【子供のほめ方しかり方②】親の声かけ次第で子供は変わる(How to Praise and Correct Children's Behavior)

中田敦彦のYouTube大学 - NAKATA UNIVERSITY
13 Jan 202125:22

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Q & A

  • Why is it important to praise a child's efforts rather than just the outcome?

    -Praising a child's efforts encourages a growth mindset, where the child feels motivated to improve and try again. It reinforces the idea that effort leads to progress, helping to build persistence and resilience.

  • What is the impact of focusing solely on the results instead of the process?

    -Focusing only on the results can create pressure to perform at a certain level, leading to anxiety or fear of failure. Children may also focus on winning or achieving perfection rather than learning and growing through the process.

  • How does general praise, like saying 'You're so smart,' affect a child?

    -General praise like 'You're so smart' can lead children to develop a fixed mindset, where they believe their abilities are innate and cannot be changed. This may cause them to avoid challenges or give up easily when faced with difficulty.

  • What are the potential long-term effects of using punishment as the primary form of discipline?

    -Overusing punishment can lead to resentment, rebellion, and a lack of motivation. Children may focus on avoiding punishment rather than understanding the reasons behind their actions or learning from their mistakes.

  • How can parents communicate more effectively with their children when setting boundaries?

    -Effective communication involves expressing feelings and concerns with respect, rather than using commands or threats. Parents should explain the reasons behind rules and ask open-ended questions to help the child understand the consequences of their actions.

  • Why is it important for parents to model vulnerability and share their feelings with their children?

    -Modeling vulnerability helps children understand that it's okay to express emotions and be honest about concerns. This builds trust and empathy between the parent and child, and encourages the child to communicate openly.

  • What role does self-reflection play in effective parenting?

    -Self-reflection helps parents assess their approach to discipline and communication, ensuring they are consistent, empathetic, and clear in their expectations. It also allows parents to adjust their strategies based on the child's needs.

  • How can parents balance authority with empathy when disciplining their children?

    -Balancing authority with empathy involves setting clear boundaries and expectations while also showing understanding and compassion. Parents should listen to their children's perspectives, explain the reasons for rules, and offer guidance instead of just punishment.

  • What are the dangers of praising speed over quality in a child's work?

    -Praising speed can encourage a child to prioritize completing tasks quickly rather than with care or attention to detail. This may lead to sloppy work and a lack of perseverance in improving the quality of their efforts.

  • What is the importance of offering constructive feedback instead of just saying 'No' or 'Stop'?

    -Constructive feedback provides children with valuable insights into their actions and behavior, helping them understand what they can improve. Simply saying 'No' or 'Stop' may leave the child confused and unsure of how to change their behavior.

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