Thursday Tryst One. SKCians HR principle card 1 - Nine ways to make people like you (Principle 1/9)

Summary

In this video script, the speaker introduces the 'Thursday Twist' series, focusing on human relation principles from Dale Carnegie's book 'How to Win Friends and Influence People.' The first principle discussed is to 'not criticize, condemn, or complain' in order to be liked by others. The speaker emphasizes the importance of avoiding negative behaviors for personal growth and social harmony, suggesting that by doing so, one can channel energy into creativity and constructive actions, ultimately becoming a more likable person.

Takeaways

• 📅 The presentation is part of a weekly series called 'Thursday Twist', focusing on sharing human relation principles.
• 🌟 The 'Thursday Twist' is one of the components of the DDPG program, which stands for Daily Dosage for Personal Growth.
• 📚 The principles discussed are derived from Dale Carnegie's book 'How to Win Friends and Influence People', a highly influential work in the field of personal development.
• 🔢 There are 58 human relation principles in total, which will be covered one by one every Thursday.
• 🎯 The first principle from the first card is 'Don't criticize, condemn, or complain', which is considered crucial for building positive relationships.
• 👤 The speaker introduces his guru, Daniel Jacob, who has extensive experience in training and development and will be explaining the principles.
• 🤝 As social beings, it's important to be liked by others to live a fulfilling human life, which is facilitated by following the principles from the human relations card.
• 🚫 The principle of not criticizing, condemning, or complaining is emphasized as a way to avoid negative interactions and to be more likable.
• 🤔 The speaker challenges the assumption that it's impossible to live without criticizing, condemning, or complaining, suggesting that it is a matter of personal choice.
• 💪 Developing the quality of not criticizing, condemning, or complaining can lead to a more positive and creative life, making one a better person.
• 🌱 The presentation encourages giving oneself a chance to live without these negative behaviors, suggesting it can lead to a more energetic and constructive life.

Q & A

What is the purpose of the 'Thursday Twist' series?

The 'Thursday Twist' series is a part of the DDPG (Daily Dosage for Personal Growth) program, where each Thursday, one human relations principle from Dale Carnegie's book 'How to Win Friends and Influence People' is discussed to help individuals improve their interpersonal skills.

What is the significance of the number 58 in the context of the script?

The number 58 refers to the total number of human relations principles that will be taken up and discussed one by one in the 'Thursday Twist' series.

What does DDPG stand for and what does it encompass?

DDPG stands for Daily Dosage for Personal Growth, which includes various programs like Monday Months to Retreat, Wednesday Daylight, and Thursday Twist, aimed at personal development.

What is the meaning of 'Tryst' in the context of 'Thursday Twist'?

In the context of 'Thursday Twist', 'Tryst' refers to a secret meeting place where valuable life lessons are discussed.

What is the first principle discussed in the 'Thursday Twist One' video?

The first principle discussed is 'Don't criticize, condemn or complain', which is aimed at helping individuals become more likable and positively influence their relationships.

Who is Dale Carnegie and how does his work relate to the 'Thursday Twist' series?

Dale Carnegie is the author of 'How to Win Friends and Influence People', a book that has greatly impacted the speaker's life and serves as the foundation for the principles discussed in the 'Thursday Twist' series.

What is the role of Daniel Jacob in the 'Thursday Twist' series?

Daniel Jacob is a trainer with over 30 years of experience in the field of training and development. He volunteers to explain one principle each Thursday in the 'Thursday Twist' series.

Why is it important not to criticize, condemn, or complain according to the script?

It is important because constantly criticizing, condemning, and complaining can make a person unlikable and negatively affect their relationships with others.

What is the suggestion for someone who finds it difficult to live without criticizing, condemning, or complaining?

The suggestion is to give oneself a chance to live without these negative behaviors and instead focus on being creative, contributive, and constructive in activities.

How can developing the quality of not criticizing, condemning, or complaining benefit an individual?

Developing this quality can provide an individual with more energy to live life positively, improve their personal growth, and make them more likable to others.

What is the connection between the speaker's son, Sultan, and Daniel Jacob?

Sultan has enrolled in the peak performance workshop conducted by Daniel Jacob, showing a personal connection and commitment to the teachings of Daniel Jacob.

Outlines

00:00

📚 Introduction to Thursday Twist and Personal Growth Principles

The speaker begins by greeting the audience and introducing the 'Thursday Twist', a segment of the DDPG (Daily Dosage for Personal Growth) program. The program aims to share one human relations principle every Thursday, with a total of 58 principles planned to be discussed. The first principle, 'Don't criticize, condemn, or complain', is taken from Dale Carnegie's book 'How to Win Friends and Influence People', which has significantly impacted the speaker's life. The speaker also mentions another book by Carnegie and introduces Daniel Jacob, a trainer with 30 years of experience, who will explain the first principle in detail. The principle emphasizes the importance of being likable to others as a social being and suggests that avoiding criticism, condemnation, and complaints can help achieve this.

05:00

🤔 The Challenge of Avoiding Criticism, Condemnation, and Complaints

In the second paragraph, the speaker addresses the challenge of living without criticizing, condemning, or complaining, questioning whether it's possible in a chaotic world. The speaker argues that constant negativity can make a person unlikable, and if one is unable to resist such behavior, they will find it difficult to connect with others. The speaker encourages the audience to give themselves a chance to live without these negative actions, suggesting that it can lead to a more creative, contributive, and constructive life. The speaker assures that developing this quality can result in a more energetic and fulfilling life, making one more likable to others.

Keywords

💡Thursday Twist

Thursday Twist is a recurring segment of the video series, where the presenter shares one human relations principle every Thursday. It is part of the DDPG (Daily Dosage for Personal Growth) program, which aims to impart valuable life lessons. In the script, 'Thursday Twist' is used to introduce the first principle from the human relations card, emphasizing the regularity and educational intent of the segment.

💡Human Relations Principles

Human Relations Principles refer to the set of rules or guidelines that are meant to improve interpersonal interactions and build better relationships. The script mentions that there are 58 such principles, with the video discussing one each Thursday, starting with the first principle from the first card, which is about making people like you.

💡DDPG Program

The DDPG Program stands for Daily Dosage for Personal Growth, a program that includes various activities designed to foster personal development. The script describes it as having different components for different days of the week, with 'Thursday Twist' being one of them, focusing on sharing life rules for personal betterment.

💡Card Number One

Card Number One is the first in a series of human relations cards, each containing multiple principles. This card specifically has nine principles aimed at helping individuals make others like them. The script uses 'Card Number One' to introduce the source of the first principle being discussed in the video.

💡Dale Carnegie

Dale Carnegie is an author known for his influential books on self-improvement, communication, and interpersonal skills. The script mentions him as the author of 'How to Win Friends and Influence People,' from which the principles discussed in the video are derived. His work has had a significant impact on the presenter's life and the content of the video.

💡Don't Criticize, Condemn or Complain

This is the first principle from Card Number One, which advises against criticizing, condemning, or complaining as a way to be liked by others. The script emphasizes this principle as a key to living a more positive and constructive life, suggesting that avoiding these negative behaviors can lead to better relationships and personal growth.

💡Milt

Milt is an organization mentioned in the script where the presenter was trained and groomed. It is associated with the presenter's personal development and the learning of valuable life lessons, including the principles from Dale Carnegie's books.

💡Daniel Jacob

Daniel Jacob is introduced in the script as a trainer with over 30 years of experience in the field of training and development. He is the presenter's guru and is conducting a peak performance workshop that is highly sought after. His involvement in the video is to explain the principle of not criticizing, condemning, or complaining.

💡Social Beings

The term 'social beings' is used in the script to describe humans as inherently social creatures who need to connect and live with others. It is in the context of this concept that the importance of the human relations principles is highlighted, as they are meant to help individuals be more likable and thus better fit into social environments.

💡Constructive

In the script, being 'constructive' is presented as an alternative to criticizing, condemning, and complaining. It suggests that by focusing on creativity and contribution, individuals can channel their energy into positive actions that improve their lives and the lives of others, thereby becoming more likable.

💡Energy

The script mentions 'energy' in the context of personal development, suggesting that by avoiding negative behaviors like criticism, condemnation, and complaining, individuals can redirect their energy towards more positive and productive activities. This is linked to the idea that adopting the principle of not criticizing can lead to a more vibrant and fulfilling life.

Highlights

Introduction of the 'Thursday Twist' series, discussing one human relations principle every Thursday as part of the DDPG program.

DDPG stands for 'Daily Dosage for Personal Growth', encompassing various initiatives from Monday to Wednesday, and 'Thursday Twist'.

Explanation of 'Thursday Twist' as a metaphor for a secret meeting to discuss valuable life lessons.

Introduction of seven human relation cards, each containing multiple principles for personal development.

Focus on the first card, which contains nine principles aimed at making people like you.

The principles are derived from Dale Carnegie's book 'How to Win Friends and Influence People'.

Mention of Dale Carnegie's impact on the speaker's life and the book's status as the second-largest sold book in the world.

Introduction of Daniel Jacob as a trainer with over 30 years of experience in training and development.

Daniel Jacob's role in explaining the first principle of not criticizing, condemning, or complaining.

The importance of being liked by others as a social being and the negative impact of constant criticism.

Challenge to the assumption that it's impossible to live without criticizing, condemning, or complaining.

Encouragement to give oneself a chance to live without these negative behaviors.

The distinction between constructive feedback and malicious criticism.

The potential energy and positivity gained from refraining from negative behaviors.

The transformation into a creative, contributive, and constructive individual by avoiding criticism, condemnation, and complaints.

The final note on becoming a better person and being liked by others through positive interactions.

Transcripts

skc pranam

today i'm going to talk to you about

thursday twist one

the thursday twist one every thursday

like our usual practice we will be

sharing with you

one hr principle one

human relation principle one life rule

there are 58 rules that we will be

taking up one by one

today in thursday we will be

talking about the first rule

now these rules will be discussed one

every thursday

and it is a part of our ddpg program

ddpg is

the daily dosage for personal growth in

which we have monday months to

retreat wednesday daylight and every

thursday

we have called it thursday twist like

now

you will see on the screen thursday

tryst

tryst means a secret meeting place where

we discuss

life's valuable valuable lessons

so the skc principles

there are in all seven human relation

cards

and each card has got many many

principles hr principles so the first

card has nine principles card number one

has nine principles

here is the card number one the card

number one is all about

what you see on the screen now it is

nine ways

to make people like you nine ways to

make people like you

yes i repeat escalations human relation

principles

card one says nine ways to make people

like you

now where are these principles coming

from

they come from a book called as

in fact they come from two books the

first book is

how to win friends and influence people

by my guru dale carnegie

dear carnegie has had a tremendous

impact on my life

and this book which which is titled as

how to win friends and influence people

is the second

largest sold book in the world

it has the power to change anybody's

life it has changed my life his second

book is

how to stop worrying and start living

will come later to it but the first card

or the first three cards

are based on this book so card number

one

nine ways to make people like you is one

of the chapters

from this book and in this nine ways to

make people like you

there are nine principles i will be

discussing the first principle today

thursday twist one the first principle

of card one

the first principle says don't criticize

condemn or complain i repeat here is a

card

don't criticize condemn or complain

in order to talk on this principle one

of one from card number one

i will be introducing to you my guru

from milt milt is an organization where

i have done i have joined

about 20 25 years ago and

uh i was trained i was groomed and under

under the leadership of apollo sotaria

and danny daniel jacob has been michael

has been my trainer

my guru daniel jacob is an accurate

trainer to build foundation

he has over 30 that is three decades 30

years

of experience in the field of training

and development

the present peak performance workshop

that he's conducting

is known sought after in the country my

son sultan

has also enrolled himself for the next

batch to be held in october

so daniel jacob has volunteered to come

up and talk to our students on every

thursday

and talk about one rule so this thursday

thursday twist one don't criticize

condemn or complain

will be explained by none other than my

guru

daniel jacob here he goes we human

beings

are social being that means we need to

connect with people

and live with people now if you are

living with people you have to be a

person who is liked by people

only then are you living a human life

because we are social beings so here we

have this

milk human relations card number one

which gives us

nine ways to make people like you

the first principle says don't criticize

condemn or complain well

you might be asking how can it ever be

possible

to live without criticizing condemning

or complaining

let me ask you a question if there is a

person

who is constantly criticizing condemning

and complaining

would you ever like to be with that

person

certainly not so similarly if you are a

person

who is constantly criticizing condemning

and complaining

people are certainly not going to be

with you so therefore

it's very important note not to

criticize condemn

or complain you might say it's not

possible at all

living in a place like this with so much

of chaos we cannot live without

criticizing condemning and complaining

well is this opinion of yours

coming out of your experience or

out of just an assumption well it is not

from your experience the reason is you

don't tell

that yes i have not criticized and i'm

not able to live life

i have tried not to criticize i'm not

able to live life

i've tried not to condemn and complain

it doesn't work at

all it's not so so give yourself a

chance

to live a life not to criticize condemn

or complain

for instance criticizing this is always

a

malice in what you're saying you

probably can give a feedback

but when you lace it with malice it is

called as

criticism similarly condemning and

complaining as

also has got an evil intent and analysis

so very important

to live a life wherein you can resist

yourself

from criticizing condemning or

complaining

i can give you one thing for sure if you

can develop this one quality

you will have so much of energy to live

your life

to the extent possible instead of

criticizing condemning and complaining

you can probably be creative

contributive

and constructive in activities and every

time when you do that

you are becoming a better person and

people are going to like you

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