5 Tips on How to Get a Stubborn Ex Back

Summary

This video script offers advice on winning back an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife by focusing on self-improvement and attraction rather than desperate pleading. It emphasizes the importance of not chasing a relationship and instead building confidence and emotional independence. The speaker suggests changing one's approach to attraction, making oneself more interesting and emotionally masculine, and allowing the ex to feel in control of the decision to reunite. The key takeaway is to trigger feelings of attraction and desire, which can lead to the ex wanting to rekindle the relationship on her own terms.

Takeaways

• 🚫 Avoid Desperation: Stop chasing the relationship and begging for another chance, as it can be off-putting to women and may decrease attraction.
• 🤔 Understand Gender Differences: Recognize that men and women respond differently to pursuit; women are often repelled by desperation and weakness.
• 💪 Build Confidence: Believe in yourself and your worthiness to naturally attract your ex without overtly trying to impress her.
• 🔄 Rapidly Improve: Use the time apart to quickly improve areas that caused the breakup, ensuring genuine change and not just an act.
• 🌟 Attract New Ways: Change your approach to attraction by being emotionally independent, using humor, and displaying emotional masculinity.
• 👑 Be in Control: Let her feel like she is in control of the decision to get back together, while you subtly guide the process through attraction.
• 🤝 Improve Treatment: Instead of trying to treat her better to win her back, make her treat you better by regaining your position of power in the relationship.
• 😉 Use Ballsy Humor: Employ humor to assert dominance in a loving way, which can show confidence and change her perception of you.
• 🔄 Change from Within: Ensure that any changes made are genuine and come from within, as external changes without internal shifts are unlikely to be convincing.
• 💖 Trigger Attraction: Focus on reigniting feelings of attraction rather than trying to convince her logically or through emotional appeals.

Q & A

What is the main advice given for someone trying to get back with a stubborn ex-partner?

The main advice is to stop chasing the relationship and instead focus on changing the vibe and the way of communicating, by not appearing desperate or needy.

Why does chasing after an ex-partner often not work according to the script?

Chasing after an ex-partner often does not work because it can come across as desperate and emotionally weak, which is generally unattractive to the other party.

What is the fundamental difference in how men and women respond to being pursued after a breakup?

The fundamental difference is that while some men might feel empowered and attracted when a woman is begging and pleading, most women feel turned off and repelled by a man doing the same.

Why is it important to believe in oneself when trying to rekindle a relationship with an ex?

Believing in oneself is important because it leads to a more naturally attractive behavior, such as confidence and the ability to flirt and joke around, which can make the ex-partner feel drawn to you.

What should a person do while giving their ex-partner space?

While giving space, a person should rapidly improve their ability to attract their ex-partner by focusing on the areas that led to the breakup and making genuine changes.

What is the significance of making the ex-partner feel attracted in new and interesting ways?

Making the ex-partner feel attracted in new ways is significant because it can reignite interest and excitement, making the ex-partner want to give the relationship another chance for their own reasons.

Why is it crucial to let the ex-partner feel like they are in control of the relationship's direction?

It's crucial because it allows the ex-partner to feel that they are making the decision to get back together, which can be more appealing than feeling forced or pressured into a relationship.

What is the role of 'ballsy humor' in the process of getting an ex-partner back?

'Ballsy humor' is a way to display confidence and emotional masculinity, which can be attractive and help to reestablish a position of power in the relationship.

How can a person ensure that their efforts to get back with an ex are not perceived as desperation?

A person can ensure this by focusing on self-improvement, displaying confidence, and not constantly trying to please or agree with the ex-partner's every demand.

What is the final point made in the video about the importance of attraction in getting an ex-partner back?

The final point is that to get an ex-partner from being stubborn to open and flexible, one must focus on triggering feelings of sexual and romantic attraction, which is achieved by changing the approach to attraction, not by begging or pleading.