about to undertake, moving to a new country and changing careers. They discuss the influence of environment on personal growth and life perspective, citing the book 'The Almanack of Naval Ravikant' which emphasizes the importance of choosing where to live, who to be with, and what to do in life. Having lived in three different countries, the speaker feels that their environment has shaped their worldview and opportunities. They express a desire to leave the UK due to a sense of complacency and a need for personal reinvention, aiming to move to the US for the next five years. The speaker also introduces Skillshare as a sponsor, highlighting its role in personal development and skill acquisition.

05:02

🚀 Embracing Change and Overcoming Fear of the Unknown

The speaker shares their personal journey and the emotions associated with leaving the UK and changing careers. They recount past attempts to stay in the US and the challenges faced, reflecting on the unpredictability of life and the importance of perseverance. The speaker challenges the notion of failure, viewing past setbacks as redirections towards better opportunities. As they prepare to leave their home, they confront the fear of judgment and the uncertainty of the future, especially as a woman in her late 30s making significant life changes. They find strength in the mantra 'be afraid and do it anyway,' which they have tattooed on their back, symbolizing their commitment to overcoming fear and embracing change.

10:09

😢 Mixed Emotions and the Finality of Change

In the final paragraph, the speaker expresses a mix of emotions on their last day in their house, feeling the reality of their decision to move and change careers. They acknowledge the fear and judgment from others but remain committed to their path. The speaker is determined to fight their fears and is hopeful that this change will lead to growth and a better life. The paragraph ends with the speaker feeling ready for the new challenges ahead, despite the emotional turmoil of leaving behind their old life.

Keywords

💡Reinvention

Reinvention refers to the process of making significant changes to one's life, often involving personal growth and transformation. In the video, the narrator is embarking on a journey of reinvention by moving to a new country and changing careers, which is a central theme of the narrative. The concept is exemplified by the narrator's decision to leave their comfort zone and pursue a more fulfilling life.

💡Complacency

Complacency is a state of being satisfied with the status quo, often to the point of not seeking improvement or change. The narrator mentions feeling complacent in the UK, which led to their decision to seek a new environment that would challenge them and enable personal growth, thus driving the narrative of change and self-improvement.

💡Environment

Environment, in this context, refers to the surrounding conditions, circumstances, or influences that affect a person's development and behavior. The narrator believes that the environment can shape one's worldview and life path, and their decision to move is influenced by the desire to be in an environment that better serves their aspirations.

💡Contentment

Contentment is a state of happiness and satisfaction with one's life as it is. The narrator distinguishes between contentment and complacency, noting that while they were content, they did not want to remain in a state of complacency, which is why they chose to make significant life changes.

💡Opportunities

Opportunities refer to chances or situations in which something can be done or achieved. The script discusses how different environments present different opportunities, and the narrator's move is partly motivated by the desire to access new opportunities that will help them grow and succeed.

💡Fear

Fear is an emotional response to perceived threats or danger. The narrator experiences fear in relation to their decision to move and change careers, but they choose to confront and overcome this fear as part of their journey towards reinvention and personal growth.

💡Settled

Settled typically means being in a stable and predictable state, often associated with having a stable job, home, and relationships. The narrator questions the conventional idea of being settled, preferring a life of exploration and fulfillment over stagnation.

💡Doubts

Doubts are feelings of uncertainty or lack of conviction. The narrator acknowledges experiencing doubts during the process of planning their move and career change, which is a natural part of making significant life decisions.

💡Uncertainty

Uncertainty refers to the state of being unsure or lacking knowledge or information. The script mentions uncertainty as one of the emotions the narrator faced while waiting for their visa approval, reflecting the challenges of making a major life change.

💡Skillshare

Skillshare is an online learning community mentioned in the script as a sponsor. It offers classes across various creative fields and is presented as a resource for personal development and skill acquisition, aligning with the video's theme of self-improvement and reinvention.

💡Life Potential

Life potential refers to the maximum level of success, development, or achievement that one can attain in life. The narrator expresses a desire to live up to their full potential, which is a driving force behind their decision to make significant changes in their life.

Highlights

The speaker is moving country and changing career, reflecting on the impact of environment on personal growth and opportunities.

Naval Ravikant's book emphasizes the importance of three key life decisions: where to live, who to be with, and what to do.

Living in different countries has shaped the speaker's worldview and life opportunities.

The speaker feels too comfortable in the UK and seeks to avoid complacency by moving and reinventing themselves.

The decision to move is not just about changing location, but assessing if the current environment supports personal goals and growth.

The speaker is moving to the US temporarily for the next 5 years, a plan that has been in the works for over a year.

Skillshare is introduced as a sponsor, offering online learning opportunities to acquire new skills and passions.

The speaker emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between wants and needs when packing and moving.

The speaker shares their past failures and how they have led to better opportunities in the future.

The belief that there is no such thing as failing, only learning and redirection towards achieving goals.

The speaker's realization that life is unpredictable and plans may not work out as expected.

The fear and emotional turmoil of leaving the UK and starting a new life in the US.

The societal expectations of being settled in one's late 30s and the speaker's challenge to that notion.

The importance of constantly assessing if one is living to their full potential and being happy.

The speaker's personal mantra 'be afraid and do it anyway' and its significance in overcoming fear.

The emotional mixed feelings on the last day in the UK house before moving.

The speaker's readiness to face new challenges and the unknown with a positive attitude.

Transcripts

I want to try to get myself

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together I am still in this belief that

I'm doing this in a couple of days my

entire life is about to change not only

I'm moving country but I am also

changing career so the past couple of

days has been full of mixed emotions

sometime last year I read a book called

the almanar of noval ravikant and um

there was one thing he said in the book

that really resonated with me and he

said basically there are three main big

decisions in life that if you make that

earlier in your life the better and

these are where you live who you're with

and what you do and I feel like many

people talk about the last two already

so today I want to focus the

conversation on the first one which is

where you live as someone who's lived in

three different countries already so I

spent the first 18 years in Thailand

then when I was 18 I moved to the US for

a year as a foreign exchange student and

then right after 10:30 I moved to the UK

so this is from someone who's lived in

different countries and I feel like from

what I've seen so far in life that is

very accurate because your environment

can pretty much determine how you view

the world how you go on about life and

where you live your environment presents

you with different opportunities and I

don't really want to get into the

specific of why I'm moving out of the UK

because I love it here but at the same

time I have felt very comfortable for a

long time and I've talked to you before

about distinguishing between the feeling

of being content and complacent and I

realized early on last year that I was

just very comfortable so comfortable

that I felt like that I was being

complacent and this was actually one of

the reasons one of the main reasons why

I Kickstart My reinvention journey

because I saw where I'm at for what it

is which is the place that no longer

serves me at this point in time in this

season of My Life the environment is not

enabling me to be the best version of

myself or to accomplish the things that

I want to do but it's not about moving

country really but I think it's

important to assess whether where you

live is serving you serving what you

want to do because sometimes more change

like moving to a different city or

changing your circle of friends can

really change the trajectory of your

life with that being said we decided

that we are going to move out of the UK

temporarily and we are moving to the US

for the next 5 years but it's something

that's been on the background for the

past year or so I think we applied for

the Visa the beginning of last year as I

was waiting for the Visa approval there

was thoughts that came in mind there

were doubts of course there were

uncertainty and the feeling that I have

to let go the life that I have here in

which all of these I want to talk in

this video today but before we get to

that I need to film a video so I'll see

you very shortly

as unpacking is actually makes me

realize how much stuff we have and

accumulated but how much of that do we

actually need so I think distinguishing

between the ones and the needs is so

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this this thing here has been with me

for 20 years and it's traveled three

different countries and looking at this

just makes me realize something about

life something very important and that

is that you never really know what is

going to happen in the future when I

first went to the US when I was 18 as a

foreign exchange student after the

program ended I actually tried to stay

in the US to go to university because it

was a natural move for all of us but my

family didn't have money enough money to

fund me to go to American University at

the time so I didn't get to stay and

then again in 2009 I tried to apply for

a sponsorship job in the US and after

months and months of trying I didn't get

anything if you were to say to me back

in 2009 that one day I will get a 5

years visa to the US and not only that I

will have another career waiting for me

there I would say that you are of your

mind that is the thing about life you

know like you just don't know what is

going to happen in the future and

looking back many people might think

that I have failed but this is just a

proof that maybe there are certain

things that you tried and may have seen

from other people's lens as failing

maybe it could be that first of all it's

not your time just yet or it could be

that you are being redirected to

something else better I really don't

believe in failing in a yourself because

if you put actions towards trying to

achieve your goals then I don't think

there's such thing as failing if you

keep up the consistency and taking

actions towards whatever you want you

get there one day it is just a matter of

time

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as the house started to get more empty

I'm starting to have this feeling that

everything is becoming very real and it

starts to sink in and the feeling that I

can't back out now this has got to

happen it is happening and I am feeling

this strong sense of fear rushing

through my veins the fear of judgments

from others the fear of what if this

time is different what if I fail this

time because not only that I'm moving

country I am also changing career I will

talk about more on that maybe in future

videos it's a long story especially

doing all this now as a 38 year old

woman many people view this as

irresponsible because people do expect

us at this age in our late 30s to be

settled by now but what is settled

anyway if being settled mean finding

that special someone who challenges me

and I can challenge him or supporting

each other throughout their goals if

being settle means that you accumulate

wealth together then sure I am all in

with being settled but if settled means

that you have to stay at the same place

all the time although you feel like you

want to explore somewhere else if settle

mean that you go through life in autop

pilot mode and not constantly asking

yourself whether you're living to your

full potential whether you're happy if

that is the version of being settled I

am not all for that and every time I

feel this kind of fear rushing through I

try to remind myself of the quote that

stucks with me and something I really

try to live by which is be afraid and do

it anyway I try to live by it so much so

that I got a tattoo on my back there was

so many times that I felt fearful afraid

unsure and were feelings of resistance

there but I pushed through those fear

and always came out on another side

stronger so I am hoping that this time

is going to be the same I am fighting on

my fear so this is it this is our last

day in this house I know there are

exciting things waiting for me and I

don't know why I'm crying it's just so

many mixed emotions I want to try to get

myself together

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now I think I'm ready for pretty much

anything

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