The Truth About Street Violence
Summary
TLDRThe video script addresses the topic of self-defense and street violence, emphasizing the importance of understanding legal boundaries and personal safety. The speaker, with 23 years of experience in security, shares insights on common attack scenarios and the preventability of most incidents. He advises against physical confrontation, highlighting the legal and personal risks, and instead promotes awareness, avoiding risky situations, and listening to gut instincts as effective self-defense strategies.
Takeaways
- ๐ก๏ธ Self-defense laws and opinions vary widely, and it's crucial to understand what is legally permissible in terms of protecting oneself.
- ๐ Home invasions with physical violence are rare, as most burglars prefer to avoid confrontation and will flee at the first sign of trouble.
- ๐ท The risk of physical harm is higher on the streets, especially for males, despite recent discussions focusing on female victims.
- ๐จโโ๏ธ The speaker's 23 years of experience in security provide a credible perspective on the nature of street violence and how to avoid it.
- ๐ช Egotistical and aggressive behavior, often fueled by alcohol, is a common precursor to street violence, especially among young males.
- ๐ซ Walking away from confrontational situations is often the best course of action, as it can prevent escalation to physical violence.
- ๐จ Preemptive strikes in self-defense can be effective but may also be illegal if the person's life is not in immediate danger.
- ๐ฅ Avoiding isolation and staying in groups can reduce the risk of becoming a target for street violence.
- ๐ Trusting one's gut instincts and avoiding situations that feel unsafe can prevent potential violent encounters.
- ๐ซ Martial arts training alone is not a foolproof method for self-defense in street situations, as real-life confrontations differ from controlled environments.
- ๐ท Practical steps such as not walking alone at night, avoiding dark or deserted areas, and not consuming alcohol can significantly lower the chances of becoming a victim of violence.
Q & A
What was the reason for the speaker turning off comments in the past videos?
-The speaker turned off comments due to the presence of 'crazy trolls' and people advocating criminality, which was against the purpose of the channel.
What is the main focus of the speaker's discussion on self-defense and street violence?
-The main focus is to share the real truth about street violence, highlighting that most physical violence incidents can be avoided and to provide insights on how to prevent becoming a victim.
Why does the speaker believe that most burglaries do not involve serious altercations?
-The speaker believes that most burglars are not looking for serious altercations because they tend to run off as soon as they hear a noise, making physical violence during burglaries very unusual.
What is the speaker's professional background that lends credibility to his discussion on street violence?
-The speaker has worked in security for about 23 years, witnessing several hundred serious attacks, which gives him a reasonable amount of expertise on the subject.
According to the speaker, what percentage of physical violence incidents on the street could have been avoided?
-The speaker suggests that approximately 90 to 95% of the physical violence incidents on the street could have been avoided.
What type of individuals are most likely to initiate physical violence on the street, according to the speaker's observations?
-The speaker observed that egotistical, cocky, and sometimes drunk young males who are full of testosterone and showing off with their friends are most likely to initiate physical violence.
Why does the speaker suggest that walking away is often the best option when confronted by a group of aggressive individuals?
-Walking away is the best option because it avoids escalating the situation into physical violence, prevents legal trouble, and ensures personal safety.
What misconception does the speaker address about the effectiveness of martial arts in real-life self-defense situations?
-The speaker addresses the misconception that taking a few martial arts lessons can adequately prepare someone for real-life self-defense, explaining that it takes years of training and the ability to apply skills in a serious situation.
What advice does the speaker give for individuals who feel unsafe walking alone at night?
-The speaker advises individuals to trust their gut instincts, ask for help, call a legitimate taxi, or wait with friends or staff in a safe place rather than walking alone.
What is the speaker's stance on drinking alcohol in relation to increasing the risk of becoming a victim of violence?
-The speaker strongly advises against drinking alcohol when going out, as it significantly increases the chances of becoming a victim of violence by impairing judgment and making one appear as an easy target.
What are some of the situations the speaker warns against that could potentially lead to violent confrontations?
-The speaker warns against situations such as walking alone in a semi-drunk state at night, going to dark and isolated places like multistory car parks when the lighting is not working, and meeting strangers from the internet in private settings.
Outlines
๐ก๏ธ Self-Defense and Legal Boundaries
The speaker begins by addressing the topic of self-defense, mentioning previous discussions on the subject and the diverse opinions it has generated. They express frustration with the comments section, which had to be moderated due to trolls and inappropriate discussions. The speaker aims to clarify misconceptions about street violence, noting that home invasions with physical harm are rare, while the real risk lies in street attacks. They highlight that both men and women can be victims of street violence, with men statistically more likely to be attacked, and emphasize the importance of understanding the risks and how to avoid potentially dangerous situations. The speaker's authority on the subject comes from 23 years of experience in security, witnessing numerous attacks and noting patterns that can often be avoided.
๐ท Confrontation and the Avoidance of Violence
This paragraph delves into the dynamics of confrontation, particularly focusing on the behavior of young, sometimes intoxicated males exhibiting aggressive posturing. The speaker describes how such individuals often seek confrontation to boost their ego, but their initial intention is rarely to engage in violence. The speaker advises that the best course of action when faced with such a situation is to walk away, as escalating the situation can lead to physical harm and potential legal trouble. They also discuss the typical outcomes of not heeding this advice, which often result in the victim becoming the perpetrator in the eyes of the law due to retaliatory actions.
๐คผโโ๏ธ The Futility of Martial Arts in Unprovoked Attacks
The speaker challenges the common belief that martial arts training is an effective means of self-defense against determined attackers. They argue that achieving a level of proficiency sufficient for real-world defense requires years of dedicated training and experience in high-pressure situations. Moreover, they point out that the element of surprise is a significant advantage for attackers, and even highly skilled martial artists can be overwhelmed by an unexpected assault. The speaker shares personal insights from their bujinkan training, concluding that when someone is intent on causing harm, the chances of preventing it through martial arts are slim.
๐ท Practical Steps to Mitigate Risk of Street Violence
Here, the speaker outlines practical steps individuals can take to reduce their risk of becoming victims of violent crime. They emphasize the importance of trusting one's instincts and avoiding situations that could potentially be dangerous, such as walking alone at night or accepting rides from strangers. The speaker also advises against taking shortcuts or being too embarrassed to ask for help, suggesting that reaching out to friends, family, or even strangers in the community can provide a safer alternative to risky situations.
๐ซ The Dangers of Alcohol Consumption and Online Meetings
The speaker discusses the role of alcohol in increasing the risk of becoming a victim of violence, citing statistics that show a correlation between alcohol consumption and violent incidents. They advise against drinking alcohol when in public places where one might become a target for predators. Additionally, they caution against the dangers of online meetings, urging individuals to meet in public places and to be vigilant about their safety, especially when it comes to drink tampering and the potential for assault.
๐ถโโ๏ธ Sobriety and Situational Awareness as Deterrents to Violence
In the final paragraph, the speaker reiterates the importance of sobriety and situational awareness in preventing violent encounters. They argue that being sober and confident in one's demeanor can deter potential attackers, as predators tend to target those who appear vulnerable. The speaker also provides advice on avoiding late-night outings to places known for high concentrations of intoxicated individuals, such as 24-hour shops and fast-food restaurants, which can become hotspots for violence. They conclude by expressing their passion for the subject and their desire to help others reduce their risk of becoming victims of violence.
Mindmap
Keywords
๐กSelf-defense
๐กStreet violence
๐กEgotistical
๐กDerogatory
๐กConfrontation
๐กPreemptive strike
๐กMartial arts
๐กSituational awareness
๐กVictim blaming
๐กAlcohol
๐กGut instincts
Highlights
Discussion on self-defense and the legal boundaries of what one can do.
The speaker's experience working in security for 23 years witnessing numerous serious attacks.
Most home burglaries do not involve physical altercations as burglars tend to flee upon hearing a noise.
The higher risk of physical harm occurs in street attacks rather than home invasions.
Men are statistically more likely to be victims of physical violence on the street than women.
The importance of recognizing and avoiding potentially dangerous situations.
Egotistical and sometimes drunk young males are often the instigators of street violence.
The option to walk away from confrontations can prevent escalation to physical violence.
The reality that most physical violence could be avoided with better choices by the victim.
The ineffectiveness of martial arts in real-life self-defense situations without extensive training.
The rarity of being able to use martial arts effectively in an unexpected violent confrontation.
The potential legal consequences of using martial arts in self-defense outside of a sporting context.
The importance of avoiding alcohol consumption to reduce the risk of becoming a victim of violence.
Strategies for staying safe, such as not walking alone in potentially dangerous areas.
The advice against meeting internet acquaintances in secluded or private locations.
The emphasis on using legitimate transportation like registered taxis to ensure safety.
The speaker's passion for preventing violence and the societal changes affecting security work.
The final advice on taking personal responsibility for one's safety and avoiding risky behaviors.
Transcripts
hi guys hope you're all well we've been
talking a little bit in some of the
videos recently about self-defense and
all the kind of things to do with you
know what you maybe can and can't do in
terms of what the law suggests and uh
there's been loads and loads of opinions
on that I had to delete a lot of the
comments in fact I turned a lot of the
comments off in the end because there
was all kinds of crazy trolls on there
you know uh talking nonsense so the
comments have gone unfortunately uh I
just kind have people advocating
criminality and stuff on here if you
want to do that there's plenty of other
places you can go it's not going to
happen on my channel so I wanted to do a
bit of a talk uh based around that
subject matter and I wanted to talk
about the real truth about Street
violence you know cuz uh a lot of people
are talking about things that happen in
the home and in fact that is very very
rare you know the you may get burgled
that isn't so rare but uh most burglars
will just suddenly run off as soon as
they hear a noise you know they're not
people that are looking to have serious
altercation the reason those stories
make the news about uh you know
burglaries where there's physical
violence involved is because it's very
very unusual and thank God for that but
uh yeah it's pretty uncommon for people
to kind of break into your house and
then start doing you physical harm but
there is a risk of being done physical
harm and the highest risk of that is of
course out in the street and there's
been a lot of stuff lately you know in
the last couple of years there's been a
lot of discussion about women being
attacked in the street that normally
tends to be more of a sexualized nature
and unfortunately uh men also get
attacked in the streets so it's not just
a female only problem that doesn't tend
to be of a sexualized nature but both
attacks involve physical violence and
actually males are more likely to have
physical violence done to them in the
street than females are so you know it's
not a competition I'm not having a go
either way basically if you're a human
being you're going to need to kind of
know what to expect if you're out on the
streets in areas that might be risky or
at times of the day that might be risky
and I want to give you a bit of an idea
on that why can I speak with any
Authority on this subject I've said
before I worked in security for about 23
years I've probably witnessed several
hundred serious attacks you know whether
that would be groups of people or
singular people and I've seen all kinds
of different attacks occur on all kinds
of different people and they tend to
start falling into quite similar
categories and you can actually get a an
idea that they're about to happen
because you kind of SE so many of these
incidents over the time that you pretty
much know what's going to happen when so
I think I can speak with a reasonable
amount of expertise on the
subject so the predominant crime I saw
occurring in terms of physical violence
being done to people in the street and
it was this was actually stuff that
could be avoided so th the good news is
that probably 90 to 95% of the stuff
that was going on needn't have ended in
physical violence you know that the
people that were the victim
um made some choices that kind of pushed
it in the direction of physical violence
and they could have got around that uh
so what was that situation so like most
situations you've got egotistical cocky
sometimes drunk males strutting about
the streets that are quite young you
know they're full of testosterone
they're showing off with their friends
and they are walking around the streets
and they're going to be saying rude and
combative stuff to other people people
it used to happen all the time as a a
guy working security I used to get it a
lot you know I'd have groups of guys
come up to me I would be standing
outside a nightclub and the guys would
start mouthing off and call me names uh
say derogatory things about my family my
girlfriend etc etc now that gave me two
different options and whenever these
situations occur I used to see the kind
of potential victim have this point
where he could have an option and get
out
and uh you know everyone goes oh you
shouldn't you shouldn't let people bully
you you shouldn't let people bully you
look if some idiots are pretty drunk and
they've said some dumb stuff you know if
you just walk away from that and you can
walk away from it and they're going to
leave you alone you no one's bullying
you they're idiots you're going to walk
away you're not going to damage your
fists on them you're not going to bother
breaking your knuckles on their faces uh
you're not going to bother sitting in a
police cell for 20 hours and wait for
your solicitors to turn up you're just
going to walk away they're going to
probably continue walking down the
street being rude to whoever they bump
into and that's going to repeat itself
all night so that is the large
proportion of incidents I used to see
and where it went wrong was people that
were the potential victim couldn't walk
away you know they just their egos
wouldn't allow it it was normally
another young man and generally speaking
these guys would say something
derogatory to that guy often about the
guy's girlfriend and at that point the
guy's got a choice he can either just
get him and his girlfriend to walk away
from these guys or he can go back and
say something to them once he goes back
and says something to them that's
exactly what they want out of this
situation you know they're trying to
build a confrontation so that they've
got an excuse to take it to a higher and
higher level and that tells you one
thing you know those guys aren't
supremely confident and they're not like
100% evil you know they're not like
absolutely set out on a committing an
act of violence they certainly will do
if if you escalate it enough with them
but that isn't their direct intention to
start with so you can you can utilize
that and walk away from them because if
they really wanted to commit an act of
violence and it was like a 100% that's
what they were going to do they wouldn't
even bother with the uh verbal
escalation they would just go commit an
act of
violence so once the potential victim
had kind of gone back at them and made a
rude comment back to them or kind of
offered them out for a fight that would
then grow and grow and grow there would
generally be a bit of Towing and
throwing and then it would become
physical and there would be a fight now
generally speaking in that situation the
potential victim is probably going to
lose out because he would have two
choices if he's decided he's going to go
back at these guys and and say something
rude to them he's going to March up to
them he's going to present himself as a
Target there's generally going to be a
group of them you don't you don't
normally see like a guy on his own
walking around shouting at people unless
he's got some serious mental health
issues so this would generally be a
group of lads showing off to each other
and if that potential victim sort of
walks up and thrusts his chest and Chin
out and says what you you know what
you're talking about then he's probably
going to find out and they're all going
to weigh into him the only other option
for him at that point would be instead
of like walking over to them and talking
to them if he was to walk over to them
and actually um make a preemptive strike
and strike them first he might stand
some chance of actually doing something
and and winning the confrontation the
problem is then he would probably be
breaking the law because his life was
not in danger they had said some ex
stupid to him he could have walked away
he chose not to he's then marched up to
them so clearly if he thought his life
was in danger he wouldn't be marching up
to a group of aggressive shouty guys
then he's attacked them so he's now
legally speaking the guy that's going to
get in some serious trouble so that
might win him the altercation and he
might be able to knock a couple of those
guys out and a couple more run off uh
but at the end of the day if the police
get hold of him he's now the one in
trouble so that's a a pretty bad idea as
well uh my whole ethos you know when I
was working or even now when I'm going
out and certainly then when I was going
out was to go out have a good time if
I'm taking a girl out I want to have a
nice time with her she doesn't want to
come back scared out of her wits and
covered in blood I know some guys think
oh yeah the girl's going to be really
impressed if I have a fight girls aren't
impressed by having their outfit covered
in blood and spending six and a half
hours sat in A&E and then another 6
hours waiting for you to get bailed out
of the police station that isn't a cool
date night for most girls so yeah I
would potentially I would completely
avoid all that kind of stuff and that is
the reality of these situations it's not
like a cowboy film you know you don't
get to knock a couple of people out
outside the bar and then walk away and
Swagger off to another bar and another a
couple of cocktails you know it will
ruin your night one way or the other
you're going to wake even if you didn't
get arrested you're going to wake up in
the morning you're probably going to
have broken hands you know none of that
is fun none of that's good so that's the
kind of mildest situation but then
you've got the situations where arguably
people can't get out of them and these
are the really concerning ones luckily
they were a very small percentage but
you do have individuals or sometimes
gangs of individuals that are hellbent
on simply doing harm and they've
actually got a strategy you know they're
going to go and attack you they're not
going to come up to you and try and
escalate a little bit with some words
and and kind of push it that way they're
just going to do you some serious harm
that might be in order to rob you if
you're a female that may be because
someone wants to sexually assault you
and that can happen to men as well so
don't rule that out it's a little more
unusual but it certainly does happen so
they've already got that strategy in
their mind and you for whatever reason
are looking like a victim to them and
they've decided to choose you so what
can we do in those circumstances now
I've heard a lot of people say well I'm
going to take martial arts lessons and
I've covered this in a video quite a
long time ago that doesn't tend to be a
great strategy because to utilize
martial arts to any even anywhere near
an acceptable level for someone that
doesn't normally fight you would have to
do that for several years and you would
also have to get used to applying that
in a a serious situation that didn't
involve you know a nice springy ring and
a referee that kind of steps in and
breaks it all up like a lot of martial
arts are sporting based things and that
is a totally different situation to
suddenly having your life on the line on
a a concrete pavement and if you fall
over and and lose part of that fight you
know the likelihood is you're going to
become very very seriously damaged or
maybe even killed so people kind of uh
don't realize the aspect of how much
training they're going to need to do
doing like a two or 3 week course and
learning that oh I'm going to kick
everyone in the Ghoulies you know looks
great in terms of marketing these
self-defense courses but the reality of
that is it simply doesn't work I worked
with plenty of guys that were very very
highly skilled in sporting martial arts
you know they were black belts whatever
Dan very very capable if you put them in
a ring against another martial artist
you know they would look amazing they
would be like Bruce Lee but then I saw
those same guys get absolutely flattened
by just some 17 Stone who ran over and
sucker punched them and then hit them
around the head with a bottle so you
know that's that's the problem is that
uh you can't account for that kind of
thing and so it doesn't matter how good
you are at fighting it doesn't matter
how quick your responses are if someone
has already built a strategy in their
mind and you're the victim of that
strategy they've got the drop on you you
know they're going to probably get the
first strike in they've already
developed the mindset that they're going
to attack you they're in that
comfortable situation that they're
confident and they know what they're
doing and you're the one who's like a
rabbit in the headlights and you're
suddenly wow you know I was just walking
down the street thinking about something
completely different and suddenly I'm in
this violent confrontation so it's going
to take you even a few seconds to kind
of adjust your mind to what's happening
you're going to be may be in shock some
people can't even adjust to what's
happening they just freeze you know
they're absolutely shocked by by this
Sudden Change of events so the attacker
definitely has a drop on you if he's
already decided uh I remember saying to
my Sensei I studied uh bujinkan for a
few years which was like a weapon-based
martial arts and um he was a very very
high level guy and he had been involved
in training some tier one operators uh
so serious business and I remember you
know I was getting quite good at uh that
he said to me you know at the end of one
of these years of training what do you
feel that you've learned and uh after
doing it for a few years and I said to
him to be honest what I've learned is
that if someone wants to actually do me
serious harm and they've made that
decision and I don't know they've made
that decision there's very little I can
do about it you know if they run up
behind me with a brick I'm done it
doesn't matter how good I get at this
martial art it doesn't matter how good
my skill set is my reflexes or whatever
no one's going to be able to stop being
smacked around the back of the head with
a brick if there's some notter out there
that decides to do that to you and he
completely agreed he said yeah you know
uh I'm I'm glad that you've learned that
lesson you know and uh he said he sort
of talked about it as if that was kind
of high level understanding uh but it
it's really common sense if you think
about it and it's we've all been
influenced by movies and TV shows and
our egos that make us think you know if
we do this like Montage of training and
run up a hillside in the rain and kick a
tree and punch a bag with some sand in
it and run back down again and keep
doing that for six months then we're
going to be like uh you know Steven
Seagal but without the [ย __ย ] jacket and
the big fat belly and we're going to be
like destroying Street robbers left
right and center that is just movies
that's not reality if someone really
really wants to do you harm and they've
made that decision you're probably not
going to be able to stop them when
people say my martial arts worked really
well in the street they're normally
applying them in that first scenario so
where you could have walked away and
I've seen that quite a lot you know
you've got someone who's a competent
martial artist or a boxer someone walks
up to them in a bar or outside a bar and
starts verbally and says come on then
mate you know let's have go and they
have this kind of verbal escalation then
there's a fight and of course the person
is now quite prepared to fight and if
he's going to be a really good martial
artist or boxer he's probably going to
win against this other aggressive guy
that's just started for no reason so yes
it works in that case but again why
would you want to break your knuckles on
someone's face and go to a prison cell
when you could just walk away and not
have that at all and in the situation
where someone's going to just do you
harm and you don't even expect it you're
probably never going to get to use it
because it'll be too late so what can we
do you know what are the realistic steps
that you can take to PR prevent yourself
being a victim of one of these violent
crimes in the street when someone has
just decided you're going to be their
victim and there's things that we do
that are going to greatly Elevate our
risk of being attacked and there are
going to be some people that say Hey
this is like victim blaming you know you
shouldn't be saying this because it
blames the victim partially it makes
them feel bad I'm not trying to blame
victims the fact of the matter is
whatever we all do there's going to be
some bad people in the world and bad
people you know if every man and every
woman in the world all stood up and said
we hate people that commit acts of
violence or sexual assault or whatever
and we're all against it which pretty
much we all do those Nutters are not
going to stop being Nutters you know if
you could reason with them and sort of
show them an advertising campaign and
say oh you know attacking women is bad
or attacking guys in the street at night
is bad and they just stopped wow you
know we would have solved all crime in
the world because you could just make a
an advert or have a protest about any
crime and say whatever you know fraud is
bad and all fraud would stop that's not
how criminals operate you know they
don't listen to Common Sense they don't
listen to people pleading and and saying
heartfelt things that's what makes them
criminals they don't care they're just
going to continue doing what they think
they want to do we have to take
responsibility in that case for our own
safety cuz nobody else is the police off
going to be waiting around every corner
to make sure you're okay but there may
very well be criminals waiting around
the corner to make sure you're not okay
and the things that I would Advocate
doing is to start listening to your gut
instincts because too many people ignore
those these days if you are you know
getting a feeling about something so
you're out with your friends and you get
cut off from your friends somehow and
then you think okay I'll just walk back
it's half 11 12:00 at night it's Pub
kicking out time and you think well I'll
just walk back on my own that's a bad
move you know because you're now a
potential victim because you're a single
person walking back when there's loads
and loads of drunks hanging around
there's going to be loads of predatory
gangs hanging around at that time of
night because those gangs will hang
around at certain times when they know
there's going to be potential victims
around IE drunk people Pub kicking out
time and you're going to present
yourself to them is it right that
they're doing that no of course it's not
do you have every right to walk home on
your own yes of course you do but you've
just massively increased your chances of
some of these sharks honing in on you
and using you as their potential victim
and a lot of this is going to come down
to people taking kind of shortcuts to
save themselves a bit of time or being a
little bit embarrassed of asking for
some help and if that was me you know uh
and I was sort of stuck somewhere and I
knew I had to walk back and I felt
really uncomfortable I would ring a
friend I would ring a family member I'd
ring a taxi whichever one of those you
can do get a taxi from a you know a
proper taxi company not some dodgy guy
that just stops in the street and says
yeah yeah five quid jump in the back of
his banged up old [ย __ย ] you know get a
legitimate Taxi phone one up wait in the
pub or the club stand with the Dorman
you know we used to make absolutely sure
if a girl came in to the club even if
she hadn't been in as a customer if she
came into the door and said you know I
feel really uncomfortable we would say
no problem wait in here you can sit down
there we' go and get her a glass of
water or whatever sit her down and then
we would call her a taxi make sure
someone legitimate was going to take her
home sometimes the bar girls were going
home so we used to actually say to the
bar girls can you give this lady here a
lift home on the way back so we would
basically do anything we could to make
sure that that girl got back home
sometimes Dorman offered the girl a lift
I would not Advocate that cuz not all
Dorman are nice guys I mean if you want
to go off with a Dorman and uh you fancy
him or whatever that's up to you but I
certainly wouldn't Advocate just
randomly getting in Dorman's cars I knew
lots of really nice good Dorman I also
knew lots of really slimy Dorman that
were probably going to offer girls a
lift so that they could kind of try and
get them more drunk and whatever and
have their way with them so I would not
go with that route I would look for
someone like one of the bar girls or
maybe there's a female door staff that
you can go back with or maybe a couple
of the Dorman are going back and there's
a girl with as well one of their
girlfriends or something but I would
always try and make sure that there was
a female in the car so there are
definitely ways that you don't need to
put yourself in a position where you
kind of walking through the streets on
your own in a semi- drunk State because
as I said that's going to massively
increase your chances of getting
attacked I wouldn't Advocate going into
a dark multistory car park you know if
you live in a complex and underneath
that complex the uh or your cars are
kept and you have to go down there to
get yours out and the lights are not
working one night then I would Advocate
you knock on one of the neighbors doors
and say look I'm really sorry to bother
you I'm a bit nervous you know I've gone
downstairs it's late at night it's
completely dark there's no lighting
working could you just come down and
watch me jump in the car any decent
neighbor is going to say yes to that no
one's going to tell you no no one's
going to tell you that's a pain you know
we all are here to help each other
there's plenty of people that will help
so never ever ever be afraid to ask
people and that's the same if you're a
guy you know it doesn't matter if a guy
came up to me and a lot of Dorman have
done this you know these are Big tough
guys and they've come up to me and said
look mate I got a bit of a funny feeling
you know I left my car in a really dodgy
place I've had a couple of threats made
to me recently I'm not very comfortable
can you just walk along with me so me
and a couple of the other doorman would
walk this guy back to his car and uh
that you know there was no um none of us
kind of gave him a hard time about that
or called him any names or anything like
that if and if your mates do do that
they're probably not your mates right
you know if if I reach out to one of my
male friends and say can you help me out
with something and I ask him for
something serious ious he's going to
help me and if he doesn't want to help
me and if he points and laughs at me and
calls me a load of silly names he I'm
never going to ask him again and B I'm
probably not going to be that bothered
about hanging around with that guy
anymore because he's not really got my
best interests at heart be very wary
about meetings that are set up on the
internet you know that's a pretty
obvious one but it amazes me still that
people are doing this you know I know we
live in an age now where internet dating
is a thing but for God's sake meet the
the guy in a place that's you know very
busy very public it's nowhere that he
can kind of do anything Sly don't meet
these guys and give him the opportunity
to drop stuff in your drink so don't
sort of leave your drink next to him and
then go off to the toilet and come back
again Ask the bman can you put my drink
in the fridge and sort of give him a
wink you know so the Ban's going to know
that he's not going to let anyone near
that drink while you're in the toilet
and you can act like put it in the
fridge cuz I like to keep it cold or
whatever so it doesn't sound quite as uh
dodgy to the person that you're out on
the date with cuz the chances are you
know very high chance he's an absolutely
lovely guy and he's not going to drug
you drink that's quite an unusual thing
but you don't want to take the
chance and uh you know if it's the first
or second dat don't be disappearing off
with that guy somewhere you know after
you've met him in this really carefully
selected place that's nice and busy
friendly Balan you've taken all those
you know risks away and then the guy
goes hey let's go back to my place if
you're then going to go back to that
place you've met this guy for like 3 or
4 hours you know anyone can act like a
decent person for a few hours you need
to like see that person a multiple times
maybe meet them in the day maybe try and
see them when they're in front of their
friends or family and stuff like that
before you start going back to their
house because if you go back to
someone's house and you've only met them
3 or 4 hours you have absolutely no
concept of what's going to happen and
things could turn really
nasty so those are the kind of things
that I would Advocate to stop yourself
becoming a a victim of violence they're
not cool you know they don't involve
doing Bruce Lee roundhouse kicks to
people's heads but those are the things
that are realistically going to stop you
being a victim you know doing the
martial arts class for two years isn't
going to stop it if someone decides that
they're going to do something to you
then they're probably going to do
something to you and the last one that
no one's going to want to hear but it's
something that I certainly do now is do
not drink alcohol if you drink alcohol
you're massively increasing your chances
of becoming a victim of violence we know
that from statistics most people that
are subjected to Violent attacks in the
street have been drinking alcohol the
people that have committed the attack
have been drinking alcohol you know the
if you don't drink alcohol you're you've
got your wits around you you don't walk
and act like a victim you know predators
are very selective they're going to look
for weak targets and if you're sort of
Staggering around and slurring your
words and acting like a fool and you're
clearly drunk then you're a weak Target
so they're going to select you you know
if I'm walking down the street and I
haven't had anything to drink and it's
10:00 at night and I'm walking with
confidence I'm keeping my head up you
know I'm I'm looking at people I'm not
holding eye cont for like ridiculous
periods of time I'm not trying to scare
people or intimidate people but I'm
looking at people to let them know yeah
I'm I'm I'm together man you know I'm
not uh I'm not wasted so uh you're
probably going to need to pick a
different victim and they do you know I
haven't had anyone attack me in the
street for many many years now because I
don't W around outside pubs drunk and uh
that is probably the main reason I used
to get attack was because most of the
time I wasn't drunk when I was doing the
door but I was hanging around outside
those sort of establishments so I'm
massively increasing my chances of being
attacked because I'm surrounding myself
with drunken people at the worst time of
night when they're all kind of
frustrated and angry and having to go
home worst place you can go at that
point is down the kebab house because
I've lost track of the amount of times
I've seen fights escalate there because
people don't generally hang around out
side the pubs for too long especially in
the UK and a lot of the European places
because it's bloody cold most of the
time at that time at night especially so
people come out of the pub and they want
to go somewhere so they're going to go
to like a 24-hour shop and they're going
to go in there and try and buy some more
alcohol to take home so those shops kind
of get busy and they get crowds of
people stood out there smoking
cigarettes drinking or whatever and the
same with like burger places 24-hour
McDonald's all those kind of places
you'll find that they become hubs for
fighting you know the police know this
very well they will get called out to
those places all the bloody time so if
you can leave the pub or the club that
you're in at kicking out time get
straight in a taxi go home with your
friends have some fun at home preempt
the fact that you're going to do that
and if you really want to carry on the
party at home leave some drinks there
you know the night before or whatever
stick them in the fridge and then you've
got them there for when you get back if
you're going to go and try and buy
drinks late at night you're probably
going to run into some issues a you
probably won't be able to buy any
because there'll just be uh nowhere
around or whatever that's open and B
when you do find somewhere that's open
there's going to be loads of other drunk
people there and they're going to be
frustrated and they're going to be
having arguments guys I hope that gives
you some ideas about how you can sort of
lessen your chances of being a victim of
violent assault um you know it's
something I'm very passionate about is
the reason that I got into uh security
work in the first place because I
witnessed some of that when I was quite
young and uh I was you know really
really upset by it and I wanted to kind
of do something to prevent that and I
did that for quite a few years
unfortunately Society changed quite a
lot and the uh the attitudes of
authorities changed a lot and it kind of
took a lot of power away from security
guys so nowadays they tend to be just
these sort of Muppets that stand around
with the clipboard and then they see
something going on they don't actually
intervene they don't do anything about
it and then they ring the police and the
police turn up in about half an hour and
scrape up the pieces off the road so
completely different to the way that we
used to deal with it and you just can't
apparently do that anymore so that's why
I got out of the job but uh you know uh
I'm it's something I'm very passionate
about I hate to see people getting hurt
for no reason and I hope that you can
input some of these ideas especially if
you're younger people uh that you can
input some of these ideas and kind of
really lower your chances of being
attacked because if you do if you take
all the sensible options and you're not
putting yourself in those places at
those times the chance of you becoming
attacked is very very very low you know
you don't get people generally walking
around in the middle of the day just
randomly attacking people in the street
again it does go on sometimes but that's
why it makes the news because it hardly
ever happens so just to statistically
make sure you're not making yourself
into a potential
victim thanks guys great to talk to you
take care see you soon
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