How to actually make people like you.

Summary

This video discusses five principles from Dale Carnegie's book, 'How to Win Friends and Influence People,' which can help anyone become more likable. These principles include encouraging others to talk about themselves, giving sincere compliments, avoiding arguments, seeing things from others' perspectives, and smiling. By applying these methods, viewers can make others feel valued and appreciated, leading to stronger connections. The video encourages viewers to actively practice these principles in their daily interactions, aiming to create a ripple effect of positivity and kindness.

Takeaways

• 😀 Many people believe that there's nothing they can do to make others like them, but this is a common misconception.
• 📖 The video introduces five principles from the book *How to Win Friends and Influence People* by Dale Carnegie to help make others like you.
• 🗣️ Principle 1: Encourage people to talk about themselves, as everyone enjoys discussing their own interests.
• 👍 Principle 2: Give sincere and honest compliments, which makes others feel appreciated and valued.
• 🛑 Principle 3: The best way to win an argument is to avoid it, as arguments rarely change opinions and often create resentment.
• 👓 Principle 4: Try honestly to see things from the other person's point of view, which can help avoid conflicts and misunderstandings.
• 😊 Principle 5: Smile, as a genuine smile makes people feel welcome and happy, creating a positive impression.
• 🎯 Applying these principles can help in social situations like school, work, or family interactions.
• 🙌 The video encourages viewers to spread positivity by giving sincere compliments to people they know, creating a ripple effect of happiness.
• 🌟 The more you practice these principles, the more people will like you, and it will become a natural part of how you interact with others.

Q & A

What common misconception do people have about making others like them?

Many people believe that there is nothing they can actively do to make others like them, thinking that if others don't like them, there's nothing that can be done about it.

What is the first principle mentioned in the video to make people like you?

The first principle is to encourage other people to talk about themselves. People enjoy talking about themselves, and by showing interest in what they say, we make them feel important and listened to.

How did the speaker apply the first principle while working as a royal guard?

The speaker applied the first principle by asking an important person about their interest in history, which led to a 15-minute conversation. This helped build a connection as the person enjoyed talking about themselves.

Why are sincere compliments important in making others like you?

Sincere compliments are important because people crave appreciation and recognition. By giving honest compliments, we make others feel valued and important, which can improve their mood and perception of us.

What study is referenced to support the importance of appreciation?

The video references a study on runaway wives, where lack of appreciation was found to be the main reason why they left their marriages.

What is the best way to win an argument according to the video?

The best way to win an argument is to avoid it completely. Engaging in arguments often results in both sides becoming more convinced of their own correctness, which leads to negative feelings.

Why can winning an argument still be considered a loss?

Even if you 'win' an argument, you make the other person feel inferior, hurt their pride, and possibly make them feel stupid, which damages the relationship and causes resentment.

How can trying to see things from another person's point of view help improve relationships?

By putting yourself in the other person's shoes and understanding their perspective, you avoid criticizing them, which can prevent misunderstandings and foster empathy.

Why is smiling a powerful principle in making others like you?

Smiling conveys that you are happy to see someone and that they make you feel good. This non-verbal action makes others feel welcomed and appreciated, just like how people respond positively to dogs or babies who smile.

What does the video suggest doing if you don't feel like smiling?

The video suggests forcing yourself to smile or engage in actions like whistling or singing, as this can create feelings of happiness and improve your mood.