THIS Is Why Men Aren’t Approaching Women In Person Anymore... | Chris Williamson
Summary
TLDRこのスクリプトは、男性が女性との出会い方においてどのように行動を変え、より快適で恐れずに交流できるかについて探求しています。男性は実際に行動を起こして学び、基本的なマナーを守りながら、魅力的にアプローチすることが重要です。また、社会的背景や傾向についても触れており、例えばシングルマザー家庭の影響や男性の性的不満の解決方法としてのポルノの存在などが挙げられます。最終的には、男性が社会の安定にどのような役割を果たしているか、そしてそれらがどのように変化しているかについて考察しています。
Takeaways
- 🤝 男性は女性との接点を増やし、不快感や恐れを与えない方法を学ぶ必要がある。
- 🌟 実践を通じて学ぶことが重要で、オンラインでは学べない基本的な接し方やマナーを理解する。
- 🚨 適切な距離を保ち、暗い場所や長時間の視線を避けることが大切。
- 🗣️ 魅力的に振舞し、女性に日々の良い言葉を伝えることが良い接点の方法。
- 🤔 男性と女性の関係は複雑で、職場での関係やデートのプロポーズの適切な方法を考える。
- 🔍 現代の恋愛世界では、適切な行動の限界が不明確で、過去の方法と比較することが難しい。
- 💔 孤独やセクシャルな不満を解決するために、男性と女性の関係が重要である。
- 📈 20%の関係がオンラインデーティングから始まり、最も脆弱で維持が難しい。
- 👨👩👧👦 シングルパレントファミリーの影響について、特に男性にとっての影響が大きい。
- 🤱 男性の欲求不満を緩和するポルノグラフィやビデオゲーム、SNSの影響について。
- 🌍 男性の欲求を抑制することで社会が安定しているが、これが最適な方法ではない。
Q & A
男性が女性との出会い方についてどのように改善すべきかについて、どのような点を重要視すべきですか?
-男性は、女性との出会い方において、まず距離感を大事にすることが大切です。暗い路地で接近するのや、長時間見て言葉をかけてこないこと、そして魅力的に振る舞うことが重要です。
男性が女性にアプローチする際の基本的なマナーにはどのようなものがありますか?
-男性が女性にアプローチする際には、相手のペースを尊重し、適切な距離を保つこと、ストレートで明確なメッセージを伝えること、無理なく会話を進めることなどが挙げられます。
ビル・ゲイツがメリンダ・ゲイツとデートする際の行動は、どのような問題を提起していますか?
-ビル・ゲイツがメリンダにデートを申し込む方法は、職場での地位を悪用したように見える問題を提起しています。これは、権力を有する者が下属にデートを申し込んだり、圧力をかけたりする場合に起こる可能性があることを指摘しています。
ハーヴェイ・ウェインスタインの行動は、何が問題所在ですか?
-ハーヴェイ・ウェインスタインの行動は、性的な暴行や権力の乱用、そして目撃者がいる場合でも容疑行為を行ったことが問題所在です。彼の行動は、権力を悪用して標的を脅威や性的な暴行に晒したとされています。
男性が女性と接する際の適切な行動のバランスをどうやって見つけることができますか?
-適切な行動のバランスを見つけるためには、まず尊重と配慮を大切にすることが重要です。また、コミュニケーションを通じて相手の舒适度を理解し、適切な距離感を保つことも大切です。
男性が女性にアプローチする際のポジティブなアプローチ方法は何ですか?
-ポジティブなアプローチ方法としては、自然な場で自然な形で接することが大切です。例えば、共通の趣味や興味を見つけ、それをきっかけに会話を進めることが有効です。また、相手に配慮し、尊重的な態度を持ち続けることも重要です。
男性が女性と出会い、どのような話題を選び出すことが効果的ですか?
-出会いの話題としては、共通の興味や最近の出来事、趣味に関する話題などがあります。重要なのは、相手が興味を持っていることを聞き出し、共通点を見つけることです。また、ポジティブで明るい話題を選ぶことも効果的です。
男性が女性との関係を築く際に、最も重要なものは何ですか?
-最も重要なのは、相手に対する尊重と理解です。また、コミュニケーションを通じて相手の意見や気持ちを理解し、それを尊重することも大切です。
男性が女性にアプローチする際に、どのようにして自分自身を魅力的に見せることができますか?
-自分自身を魅力的に見せるためには、自分自身の価値をアピールすることが大切です。例えば、自分の興味や専門知識、そして人生の経験などを通じて自分を紹介することが有効です。また、相手に対して親切で思いやりのある態度を示すことも重要です。
男性が女性との出会い方について改善するための練習方法は何がありますか?
-練習方法としては、まず安全な環境でのロールプレイを通じてアプローチの方法を学ぶことが有効です。また、友人や知人との会話を通じて、実際の対話の中でアプローチ方法を練習することもできます。
男性が女性にアプローチする際に、どのようにして不快感を与えないようにすることができるか?
-不快感を与えないようにするためには、まず相手の反応を観察し、その反応に基づいてアプローチ方法を調整することが大切です。また、相手が不安や恐怖を感じないように、自然な態度でコミュニケーションを進めることが重要です。
男性が女性と出会い、どのような態度が女性に好印象を与えますか?
-好印象を与えるためには、丁寧で尊重的な態度を大切にすることが重要です。また、相手に興味を持ち、真剣に聞き、共通点を見つけることで、相手に好意を持たれる可能性が高まります。
Outlines
男性が女性との接点を改善する方法
この段落では、男性がどのように女性との接点を改善できるかについて議論されています。男性は、女性が不快、恐れ、または脅かされることを感じないように、コミュニケーションをとる方法を学び、練習することが重要です。基本的なアプローチは、身体的な接近を避け、夜の暗い場所での出会いを避け、黙々と見つめることなく、丁寧に挨拶をする事です。しかし、最も重要なのは、魅力的であること、そして女性との会話で自然に接することができることです。
現代の恋愛文化と男女の関係
この段落では、現代の恋愛文化における男女の関係について考察されています。特に、高学歴・高収入を持つ女性がパートナーを見つけることが難しい現状、そしてシングル-parent家庭の影響についても触れられています。また、男性が女性にアプローチする際の難しさや、男性の孤独感、そしてオンラインデーティングの脆弱性についても言及されています。
ポルノグラフィ、ビデオゲーム、SNSが男性の行動に与える影響
最後の段落では、ポルノグラフィ、ビデオゲーム、SNSが男性の行動に与える影響について議論されています。これらのメディアは、男性が女性を追いかける欲求を和らげる効果を持っているとされています。また、これらのメディアが存在する現代社会では、男性の暴力行為や問題行動が減少している理由として、これらが男性の欲求を満たしていると分析されています。しかし、このような「男性の sedati」は社会にとって望ましい状態ではないと指摘されています。
Mindmap
Keywords
💡interpersonal skills
💡sociosexuality
💡loneliness
💡male sedation hypothesis
💡young male syndrome
💡testosterone
💡single parenthood
💡digital relationships
💡Harvey Weinstein
💡workplace relationships
💡patriarchy
💡online media
Highlights
The importance of men understanding how to approach women in a non-intimidating and respectful manner.
The necessity of practice and real-life interaction for learning social skills, as opposed to online learning.
Basic etiquette tips such as maintaining personal space and not staring without speaking.
The anecdote of Bill Gates and Melinda Gates' first interaction as an example of navigating social dynamics.
The comparison between Bill Gates' approach and Harvey Weinstein's behavior to illustrate the fine line between confidence and disrespect.
The societal challenges of navigating interpersonal relationships in the modern era.
The significance of traditional courtship and its relevance today.
The impact of high rates of loneliness and the increasing trend of relationships starting online.
The importance of men making the first move, as indicated by a majority of women surveyed.
The challenges faced by high-achieving women in finding partners and the implications of single-parent households.
The potential negative outcomes for children from single-parent households, particularly for boys.
The male sedation hypothesis and its explanation for the decrease in risk-taking behavior among young men.
The role of pornography, video games, and social media in sedating men's natural reproductive and status-seeking behaviors.
The historical context of young male syndrome and its impact on societal stability.
The paradox of a peaceful society with sedated men versus the potential dangers of an angry, unsedated male population.
The call for a balanced approach to addressing the issues of modern relationships and societal stability.
Transcripts
how as men do you think we can be
better and when I say better really what
I'm speaking to here is be is know how
to approach a woman in a way that is not
going to make them feel uncomfortable
intimidated um fearful and that's the
the what women speak to all the time
they talk about how they have to walk
home with their car keys in their hand
because of they pretend they're on phone
calls when they're walking down the
street these are all things that you
know my sister my female friends have
spoken to so how as men can we be better
the first thing I think is to actually
spend some
time sandboxing this like practicing
like you need the only way that you're
going to learn how to how to interact
with a woman is by doing it it's not the
sort of thing that you're going to be
able to work out on the internet I mean
like basic stuff like don't stand super
close to her don't do it in a dark
alleyway at
night uh don't stare for ages without
saying anything right these are very
basic like rudimentary objective metrics
that we can give but really what it
comes down to is just have a bit of
charm about you understand that if you
go up and say something to a girl hi I
just wanted to ask how your day is going
I just wanted to tell you that you
looked really nice today if there is a
girl that has a problem with that
presuming that it's not in a culdesac
Alleyway at the dead of night and you've
got your hood up right or or your her
employer or you're her employer well
here's here's another interesting one
right Bill Melinda Gates Right Melinda
Gates works for Microsoft bill is the
founder and CEO Bill sees Melinda around
the office this is in the 1980s and he
thinks wow yeah she's she's a bit of all
right so he decides to ring her and say
uh Melinda it's Bill wondered if you
wanted to go out with me one evening and
she said uh when when are you thinking
he says how's uh 3 weeks tomorrow she
said uh bill I I don't think that you're
sponsor on aneous enough for me I don't
think that this is going to work put the
phone down 30 minutes later he Rings
back and says how's this for spontaneous
you've got the rest of the day off let's
go on a date 2023 founder CEO of large
tech company Rings receptionist asking
her to date him and after she says no
rings back again pulls her out of work
and takes her on a date game over right
done where is the line in between
Bill Gates and Harvey Weinstein
Weinstein well it it's precisely in the
details right everybody can say what
Harvey Weinstein did was wrong some
people would say that what Bill Gates
did was wrong but okay is it wrong for
two people a guy and a girl who spend
every day every single time that they go
to the water cooler one of them sees the
other one gets up and like escapes from
their chair so that they get the
opportunity to go to the water cooler
together and they've been doing it for
six months and it's this super platonic
thing but the guys terrified and the
girls terrified you go okay like should
we Nerf every relationship so that that
interaction can never move to the next
level given the fact that we've got high
rates of loneliness given the fact that
we've got massive amounts of sexlessness
20% of relationships begin on online
dating 20% of relationships begin in
online media social media right that's
two out of five relationships begin
online and they're the most fragile
they're the ones that drop the quickest
they're the ones that stay together the
the least long workplace best friends
even better Church even better than that
right
but it is a it is we are in Uncharted
wats here people with regards to the
mating world we are in uncharted waters
the Harvey wion example is where I was
like that guy was a [ __ ] monster well
of course yeah but the Bill Gates one I
get it's kind of like the oldfashioned
the oldfashioned way of doing things you
know when we used to when our worlds
used to be a village and we would you
know maybe write a letter or we' take
the girl out from the church whatever
but the Harvey wiin this guy was a
[ __ ] monster like he was I remember
listening to some of the tapes and the
victims and this guy was a [ __ ]
Predator he was like I haven't listen to
any of those are they harrowing it's
it's it's it's just it's one of the most
disgusting things I've ever heard where
even like a journalist would come and
interview him and he would just be like
you know sexually assaulting and
physically assaulting her during the
interview so this guy just had no
boundaries he is he is just a disgusting
monster do you do you see what I mean
that like quite rightly there needed to
be a reckoning around that there had to
be a reckoning around that kind of a man
using that kind of a position to get
that kind of access yeah that needed
sanitizing that sort of behavior needed
sanitizing and there was going to be
Fallout from it Downstream from that how
sanitized should Behavior be up to the
point at which it's been sterilized and
there is 84% of women say that they want
the man to make the first move right it
is still on I mean for the girls that
are listening how many times have you
been the one that's approached a guy
like I've been in nightclubs for 15
years right met about a million people
in there twice it's ever happened to me
that girls have come up and been like
forthright about chatting me up twice
and I've worked a Thousand Nights in my
that's actually pretty good going two
two out of a thousand that's not too bad
that could also be my fault right like
but this is very difficult man and again
for the guys and girls that would say
well what does it matter you know what
does does it matter that we are that
people are going to be single especially
for women if you're a high achieving
woman who's got the PHD and I have a
friend
PhD millionaire self-made millionaire in
the Fitness World mid-30s now going
sperm donor route she's really
struggling to find a partner so she is
going to use her very vast resources to
be able to support these kids to bring
them into the world to have a fantastic
life but make no mistake that's a single
parent household right that's a single
parent
household the outcomes that you have
from single parent households seem to
be sociosexual the
daughters don't do particularly well you
have higher rates of sociosexuality
which is more casual sex uh more comp
complexes around sex from single parent
households but what we hear about a lot
is that um education and employment
outcomes of single parent households on
average tend to be worse for women for
the girls in that situation doesn't
really seem to impact them all that much
so however big you think that effect is
double it and put it just on
boys it's only boys that seem to have
that kind of a problem and quite rightly
you're not going to have a patriarch in
the family that's maybe able to deal
with a rambunctious disagreeable
boy I I don't
think for the women that want to have
kids and you have the
resources absolutely but for anyone to
say that that's the optimal approach
that this is what would be amazing and
again I'm not saying women become
domestic prostitutes take yourself out
of the boardroom and get yourself back
in the kitchen like that's not what
either of us are saying that we want
women to do here but most people eight
out of 10 women that are childless once
they reach their 40s and later didn't
intend to not
be this is a very difficult conversation
that we need to have to warn people
about the impact of not thinking ahead
in their
relationships you have less time than
you
think you need to be aware of
that if I on the other side of the co
when we're talking about men again if I
delete the dating apps then so you know
first thing we're doing we're deleting
all dating apps that still leaves us in
a world where there's this kind of
pseudo
sexual fake digital relationship in porn
oh yeah pornography still exists so I'm
wondering about that 50% of men I'm
assuming and I don't know this 50% of
men but I'm assuming pornography is
probably quite a big part of their
replacement therapy for the connection
and sexual um intimacy that they're
missing correct so I have a theory
called the male sedation hypothesis
right there is a uh phenomenon called
young male syndrome if you have a large
number of nonpartnered childless men in
a society that tends to be an unstable
civilization uh there's examples
throughout history
where men who don't have a reason to
cave who don't buy into the social
contract of cesing everything together
tend to cause problems
they Revolt they cause riots they spray
paint cars and they push over granny and
they do domestic violence and sexual
assault there have been a number of
incel killings of
um disaffected disenfranchised young men
that have gone out and done horrible
things
but it is not increasing in line with
the amount of sexlessness right it's
tripled 2008 to 2018 tripled 8% to 28%
the number of associated young male
syndrome incidents hasn't increased in
kind so You' think okay something going
on here something is happening which is
causing men to not enact this uh very
wellestablished throughout all of
history uh
response that when men get into a
relationship the testosterone drops when
they have kids their testosterone drops
again and reduce testosterone reduces
risk-taking Behavior if you've just had
a kid you're in a relationship don't try
and jump off that Cliff because then
maybe you've got a kid that doesn't have
a father anymore you can see why that
would be
adaptive so the question is why is it
that we have greater rates of
sexlessness amongst young men than ever
but we don't have this in-kind amount of
violence and disruption and it's my
belief that porn video games and social
media are sedating men out of this uh
status seeking and reproductive seeking
Behavior so I think that you get a
titrated dose just an Ever So slight
just a little little bit of uh
reproductive cues from porn that helps
to sedate men's desire to go out and
pursue
women I think that what video games do
is they create a sense of camaraderie of
goal-seeking behavior status status
Within the uh online
World
it satisfies a lot of what men would
have been trying to achieve with that
young male syndrome uh revolution in the
past so my belief is that we have this
male sedation occurring now given a
choice between a society of men who are
dangerous and a society of men who are
sedated right now the group of sedated
men
are ever so marginally
better but the only reason for that is
that we're at a time of
peace right if there was an alien
civilization that that came down to
Earth today the best thing that we could
do would be to switch off all pawn turn
off all social media you want men to be
angry you want men to be riled up when
there is something that they can direct
that anger at right now there isn't and
if they did it would just foment and it
would cause problems and it would be it
would be bad right so yes the sedating
of this kind of reproductive seeking
behavior in a way has made the world
Karma but it's not particularly you
wouldn't say it's optimal right this
isn't
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