My Ex Said We Will Never Get Back Together /Is My It Hopeless?

Summary

In this video, relationship coach Craig Kenneth addresses the challenging situation where an ex declares there's no chance of getting back together. He explains that such statements often stem from frustration or emotional stress, and that, with time and self-improvement, things can change. Craig emphasizes the importance of respecting the no-contact period, focusing on personal growth, and avoiding desperation. He offers a case study showing how a person’s commitment to self-work and patience can lead to an ex reconsidering the relationship. Ultimately, Craig encourages viewers to be patient, show improvement through actions, and not give in to anxiety-driven behavior.

Takeaways

• 😀 Be aware that when your ex says 'there's no chance' for reconciliation, it may stem from emotional distress, not a permanent conclusion.
• 😀 Pushing your ex for answers or to reconnect often results in them pulling away and becoming more frustrated.
• 😀 When an ex says there’s no chance of getting back together, it may be due to overwhelming anxiety or a lack of patience with repetitive pressure.
• 😀 Giving space through no contact can create room for reflection and change, leading your ex to reconsider the relationship.
• 😀 After a breakup, focusing on personal growth and taking the time to heal is crucial before attempting to reconnect.
• 😀 Even if an ex expresses zero hope of reconciliation, time apart and personal change can lead to renewed interest and reconsideration.
• 😀 Complacency in relationships, both in life and ambition, can lead to a loss of attraction, especially if your partner is motivated and driven.
• 😀 Mistakes such as being inattentive, unambitious, or neglecting shared goals can create emotional distance and impact the relationship negatively.
• 😀 Engaging in unhealthy habits like excessive drinking or not showing up for important events can lead to irreversible damage in the relationship.
• 😀 The best approach after a breakup is to focus on your own growth and well-being, as demonstrating change through actions rather than words can be more effective in rekindling attraction.

Q & A

What should I do if my ex says there's no chance of getting back together?

Coach Craig advises that such statements are often emotionally charged and may not reflect their true feelings in the long term. The key is to focus on self-growth, practice no contact, and allow time for emotions to settle. Personal development and patience can lead to a shift in perspective over time.

Why is no contact so important after a breakup?

No contact helps create emotional distance, allowing both parties to process their feelings and heal. It prevents pushing your ex further away with anxious or pleading behavior. By focusing on yourself during this time, you increase your chances of re-attracting your ex through demonstrated personal growth.

What can happen if I constantly reach out to my ex after a breakup?

Repeatedly reaching out, begging, or pleading can push your ex further away. When someone is feeling pressured, they are more likely to become frustrated and even become aggressive, often saying things like 'there's no chance of getting back together.' This behavior makes it difficult for them to reassess their feelings and creates more emotional distance.

What does it mean when my ex is still checking my social media but hasn’t contacted me directly?

When your ex is checking your social media but not directly reaching out, it can be a sign that they're still curious about you. This behavior may indicate that their feelings are evolving, but they might be unsure or hesitant about reaching out themselves. It suggests they're starting to reconsider things but may need more time to process.

How can I regain my ex’s attraction after they’ve lost it?

Regaining attraction involves focusing on your personal growth and self-improvement. Working on your emotional health, ambition, and addressing issues like attachment style can help. It's crucial to show change through your actions, not by telling your ex you've changed. Let your ex observe the positive changes you’ve made over time.

What should I do if I realize I made mistakes during the relationship?

The first step is to acknowledge the mistakes, and then focus on improving yourself. Work on the issues that led to the breakdown of the relationship, such as lack of ambition, complacency, or emotional regulation. Taking responsibility for your actions and genuinely working on yourself can make a significant difference in the future.

What’s the impact of being complacent in a relationship?

Complacency can lead to a lack of excitement and growth in the relationship. When one partner becomes disengaged or loses their passion, it can cause the other partner to feel unappreciated or unattracted. Keeping the relationship dynamic and exciting is key to maintaining attraction and connection.

How do I know if no contact is actually working?

Signs that no contact is working include your ex becoming more curious about you (such as checking your social media or asking mutual friends about you). It indicates that your ex is beginning to reconsider their initial decision and may be reprocessing their feelings. Continued self-improvement during no contact also increases the chances of your ex reassessing their perspective.

Why should I avoid directly telling my ex that I’ve changed?

Telling your ex that you've changed can often come across as desperate or manipulative. Instead of verbally stating your changes, let your actions speak for themselves. Over time, your ex will see the positive transformation and may naturally start to feel attraction again.

How can I be patient during no contact when I feel anxious about the situation?

Patience is crucial during no contact, as anxiety can drive you to take actions that might push your ex further away. Focus on your own growth and well-being. Engage in activities that improve your mental health and self-esteem, and trust that the space you’ve given both you and your ex will lead to a healthier perspective on the relationship.