How to regain a woman's attraction
Summary
TLDRThis video script outlines nine essential steps for men to regain and maintain attraction in their relationships. It emphasizes the importance of self-assurance, having a clear vision for one's life, and not seeking constant validation from a partner. The speaker advises against being overly apologetic or needy, and instead encourages men to lead with purpose, set boundaries, and communicate effectively. He also stresses the need for men to see themselves as a 'prize' and to expect the same from their partners, fostering a relationship built on mutual respect and attraction.
Takeaways
- π Confidence and certainty are key to attraction; acting apologetic or needy can detract from it.
- π Your 'vibe' or energy, including leadership and assertiveness, significantly influences your attractiveness to your partner.
- π§ Having a clear vision for your life and not just settling for what's available can make you more attractive and purposeful.
- π€·ββοΈ Avoid being overly agreeable or seeking constant validation through text messages; this can signal a lack of self-worth.
- π Recognize and value yourself; a man who doesn't value himself is less likely to be valued by a woman.
- π― Create a vision for your future and include your partner in it; this provides direction and excitement for the relationship.
- π Remember that relationships should be fun; focus on enjoying activities together to reignite attraction.
- π¬ Effective communication involves expressing true feelings rather than just discussing problems.
- π Stop asking for permission for every decision; demonstrate leadership by taking initiative.
- π« Avoid oscillating between being overly dependent (a 'baby') or overly aggressive (a 'bastard'); maintain emotional maturity.
- π See yourself as a 'prize' worth being with; excellence in various aspects of life can make you more attractive.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the video?
-The main topic of the video is about the nine steps to regain attraction in a relationship, particularly with one's wife.
Why is the topic controversial on the internet?
-The topic is controversial because it deals with personal relationships and attraction, which are subjective and can elicit strong opinions from different people.
What is the first mistake mentioned that guys often make regarding attraction?
-The first mistake mentioned is that guys often talk out of liking themselves, acting apologetically and not coming from a place of certainty, which negatively affects their vibe and presence.
What is the biggest determining factor for a woman's attraction to a man according to the video?
-The biggest determining factor for a woman's attraction to a man is the man's vibe, presence, energy, leadership, and power.
Why is having a vision for one's life important for attraction?
-Having a vision for one's life is important for attraction because it shows that the man is purposeful, has direction, and is not solely focused on pleasing the woman, which can lead to respect and attraction.
What does the video suggest about the role of a woman in a man's life?
-The video suggests that a woman should play a supporting role in a man's life, not the main event or lead actor, and that both partners should help each other and work towards a greater vision together.
What is the advice given for men to be more secure in their relationships?
-The advice given is for men to own all aspects of themselves, not seek approval from their partners, and love themselves from a place of self-assurance, which will naturally lead to standing up for themselves and setting boundaries.
Why is it suggested to stop trying to impress a woman all the time?
-It is suggested to stop trying to impress a woman all the time because it can come off as neediness and insecurity. Instead, being secure and authentic is more attractive.
What is the importance of communication in relationships as mentioned in the video?
-Communication is important because it allows partners to express their true feelings and thoughts without fear of judgment. It helps in resolving issues internally and not letting problems define the relationship.
Why should men stop asking for permission in their relationships?
-Men should stop asking for permission because it shows a lack of certainty and conviction in their own lives and visions. It's healthier to take initiative and lead, which can naturally attract respect and cooperation from their partners.
What is the final piece of advice given in the video for men to improve their relationships?
-The final piece of advice is for men to see themselves as the prize, to demonstrate excellence in their lives, and to hold their partners to the same standard, not by dictating but by leading by example.
Outlines
π€ The Pitfalls of Lack of Certainty in Attraction
The video discusses the importance of certainty and self-assuredness in maintaining attraction in a relationship. It points out that men often undermine their attractiveness by being overly apologetic and lacking a clear vision for their lives, which leads to a loss of respect from their partners. The speaker emphasizes the significance of a man's vibe, presence, and energy in attracting his partner and suggests that men should focus on their own goals and assertiveness rather than seeking constant validation from their partners.
π― The Importance of Casting a Vision and Having Fun
This paragraph highlights the necessity for individuals to have a vision for their lives and to not just settle for whatever comes their way in relationships. It criticizes the tendency of men to lack variety in their interactions with women and to not value themselves, which in turn affects their attractiveness. The speaker advises that men should live life on their terms and include their partners in their vision, rather than making their partners the central focus of their lives. Additionally, the paragraph stresses the importance of having fun and not losing sight of the initial reason for being in a relationshipβto enjoy companionship and shared experiences.
π« Overcoming the Tendency to Seek Permission and Being the Prize
The final paragraph addresses the habit of men constantly seeking permission for their actions, which can lead to a lack of respect and attraction from their partners. It encourages men to take the lead and make decisions with certainty and conviction, rather than relying on the approval of others. The speaker also discusses the importance of seeing oneself as a prize and maintaining high standards in all aspects of life, including health, career, and personal growth. This self-perception of being worthy and valuable can influence a partner to match or rise to these standards, fostering a more balanced and attractive dynamic in the relationship.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Attraction
π‘Certainty
π‘Neediness
π‘Vision
π‘Value
π‘Fun
π‘Communication
π‘Permission
π‘Respect
π‘Self-Control
π‘Excellence
Highlights
The video discusses nine steps to gain attraction in a relationship, focusing on the importance of a man's vibe and presence.
The first mistake men make is talking out of liking, showing a lack of certainty and leadership.
A man's vision and purpose are crucial for maintaining a woman's respect and attraction.
Men often fail to value themselves, leading to a lack of attraction as they seek validation from their partners.
Casting a bigger vision for one's life is essential to avoid settling for less in relationships.
Having variety and options in relationships is important to value oneself and be attractive.
Men should remember that women want to have fun and not be constantly impressed or entertained.
Being secure and owning oneself is more important than seeking approval from a partner.
Boundaries are crucial for self-respect and are often established when a man starts standing up for himself.
Communication should focus on expressing genuine feelings rather than discussing problems.
Leading by example is more effective than commanding or asking for permission in a relationship.
Asking for permission too often can lead to a lack of respect and attraction from a partner.
Men should see themselves as the prize and demonstrate it through their daily life and actions.
A man's self-perception as a prize influences how he expects his partner to contribute to the relationship.
The video emphasizes the importance of self-improvement and excellence in being attractive to a partner.
The speaker suggests that most relationship problems can be resolved by focusing on giving and enjoying time together.
The final point is that men should not become emotionally immature by acting like a victim or a perpetrator.
Transcripts
hey my brother in this video I'm going
to talk about how to gain attraction
with your wife the nine steps that you
can take and now this is always
controversial on the internet the
interwebs because everybody has
something to say about it but in this
video I'm going to show you exactly what
needs to happen and why it matters you
can go test it in your own relationship
and the girlfriend in your life and uh
that's what we're going to talk about
the first killer that guys do when it
comes to attraction is he talks out of
liking him in other words he's got a lot
of behaviors and innuendos and the way
he does where he's very apologetic in
the way that he acts in his life he's
not he's not really com from a place of
certainty the biggest determining factor
in her attraction for you is your Vibe
your your presence your energy your
energy of leadership and survivability
and power and attract and uh and
assertion these lead into her being
attracted to you if you lose purpose you
lose sight of yourself you lose where
you're going and you can't tell her no
in the face of where you want to go then
she's going to lose respect for you
she's like well you're more worried
about keeping me and getting my love in
my sexuality than actually going after
what you want as a guy and so most guys
keep doing that they keep giving that up
and that's the big thing they just talk
her out of liking him by saying dumb
like well I like whatever you like
he might not say that word for word but
he's acting like that and he apologizes
for the way he acts and the way he talks
and he's always trying to reach out to
her with text messages and his text
messages aren't really saying hey good
morning his text messages are really
conveying the message of hey do you
still like me and he comes from this
energy of neediness of hey if she still
likes me if she loves me then I'm valid
as a man and number two is he's not
casting a bigger vision for his life
most guys go after a woman like well
she's fun and she's sexy and then she
seems to like me so I think I can make
this work which is the wrong frame to go
towards anything in your life I mean you
do that with your business or your
schoolwork or even being a father well
this seems to work let's see what
happens like no you're very conscious of
it you're like this is the vision that I
want this is how I want to evoke these
things in my life and then you go after
and make it happen
but most guys don't have enough variety
or options with women that he just takes
whatever is available to him and he says
hey can I make this work as if like
she's the only one that's ever going to
show up in his life and because of this
he doesn't value himself and a guy who
doesn't value himself is not very
attractive woman's going to reflect back
on you how you think about yourself so
if you go up and you start talking to
women they start going be like ew yeah
it's because you think about yourself
that way and you probably showed up that
way when you went and talk to her
they're reflection of your unconscious
thinking and because you haven't casted
a vision for your future you're not
living life on your terms in other words
you're usually living life on whatever
term she dictates hey where are we going
this weekend wherever she wants to go
what are we doing for dinner whatever
she wants hey how can I make her happy
what can I do to prove myself to her
what can I do to prove my love to her
it's like why are we making our whole
life about proving anything to this
woman your job should be proving life to
yourself to show that you're doing
awesome with purpose and power pointing
it straight to God and then in that
space you create this vehicle for which
you might want want to get on board and
promote for you you see the woman in
your life plays a supporting role she's
not the main event she's not the lead
actor she's your right hand she's the
one that helps you figure out your own
issues and you help her guide her
through hers and you go towards this
greater Vision that you've cast for the
both of you and because you don't have
this Vision you can't include her in it
you can't include her what's going on so
you don't even have this Vision so she's
like where are we going most guys will
ask me that she he'll be like yeah I
dated her for 3 weeks we sleeping
together for about two and she's saying
well where's this going and I don't
think want a relationship with her I'm
like well that's not what she's asking
you she's asking you what is this
vehicle of life that you're taking us on
where are we going and guys just don't
realize that that's what she's asking
for like what is this Vision that you're
casting I don't see the vision I think
you have a vision I'm not sure what it
is and am I a part of that where is this
going where are we going where we like
she's asking you about your leadership
role in the relationship and you're not
clearly defining it and so what ends up
happening is you just kind of go in a
the default State we all know what
happens when you default on anything is
the choices made for you in your life a
fifth thing you can do is remember Girls
Just Want to Have Fun stop trying to
impress her all the time stop trying to
be cool stop trying to be confident to
be funny what I tell guys to do is just
be secure and how do you be secure well
go do things you want to do in other
words own you own all of you don't look
for her to approve of you but if you can
own all of you and love yourself from
that place when when she tries to knock
you down you're going to be like who are
you to tell me that and you'll start
standing up for yourself and for the mo
first time for most guys this is where
boundaries start to pop up for the first
time in their life like whoa whoa whoa
wait a minute I'm worth something here
and so remember you go out there living
your life the way you want to on your
terms is what makes you attractive it's
one of a bunch of facets but it's a lot
of the underlying thing that you're
doing and so remember you going out
there and having fun in things that
you're going to want to do will then
attract other women who want to do the
same type of things you want to and
again she just wants to have fun with
you isn't that the whole point of a
relationship like I didn't go out there
and date because like I want to have a
serious relationship I want to get
married and have kids it's like no I
went out there and dated because I want
to have fun I want to have some love and
Intimacy in my life that was the whole
point of it but most people they get all
caught up and wrapped up in like kids
and diapers and businesses and jobs and
school and lunches and cleaning the
house that they forget that the whole
purpose that they were together was to
have fun
if you can bring that back bring the fun
back in your relationship by doing what
you find fun then you will start
bringing back some of the attraction
communication like everybody talks about
well we just don't communicate enough
well a lot of the issue is is most
people aren't communicating how they
actually feel about things they're
always worried about what other people
think and so a lot of times you can go
into your relationship and you just it
just just gets defined by all these
problems you go to the marriage counsel
like always talking about your problems
it's better to not have actually talk
about your problems and just resolve
them internally in other words if she
has problems with me I just resolve them
if I have a problem within myself am I'm
feeling vulnerable or insecure or unsafe
or something I resolve that Within
Myself and then I operate different in
my life you'll find that if you start
operating different your woman will
start following your lead in that
operation you won't even have to say
anything just the natural occurrence of
the feminine desire to be to lead from a
strong leader strong masculine type she
will just naturally fall in line and
most guys be like well she doesn't want
to be commanded she I can't tell her to
do anything yeah well stop telling her
to do stuff of course she's going to
tell you no she's a strong independent
woman you tell her hey woman you should
follow my lead yeah she's going to tell
you no and she should because if you're
actually leading properly you wouldn't
have to tell her you just do it and then
she'd be like wow this is nice things
are just happening I don't have to worry
about it you'll be like yeah you're
welcome which leads to number seven stop
asking for permission most guys ask for
permission for everything it's like even
you watching this video you're asking
for permission to tell you how you
probably already know how you should
operate I'm like yeah brother just go do
it you got my permission it's the right
way to go and you're like I thought it I
thought so I knew it I knew it now I saw
it on the internet Ed told me I'm gonna
go do it like for think about your life
how many things are you asking for
permission for well I need to get a
second opinion should I ask my boss for
raise I don't know let me go talk to my
friends let me go talk to my mom let me
talk to my wife let me talk to my kids
let me talk to whoever just asking for
permission all the time like if you
really wanted it you just go do it and
you don't do it because you lack
certainty and conviction in your own
life where you're going what your
purpose is and what your vision is if
you had all of that stuff then you
wouldn't be asking these questions you
would just go do it doesn't mean you're
being a dictator and being dominant of
course you're going to go and you're
going to ask people what what what their
opinions are if it's going to relate to
them right if you don't want to hurt
them you don't want to overstep your
bounds you're going to ask them these
things but if you're doing it like hey
why should I do this thing that I know
to be true then yeah stop asking for
permission and just
go and most guys because they're always
asking permission from their wife let's
say that she's lost respect for them and
she doesn't want to have sex anymore
she's just not in a mood she's tired and
she's not valuing the relationship
anymore because she knows you're a sure
bet you'll never leave her which means
that she doesn't have to do anything
anymore to try to get better she gains a
bunch of weight and she just starts
complaining about things and you do more
and more and more and more and it
doesn't really lead to a place where she
feels like she can really lean on your
leadership you just become the
servant then when you go and ask for sex
or you ask for affection or you ask for
love then what'll end up happening is
she's like no I don't want to I'm tired
I got a headache and so guys will go
between two places they'll become a
little bit of they'll become a baby and
you'll complain about well we never want
to I don't understand why don't you want
to do this or he'll become a bastard
like well I just do you just take
advantage of me and you take all the
stuff and all the stuff I provide for
you and so guys will jump between being
just a baby an emotionally immature guy
to being a bastard who who's just as
emotionally immature but this guy's
being a victim and this guy's being a
perpetrator and there's no middle ground
here so when guys don't get their way
they always end up becoming a baby or a
bastard because they can't really
demonstrate any kind of emotional
self-control in their relationship or in
their marriage which is another reason
why she doesn't open up and tell him how
she's really feeling because he'll fall
into baby or fall into bastard he'll act
like a victim like he's not getting his
needs met or be a bastard he'll get
angry at her for not getting his Mees
net he forgets that a relationship is
about giving it's about both people
coming together saying hey what can I do
to serve you but on the flip side saying
your happiness is your responsibility
and my happiness is my own and in this
place of me saying I'm here to give and
my happiness is my own I can now come
into this relationship from a healthy
place just like she can imagine having
your wife saying my happiness is my own
problem and you say my happiness is my
own problem and at the same time both
coming together because you want to give
is a primary thing and have a good time
you'll find that most relationship
problems dissolve in that in that
container but most people can ever get
out of their own head of their own
greediness and their own blaming the
other person for not getting their needs
met and the last one number of nine is
most guys don't see themselves as the
prize now I'm not saying this is a fake
hubris type of a thing where you're the
prize I mean actually being a guy that's
worth being with most guys if you look
at most people hell just go walk around
in in town most people are overweight
they don't care about the way they dress
they don't care about the way they talk
they don't care about their hygiene they
don't care about the way their clothes
fit or the money that they're making
they just want to live this life of
sedation they just want to get to the
weekend and just relax and so because
none of the none of these people want to
actually have excellence in any area of
their life they don't look at themselves
as being a prize they don't look at
themselves as having excellence and
being worthy of excellence and so when
they don't look at them like for
instance you have a guy who's paying
attention to his body he's fit as
he's watches his diet he makes good
money he's got a business that's on fire
and his purposeful his purpose is
pointed towards God and he's very
deliberate about the K how he raises his
children and a woman comes into his life
and she tries to throw over all of
that you think he's going to put up with
that he shouldn't but I see guys do it
all the time because he doesn't see
himself as a prize you have to see
yourself as a prize and demonstrate it
in the way that you operate in your
day-to-day life and then from this place
you're going to have a lot of power like
look I'm doing all this stuff in my life
what are you doing what do you bring in
the table and for a lot of guys they run
into this problem that the woman thinks
that she's the table like he's saying
hey I'm bringing all this to the table
look I got a good career I'm very
healthy I'm great with kids um I'm
pointed towards God I'm goodlook I got a
great house all these things and then
she comes in the picture and she's like
hi how you doing he's like hey cool what
are you bringing to the table she's like
what do you mean I'm
here like she is like what is she
bringing to the table now this isn't a
hate on women there are some some women
that are super giving and loving but
then there are also a bunch of other
ones that are big takers and so the
whole point of this is you want to
demonstrate that you're the prize and if
you're the prize then you're going to
hold to your partner to also be the
prize not by like dictating or telling
them what to do I'm by the way that you
lead and operate in your life she'll say
oh a guy that does that for himself he's
going to want this as well he's going to
want this as well for instance if you're
very fit in your body and you take care
of yourself then a woman comes into your
life is going to be like well I got two
options I'm going to have to get fit as
well or I'm going to have to manipulate
him to stop going to the
gym or maybe he'll just forget about it
but he won't just forget about it
because he's going to see her as a
reflection of himself in that in that
domain it's just the way it is so those
are I'm sure there's other ways to
regain attraction these aren't the only
nine but if you want to regain
attraction in your marriage or in your
relationship or just be an attractive
guy in general this is how you do it
these are a lot of the big the big Heavy
Hitters
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