13 Harsh Truths About Men I'd Share If You Were My Daughter
Summary
TLDRIn this insightful video, the author, under the pen name Brian Knox, shares 13 crucial secrets about men that they would impart to their hypothetical daughter. The advice is centered around self-worth, recognizing genuine interest, and understanding boundaries. The speaker emphasizes the importance of valuing oneself, not chasing after men, and being wary of those who play games with one's emotions. They also stress the significance of observing a man's actions to ensure they align with his words, and the necessity of addressing red flags in relationships. The video is a call for women to seek partners who respect and value them, and to be discerning in their romantic pursuits.
Takeaways
- 😀 Always remember that you are unique and amazing; don't waste time on men who don't recognize your worth.
- 💎 Self-respect is a magnet for respectful partners; it's crucial to value yourself and work on personal growth.
- 🏃♀️ Avoid trying too hard in relationships; it can devalue you in your own eyes and in the eyes of others.
- 🗣️ Learn to discern when to believe a man's words, especially when he expresses negative intentions or feelings.
- 🚫 Recognize that a good man will not risk losing you; he will respect boundaries and not deliberately harm the relationship.
- ⌛ Nobody is too busy to reply within 24 hours; a delayed response could indicate disinterest or games-playing.
- 🍽️ On the first date, if a man doesn't offer to pay, it may signal a lack of interest or a desire to provide for you.
- 🛠️ Accept that you cannot change a man; love him for who he is or move on if his behavior is unacceptable.
- 🔥 Chemistry is overrated; shared values and good communication are more important for a lasting relationship.
- 🤗 Don't play it cool; be open about your desires and expectations to filter out incompatible partners.
- 🌟 You deserve a man who brings out the best in you; if a relationship is causing you to deteriorate, it's not right.
- 🚫 If a man pulls away and then returns, it doesn't mean he likes you; he may just not have found anyone else.
- 🚦 Always address red flags in relationships; don't ignore them as they could lead to future unhappiness.
- 🏁 A man's best behavior is often displayed at the beginning of a relationship; take time to truly get to know him.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the video script?
-The main theme of the video script is to share 13 crucial secrets about men that the author would tell their imaginary daughter, focusing on dating and relationships advice.
Why does the author mention the comments about 'Where were you 20 years ago?'
-The author mentions these comments to emphasize the value of the advice being shared, suggesting that many people wish they had known these secrets earlier in their lives.
What is the author's pen name?
-The author's pen name is Brian Knox.
What is the first piece of advice given by the author to their imaginary daughter?
-The first piece of advice is to never give attention to men who cannot see her uniqueness and to never settle for someone who is not the right person for her.
According to the author, what attracts respectful partners?
-Self-respect attracts respectful partners, as it signals healthy standards and acts like a beacon for good men.
Why should a woman not try too hard in a relationship?
-Trying too hard in a relationship can lead to diminishing results, lower one's value, and create a sense of losing oneself, which is not conducive to a healthy relationship.
What is the importance of believing a man when he says something negative about the relationship?
-Believing a man when he says something negative is important because it can save the woman from heartache and time, as it indicates honesty or manipulative behavior.
What does the author suggest about a man's behavior in the beginning of a relationship?
-The author suggests that a man's behavior in the beginning is his best behavior, and if it's already bad, it's a sign to leave, while if it's good, it takes time to truly get to know him beyond this initial phase.
Why is it important not to play it cool according to the author?
-Playing it cool does not make a man more attracted or prevent him from losing interest. Open communication from the start is more effective in building a strong relationship.
What should a woman do when she notices red flags in a relationship?
-A woman should address red flags, listen to the man's defense, and judge accordingly. Ignoring red flags can lead to staying in an unhealthy relationship.
What does the author suggest about the importance of a man's willingness to pay on the first date?
-The author suggests that a man's willingness to pay on the first date is an important sign of his interest and desire to provide for and protect the woman he likes.
How does the author view the concept of chemistry in relationships?
-The author views chemistry as overrated, suggesting that having the same values and good communication are more important than chemistry in building a lasting relationship.
What is the author's stance on changing a man in a relationship?
-The author believes that you cannot change a man; instead, you can only decide how to respond to his actions. It's important to love someone for who they are, not who they could become.
How does the author define a good man in the context of this script?
-A good man, according to the author, is someone who will not risk losing the woman he cares about, respects boundaries, and does not deliberately do things that would jeopardize the relationship.
What should a woman do if she feels that a man is bringing out the worst in her?
-If a woman feels that a man is bringing out the worst in her, the author suggests that he may not be the right person for her, and she should consider moving on.
What advice does the author give regarding a man's behavior when he becomes disinterested and then suddenly interested again?
-The author advises that if a man becomes disinterested and then suddenly shows interest again, it does not necessarily mean he truly likes the woman but could mean he didn't find anyone else, and the same pattern may repeat.
Outlines
💌 Self-Worth and Attracting Respectful Partners
The speaker, an author using the pen name Brian Knox, emphasizes the importance of self-worth in attracting the right partner. They advise an 'imaginary daughter' to value herself and not to waste time proving her worth to men who don't recognize it. The speaker stresses that self-respect is a magnet for attracting respectful partners and suggests that treating oneself with respect will lead to others treating one the same way. They also mention that women who don't chase after men tend to have more success and happiness in relationships, as chasing can devalue oneself in the eyes of both oneself and the other person.
🕵️♂️ Discerning Truth from Manipulation in Relationships
The paragraph discusses the importance of understanding when to believe a man's words and when not to. It advises to immediately believe men when they express disinterest or negative feelings, as these are likely genuine. However, when they say positive things, it's crucial to assess if their actions align with their words. The speaker also touches on the idea that a good man will not risk losing a valuable partner through deliberate actions and will respect boundaries without the need for constant reminders. The advice is to choose partners who are emotionally mature and avoid those who play games or manipulate.
📲 Communication and the Importance of Initial Interest
This section highlights the significance of timely communication in relationships. It suggests that a man who is genuinely interested will reply within a reasonable time frame to a text message. Delayed responses may indicate a lack of interest or manipulative behavior. The speaker also talks about the importance of a man's willingness to pay during the first date as a sign of his interest in providing and protecting. Furthermore, they caution against trying to change a man, advocating for acceptance of who he is or moving on if he doesn't meet one's standards.
💔 Recognizing and Responding to Fading Interest
The speaker addresses the issue of a previously interested man who suddenly becomes disinterested and then returns with renewed interest. They caution that this behavior does not indicate genuine affection but rather a lack of other options. The advice is to let such individuals go and not to entertain mixed signals or manipulative behaviors. The paragraph also stresses the importance of addressing and not ignoring red flags in relationships, advocating for open communication and the willingness to move on when faced with dishonesty or incompatibility.
🚸 Observing Initial Behavior as a Gauge for Long-Term Compatibility
The final paragraph discusses how a man's behavior at the beginning of a relationship can be a predictor of his long-term compatibility. It suggests that if a man's behavior is poor from the start, it is unlikely to improve, and it's best to leave the relationship early. Conversely, observing his best behavior in the initial stages means that it may take time to truly understand his character in a long-term context. The speaker advises taking time to assess a man's suitability as a partner and being quick to leave if he proves to be a bad fit.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Self-respect
💡Chemistry
💡Boundaries
💡Red flags
💡Communication
💡Playing it cool
💡Self-improvement
💡Compatibility
💡First impressions
💡Effort
💡Chasing
Highlights
The speaker emphasizes the importance of self-worth and advises not to seek validation from men who can't recognize one's unique value.
Advises not to waste time proving one's worth to a man but to value oneself and attract respectful partners.
States that women who don't chase after men tend to have more success and feel more secure in relationships.
Explains that trying too hard in love can lower one's value and lead to diminishing returns.
Counsels to believe men when they express disinterest or set boundaries, as it can save from heartache.
Advises to trust a man's words about his feelings only if his actions align with them.
A good man will protect the relationship and respect boundaries without needing constant reminders.
No one is too busy to reply within 24 hours, and delay may indicate lack of interest or games.
On the first date, a man's insistence on paying can be a sign of interest and a desire to impress.
One cannot change a man; it's crucial to accept him as he is or move on.
Chemistry is overrated; shared values and good communication are more important for a relationship.
Playing it cool does not increase attraction and can prevent genuine connection.
Deserving a man who brings out the best in oneself, and leaving if the opposite occurs.
Ignoring mixed signals and sudden interest from a previously disinterested man can prevent repeating negative patterns.
Addressing red flags and not ignoring them is crucial for a healthy relationship.
The best behavior is often shown at the beginning of a relationship, so take time to truly know someone.
Encourages taking time to approve a man and being quick to leave if he proves to be a bad fit.
Transcripts
a lot of my videos especially the ones
with a lot of views have comments where
someone says Where Were You 20 years ago
when I was younger I wish I knew all of
these things about men and especially
bad men back then already I would have
avoided so many mistakes in my love life
all those frogs that never turned into
my Prince Po princes I turned back into
a frog yeah that's to be avoided as well
of course so let's talk about 13 crucial
secrets about men that I would tell my
daughter as soon as she was really in
interested in a guy for the very first
time but since I do not have a daughter
and my sister also only has boys I will
just tell the internet and so you my
name is H I'm an author I also use the
pen name Brian Knox I write books about
dating and relationships and other
topics and the first thing I really want
to tell my imaginary daughter is you are
amazing and not just because you are my
imaginary daughter but because you truly
are amazing never give attention to men
that cannot see that you are unique and
there's nobody out there like you to the
right man for you you will be very
valuable so never settle for a guy who
is not him and if there is a man you
like never spend your time on trying to
prove to him how amazing you are the
right man will see it no proving needed
Instead try to spend your time on
treating yourself like the amazing
person that you are nothing will have a
better return on investment than
spending time valuing yourself and
working on yourself if you treat
yourself with respect other people will
respect you a lot more in return always
remember self-respect attracts
respectful Partners it's like a beacon
like a light from a lighthouse good men
can see that you have healthy standards
and they are drawn to you because of
them number two women that do not try
hard women that don't chase after a man
for example will always have more
success with men than women who do try
hard and they will feel a lot happy and
more secure when they are dating or are
in a relationship with someone trying
hard gives you diminishing results the
harder you try in your love life the
less results you will get it lowers your
value and not just in his eyes but more
importantly in your own it will feel
like as if you are losing yourself and
that's because you are if you have to
try hard to make a man feel anything or
do something like show his love or be
respectful he's simply not the right guy
for you now the emphasis is on the word
hard both of you will have to put in an
effort of course but you cannot and
should not be the only one who's pulling
the relationship forward because then
there is no relationship number three
know when to believe him and when not to
believe him and the difference dear
imaginary daughter will save you from a
lot of Heartache it will save you so
much time when a man says something
negative like I think you deserve better
than me I'm not ready for a relationship
I see you as just a friend I'm not
looking for something serious I still
think about my ex a lot always
immediately believe him even if his
actions seem to prove otherwise a good
and emotionally mature guy will never
ever risk losing you by playing games so
if you hear any of these he's either a
game playing bad guy that wants to
manipulate you or he's an honest guy and
he means what he said you deserve better
than both of these types if he says good
things like I can imagine us staying
together forever I'm falling for you you
are my type I love you do not
immediately believe him ask yourself do
his actions match his words are the
things he's doing what a man who loves
me would do if yes you possibly found a
great guy if not do not believe him he's
still on probation but it's not looking
good number four he will indeed never
ever risk losing you a good man will
always protect what he has with you and
he will make mistakes but a good man
will never deliberately do things where
he knows he risks you leaving him
because of his own actions if you show a
boundary to a good guy you will not have
to repeat it 20 times you will not have
to get mad for him to respect that
boundary that said not everything can be
a boundary pick them wisely if he feels
like he has to walk on exells all the
time because there are boundaries and
high EX expectations everywhere and the
bar is raised way too high he will
eventually leave because he also has to
make sure he doesn't lose himself of
course number five nobody is too busy to
reply within 24 hours after reading a
text message from you if he reads your
text message and then takes longer than
even 8 hours to reply he either trying
to think of something really great to
say so you would think he's amazing
which can only happen in the first weeks
of the both of you dating and then you
will see and feel the effort he put into
his reply it will be long and it will be
clearly meant to impress you because the
other much more probable option is He's
Just Not That Into You or he's playing
games which you will also see because
then his replies will be rather short
and will give you as much Clarity on his
feelings for you as a flashlight with
dead batteries so not a lot number six
call me oldfashioned but if he doesn't
insist to pay during the first date he
asked you out for for it's not looking
good now insist and first date he asked
you out for are all important words here
men want to provide for and protect the
woman they like which does not mean they
want to pay for everything nor should
they but the first date the very first
bill or check that arrives during the
first date you know that very special
moment where he can show that he had fun
and that he likes you and that he would
love to see you again and what a hero he
is by picking up that check so he can
impress you just like a knight that just
conquered an army of savages to be there
with you if his phone or payment card
isn't ready to pay that check before you
can blink twice it's not looking good I
am not saying he should pay for the
first date but whether he does or
doesn't offer to pay that's an important
sign and if you offer to pay or split
the bill which is always a nice gesture
and which will be appreciated so when
you do that an interested guy will still
insist that he's going to pay pay for it
and again I'm only talking about the
first date here he's not an ATM machine
that should keep paying for everything
going forward but the first date that's
special there will only ever be one
first date in your potential
relationship with him number seven you
cannot change him you can only decide
how you respond he's never a project do
not fall in love with what he could One
Day become fall in love with who he is
right now or do not fall in love at all
and be gone before it happens
most men do not change and those who do
will only change because they want to
not because you tell them to so if he
does something or is something that you
do not like you cannot change him but
you do decide how you respond and a
great way to respond is with your
attention don't give any of it to men
that do not treat you like you deserve
to be treated never give attention to a
man just because you like him or because
you think he's attractive or because you
feel there is a lot of chemistry give
attention to him because he treats you
well and you happen to like him number
eight talking about chemistry chemistry
is very overrated a lot of people base
their choice of a partner about 90% on
chemistry and women and men make this
mistake and I've been one of them in my
20s but some women if they can pick
between a good guy they do not feel a
lot of chemistry for or a somewhat bad
and unavailable guy they do feel a lot
of chemistry for will pick the bad guy
because he's exciting and some of those
women have mistaken the emotional roller
coaster he takes them on for chemistry
now there should of course be attraction
But realize that having the same values
and being able to communicate well are
so much more important than chemistry a
relationship is not a combination of
onee stands that are hot and steamy it's
a deep friendship with someone that you
love to kiss and sleep with as well
number nine do not play it cool playing
it cool does not make him more attracted
to you and does not prevent him from
losing interest we sometimes play it
cool to avoid rejection or to not scare
someone Away by showing them that we
really like them or by asking for what
we want in a relationship but do you
really want to be with a guy who's only
sticking around because you are playing
it cool because you're not forcing him
to show his real cards and intentions
open communication always starts on day
one and that includes telling him what
you want and like and then it's up to
him to decide if he can give that to you
or not and to be honest about that there
is no need to go overboard but ask for
what you want that's a great way to
filter the men that are really into you
and those that are waiting for someone
else to come along the right men want to
climb mountains to be with you so find
out who these men are number 10 you
deserve a man that brings out the best
in you so if you are dating a guy or are
in a relationship with a guy and you
feel that you can be your best self
because he is in your life then you
possibly found a great guy if however
you feel that you are kind of slipping
away that you are getting mad and upset
all the time because of the things he is
doing or is not doing if he brings out
the worst in you he's not the guy for
you he could be a great guy but he's the
wrong guy for you number 11 when a
previously interested guy pulls away or
acts disinterested all of a sudden and
he giving you a lot of mixed signals and
you let him go because you do not have
time for these types of childish
behaviors and then after a while he's
suddenly back and gives you a lot of
attention and seems really into you it
does not mean he likes you it just means
he didn't find anyone else if you take
this guy back the same thing will happen
all over again and you deserve better
than that number 12 always address red
flags never ignore them if you see a red
flag point it out and then listen to his
defense and then you beat the judge if
you are for example example looking for
a relationship not a fling or a
situationship and you meet a guy that
does not want to call you his girlfriend
or that does not want to talk about
where this is going have the
conversation and if you feel that he's
not honest or that he is sugarcoating
things lower your interest in him and
start to move on also even aside from
the big red flags when you start dating
a man it's never your job to make him
fall for you or to make him attracted to
you or to make him love you it's not
your primary job to make it go anywhere
your biggest job is to make sure it can
go somewhere meaning if you see
incompatibilities that you know will
make you miserable down the road for
example you deeply love and need a lot
of physical affection but he likes it
about as much as a cat loves a cold
bubble bath then it's not looking good
that's why it's so crucial to always
communicate what is important to you
number 13 you get his best behavior in
the beginning of the relationship in the
first couple of weeks and months after
meeting him that's when he's trying to
show the best version of himself to you
now this has a couple of consequences
first if it's already bad then run and
get out of there it will not get better
second this also means it takes time to
really get to know him since the first
couple of days and weeks are possibly
not a representation of who he really is
in a long-term relationship so dear
imaginary daughter take take your time
before you really approve a man and go
slow but be quick to leave him when he
shows he's a bad guy for you I will wrap
it up here if you appreciated this
format and would like me to create a
series of videos for my imaginary
daughter let me know in the comments in
the meantime you can come on over to
Brian knock.com for the deeper stuff or
go to Amazon to read or listen to my
books just search for my pen name Brian
KNX I want to thank you for sticking
around until the very end of this video
I always love it when you do that and I
hope this see you in another video
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