The Truth About Violence - Female Edition
Summary
TLDRThe speaker addresses the serious topic of personal safety, particularly for women, drawing from 23 years of experience in security. He emphasizes the importance of avoiding behaviors that may attract predators and suggests practical strategies for self-protection, such as maintaining confidence and awareness. He debunks the effectiveness of short-term self-defense courses and highlights the risks associated with excessive alcohol consumption, drugs, and dressing provocatively. The speaker advocates for strength in numbers, meeting online acquaintances in group settings, and using deception and force multipliers in life-threatening situations.
Takeaways
- π‘οΈ Self-defense courses are not always effective in real-world situations where an attacker may have the element of surprise.
- πͺ Confidence and self-assuredness can deter potential predators, as predators often seek out those who appear vulnerable or lack self-esteem.
- π» Excessive alcohol and drug use significantly increase the risk of becoming a victim, as it impairs judgment and makes individuals more susceptible to manipulation.
- π Predators often look for signs of low confidence or discomfort in saying 'no', which can make someone a target for unwanted advances.
- π The way one dresses can influence how they are perceived by potential predators, not necessarily because of sexual attraction, but as an indicator of vulnerability.
- π There is strength in numbers; being alone increases vulnerability, while being with a group can offer protection from predators.
- πΆββοΈ Walking home alone late at night is risky, as it provides an opportunity for predators to target individuals who are isolated.
- ποΈ Being aware of one's surroundings and the context of a situation is crucial for personal safety, as different environments may carry different risks.
- π€ Meeting people, especially from online platforms, in group settings first can help filter out individuals with ill intentions and ensure safety.
- π Home visits or meeting in familiar and public places can be safer alternatives when meeting someone new, as it reduces the risk of isolation.
- β° Acting assertively and promptly when faced with a threat is important; waiting to react can lead to more severe outcomes.
Q & A
What is the main purpose of the video script?
-The main purpose of the video script is to provide advice and strategies on how females can avoid becoming victims of violence or sexual crimes, based on the speaker's experience in security.
Why is the topic of not being a victim close to the speaker's heart?
-The topic is close to the speaker's heart because it pained him to see numerous situations developing while working in security, and he found it important to try and protect females from predatory individuals.
What is the speaker's stance on victim blaming?
-The speaker is against victim blaming. He clarifies that he does not blame anyone for being a victim of a violent or sexual crime, but he believes there are preventive measures that can be taken to lower the chances of becoming a victim.
Why does the speaker believe short-term self-defense courses may not be effective?
-The speaker believes short-term self-defense courses may not be effective because predators often have the element of surprise and can strike first, and the techniques taught in these courses may not work against an unanticipated attack.
How can martial arts contribute to personal safety according to the speaker?
-According to the speaker, martial arts can contribute to personal safety by instilling a sense of confidence in individuals, which can make them less likely to be targeted by predators.
What is the speaker's view on the use of alcohol and drugs in relation to becoming a victim?
-The speaker views the use of alcohol and drugs as significantly increasing the chances of becoming a victim, as it makes individuals less aware and more susceptible to manipulation by predators.
What role does the 'named driver girl' play in a social setting, according to the speaker?
-The 'named driver girl' is seen as a protective figure who looks after her friends, ensures they are safe, and prevents them from being taken advantage of by predatory individuals.
What advice does the speaker give regarding dressing and its potential impact on attracting unwanted attention?
-The speaker advises that while individuals should wear what they want, they should be aware that certain types of dress may send signals to predators that they are seeking male attention, potentially making them targets.
Why does the speaker suggest that walking home alone late at night is dangerous?
-The speaker suggests that walking home alone late at night is dangerous because it isolates the individual, making them an easy target for predators who are looking for vulnerable victims.
What is the speaker's advice on meeting people from online dating?
-The speaker advises to prioritize safety when meeting people from online dating by suggesting initial group meetings or meeting in familiar and public places to filter out individuals with bad intentions.
What is the speaker's opinion on the effectiveness of protests against predatory behavior?
-The speaker believes that while protests are a form of expression, they do not change the behavior of predators and that individuals need to take practical precautions to avoid becoming victims.
Outlines
π‘οΈ Personal Safety and Avoiding Victimhood
The speaker addresses the serious issue of personal safety, particularly from a female perspective, acknowledging the complexity and controversy of the topic. They emphasize the importance of not blaming victims but proactively taking steps to reduce the risk of becoming one. The speaker, drawing from 23 years of experience, refutes the effectiveness of short-term self-defense courses due to the reality of surprise attacks and the impracticality of these techniques in real-life confrontations with predators.
π« The Risks of Alcohol, Drugs, and Predatory Behavior
This paragraph delves into the heightened vulnerability that alcohol and drugs can cause, making individuals prime targets for predators. The speaker discusses how predators seek out those who are intoxicated or under the influence, as they are more easily manipulated and less able to defend themselves. The paragraph also touches on the shame and difficulty victims may experience in reporting such crimes due to their impaired state, which predators are well aware of and exploit.
π₯ The Role of Confidence and Assertiveness in Deterrence
The speaker highlights the importance of confidence and assertiveness in personal safety. They describe how predators look for signs of low self-esteem and lack of confidence, using these as indicators to choose potential victims. The paragraph also discusses the importance of being able to say 'no' and mean it, as well as the potential dangers of extreme reactions, which could escalate to immediate violence.
π The Impact of Dress and Behavior on Perception
This paragraph explores the influence of dress and behavior on how one is perceived by others, particularly in the eyes of potential predators. The speaker explains that dressing provocatively does not cause attacks, but it can influence a predator's judgment about a person's likelihood to be a compliant victim. The paragraph also addresses the importance of strength in numbers and the dangers of being alone while intoxicated or walking home alone late at night.
πΆββοΈ The Dangers of Isolation and Walking Home Alone
The speaker warns against the dangers of isolation, especially for women who may find themselves alone in vulnerable states. They discuss the risks associated with walking home alone late at night and the predatory behaviors that can be encountered. The paragraph emphasizes the importance of not taking unnecessary risks and the value of staying with a group for safety.
π€ Last Resort Self-Defense and Legal Considerations
In this paragraph, the speaker discusses the legal allowances and practical considerations for self-defense in life-threatening situations. They suggest using any available objects as force multipliers and targeting an attacker's most vulnerable areas. The speaker also advises against passive compliance and emphasizes the importance of fighting back immediately if one is being forced into a dangerous situation, such as being bundled into a car.
πͺ Deception and the Element of Surprise in Self-Defense
The speaker advocates for the use of deception as a self-defense strategy, suggesting that acting submissive can provide an opportunity to launch a surprise attack on an assailant. They discuss the effectiveness of targeting sensitive areas such as the eyes, ears, and genitals, and explain that the goal is to incapacitate the attacker long enough to escape. The paragraph also stresses the importance of timing when fighting back and the potential consequences of waiting too long to do so.
π« Online Dating Precautions and Safety Measures
The speaker expresses concern over the trend of meeting strangers from online platforms, which can be a gateway for predators. They suggest meeting in group settings initially to filter out individuals with bad intentions and to ensure personal safety. The paragraph also discourages going to secluded places alone with someone met online and promotes the idea of meeting in public places or with friends and family present to mitigate risk.
π Final Thoughts on Safety and Avoiding Predators
In the concluding paragraph, the speaker reiterates the importance of personal safety and the steps that can be taken to avoid becoming a victim of predators. They encourage viewers to share their thoughts and acknowledge the controversial nature of the topic. The speaker emphasizes that the advice given is based on observations and the desire to help prevent potential harm.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Victim
π‘Predatory Males
π‘Self-Defense
π‘Confidence
π‘Alcohol and Drugs
π‘Victim Blaming
π‘Situational Awareness
π‘Dressing
π‘Deception
π‘Force Multiplier
π‘Online Dating
Highlights
The video addresses the serious topic of how women can avoid becoming victims of violence, especially from a security perspective.
The speaker emphasizes that while no one should be blamed for being a victim, there are preventative measures that can be taken to reduce the risk.
Short-term self-defense courses are criticized for being ineffective in real-world predatory situations.
The importance of confidence and self-esteem in deterring potential predators is discussed.
Alcohol and drugs are highlighted as factors that significantly increase the risk of becoming a victim.
Predators often look for individuals who are not in control of their faculties due to substance use.
The role of assertiveness in personal safety, including the ability to say 'no' firmly, is underscored.
The video explains how predators test boundaries and look for those who are uncomfortable saying no.
The potential danger of extreme reactions, such as physical aggression, which might escalate to immediate violence against women.
The impact of the way one dresses on attracting attention from potential predators is examined.
The video suggests that dressing conservatively may deter predators who seek easy targets.
The importance of staying with a group to maintain safety in public places is highlighted.
Walking home alone late at night is warned against due to the increased risk of encountering predators.
The video advises on last-ditch efforts and the use of force multipliers when physical confrontation is unavoidable.
The legal justification for using reasonable force in self-defense is explained.
The speaker advocates for meeting potential dates in group settings initially to filter out individuals with bad intentions.
The video concludes by stressing the importance of personal safety over appearing cool or conforming to social pressures.
Transcripts
hi welcome back a bit more of a serious
subject I've been asked by a few females
if I would do a video specifically on
you know how not to be a victim you know
I've done one on Street violence towards
males and how males can avoid getting
into those sort of
confrontations and I've been asked to do
one that takes a more female perspective
on matters it's actually a subject very
close to my heart it was something that
pained me a lot when I worked in
security that I would see tons and tons
of these situations developing and it
was probably the thing that I went out
of my way to try and deal with the most
I found it was probably the most
important part of the security job was
trying to protect females from predatory
males generally sometimes predatory
females this can be a bit of a
controversial subject because some of
the stuff I'm going to talk about I'm
sure some will label as victim blaming
I'm not blaming any victim I don't blame
anyone for being a victim of a violent
or sexual crime that's definitely not
their fault but there are some things
that we can do to prevent ourselves
being the potential victim or at least
very much lower our chances you know and
you can say that's whatever you like I'm
basing my conversation in reality based
on 23 years of seen this stuff occurring
and I know from what I've seen there are
certain behaviors and certain ways of
looking that can encourage you to be
singled out as a victim and there are
certain things you can do that
discourage that now in a perfect world
we could all walk around acting and
dressing and looking however we wanted
in whatever place we wanted and as long
as we weren't breaking the law no one
should touch us I completely agree but
it's not an Ideal World there are lots
of very very unpleasant people out there
and they will quite happily do some
horrific stuff to you and they will
choose you for some very specific
reasons so I'm going to go into that
today if you feel strongly about victim
blaming and you think this falls into
that category feel free not to watch if
you're interested and actually you know
in reality how to keep yourself safer
please carry on the first thing I would
address is what really doesn't work and
what really doesn't work is doing one of
these shortterm self-defense courses
those courses exist because the people
running them want to make money you know
unless it's some completely free course
that someone's giving out may be that
could be reasonable but even so there's
usually a reason why people are doing
that and the fact of the matter is they
rarely work because most Predators if
they're going to grab you in a violent
manner they're going to have the drop on
you you know they've already decided
that you're going going to be their
victim and they're going to get the
first strike in so if they've run up to
you and they've punched you without you
even seeing them you knowing whatever
martial arts isn't going to help you the
likelihood of someone approaching you
from the front and saying right let's
have a fight you know that might happen
in the movies but that doesn't happen in
real life when really unpleasant people
want to get hold of you they will do so
very quickly very violently and very
unexpectedly and you knowing you know
how to do a front kick or whatever
probably isn't going to help the other
problem is that when you go to those
classes they tend to teach you yeah
these techniques can work against anyone
against any man of any size and a lot of
the rehearsals that you're doing in
those classes they're almost like sort
of dancing you know that the victim in
the class knows what way to roll so when
you throw him he automatically throws
himself onto the mat and appears to be
very effective you can feel Invincible
when you get out into the street things
don't work like that you know that 16
Stone very drunk angry guy isn't going
to throw himself onto the floor when a
seven and a half Stone girl grabs his
wrist in fact he's going to violently
punch her in the face multiple times
until she's unconscious and he will
never fall on the floor so it can give
you a false sense of security that
you've done one of these courses you
think that you can Chuck everyone around
and then when you actually get to the
street and you're walking around with
this invincibility you find out when
it's too late that actually that stuff
doesn't work on the plus side of martial
arts I've known lots of people male and
female that have done it for many years
as a really great sport they've become
very good at it and they don't try and
do it in the street you know they
realize it's a sporting thing but what
it does give them it they exude
confidence you know it's given them a
great level of
self-confidence and they're able to walk
around with their head held high you
know they don't need to degrade
themselves by getting horrendously drunk
all the time because they feel good
about their lives they've got something
going on that's worthwhile and that
makes them less of a victim immediately
so you can definitely become less of a
victim through martial arts but I don't
think that's going to be by you know
doing a Bruce Lee thing on some guy in
the street that's going to be by your
personal levels of confidence let's go
through some of the things predator's
going to look for in a potential victim
and some of the key things that I've
seen people do that are kind of big
green flags to a predator that they're
going to think that person is the one
I'm going to pick on so the first and
foremost ones would be alcohol and drugs
if you're the person in the group that
gets the absolute drunkest that you can
hardly remember what you did the night
before your chances of being a victim
are hugely increased massively increased
you know it's probably the single worst
thing you can do and the same goes with
drugs you know if you're going to just
take whatever drugs were on offer
whenever they're on offer the likelihood
of you becoming a victim of a violent or
sexual crime are massively increased why
is that well number one because
predators are looking for people that
don't have their wits around them you
know if you know exactly what's going on
then you're probably not going to be
easy for the Predator to manipulate and
he's going to need to manipulate you
away from your situation he's not going
to just run up to in a club and kind of
grab you and drag you out from the
middle of a club because everyone's
watch him right you know the whole place
is looking they're going to grab that
guy and stop him from doing that so he
needs to find a way to remove you from
the situation and even that's down the
street it's very unlikely someone's just
going to run up to you in the street and
grab you and drag you off the street
because there's probably other people
around he's going to look for ways to do
that in a less obvious manner when
you're drunk you're very susceptible to
suggestion so if someone sort of says o
come over here you know and someone kind
of l oh I've got a cigarette do you want
a cigarette and you're really drunk yeah
yeah yeah yeah and you start walking
over towards this guy he's kind of
taking you further and further away from
the group away from the busy street
that's going to be a big problem because
that's is exactly what he's looking to
do he's also going to be able to
ascertain you know by offering drink and
drugs this is a very very common
behavior for predators and we see this
even with grooming gangs that are
grooming young girls one of the first
things they try and do is to offer drink
and to offer drugs they pull up in a car
they don't just grab the young girl off
the street and drive off with her
because as soon as she can she's going
to get away they're going to do this
slowly over time so they're going to say
hey jump in the car come we're going to
a party I've got some vodka I've got
some joints you know we might have a a
bit cocaine or whatever and he's going
to see if that person is into those
things if that person is into those
things the Predator knows hat potential
victim this is fantastic for the
Predator cuz now he knows he's got some
leverage I.E he can utilize those things
to kind of get you to do what he wants
you to do and he's also now got a level
of Shame over that person because if
you've got incredibly drunk and taken a
bunch of drugs and gone back to a guy's
house it's going to feel a lot different
to complain the next day than if he just
grabbed you and dragged you off the
street and dragged you away people are
going to complain to the police about
that immediately and say hey I was just
grabbed off the street if you've woken
up disorientated you can't really
remember what happened the night before
you kind of think that something bad
happened but you were so drunk it's kind
of difficult to recall that's going to
be a very difficult thing to report to
the police because you're going to
obviously think well they're going to be
judging me you know I'm going to turn up
and say yeah I kind of I got offered
some drugs and I said yeah great and I
went back to this dude's house to take a
bunch of drugs and drink you're going to
automatically feel some level of Shame
over that and you're going to imagine
that other people are going to be
judging you over that maybe there's less
chance that you're even going to be able
to report it Predators completely
understand this so that would be an
ideal situation for them to lure a girl
back who's totally off aead you know
full of drink and drugs the likelihood
of her making a complaint the next day
is virtually zero and they can deny it
anyway and she's not going to be able to
say much that's admissible in court
because by her own admission she was
completely out of it and she can't
really remember although she thinks
something bad may have happened I saw so
many people getting into those kind of
states and guess which girl is the least
likely to get attacked hey it's the
named driver girl you know we all know
that girl in the group of like she's the
serious kind of one that's looking after
all her girlfriend she's going around
making sure they're all okay she's the
one giving them drinks of water in
between the alcoholic drinks to make
sure that they're being a bit more
sensible and not getting too drunk she's
the one that's grabbing them back from
the guys trying to lead them off and say
come back home with me and she's the
girl that is kind of the [Β __Β ] blocker
that the guys say and uh the the
predatory guys hate those girls you know
because they literally are preventing
the Predators from getting what they
want those girls are stepping in they're
confident they're saying no my
girlfriend is not coming with you get
your hands off her you know go go
elsewhere she's coming home with me
we're having a girls night in and you're
not invited those girls very R become
victims of predators you know the
Predators might not like them but they
certainly don't pick on them because to
pick on that girl you're going to have
to make an incredible scene probably in
front of a lot of people and like I said
predators don't want to do that they
want to do these things in the quiet in
the darkness away from uh away from eyes
on them you know they don't want to be
caught for this kind of stuff and then
how about the way you act you know
should you act confident assertive
aggressive is it okay to act kind of
mousy and like feminine and giggly and a
little bit submissive what's the what's
the best way to behave well it really
depends on the context of the situation
but in general I would say confidence is
pretty damn good you know eye contact
speaking clearly making sure you say no
and mean no you know that's a big one
that Predators will do they will they
will test the waters before they sort of
go in for the kill you know a lot of
these predatory guys will start stepping
over the line slightly and pushing
things and pushing things and they're
looking for the girl that is
uncomfortable about saying no so if they
kind of sit next to a girl and
immediately put their arm around the
girl you know there'll be a few
different reactions but let's look at
the extremes one extreme reaction is the
girl slaps the guy around the face and
says get your [Β __Β ] arm off me or I'll
snap your fingers you know he's not
going to be very happy about that but
he's automatically he knows hey this
girl is not going to be someone that I'm
likely to be able to make into a victim
then there's the Other Extreme end where
the girl just lets him put his arm
around her and she kind of smiles and
says oh hello and she doesn't really
like that he's doing that but she
doesn't know how to say no she's not
confident enough to say no and then he
puts his hand on her thigh for example
and again most girls are going to go get
your hand off me you know I don't know
you what do you think you're doing and
any guy with any level of politeness and
social etiquette isn't going to do those
things you know if you want to meet a
decent guy he's not going to just come
up and start pouring at you you know
he's going to have some level of
etiquette he's going to introduce
himself buy you a drink get to know you
maybe after a a couple of days of
getting to know each other he might
start you know trying to be a bit
physically close to you but generally
speaking a polite decent guy isn't going
to just come up you and start pouring
you so if you can't say no to those
things you are straight away a very
interesting candidate to that Predator
you know he's going to think great I can
push things with this girl she's really
struggling to kind of get no across to
me so I've earmarked her and again that
ties in with the being drunk thing
because if you're very drunk you're not
going to be saying no you're just going
to be letting people pour all over you
and do whatever you're not really going
to know what's going on but equally you
know you could be completely sober and
if you're just a very kind of timid
character and you feel a bit out of your
depth or you even feel pressure from
your peer group that you're kind of
trying to look cool and let some dude
put his arm around you because you want
to appear popular you've got really low
self-esteem those are things that
predators are looking for you know low
self-esteem lack of confidence those are
key key things that you need to sort out
now I mentioned the extreme reaction
like the girl that basically you know
punches the guy or whatever is really
abusive to him I've seen a lot of that
and unfortunately that can lead to other
issues you know that while she won't be
a victim of the kind of sexualized
Predator that I'm mainly talking about
she has increased her chances of
becoming a victim of immediate violence
and I've seen a lot of girls that have
kind of squared up to these nasty guys
in clubs and they slapped the guy or
whatever and then the guys like punched
them or glass them or whatever you know
something really really horrific I've
seen loads of that so just be very
careful because the idea that guys don't
punch girls that only works with decent
guys and decent guys wouldn't be doing
that to you in the first place they
wouldn't be coming up to you and
sticking their hands all over you right
so the guy we know isn't decent because
he's come up to you like an idiot and
then you're going to slap him around the
face then he's probably going to hurt
you so I would try not to do that maybe
it would be better to get the guy
dragged out by a Dorman you know and go
and say to a Dorman look this guy's been
coming over he's put his hands on me I
don't want the guy's hands on me he's a
pervert and keep an eye on him and get
rid of him and most of the time the
Dorman will do and then you don't have
to punch the guy because the guy's
probably going to kick off the Dorman
the Dorman are probably going to kick
the [Β __Β ] out of him and throw him out of
the club and he's never going to be in
the club again ideal now the most
controversial one how about the way
people dress does that have an effect
yes it does in my experience it does but
not maybe for the reason that people
often believe you know we're kind of we
read newspaper articles and stuff oh the
girl in the short skirt and the low cut
top she was attacked because the guy you
know found her sexually irresistible
look these predatory types they want to
have sex with all time types of
different girls they don't care if she's
wearing a short skirt or whatever that
isn't the reason that the dress Cod code
seems to have an effect on them again
it's due to the guy looking at his
potential victims and seeing which ones
are likely to be the most successful and
the least likely to give him a problem
if you had 10 girls in a row and nine of
them had like sort of busy suits on you
know kind of sensible suits and then one
of them had like an ultra short skirt
and a tiny little BR up on and tons of
makeup she's the girl in the group
that's quite likely to be looking for
some male attention
that's the image that that outfit is
sending out especially to males whether
we like it or not you know that's the
image it's sending out so this guy is
thinking right I've got nine girls that
may not be looking for male attention
and I've got one who is looking for male
attention so he's going to go up to that
girl and then give her some male
attention right and a lot of the time
she is looking for that attention so
she's going to be fairly receptive to
that so she's already singled herself
out as the person he's going to talk to
uh the other girls you know the more
conservatively they dress the less this
gu is probably going to show interest
you know and I've definitely seen that
play out in tons of clubs it's the fact
that the Predator believes that the way
you're dressing is that you're going to
be an easier victim to manipulate you
know to make suggestions to it's not
because he's hopelessly turned on by the
low cut top it's because he's making a
judgment about you based upon what
you're wearing that judgment might be
completely wrong you might be wearing a
low cut top and a short skirt and you
might be super confident you might be
one of the girls that tells him to sod
off and you don't want any male company
but that isn't the message that that
outfit send to that guy so whether or
whether or not you are super confident
he's going to come over to you out of a
whole bunch of other girls that you
could have come over if you if you are a
super confident person then
fine you know wear what you want I'm not
saying don't wear what you want but just
be aware that it's more likely to
attract those kind of guys now there's
strength in numbers one of the most
dangerous things would be when a girl
got segregated and this would either be
because she got really drunk and kind of
lost her group or annoyed her group and
they didn't want anything to do with her
and all went off dancing and left her
there being drunk and annoying now she's
really a potential victim because she's
drunk she's probably Fallen all over the
place she's walking around slurring and
she's on her own right so she's going to
be very easy to lure off into the corner
of the club and then down outside of the
club into a taxi and off somewhere no
one's going to know any the better so
that's one of the most dangerous
situations the other one is walking home
on your own so if you've been to a club
all night and you've been really safe
with your group of friends and you've
all stuck together now you're going to
throw all that down the drain to save a
couple of quid and say oh but I only
live 10 minutes down the road so you
girls jump in a cab I'll be fine to walk
and you make the dreaded walk home worst
case scenario you know worst thing you
can do because at that time of night
there's a bunch of sad single guys
walking around looking for a girl and
most girls will know this if they're
walking home at that time of night
they're going to get caught up by these
guys in the street you know the guys hey
where are you going why don't you come
back with us
now it doesn't take much if one of those
guys is predatory he's going to take
that to the next level cuz even normal
guys are like calling out and saying hey
come back with me sexy and wolf
whistling and all this kind of thing so
pretty bad behavior in itself but only
needs one Predator to see you in that
situation and they're going to make a
beine for you you know because now
you're on your own you've got no one to
call out to it's late at night the
streets are quiet what are you going to
do he can then run up grab hold of you
drag you off no one's going to see he's
got exactly what he wants he's got his
Darkness he's got his quiet place and
he's got you alone with no one to
oversee what's going on it's not worth
the risk for the sake of a 5 or1 taxi
don't do it don't do it and again people
will say well I should be able to walk
down the street at midnight yes you
should Ideal World it isn't an ideal
world there's some horrible people out
there the same goes to me I should be
able to walk through brickton at 1:00 in
the morning with a seethrough bag of
money on me if I did that the likelihood
is I'm going to get beaten up and robbed
is that my fault no it's not my fault
did I escalate my chances of being
beaten and robbed by doing that going
out at that time of night and having a
visible bag of money in my hand yes I
obviously did this is all I'm talking
about it's being realistic and you know
all the protests that I saw about this
you know I don't care how many many
million women want to sit down and have
a candlelit protest about this stuff
that isn't going to change the
Psychopaths and predators the only thing
that's going to do is make guys like
myself and loads of other guys think
yeah we totally agree with you ladies
you know it's horrific what these
predatory guys are doing we hate them we
will do whatever we can to stop them but
they don't stop because they're Nutters
you know and they don't stop that
behavior until they're in prison and
they're unable to actually get hold of a
victim they're not going to stop just
cuz you have all sat around holding a
candle up in the air they're not going
to stop just because I've beaten them up
a bit when I used to do the door you
know those guys that I threw out and uh
entered into altercations with they
didn't stop being Predators cuz I'd beat
them They carried on being Predators
they just did it away from me you know I
saw a lot of guys that beat their wives
beat their girlfriends in front of me I
would go over I remember you know
multiple times going over and grabbing
hold of these guys and stopping them
they would immediately start to attack
me so I would beat them up basically in
self-defense and uh leave them in a in a
mess and I would see that girl months
later she's still with the guy he's
still beating her up the difference is
he doesn't beat her up in front of me
anymore you can't change those people
you know they are what they are all you
can do is take precautions so that you
don't become a victim of theirs now
they're not the majority of guys you
know they are a small minority but they
do exist and there's times of day and
certain places that they're going to be
the most likely existing in if you
really want to bump into an unpleasant
Predator hang around the streets after
dark you know the later at night the
more lightly it is hang around in places
where they're serving alcohol hang
around in places where there's a party
atmosphere and drugs involved there's a
reason why those guys frequent those
kind of places hang around late night
Kebab shops 24-hour shops you know where
vulnerable drunk people are walking into
there's a reason why those guys are
hanging around those
places if you go to the library at 12:00
midday nothing's going to happen
Predators aren't there because there's
not any victims for them there you know
it's not the place that they're going to
find their victim they already know
where they're going to find their victim
so is there anything that you can do or
carry that's kind of a last ditch
attempt you know if someone does grab
hold of you and you've become a victim
uh through no fault of your own but
you've been in this set of circumstances
that have ended up with you being a
victim what's your kind of last ditch
efforts you can do if you feel that your
life is in danger the law allows you to
take whatever action is reasonable at
the time right and that is a big thing
so it would be very reasonable at the
time for a female that was being
attacked to do pretty much anything to
get that guy off and away from her
because we all know how that story plays
out right the the girl is either going
to get raped killed both or you know
severely beaten whichever one it's a
severe life-threatening terrible
situation there isn't a judge in the
land or a jury in the land that's going
to convict to woman for pretty much any
behavior that she then administers to
that guy to get him off her so that if
you have things in your pocket or your
handbag that you could pull out and
utilize against that person to get them
off of you in one of those times you
will get away with it there's no
question about that you know a bit
different for me I'm a 16 and a half
Stone man so if a guy runs up to me and
punches me and I kind of grab a knit and
needle out of my bag and stab him
through the eye with it I'm going to go
to prison because that's not reasonable
if I am a girl and that's happened at
11:00 at night and I've been grabbed in
the street when I'm walking home alone
I'm going to get away with that because
she has no other option you know it's a
very reasonable thing of her to do
because she's in fear of her life and
she doesn't know what else to do cuz she
she is unable to physically overpower
the guy she doesn't have the option she
has to use what we would call a force
mult multiplier so a force multiplier
could be a comb with a pointy end and
remember you shouldn't be carrying these
things because they are weapons you know
the law does not allow for you to carry
a weapon the law allows you to use
whatever comes to hand when the time
dictates that it's necessary so if you
happen to have something that comes to
hand that could also work quite well in
the manner of a weapon that's what you
are allowed to do so if you had
something like a hairbrush that was
pointed then you could utilize that if
you had a bunch of keys that you were
able to grab into your hand and thrust
them into a a soft and tender area on
that attacker that would be incredibly
reasonable and there's no pleasantness
about this you know you're going to try
and attack the parts that are the most
sensitive and the easiest to get to so
that would be things like the eyes the
ears you know if you can bite an ear
gouge an eye if you have long
fingernails a lot of girls have these
like really long Talon like fingernails
now painted if you can like Ram them in
the attacker's eye that's going to cause
him a great deal of pain you're going to
rob him of his ability to see if you can
do that in both of his eyes at once he's
going to struggle to even see what's
going on so you've like robbed him of
his sight I would definitely not suggest
like kicking and punching because these
going to be massively ineffective you
know you could probably kick and punch
me for like half a day and I'm still
perfectly fine you know you haven't
subdued me at all just because of the
size difference and the technique and
the fact that it's going to take a lot
to hurt me you know even a a fully sized
guy if he's punching me in the upper
body you know I'm probably going to be
able to take a few of those before it
actually uh disables me and for maybe a
smaller female that's going to be like
half a day's worth of punches that I
could stand there and endure so forget
that that's not even worth it you're
going to have to go for things that are
much much more vulnerable obviously the
genitals are going to be a massively
vulnerable area and this is a fairly
unpleasant part of the video but it
needs to be said if you're in a
situation where you cannot get out of it
and you are about to become the victim
of some kind of sexual assault this is
where becoming submissive for a short
period of time can help you if you can
behave scared and submissive and then
you can get into a position where you're
able to actually do something horrific
to that guy's genitals to get him off
you that's a great position to get
yourself into because believe me if that
happens to that guy he's going to be in
no position to do anything further to
you but the main point being you're
going to use deception the deception is
acting submissively secretly you're not
being submissive you're laying a plan
out you know because if you can't
overcome that person physically and
things are going to go from bad to worse
you have to work out how you can
overcome that person and deception is an
excellent one you know deception wins
most battles and battles are no
different to kind of single combat
between two individuals if you can get
your enemy to believe one thing but
actually something completely different
happens you've got him on the back foot
right an army will Fain weakness and
then they will bring in troops from the
other sides that were unknown you know
and they will suddenly be a much more
powerful Army and they will overcome the
enemy you know there's the deception
there you're playing exactly the same
trick but on your own you're acting as
if you're submissive you're no threat to
the attacker you're going to do what he
says and then you're going to attack
when he least expects it it's definitely
better to attack quicker rather than
waiting because we know from criminal
statistics the longer a victim waits to
fight back the more likely they are that
the end result is not going to be good
for them so if someone tried to bundle
you in a car the time to fight is right
there and then before you get bundled in
the car you know like literally fight to
the death before they actually push you
into that car because they're going to
be concerned that there's people hearing
there's you know CCTV cameras there's
whatever going on in the street that's
going to raise big concerns with them
they're going to have a limited amount
of time to try and get you in that car
then they're going to get panicked and
they're going to drive off and probably
leave you there so that's the time to
start fighting like your life depends on
it don't let yourself get bundled into a
car get to a destination somewhere let
them tie you to a chair or whatever it
is and then think right I'm going to
come up with a plan to you know get this
guy that isn't going to work out well
that really frustrates me when I see
that it always plays out in movies that
like the victim allows it to go that far
you know if someone comes up to you in
the street with a gun at your head and
says get in the car they're probably
going to kill you so don't get in the
car why are you doing them favors you
know don't do them any favors make it
really awkward for them if they're going
to kill you anyway let them kill you in
the middle of the street in front of
everyone so they get arrested and go to
prison don't then go to some dark Old
Barn somewhere let let them drive you
there in the middle of the Outback so
that they can tie you to a chair and
shoot you because that only serves to
benefit them you know don't benefit them
you're not there for their benefit the
last thing i' talk about is dating there
seems to be like a massive Trend now to
just go off with random strangers
whether that be at a club or whether
that be through online stuff that it's
perfectly acceptable to kind of have a
few messages between people online and
then the next you know they're meeting
up somewhere and it's just them two at
some destination that to me is
incredibly worrying because that opens
you up to potential because online for
example that is a gateway for all the
Predators you know they're all going to
be sat there with these dating profiles
that is the best access that they could
possibly hope for so you're going to
have your real people looking for real
relationships of course they're going to
be on there but they're going to be
interspersed with these very unpleasant
people that are looking to do possible
harm so if you're meeting people online
my suggestion would be why don't you
offer at first to meet up with groups
you know if a guy messaged you and says
hey you look super hot let's meet up why
not say sure I'm out with my girlfriends
on Friday why don't you come down to xar
and let's have a drink together and
we'll all have a chat and see how we get
on if that guy has good intentions and
really likes you he will come and he
will get on with you and your friends
and he will have a great time with you
all and then afterwards you can say to
your friends what did you think of the
guy they're going to give you some
pretty realistic feedback and then you
can make a decision whether you want to
see that person again you know that's a
great way of doing it I would never turn
a girl down that said that you know if I
really like the look of a girl and she
said oh yeah I'd love to meet you but I
would feel much better if you came and
met me I've got two of my friends there
or even I'm out with my sister please
come and meet me I have a coffee I would
be like yeah 100% I will come you know I
would meet that girl if I liked her and
if I didn't want to meet her it means
two things either I don't like her that
much or I've got really bad intentions
and I don't want anyone else around so
it kind of filters out the [Β __Β ] and it
filters in potentially really good dates
so don't worry about looking cool don't
worry about anything else the main thing
in that is safety and surely you want to
be able to filter in good stuff and
filter out bad stuff we all want that
right and I've heard from so many people
online that may not have been predated
upon but they're just sick to death of
the amount of [Β __Β ] and crappy people
that they meet you know and like these F
boys and uh girls that are meeting guys
that have just got like one thing in
mind and they're just going to sleep
with and go off to someone else etc etc
you can filter all those out you know
that's an easy way to do it cuz those
guys are not going to turn up and spend
one or two nights with you and your
friends or you and your relatives you
know even to the point of going a little
bit more old-fashioned you know if I
really like to go and she said sure why
don't you come around my house and you
know come in my mom's cooking dinner i'
would love to for you to come around and
and see me there might seem a bit
forward but I would have zero problem
going around there in fact I would love
to meet someone's mom because I really
like home cooking I like moms mom's
generally like me so I'd be over the
moon about that but no Predators is
going to say yes to that an F boy is
definitely not going to say yes to that
you know he wants to meet the girl in a
club or he wants to get the girl Netflix
and chill Classics like you know oh
let's not go out just come around to my
place and we'll watch Netflix together
and I promise we'll only cuddle like
yeah sure buddy but that's also the kind
of things predators are doing they're
going to you know go on a date with you
they're going to probably offer you
drink drugs all the rest of it and
they're going to go down exactly the
same route as I used to see in the
nightclubs it's just an online version
of the same
Gambit I hope this has been of some help
uh I hope that some females watch this
please leave your comments down below
you know I know this is a controversial
issue I'm not not talking on behalf of
females I'm not a female I'm simply
talking about what I've witnessed and
how I believe a lot of it could have
been avoided thanks for watching have a
great one see you all soon
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