Is Being Fat a Choice? | Middle Ground
Summary
TLDRThe transcript features a multifaceted discussion on body image, societal perceptions, and the impact of diet culture on individuals of varying body sizes. Participants share personal experiences and viewpoints on topics such as the pressures of societal beauty standards, the challenges of being labeled as 'fat' or 'skinny,' the influence of media figures like Lizzo, and the broader implications of obesity in America. The conversation delves into the complexities of body positivity, the stigmatization of obesity, and the role of diet culture in shaping attitudes towards food and health, ultimately highlighting the diversity of perspectives and the importance of personal agency in making health-related choices.
Takeaways
- 🧐 The debate on whether being fat or skinny is a choice highlights the complexity of factors influencing body weight, including genetics, environment, and personal choices.
- 🥗 Lizzo's public image is used as an example of promoting body positivity and acceptance, rather than encouraging obesity.
- 🏥 Individual experiences with weight struggles vary greatly, with some participants citing health issues, poor diet choices, and societal pressures as contributing factors.
- 🤸♀️ The conversation emphasizes the importance of breaking mental and physical barriers in addressing weight issues, suggesting that change is a personal journey.
- 🏋️♂️ The role of diet culture and its impact on individuals' relationship with food and body image is questioned, with some advocating for intuitive eating over restrictive diets.
- 🍔 The influence of fast food culture and the lack of healthy options in certain areas, known as food deserts, is discussed as a contributing factor to obesity.
- 🏥 Medical conditions such as thyroid issues and disabilities are highlighted as factors that complicate weight management and should not be overlooked in the obesity discussion.
- 🤷♂️ The group acknowledges that while choices are involved in maintaining a healthy weight, not all choices are equally easy or accessible for everyone.
- 🌍 The script touches on the systemic and societal issues that contribute to the obesity epidemic, including the role of corporations and media.
- 💔 The harmful effects of fat-shaming and skinny-shaming are compared, with a consensus that body shaming in any form should be addressed.
- 🌟 The body positivity movement is discussed, with differing opinions on whether it inadvertently promotes obesity by normalizing larger body sizes.
Q & A
What is the main topic of discussion in the transcript?
-The main topic of discussion in the transcript is the debate surrounding body weight, body positivity, and the impact of societal norms and personal choices on being fat or skinny.
What are some factors mentioned in the transcript that contribute to a person's weight?
-Some factors mentioned include personal choices, environment, upbringing, the company one keeps, genetic predispositions, and underlying health conditions such as thyroid issues.
How does the transcript address the concept of 'calories-in-calories-out'?
-The transcript presents the 'calories-in-calories-out' concept as a simplified view of weight management, suggesting that for some people, going to the gym leads to a buff body, while not going results in not getting buff. However, it also acknowledges the complexity of factors affecting weight.
What is the perspective of the person who mentions having a thyroid issue?
-The person with a thyroid issue suggests that their weight is not solely their fault and that they have faced barriers to addressing their weight due to a lack of support and understanding from others.
How does the transcript discuss the impact of societal standards on body image?
-The transcript discusses societal standards through the lens of individuals who have faced criticism and judgment based on their body size. It highlights the struggle with body acceptance and the pressure to conform to societal beauty standards.
What is the argument made by the person who identifies as a disabled woman regarding weight management?
-The disabled woman argues that weight management is not as simple as 'calories-in-calories-out' for her due to her disability. She emphasizes the need for a more nuanced understanding of weight that takes into account individual circumstances and health conditions.
What is the role of diet culture in the discussion?
-Diet culture is discussed as both a potential problem and a source of positive change. Some participants argue that it can lead to unhealthy behaviors and obsession with food, while others see it as a way to provide resources and support for achieving health goals.
How does the transcript address the issue of shaming related to body weight?
-The transcript acknowledges that both fat shaming and skinny shaming can be harmful, but there is a consensus that fat shaming is generally worse due to the systemic and societal biases against larger bodies.
What is the stance of the person who mentions Lizzo in the transcript?
-The person argues that while Lizzo promotes body acceptance and self-love, there is a concern about the normalization of obesity, which they view as unhealthy, and the potential mixed messages this sends to society.
How does the transcript explore the concept of 'food deserts'?
-The transcript discusses 'food deserts' as areas lacking access to healthy food options, which can contribute to obesity and poor health. However, there is also a counterpoint made that living in a rural area with limited access to unhealthy food options might not necessarily lead to an unhealthy diet.
What is the overall sentiment towards the body positivity movement in the transcript?
-The overall sentiment towards the body positivity movement is mixed. While some participants see it as a way to promote self-acceptance and challenge societal norms, others express concern that it may inadvertently contribute to unhealthy lifestyles and obesity.
Outlines
🤔 Debate on Body Image and Personal Choices
The paragraph discusses the debate around body image, focusing on whether being fat or skinny is a personal choice. Participants express differing opinions, with some arguing that willpower and environment play significant roles in one's body size, while others share personal experiences of struggling with food and weight due to socio-economic backgrounds, health issues, and societal pressures. The conversation touches on the impact of diet culture, personal choices, and the need for a balanced approach to health and body acceptance.
🧘♀️ The Set Points Theory and Body Acceptance
This section delves into the concept of 'Set Points,' which suggests that bodies naturally gravitate towards specific weights. The discussion highlights the complexity of weight management, acknowledging that while personal choices are involved, external factors such as stress, emotional eating, and health conditions can significantly influence one's ability to maintain a desired weight. The conversation also addresses the importance of body acceptance and the limitations of diet culture in promoting healthy lifestyles.
🏥 Health Concerns and the Impact of Obesity
The paragraph focuses on the health implications of obesity, with participants sharing personal experiences and societal observations. The conversation covers the challenges faced by individuals with obesity, including health issues like lymphedema and the difficulty in finding suitable clothing. Participants also discuss the societal biases and misconceptions about obesity, emphasizing the need for a more nuanced understanding of health that goes beyond body size.
🌽 The Reality of Food Deserts and Accessibility
This section explores the issue of food deserts and their impact on health and weight. Participants discuss the lack of access to healthy food options in certain areas and the resulting reliance on unhealthy food choices. The conversation also touches on the personal experiences of individuals living in rural areas and the misconceptions about the availability of healthy food. The participants highlight the need for better infrastructure and public transportation to address these issues.
💃 The Influence of Media and Body Positivity
The paragraph examines the role of media and public figures like Lizzo in promoting body positivity and acceptance. The discussion contrasts the messages of those who encourage unhealthy weight gain with those who advocate for self-acceptance regardless of body size. Participants express concerns about the normalization of obesity and the potential health risks associated with it, while also acknowledging the importance of representation and inclusivity in media.
🏋️♂️ The Struggle with Diet Culture and Healthy Lifestyle
This section addresses the impact of diet culture on individuals' relationships with food and body image. Participants share personal experiences with restrictive diets, the pressures to conform to certain body standards, and the mental health challenges that arise from these societal expectations. The conversation emphasizes the need for a shift towards intuitive eating and sustainable lifestyle changes, rather than temporary diet fixes.
🤝 Reflections and Learning from Diverse Perspectives
The final paragraph summarizes the participants' reflections on the previous discussions. Individuals express gratitude for the opportunity to engage with different perspectives and share their personal journeys with body image, weight, and health. The conversation concludes with a recognition of the complexities involved in discussions around body size and health, highlighting the value of open dialogue and mutual understanding.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Body Positivity
💡Diet Culture
💡Health
💡Obesity
💡Shaming
💡Choice
💡Genetics
💡Food Deserts
💡Mental Health
💡Lifestyle Change
💡Intuitive Eating
Highlights
The debate on whether being fat or skinny is a choice, with various perspectives considering environmental, genetic, and personal factors.
The influence of societal standards and expectations on individuals' body image and self-perception.
The impact of diet culture and societal pressures on mental health, with some individuals experiencing eating disorders due to these pressures.
The discussion on the role of personal choice in maintaining a certain weight, with some arguing that it's more complex than just a matter of willpower.
The importance of body positivity and acceptance, as exemplified by Lizzo's message of self-acceptance versus the promotion of unhealthy body standards.
The challenges faced by individuals from different body types, including the difficulties of finding clothing and societal discrimination.
The exploration of the term 'obese culture' and whether it promotes unhealthy lifestyles.
The comparison between the experiences of skinny and overweight individuals, highlighting the different forms of body shaming and societal expectations.
The discussion on the systemic issues of fat discrimination and how it affects various aspects of life, including employment and healthcare.
The debate on the effectiveness of diet culture, with some advocating for intuitive eating and a balanced lifestyle over restrictive dieting.
The impact of diet culture on the fashion industry, with discussions on the availability and cost of plus-size clothing.
The exploration of the concept of 'food deserts' and their potential contribution to obesity and unhealthy eating habits.
The discussion on the role of media and celebrities in shaping body standards and the potential normalization of obesity.
The debate on whether body shaming, whether directed at overweight or underweight individuals, is ever justified or beneficial.
The personal stories shared by participants regarding their struggles with body image, weight, and societal expectations.
The examination of the potential positive and negative effects of diet culture on individuals and society as a whole.
The conclusion that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to diet and body image, and that personal choice and societal pressures must be balanced with health and self-acceptance.
Transcripts
- I'm sorry there's a- - Very different, yeah.
- Differences between the people
who are telling people, "Go out and get fat."
Versus a Lizzo who's saying, "Accept me the way I am."
- She's not just saying, "Accept me the way I am."
She is dressing extremely scantily clad
and then saying, "If you don't think that it's normal
for a morbidly obese person
to be wearing a G-string in the middle of public,
then you're the problem."
(upbeat music)
- [Host] Being fat or skinny is a choice.
Agreers? (footsteps clomping)
- Of course, not every factor is purely choice.
I don't think that every factor is,
but I do think a majority of it is,
and in most cases for most people, being skinny
or being fat is about willpower.
It's about the environment you grow up in-shore
but who you choose to associate with.
What sort of things you choose to listen to, who you choose
to kind of have as your friends around you and support you.
All of those things are choices that you can make
that will lead you closer
towards being one or the other.
- I know what I do with my body.
I know what I put into it, day-in-and-day-out.
I choose not to eat some days.
I choose you know, how I want to look
and I don't fault anyone for how they want to look
or how they want to be, but I think it's a choice at the end
of the day.
I'm very, you know, always wish-washy on
how I want to be presented
and if I want to gain weight or not.
But the only person that's gonna gain the weight at the end
of the day is me and me myself.
- For me, it's calories-in-calories-out.
Go to the gym, you'll get buff.
Don't go to the gym, you won't get buff.
I understand that there's genetics that could cause you
to want to eat more,
but even with the genetics that cause you to want
to eat more, the same solution is calories-and-calories-out.
- I think that the whole choice is, you know,
always determined on who they are
and it's not gonna just be a thing done overnight.
- Yeah, yeah. - It takes a lot of,
I think it's like breaking the barrier
and breaking a lot of things.
Not only your body but also breaking your mental state.
- Sure. - And, again,
that depends on who you are
and what you want to go through.
- Disagreers. (footsteps clomping)
- I felt like as a toddler I always viewed myself as big.
I grew up in a very like poor home.
So where my mom couldn't provide the meals
that she could healthily.
So when we would get like free meals even then it would be
like canned food and it would be like very much food
that's not as edible.
It was food for us, yes.
But then I felt like once it reached a point
where I was old enough to try to make my own choices,
I made all of the wrong choices.
I wasn't eating, and I was only eating like grapes
and lettuce and I was mainly because I was in a sport
and that sport just worked me out so hard
and it was to the point where I just was scared to eat.
I didn't like it.
I would only drink water.
- When you were eating grapes and lettuce, were you thin?
- I was as thin as I could be.
- Were you still big though? - I was still big
but that was the skinniest I've ever been
and that's coming from somebody who was only eating
somewhat salads that are just fruit and lettuce and water
and maybe ice right before a practice.
- Do you think that right now you would not be capable
of becoming a thin woman if you wanted to?
- I possibly would be capable of becoming a thin woman,
but since I was young, I was supposed to get blood tested
probably when I was very, very young and I never did.
And they had mentioned that it could have been
because of my weight and how that connects with my thyroid.
I never made the connection
and I never had like that leaning parent
to be like, "Go and get checked out.
Go and do this," like your weight is
probably not your fault.
It was always like, "Your weight is your fault
so that's your issue."
- I mean I also struggle with, you know,
thyroid and my own blood issues, I'm not quite sure
but I do see an endocrinologist and I go see a doctor.
It's a choice to do the requisite steps.
It's a choice to go grocery shopping instead of going
to fast food when it's easy.
It's a choice when you're grocery shopping to go
to the outer aisles and like not go into the bread section
and not go into the junk food section.
These are all choices.
- As a disabled woman, I can't do a lot of the things
that people say, "Calories-in-calories-out.
Oh, you gotta go work out and exert it."
A lot of the things that are typical, "Oh, this is
how you lose weight, put me in the hospital."
I have to navigate weight differently.
I have to look at it differently.
My weight is the way it is because of medication
because doctors put me in this position
and I had to learn, okay, am I going to be so hateful
of my own body that I am going to backlash
and put myself through extreme gym nights
through keeping myself from eating things
that I should be able to eat.
You should be able to have a balance.
You should be able to go into the junk food aisle
like other skinny people do
and still not have to worry about gaining 20 pounds.
- But I don't think skinny people go
into this junk food aisle. - No, they do.
- They certainly do. - Yes, they do.
- Need a lot of junk food.
- I mean- - A Lot of junk, yeah.
- I mean my DoorDash would tell you otherwise, like-
- There's a thing called Set Points.
There's a ton of research on it that your body likes
to be at specific weights. - Right.
- It likes to be in a specific way.
So if you are fighting yourself to lose weight
by not eating, over-exercising,
and you are damn near killing yourself
to be at a specific weight, your body's unhappy.
- It's important to note that a choice can be harder
for people to make due to conditions in their life.
But at the end of the day, it's still a choice.
I could say that I had food addiction, I looked
to food when I was stressed and this and that and this,
and so, it's harder for me to choose it than for someone
who has like the perfect lifestyle who, someone
who has parents who are giving them this and that and this.
But I definitely still acknowledge
that it was my choice at the end of the day when I go there
and I look and I see,
hmm, should I order a second hamburger?
I'm the one choosing whether or not I order
that second hamburger.
I'm the one making that choice.
- Hey, you all right?
- I don't know, I've been feeling kind of lost lately.
- And how is this helping?
- Well I don't know to be honest.
I'm just trying to figure out who I am.
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Now let's get back into the episode.
- [Host] I would rather be skinny than fat.
Can the agreers please step forward?
(footsteps clomping)
- I think there's a lot of different struggles when it comes
to being a bit bigger
and I have a sister that is very like she's 400 pounds
and she struggles a lot.
She has lymphedema and the to shower's really, really hard.
So I do think for like an overall happy life
and like zero struggle, I think I'd rather be skinny.
- I think that it is common in society
to want to be skinny.
I think the average person typically wants to be skinny.
I'm actually surprised that I didn't see
more people come forward on that question.
People treat you better.
It is what is considered the standard of beauty.
Your life expectancy is longer, you tend to be healthier.
- I'm also really tall, I'm six-foot-six,
so I kind of wish I could just pick a single struggle
because finding the clothes
and things like that when you're bigger
both ways can make it really hard.
So if I was skinnier, at least,
that's one less thing I have to worry about.
But also, I've got two kids and a wife
and I'm taking care of them, and as you pointed out,
I definitely think that I am at less health risks
if I'm a skinnier person,
if I'm a healthier person in that capacity
and I would much rather be that so
that I could be around for my kids longer.
- [Host] Can the disagreers please step forward?
(footsteps clomping)
- I am speaking as someone
who actually was a former smaller person
and I had the most body insecurities when I was small.
I was constantly living in fear of gaining weight
and having people tell me, "Oh,
don't gain weight, don't do this.
Make sure that your weight is the same."
And once I finally gained weight, I realized
that first off, life wasn't over.
I didn't feel any need to
not engage in life the previous way that I had
and the attention that I got was different.
But even as a smaller person you get negative attention.
And rather than trying to control my body to avoid
that negative attention, I would prefer
to address the situation as a society,
make it more accessible for everybody
to where we aren't feeling like I have to be a certain way
that's normal in order
to be treated like a human being and respected.
- If I could counter because I was a bit bigger
when I was younger, and that's when I was the most insecure,
I would look in the mirror.
I did have family members that were skinny
but then I had a family member that was much bigger
and just the way that I perceived myself, I hated it.
And I even became anorexic to like not be big.
- I don't think skinny always equates to being healthy.
- Exactly. - Absolutely.
- I am fairly skinny.
I'm six-five, I'm 140 pounds, last time I checked
and I'm severely underweight
and I know about this on a day-to-day basis.
That being said, I don't know
where I'd wanna lean at a appropriate weight level,
but I think it's important to understand
for some skinny people it's,
we're not living a great life by any means.
And sometimes I feel like that's always kind
of lost in translation
when they see someone who's really skinny.
- I guess it depends on what you mean When you think
of the term skinny, are you thinking
of just like an average-weight person
or are you thinking of how you are now.
- I'm the average weight for like women in America.
so, if we're talking about an average,
like I'm gonna be the closest.
If your biggest priority is to be at a smaller body,
you need to reassess your priorities.
- Yeah. - Focused on health.
- In the immediate tie between skinniness
and health, like you emphasized, there is such a gap
between one, the research,
'cause the research has a huge fat-phobic bias in it.
And there has been research that shows
that they aren't even, especially
during let's say COVID,
and the correlation between obesity, they rushed
through those studies so fast
because in society's mind, "Oh,
of course, a fat person is gonna equal someone
who's gonna get sick faster is gonna say it's sick easier."
It was an easy jump.
So they didn't do all of the testing
that they were supposed to do.
They didn't check their bias didn't.
- So, if by saying the study is bias, you're saying
that the study didn't account for the variable
that obesity may also take a factor into.
It's just that there's so many variables in humanity
that these pharmaceutical companies could only account for
so many during their trials
and that doesn't necessarily mean that they're bias,
however, you wanna talk about bias in studies
actually, recently we've been doing the opposite.
So for instance, a lot of our studies have been based on BMI
and so we've been showing
that, oh, fat people aren't necessarily extremely unhealthy
if we look at people with a certain BMI.
However, bodybuilders also have a really high BMI
and so they get counted into that category.
And so it wasn't until very recently that they equated for
that mistake and it shows, oh, my goodness,
being fat is actually extremely unhealthy.
Like way, way more unhealthy than we ever realized.
- You can't gauge health by looking at somebody.
like none of my health issues,
all of them precipitated my weight gain.
But I always get assumed, "Oh, don't you wanna be skinny so
that you don't have a cane anymore
and you don't feel the way you feel," and it's like, "No,"
'cause I have lupus and I'm always gonna feel like
like ACPS, it's gonna deteriorate, it's gonna continue.
- [Host] America has an obesity problem.
(footsteps clomping)
- I wanna sit next to you. - Oh, absolutely, you can.
- I think it's pretty clear you look at the weight
of the average American, you see
how obesity has affected not just children, I mean the fact
that we have more younger and younger people
who are looking heavier and heavier
and you see that like, you know, the way
that weight affects us as a society
and you compare that to how we were in the past now, not
that we should always, you know,
we shouldn't compare ourselves to the era
of the Great Depression when people just couldn't find food.
Of course, but people are heavier now in an unhealthy way
and people are eating unhealthy.
They are eating it through unhealthy access to food.
They're eating diets high in seed oils,
they're eating high corn syrup,
they're doing all this kind of stuff that's not good
for them that we didn't used to do.
And it's bad, it's not a good thing, it's an epidemic.
It needs to be quashed in some capacity.
- There's so much access to just-
- Junk food?
- Anything, like it's so crazy these days,
and you know, I'm so surprised
that we're actually supporting a lot of this, you know,
and there's always people like, "You know, like it's fine
that we have like three McDonald's like on the same street
and it's just like we don't think
that this is adding to the problem."
- What I think is really sad about that is
so many people in America just see the profit in it.
I don't wanna say I know that these people know the problem,
but it's like how can you not see the problem?
They have to see it and just not care.
They have to just be like, "Well, we're gaining profit.
Do you see how much this McDonald's is making?"
Put another one across the street.
Like that's just like how it is.
- That's the corporations, it's the medical industry.
Having a fat country makes us money.
- It doesn't help that our cities aren't walkable either.
America's a country of non-walkable cities.
- That is why I wavered a little bit
because I think we have a problem with how to treat obesity.
I think we have a problem with how to make it so
that it is not an epidemic.
This is a systemic thing that we are in a society
and in an environment that breeds this
and we are doing it to ourselves.
We are doing it to our children and our corporations
and our industries are doing it to us
and they aren't having to take responsibility for it.
- And they're encouraging it with media-
- So, I was literally gonna bring that up,
be the mukbangs and like all those videos
that just come up to trends for people.
- Not only the mukbangs but also like Lizzo
and other big like media. - Lizzo's
- I'm sorry, there's a very big difference
between the people who are telling people go out
and get fat versus a Lizzo saying, "Accept me the way I am."
- She's not just saying, "Accept me the way I am."
She is dressing extremely scantily clad.
And then saying, "If you don't think that it's normal
for a morbidly obese person
to be wearing a G-string in the middle of public,
then you're the problem."
And they're trying to normalize society
to this obese culture, which is extremely unhealthy, and-
- What is an obese culture?
- A culture which like normalize
(speakers talking over each other)
- Look, obesity's already normal, so it's-
- I don't think it should be normalized.
And it wasn't normal just a couple of decades ago.
- What's the difference between a obese person,
myself walking around in a G-string
or a bathing suit as I do
almost every day and a skinny person?
Like is it okay that the skinny person is doing that?
- I don't think so, but- - I don't think that-
- I get the whole public thing
- Or to say that when Lizzo does it, is the same
as a Victoria's Secret angel, it's just not the same.
- Yeah, what's the difference?
- What you mean?
Are you telling me they look, you're telling me it doesn't-
- I'm not saying they look the same but-
- Well, I mean Lizzo goes (speakers talking over each other)
- The implication.
So if I walk down the street, oh, I'm a runway model,
I'm a print and runway model.
I have walked down a runway in a thong.
So me doing that is shameful.
But a skinny model is okay.
- Like a Victoria's Secret model.
- I don't know if I used the phrase shameful.
I don't think that we, as a society,
should be modeling obesity.
- So, we're not modeling obesity,
I'm modeling the lingerie that obese people need to be able
to have availability to buy, yeah.
- So they've always had the ability to buy-
- We have not. - The lingerie-
(speakers talking over each other)
- It was like almost $20. - Yeah.
- And you go to like any other Walmart, any Target
and like all these underwears aren't special for like five
to like $20 and stuff.
- Well, it does take more fabric to make it.
- It does take more fabric to make it.
- They use it as an excuse but you make yards
of fabric for gowns.
- Like it's a Small a different price
than an extra large or a large?
- It is, yeah, and we're willing for 3XL shirts,
I gotta pay more money.
- I think people view models and Instagram people
and all of us who are plus-size
and proud as we're pushing this obese lifestyle.
- Yes. - No, I am pushing
the fact that this is what I live in,
this is my life and I need other people who feel this way
to say, "Hey, I wanna be able
to wear clothes that look cute too.
- I do think there's a problem with obesity in America,
but I think it's a first-world-country problem
because it's spread across the globe.
And also, I don't see it as a problem.
I do feel like health-wise,
people should try to be healthier.
But there's no perfect body, there's no perfect person,
there's no perfect size.
And there's people who are underweight.
There's a lot of them, and then there's a lot of people
who are overweight.
So I really don't see it as like a problem.
But just to touch on what you were saying,
because I am in the fashion industry, I want it
to become a fashion designer.
My dad was one, and they buy 10 rolls
of fabric for one price.
So it really doesn't cost that much to make underwear.
- Sure, but don't you also have to worry about distribution?
I mean if the average person is let's say
in between Small, Medium, Large
and you're sending clothes out for those, you know,
you could send out 10,000 of this,
10,000 of that, 10,000 of that.
You can't always send out 10,000 3XLS
because you're not gonna have that many people fitting
in the 3XL.
- No, because there's somebody who works in marketing
and they research that that area, there's a census.
So we have a database of what type of people are there.
Now we don't know who's going in there,
but we know the type of people that live in that area
and the type of the people that come and visit the area.
So that person is doing their job accordingly,
and usually, large sizes are sold out.
- Okay, so somebody brought up the food desert earlier.
I can't even think of an area that would have a
so-called Food Desert.
- Sorry, can someone explain like maybe just
for my ignorance, I'm guessing a food desert is
just, there's no food anywhere?
- No, it's healthy options for food.
So you can go into certain low-income areas
and you'll see a Starbucks, a McDonald's, a Chick-fil-A
but there's no Trader Joe's
- A food desert actually properly,
there isn't any, like for a long period
of driving there's one gas station
and a liquor store, then you have to drive two more miles
to hit the next grocery store.
- But with the food desert, it's not just
that there can be a grocery store there,
but if I am making minimum wage, I'm not gonna spend all
of my money on
what is gonna last me two meals versus
what's gonna last me an entire week.
- Or if I'm on EBT
and I have specific things that I have to choose
to buy versus what I can't buy.
- So, I'm born and raised in Colorado, in the outskirts,
there's so many small towns
that you don't even know that they're there,
Most of 'em you won't see on a map,
but if you're from there then you'll know
and they all have to drive a decent amount to be able to go
to an actual grocery store.
- But how often are you going grocery shopping?
Maybe like once every two weeks would be typically normal.
(speakers talking over each other)
- You have to do a drive once a week.
So you're making a drive once a week,
once every two weeks.
(speakers talking over each other)
- If I don't have a car- - I don't enjoy it.
- And if you don't have, usually,
these food deserts also have
very poor public transportation options.
So you are left with people who are stranded.
- Yeah, but then what are they eating at all?
- Yeah, unhealthy crap.
- No, but how are they surviving at all-
- whether they go through the drive-through,
they don't get a car to go everywhere.
They usually, what I've seen when I go
to those rural towns and those rural places is,
they have chickens and they have animals.
And guess what, that's,
you can get some healthy food outta that.
Having eggs and protein, things like that.
I think I would be healthier if I lived rurally.
In fact, my wife and I are trying to leave the State
so we're not near all the Uber Eats and all the stuff-
- I grew up in a town of 500.
The obesity problem there was not as significant
as say in LA. - Mm.
- And we talk about like food deserts and stuff,
the nearest Walmart where I grew up was 45 minutes
in any direction.
The nearest McDonald's was nowhere near
to be seen for a long time.
So when I hear these like,
and there could be some evidence there
as like the obesity problem is very low-lift.
- Were there grocery stores in your small town?
- Yes, like I'm like kind of baffled
by the- - Oh, thank you.
- Maybe I just need to go out there
and like experience the food deserts.
But like there was grocery stores where I grew up.
Just because we lived in the middle
of nowhere doesn't mean we didn't have access to food.
And actually, and I have to agree, we did have access
to healthy food, very healthy food all the time.
I don't think this is a big
of an issue in my personal opinion.
- [Host] Fat shaming is worse than skinny shaming.
(footsteps clomping)
- So, I do agree
that fat shaming is worse than skinny shaming.
Just overall entirely the way
that people like comment on people's weight,
compared to somebody's skinny.
They usually don't comment on somebody's skinny.
They don't think there's something wrong with them.
They don't like,
they'll maybe say like, "Oh, you're very thin.
Do you want to eat a cheeseburger?"
But that's not as bad as telling somebody you eat 10, stop,
and you don't even know that they're eating 10.
- Fat shaming is a systemic problem.
You're not gonna not get a job because you're too skinny.
Skinny bodies are praised in our society whereas fat bodies,
like I don't get it as often as other people
but I get a lot of comments on my Instagram
that are saying like, "You're really beautiful
but you would look a lot better if you lost 50, 60 pounds."
(footsteps clomping)
- Something that I always get a lot
of comments on is my masculinity as a man
because of how skinny I am.
It's always something that I've always kind of dealt with.
My favorite comment is always I look like
a sickly ill Victorian child.
And- - That's horrible.
- Sorry, I don't mean to laugh at that.
- No, no, no, I don't, it doesn't bother me as much.
But this idea that skinny people can't
also feel, get these kind of comments are just
kind of mind-blowing, that doesn't mean that they're,
you know, that one side is getting worse than the other.
I think that there are both sides getting piled on
just at different varying degrees.
- I think we're conflating two things as well.
So there's a difference between fat-shaming
and fat-discrimination.
Fat-shaming is an aspect of fat-discrimination.
But some of the things you were touching on are
specifically societal and systemic fat discrimination
that goes into our medical system.
It goes into employment, it goes into all
of our civil rights as fat people
that skinny people don't necessarily have that same issue.
And I come from cultures
where they straight-out called out skinny people.
You look like bones, oh, fuck it all, like all of that.
So I watched my cousins go through it.
I went through it when I would get too skinny.
As people, we are just too scrutinized
when it comes to our bodies.
We don't let people live.
- But I think that's a good point.
You said you were called skin and bones when you got to-
- My cousin.
- What your, sorry, not whatever but your cousin.
So people using shame as a motivator to get your cousin
to not be too skinny.
Shame as a motivator is a powerful tool.
So the reason I sit over there is fat-shaming worse
than skinny-shaming.
Well, you could argue that shaming somebody in order
to motivate them towards a healthy lifestyle is
actually a good thing.
Now, I have a lot of empathy
'cause hearing your story about how you've been struggling
with this since you were a child-
- Since I was like a newborn baby.
Like health, just, everything's just been on that end
where I've never known anything about being skinny
or being fit or being athletic.
I've never known anything about that.
- Probably your situation, I don't think shame
necessarily would motivate you.
But for somebody where it is a option, so
for instance, if you've watched TLC,
you watch "My 600-lb Life,"
"1000-lb Sisters,' "Family by the Ton,"
all of them can do it.
All of them have had this systemic issue of blinking.
- Though, I have watched those like
as a younger person, and it would make me feel disgusted
with me when I was a kid.
So it would make me worse
and it made my mental health worse
'cause then I'm like, "Is that how
like everybody automatically views me as
just like somebody who's oversized
and could possibly never even attain it
'cause it's so just common."
- I don't think we should shame anyone to do anything.
I think everyone deserves to like themselves enough
to like enjoy life. - Mm-hmm.
- And if you do that as a fat person, okay, if you do it
as a skinny person, also chill.
It's not my business.
- But I- - Shame is a broad category.
I do think shame works in some cases.
I think that there has been good fat-shaming towards me
and bad fat-shaming, bad fat-shaming is just, you know,
somebody just saying, "You are fat,"
there's like that doesn't really work.
But what does work is somebody looking at me
and saying, "Don't you wanna be around for your kids?"
And that worked. That worked. - I don't think that shaming.
Do you consider that shaming?
- I do, I think that's shaming. I think they were telling me
like you should lose weight to be around for your children.
I think that's shame, like an attempt
to like try and say something bad about me.
- Like they're personalizing towards you
and towards your kids like, of course, yeah.
- Yeah, but, and I think that worked, I think that worked.
That really encouraged me to go
to the gym and start trying to lose weight.
- But that's to you though. - Sure.
I think you have to be specific towards the person.
- I think that's one thing is,
it depends on the person. - Sure
- And if someone wants to shame me
and like, you know, it depends on the person.
I've been shamed a couple times
and it's kicked me into gear to try to gain weight,
but it's still really hard.
- Sure. - And it's, you know,
it depends on who you are, I think.
- When you were making a comment
about people questioning your masculinity,
I get the question of actually looking like a woman all
the time and it's always in play.
I always get compare to like male characters,
especially when I don't wear makeup and that's
because I don't have boobs and I can't help that.
But it's definitely really, really hard
to like have people tell you constantly like here's
the standard of how a woman should look
and you don't look like that without even saying it.
They don't say it, they're categorizing me,
they're making fun of me saying
that I look like this one soccer player or something.
And you know, I think it's funny
but also shame can also be hard.
'cause I can see what you mean sometimes it can
really motivate you when it's out of love.
- Yes. (speakers talking over each other)
- And when it's out of like not knowing someone
and just saying it-
- Yeah, the people who said that
to me about my kids were not,
yeah, just some random guy online.
It was people who were close to me
and I knew cared about me, who I had a conversation with.
So I do think it matters who says it,
but I still would consider it to an extent of shaming.
And I'm okay with that, I think there is good shame.
I think that's a...
I think sometimes it helps motivate people in the right way.
- [Host] The body positivity movement promotes
childhood obesity.
(footsteps clomping)
Diet culture has positive effects.
- I guess, for me, diet culture is an important thing
to have for people in the world.
What I've realized after we're about to finish this up is
there wasn't a lot of talk on skinny culture
or like skinny people as a whole.
Maybe that's 'cause of how the prompt is.
But I think it's important if we're gonna give positivity
to kids who are obese, I think it's important
to give them the options to, you know,
say if they want to lose weight they can.
I don't see a problem with that in any real sense.
(footsteps clomping)
- I think that diet culture is a reason that a lot
of people struggle with weight problems in the first place.
I have even struggled with my own weight issues in the past
and I was like struggling kind of
with depriving myself too much because I had a trainer
and then I started binge-eating
and as soon as I had like a mental break
where I was like physically incapable
of stopping myself from putting food in my mouth,
I immediately went to see a doctor
and that doctor told me
to read a book called "Intuitive Eating,"
and it wildly changed my life.
And it was about getting past diet culture
and about how so many people ruined their lives
with diet culture.
And you see it with like
somebody talked about eating grapes and lettuce,
and it's grapes and lettuce
and it's just like, it's this extreme.
And so you go from one extreme and then you break
and then you go to the other extreme.
And so like I was in my extreme, I broke went.
So that's why I'm anti-diet culture.
- Yeah, I tried Keto for a while,
and that's the thing about what I realized is like
that fad diet kind of stuff and, yeah, did I lose weight?
I absolutely lost weight, sure, I didn't keep it off.
And the reason I didn't keep it off is
because diet culture is about turning the word diet
from your overall eating into an activity
that takes place over a period of time.
A diet should not be something you do from January
until May of next year.
Diet is what you continually eat, is
what you continually put into yourself.
Yeah. - Lifestyle change.
- Yeah, so my issue with diet culture is this idea of like,
oh, I've got this perfect solution for you, man.
All you gotta do is this, this, this, and this and that.
And it's like, no, like
the reality is is like, yeah, there are good correct
and objective ways I think for a lot of people to eat.
And, yes, everybody has
to have some variations here and there.
There's no one-bag-fix-salt
and diet culture is so much about trying
to say like, "All you gotta do is just eat cheese puffs
every day for the rest of your life
- And it's easy. - Yeah, and so I just, I...
That's why I think diet culture doesn't help.
- You know, you're always gonna get those people
who have the perfect answer, they have the perfect solution
to either lose weight
or diet isn't just losing weight, it's also gaining weight.
You know, and I think a lot of people, maybe it's just,
for me, but when I diet, it's actually not
the opposite of fasting.
I'm trying to eat more, I'm trying to gain more.
And I think people forget that when it comes to diet.
When people instantly hear the word diet,
they think losing weight. - Mm-hmm.
- And I don't think that should always be the case.
- I've been on a lot of diets.
I've been on diets for myself, I've been put on diets
and I've been put on diets by my coaches.
So when I was young,
I felt like it was more so like fasting,
fasting, fasting, not eating but working out
and maybe, hopefully, eating once you get home as a reward.
And then, when it became like, oh,
like you're a good person in the team
to like be the big person,
be the defender, be buff.
So it was like now we have to gain all this weight
and we have to pound you out.
So it was like I had to eat like five meals in a day
and I was, I felt so gross
because I was just like, I've never had
to like pull out like a bar or something
and like eat it during class and be like I have
to eat this 'cause it's part of my diet.
- When we talk about diet culture,
we're talking about not your diet as a whole.
It's usually a fad diet is
what we're talking about when we're talking
about diet culture.
And for me personally, I know that I've seen a lot of,
especially women in my life going on fad diets
that are just not sustainable.
And that's kind of the purpose of diet culture is
that it's not a sustainable thing.
- But we're all talking about like mainstream, like Keto,
like gluten-free, and I think it's,
everyone's just polarized on these certain ones
that I believe that you should eat gluten.
I think if you take it outta your diet,
you're actually gonna get sick.
- Unless you're-
- Unless, Celiac, no, like, yeah-
- It goes back to like what she said,
which is you know, intuitive eating.
- So what is the positive you think you've seen for people
from diet culture
which I think, and I guess
what do you consider diet culture?
- I guess like diet culture, to me,
is the resources you need
to get to where you want to be in your life, in your body.
That's how I've always viewed diet culture.
- By dieting, do you mean like journaling
what you're eating?
- Yeah, if you want to journal, if you want to, you know,
talk to a therapist, if you want to work out,
if you wanna see a doctor, if you wanna go on meds.
Like everyone's always- - But it's not being super
like when you diet,
you're not being like, "I'm completely cutting out carbs
or I'm completely doing this right."
(speakers talking over each other)
Are you just like watching your macros and your micros
and you're calculating that-
- I guess if you're asking if I know
how many calories I have to eat,
yeah, like I have to eat like 4,000 a day.
- When most people talk about diet culture,
they've done some sort of extremely restrictive thing
and when you do something really restrictive,
it changes your brain chemistry and the way that you think
about food and it makes you obsessive over food.
and it makes you obsessive over food.
And then, but it sounds like the way
that you're doing it is extremely healthy
- Isn't that just goes back to like you guys are talking
- Isn't that just goes back to like you guys are talking
- Diet culture is one thing, and then healthy lifestyle-
- Having a healthy diet is different.
- I think are two different things.
Think are two different things. Okay.
of living a healthy lifestyle as a diet.
- You've been in like a model spheres,
do you see diet culture and how has it impacted the space?
- There was a point in my life like when I was a junior
in high school where the person that I was with at the time,
he's like six-foot-six and super tall.
And so, you know, the mom was like, "Hey,
And so, you know, the mom was like, hey,
which is still big to this day
and, you know, you should come."
which is still big to this day and you know you should come.
and I was a D-cup and they said that I weighed too much.
And so, seeing that
really struck me in the beginning
with the negative part of dieting
struck me in the beginning with the negative part of dieting
well if I'm too big then what are people doing
to not be this size? - Mm-hmm.
- Like how can I make it to be to do
what I wanna do if this is my limitation to it?
It took years later to realize like, "Shit,
I was really disciplining myself
for no apparent reason except
for this underlying feeling from years ago
that I can never get rid of."
When you're talking about like discipline,
I think it can be really positive with dieting
and like intaking your calories.
But for me personally,
and I'm a very specific case, seeing those numbers
and knowing that I couldn't achieve it
because I didn't have the appetite was also just
so saddening to me because reading the bare minimum of
what a woman needs, five-foot-five at my age, I was like,
"That's not that much," and I still couldn't eat it
at the time, and I'm like, "What's wrong with me?"
There's different ways to motivate people
and one of 'em is out of pain and anger
and I feel like a lot of the diet culture, whether it's
for positive or negative, is just trying
to gear into that for that. - Yeah.
- And you know, I just am more about being healthy.
- I hear diet and I think of something that's positive
and it's been positive to me,
and you know, it's something I'm always trying to achieve.
I guess like if we were to redo this,
the same exact question, I may hesitate
and not walk across the line.
I guess I'll never know.
But hearing these perspectives were really good
'cause I probably didn't know as much about the extremes.
- I wanna thank all of you for sharing your opinions with us
and for challenging us, and I really wanna thank you.
I thank you for the back and forth.
It's something that I came here for
and I wanted to talk to somebody who thinks differently
and I've learned some things,
so I appreciate that for all of you.
Thank you all for- - Yeah, thank you.
- Yeah, this was great. - It was a pleasure.
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