what women actually find attractive
Summary
TLDRThis video script explores the misconceptions men have about what women find attractive. It emphasizes the importance of storytelling in the 'female gaze' and acknowledges the variance in women's preferences. The script corrects the 'black pill' notion of needing to be tall, rich, and fit, highlighting that women value personality traits like confidence and charisma over looks. It also discusses the dynamic nature of attraction and the importance of finding a niche rather than trying to appeal to everyone. The video concludes by advising men to focus on being authentic and embodying positive qualities rather than changing themselves to fit unrealistic standards.
Takeaways
- đ The biggest mistake men make when trying to become more attractive to women is approaching it from the male perspective rather than the female perspective.
- đ Women are often attracted to a variety of traits, and their preferences can vary widely. It's not just about looks; it's about the story you present.
- đš The female gaze is story-driven. Women appreciate creativity and the stories men tell through their appearance and behavior.
- đ Looks do matter, but women have a wide range of preferences. Idealized standards like Cristiano Ronaldo or Chris Hemsworth represent only a fraction of what women find attractive.
- đĄ The black pill antidote: Women value much more than physical appearance. Humor, voice, charisma, and other traits play a significant role in attraction.
- đ The female gaze is dynamic. Physical attraction can grow as women get to know a man's personality and other traits.
- đș Height, income, and status are relative. Women often prefer men who are slightly taller and earn slightly more, but these preferences are relative rather than absolute.
- đ Focus on niche maxing rather than wide appeal. Men should thrive in areas they are passionate about and find partners with similar interests.
- đ« Women don't like nice guys who come off as weak or desperate. Confidence, social skills, and standing up for oneself are attractive traits.
- đȘ Traits behind being a bad boy, like confidence and leadership, are what make them attractive, not the bad behavior itself. Men should focus on developing these underlying qualities.
Q & A
What is the main mistake men make when trying to become more attractive to women according to the script?
-Men often try to become more attractive through the perspective of the male gaze instead of the female gaze, attempting to reduce attraction to a scientific formula rather than understanding the variance and complexity of what women find attractive.
Why is the term 'female gaze' used in the script to describe how women perceive attractiveness?
-The term 'female gaze' is used to highlight the idea that women's perception of attractiveness is story-driven and nuanced, focusing on more than just physical appearance, similar to how they engage with romance novels and art.
What does the script suggest about the importance of storytelling in women's perception of attractiveness?
-The script suggests that storytelling is crucial in women's perception of attractiveness because it allows them to connect with a person's personality, style, and body language, which all contribute to the narrative a person presents when they interact with the world.
What are some physical features that women might find attractive according to the script?
-Women might find features such as a nice jawline, slight facial hair, height, a lean physique, darker features, and a mix of masculine and feminine traits attractive, as exemplified by public figures like Cristiano Ronaldo or Michelle from the film '365 Days'.
How does the script address the idea that women have a type but are not limited to it?
-The script acknowledges that while women may have a preference or 'type,' this does not mean they are automatically rejecting others who do not fit this type. It emphasizes the importance of individual preferences and the reality that attraction can vary greatly.
What does the script refer to as the 'black pill' antidote?
-The 'black pill' antidote refers to the realization that women do not view male attractiveness purely in terms of physical attributes. It encourages men to understand that women are attracted to a combination of physical, emotional, and social qualities.
How does the script explain the dynamic nature of the female gaze regarding physical attraction?
-The script explains that physical attraction can grow over time as a woman gets to know a man better. Initially, a man might fall into the 'all right' category, but as she learns more about him, he can either become less attractive or elevate to being 'so hot'.
What is the script's stance on the importance of relative measures like height, income, and status in women's perception of attractiveness?
-The script suggests that these measures are important but should be understood in a relative sense. Women generally prefer a man who is slightly taller, earns a bit more, and has a similar status, rather than absolute measures like being six feet tall or earning six figures.
How does the script differentiate between 'wide appeal' and 'niche maxing' in terms of attractiveness?
-The script differentiates by stating that while some traits have universal appeal, trying to appeal to everyone is not feasible. Instead, it's more effective to find a niche and excel in it, attracting those who share similar interests or passions.
What misconception does the script address about 'nice guys' and why women might not be attracted to them?
-The script addresses the misconception that being overly nice or submissive is attractive to women. It suggests that women are more attracted to men who set boundaries, are confident, and stand up for themselves, which are traits often associated with 'bad boys'.
How does the script explain the appeal of wealth in terms of male attractiveness?
-The script explains that it's not the wealth itself that makes a man attractive, but rather the qualities that often accompany wealth, such as hard work, determination, leadership, and courage.
Outlines
đ€ Misconceptions About Male Attractiveness
The paragraph discusses the common mistake men make in trying to become more attractive to women by viewing it from a male perspective instead of understanding the 'female gaze.' It emphasizes that women's attraction is not solely based on physical attributes but also on the story a man presents through his appearance, behavior, and body language. The script points out that while looks do matter, there is a significant variance in what women find attractive, including a mix of masculine and feminine features. It also addresses the 'black pill' mindset, which can lead to insecurity, and instead encourages men to recognize that attractiveness is multifaceted and not just physical.
đ The Dynamic Nature of Female Attraction
This paragraph explores the dynamic nature of female attraction, explaining that initial physical attraction can grow as a woman gets to know a man better. It clarifies that the female gaze is not strictly about physical appearance but also considers personality traits, humor, voice, charisma, and other non-physical aspects. The script challenges the idea that women want a man who is simply tall, rich, and fit, suggesting that these are relative terms and that most women are attracted to men who are slightly taller and earn a bit more than them. It also discusses the concept of 'wide appeal' versus finding a niche, suggesting that men should focus on their unique qualities rather than trying to appeal to everyone.
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Keywords
đĄMale Gaze
đĄFemale Gaze
đĄVariance in Attraction
đĄStorytelling
đĄPhysical Attraction
đĄDynamic Attraction
đĄRelative Attractiveness
đĄNiche Appeal
đĄBad Boy Traits
đĄSelf-Worth and Validation
Highlights
Males often try to become attractive from a male perspective rather than understanding the female gaze.
Women are attracted to a wide variance of male physical types, including tall, muscular, and those with feminine features.
The female gaze is story-driven, similar to the popularity of romance novels among women.
A man's appearance and body language tell a story that women pick up on.
Women are attracted to handsome features but also show a wide preference for different types.
The ideal male attractiveness varies greatly and includes a mix of masculine and feminine traits.
Men often feel insecure about their height, wealth, and fitness, which are not the only factors women consider.
Women view attractiveness as more than just physical; they consider humor, voice, charisma, and other non-physical traits.
Physical attraction can grow over time as women get to know a man better.
Men often misinterpret women's preferences for height, income, and status as absolute measures rather than relative ones.
Men should focus on finding their niche rather than trying to appeal to everyone.
Traits like confidence, social skills, and standing up for oneself are attractive, not necessarily wealth or physical appearance.
Being a 'nice guy' is often seen as a sign of weakness, whereas 'bad boys' represent confidence and assertiveness.
Men should not change their personalities to appeal to women but rather understand what women find attractive.
The video aims to provide a fuller picture of what women look for in men through the female gaze.
Transcripts
the biggest mistake guys make when
trying to become more attractive to
women is that they often do it through
the perspective of the male Gaye instead
of the female gays now this got me
thinking how can women be so into tall
jacked masculine guys but at the same
time loads of women are attracted to
members of BTS and how are sometimes
attractive women together with men who
look just about average so here's what I
realized what women are attracted to has
a huge variance and the biggest mistake
we make as guys is to try to cut it down
to science when it's anything but that
in this video we're going to teach you
the difference between what guys think
women want versus what women actually
find attractive part one the female gaze
at its core is story driven there's a
reason why the bestselling books every
year are romance novels and their
biggest consumers are women it's the
same reason why artists and musicians
throughout history Have Been Loved by
women they use their creativity to tell
a story you also tell a story every time
you walk out of a door as a guy you just
don't realize it the way you
dress freaking out your choice of hair
what do you think is the best hairstyle
guy can have fluffy middle part high
fade you have a mullet it's good like
long and out of the face the longer hair
just like wavy the way you walk the way
you hold eye contact you love designs so
you're basically a match made in heaven
right guys interest yeah in your body
language these all tell a story and
women pick up on them part two looks do
matter women obviously are attracted to
or prefer a handsome guy a nice jawline
slight facial hair height a lean
physique darker features and a mix of
masculine and feminine features if you
wanted to create a guy that is
attractive to the most amount of women
worldwide he'd probably look something
like Cristiano Ronaldo or michell
from the film 365 days but even when it
comes down to looks there's a huge
variance in types women have preferences
when it comes to a guy's ethnicity they
have preferences when it comes to a
man's body type make a guy a bit more
feminine and you have Zay Malik make him
more masculine and you have Chris
Hemsworth but remember these are just
ideals as a guy yourself you might like
tall blondes but that doesn't mean that
you'll say no to short brunettes so just
like women have a type that doesn't mean
that they are automatically rejecting
everything else part three the black
pill antidote for some reason when God
discover women's desire to have a man
who's tall rich and fit it makes them
feel insecure about themselves and
hopeless if you spend an hour in any
busy downtown square and observe couples
through your male gaze here's what
you'll notice average guys with average
girls and average guys with beautiful
girls this is because through the female
gaze women don't view male
attractiveness as a purely physical
equation as men we put so much effort
into improving our physical
attractiveness and it's it's the only
thing we compare when we see a couple
now don't get me wrong women crave a guy
with a Vaper just like us men are
attracted to women with an hourglass
body at the end of the day the first
thing a woman sees when she first meets
you is your face right your humor voice
smell Charisma skills your love language
and so many other aspects still
determine how attractive you are through
the female gaze women are attracted to
so much more than just looks part four
the female fale gaze is dynamic let me
explain if a girl is not attracted to a
guy at First Sight the physical
attraction can still grow a ton once she
knows more about you the majority of men
fall into the yah he's all right
category as the girl gets to know him he
can either fumble it into you I would
never or Elevate into he's so hot this
is a bit hard to understand as a guy
because when we see a beautiful girl at
first we fall in love instantly part
five relative versus absolute let's talk
about the three things that absolutely
belong to the female gays height income
and Status we've all heard the phrase
six figures six feet and a six-pack all
of these things are attractive but most
guys still get it wrong when girls say
they want a taller Guy this is a
relative statement it means that they
want a man who's taller than them and
the same goes for income and Status
statistically most couples have this one
thing in common the man is only a few
inches taller than the woman and the man
makes only a bit more money status is a
bit harder to calculate but we can
assume that this is probably true as
well and let's be honest most guys lie
about their height which has given rise
to false expectations of what 6 feet
actually looks like so as long as you're
a few inches taller and make slightly
more money than the woman you want to
attract you're going to be all right
part six wide appeal versus Niche maxing
a lot of men's content on improving
attractiveness can sometimes spread the
feeling that you need to appeal to as
many people as possible some traits are
Universal such as having good skin and
an aesthetic body but trying to appeal
to as many girls as possible is pretty
much impossible instead find your Niche
and thrive in that area if you're a gym
guy and you're into bodybuilding you're
most likely going to attract Fitness
girls who share the same passions as you
looking at human psychology most people
end up together with people who are in
their relative class and ethnic group
the same thing works here girls will
find a guy who has similar Hobbies or
interests far more attractive than a guy
who doesn't part seven women don't like
nice guys girls don't like nice guys
because it shows their weakness and
desperate feelings to win her attention
naturally women want something they
can't have over something they can
easily get so not giving a girl too much
attention is not necessarily a bad bad
thing that's why women like bad boys not
because they are criminals or dangerous
but because they represent certain
traits that are attractive they're
typically confident social and stand up
for themselves and the people around
them girls like a guy who sets
boundaries and doesn't let people run
over him being a submissive pushover and
a people pleaser is perhaps the most
unattractive trait a man can have and a
bad boy represents the exact opposite of
this
the traits behind being a bad boy make a
girl attracted to them and the same goes
for being rich it's not the actual money
factor that makes a rich guy attractive
but rather the qualities behind
acquiring wealth hard work determination
leadership and courage a lot of men are
defining their self-worth with the
validation of being able to get
attention from a beautiful girl they are
trying to compete with impossible
standards or standards that they can
never reach and as these men are
learning how to become more attractive
to women they come across videos that
teach them to change their personalities
and who they are just to appeal to a
girl by making this video I hope that
you have gained a fuller picture of what
women are actually looking for through
the female Gaye thanks for watching
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