Use your breakup to become unrecognisable | Do this if you’re in no contact
Summary
TLDRThis motivational video script offers a roadmap for personal transformation following a breakup. It advises viewers to stop self-destructive behaviors like stalking ex-partners on social media and seeking validation through posts. Instead, it encourages self-improvement through exercise, dressing well, and introspection to understand what truly matters in relationships. The script promotes self-love, forgiveness, and the pursuit of personal passions, emphasizing that growth and change can lead to an unrecognizable, better version of oneself.
Takeaways
- 🌟 Embrace the potential for personal growth after a breakup, as it can lead to becoming the best version of yourself.
- 🚫 Stop obsessively checking your ex's social media, as it only fuels negative emotions and is unproductive.
- 💔 Avoid crafting stories based on social media activity to justify your feelings; they are often baseless and harmful.
- 🤳 Refrain from posting on social media to project a facade of happiness or success, as it can be transparent and embarrassing.
- 🏋️♀️ Begin exercising and moving your body to feel lighter and improve your physical and mental well-being.
- 👗 Dress up for yourself to boost confidence and reinforce the belief that you are a 'prize' worthy of love and respect.
- 🤔 Use no-contact periods for self-reflection on the relationship, understanding your desires, and what you deserve.
- 📚 Consider reading books like 'Radical Forgiveness' and 'Love Yourself' to aid in healing and personal development.
- 💞 Send love and positive energy to your ex, practicing unconditional love and acceptance for personal growth.
- 🌱 Focus on self-improvement and happiness independently, so that when someone new comes into your life, they are a bonus, not a necessity.
- 🔄 Recognize that relationships can change and evolve, and that sometimes a breakup can lead to a better, more fulfilling partnership in the future.
Q & A
What is the main message of the video script about breakups?
-The main message is that breakups, although initially painful, can be a catalyst for personal growth and self-improvement, potentially leading to a better version of oneself.
What are some of the behaviors the speaker advises to stop after a breakup?
-The speaker advises to stop checking the ex's social media profiles obsessively, stop posting about fake happiness on Instagram, and avoid dating immediately if one is not emotionally ready.
Why does the speaker suggest removing the 'last seen' status on WhatsApp after a breakup?
-Removing the 'last seen' status can prevent the urge to check the ex's activity, which can lead to unnecessary emotional distress and self-harm.
What is the speaker's opinion on using breakup as a motivation to improve physical health?
-The speaker believes that breakups can serve as a powerful motivator for individuals, especially men, to get into the best shape of their lives, which can be a positive outcome.
What does the speaker recommend for someone who is going through a breakup and wants to manifest positive changes?
-The speaker recommends focusing on self-improvement, reflection, and sending love to the ex-partner, as well as visualizing an ideal life scenario that includes happiness and self-fulfillment.
What are some of the books the speaker recommends for understanding the dynamics of a relationship and personal growth?
-The books recommended include 'Radical Forgiveness', 'Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself', 'The Power of Positive Thinking', and 'Love Yourself as if Your Life Depends on It'.
According to the speaker, why should one not try to manifest their ex back immediately after a breakup?
-The speaker suggests that immediate attempts to manifest an ex back are not advisable because the relationship dynamics have not changed, and the same issues may resurface without proper self-reflection and growth.
What is the significance of the phrase 'House of Vibrations' mentioned in the script?
-'House of Vibrations' is a metaphor for finding one's passion and purpose in life, which can be a transformative experience that comes from the self-growth post-breakup.
How does the speaker define 'self-harming' in the context of a breakup?
-In the context of a breakup, 'self-harming' refers to behaviors such as obsessively checking the ex's social media, creating false narratives about their activities, and engaging in activities that cause emotional distress.
What is the speaker's stance on the idea of 'rekindling' a relationship after a breakup?
-The speaker believes that rekindling a relationship should only happen after both parties have undergone significant personal growth and have changed their perspectives and behaviors, essentially becoming 'new' people.
What advice does the speaker give on how to deal with the emotional turmoil post-breakup?
-The speaker advises to go through the emotions without suppressing them, focusing on self-improvement, and doing inner work, rather than constantly trying to get back with the ex or seeking external validation.
Outlines
🌟 Embracing Self-Growth Post-Breakup
This paragraph introduces the video's theme of personal transformation following a breakup. The speaker encourages the audience to view breakups as opportunities for self-improvement, suggesting that they can lead to becoming 'unrecognizable' in a positive way. The speaker emphasizes the importance of ceasing behaviors that hinder healing, such as obsessively checking an ex's social media, and instead focusing on self-care and personal development. The message is one of empowerment, suggesting that individuals can emerge stronger and more self-assured after a breakup.
🚫 Avoiding Post-Breakup Pitfalls
The speaker outlines specific behaviors to avoid after a breakup, such as stalking an ex's social media profiles and posting on one's own to seek validation or provoke a reaction. They stress the importance of self-respect and authenticity, advising against creating stories in one's head that can lead to further emotional distress. The paragraph also touches on the potential embarrassment of changing behavior to signal availability or happiness to an ex, highlighting the need for genuine self-expression and introspection during the healing process.
🧘♀️ Healing Through Self-Care and Reflection
The paragraph emphasizes the importance of physical activity and self-care in the healing process after a breakup. It suggests that engaging in regular exercise and dressing well can boost self-esteem and help one feel more positive about oneself. The speaker also encourages introspection, recommending that individuals use the time to reflect on the relationship, understand their desires, and consider what they deserve in future relationships. The focus is on personal growth and understanding one's role in the relationship's dynamics.
💔 Redefining Relationships and Self-Worth
This paragraph delves into the concept of manifesting an ex back into one's life, but with a twist. It suggests that instead of trying to recreate the same relationship, individuals should focus on personal growth and redefine their desires and expectations. The speaker advises changing one's perspective on both the ex and oneself, fostering a new relationship dynamic based on changed views and self-respect. The paragraph also recommends reading certain books to aid in understanding relationship dynamics and promoting self-love.
🌱 Cultivating Personal Growth and Manifestation
The final paragraph focuses on the idea of personal growth beyond the context of a past relationship. It encourages finding and pursuing one's passion, which the speaker refers to as 'House of Vibrations', as a means of self-fulfillment and manifestation. The speaker shares their personal experience, suggesting that the end of a relationship can lead to new opportunities and personal achievements. The message is one of self-reduction of the importance placed on others and an increase in self-importance, which can lead to attracting what one truly desires.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Breakup
💡Self-respect
💡Manifesting
💡No contact
💡Self-improvement
💡Emotional healing
💡Unconditional love
💡Self-worth
💡Inner work
💡Radical forgiveness
💡Glow up
Highlights
Embrace the potential for personal growth during breakups.
Use the emotional energy from a breakup to fuel self-improvement.
Avoid obsessively checking your ex's social media to maintain self-respect.
Recognize the habit of checking ex's social media and replace it with self-care activities.
Stop creating false narratives about your ex's actions on social media.
Eliminate the urge to post for validation or to make your ex jealous on social media.
Understand that changing your behavior to seek external validation is self-harming.
Consider the timing of dating after a breakup to ensure emotional readiness.
Engage in regular physical activity to improve mood and self-image.
Dress up for yourself to boost confidence and self-perception.
Use no-contact periods as an opportunity for introspection and personal growth.
Reflect on your role in the relationship and what you truly desire for future relationships.
Read self-help books like 'Radical Forgiveness' and 'Love Yourself' to aid in personal development.
Send unconditional love to your ex as a part of your healing process.
Visualize your ideal life and focus on personal happiness independent of a relationship.
Discover your passion and create a 'House of Vibrations' to find fulfillment outside of relationships.
Understand that reducing the importance of your ex can help you attract what you truly want.
Do the inner work and avoid constant attempts to rekindle the relationship; focus on self-improvement instead.
Transcripts
congratulations you are about to embark
on the best days of your life I know it
doesn't feel like that right now because
you're sat there waiting to hear from
them crying eating Ben and Jerry's ice
cream feeling sorry for yourself because
you're in the middle of a breakup you've
just had a breakup you're in no contact
whatever the case may be but rest
assured baby girl baby boy I got you
these are the exact steps that you are
going to take to become
unrecognizable truly though whether you
want to get them back whether you want
someone brand new or whether you just
want to do you for a while this is the
only video you're ever going to need to
watch to get over them and get back to
your best self in fact even better than
you've ever been breakups may actually
just be the best thing to happened to a
human being especially men and the
reason that I say this is because it
lights a rocket inside of you maybe not
initially of course you've got to go
through the motions the tears the harand
DAR the crying to your friends the
moping around not going to the gym we
all got to go through that but then
there's a
switch and you're like hang on a minute
and you use that fuel to turn into an
absolute Beast and the reason why I say
it's the best thing to ever happen to a
man is because usually they will get
into the gym and get into the best
godamn shape of their life and it's
truly the fuel that helps people build
Empires so these are the exact things
that I would stop doing first of all and
then we're going to go into the things
that you should immediately begin
doing stop please for the love of God
stop checking their Instagram their
Snapchat scores their followers their
last scene on WhatsApp I've done it all
okay honestly when I say please have
some
self-respect I wish someone had told me
at the time to be honest I don't think
I'd have even listened to them cuz it's
like I need to check their following and
create stories that don't even make
sense and have absolutely no ground in
my mind to help justify how I'm feeling
for example you'd go on there following
and be like see it's obviously her he's
with her right now that's why his last
scene on WhatsApp was like 12:00 at
night he's with someone else right you
create these nonsensical stories and
drive yourself mental stop doing it it's
not worth it I promise and it may have
become a bit of a habit especially if
you're in the early stages of a breakup
it may have become like you wake up you
check their following or your middle of
the night you can't sleep cuz the
anxiety is so overwhelming and you check
their WhatsApp whatever the case may be
that urge to do that is actually guiding
you okay I need to do a meditation I
need to do a breath work I need to go on
a walk I need to go on a rampage I need
to go and do uh some exercise some at
home yoga or some at home polares
whatever the case may be that I'm going
to check that following is actually your
time to work on yourself you checking
that following does nothing you checking
their Snapchat score or whatever it is
does nothing their repost on Tik Tok it
changes nothing in your reality all it
does is causes you more pain and so what
you realize is you're actually self
Haring to prove that you are unlovable
see they don't want to be with me
because of this this and this there's so
much wrong with me you try and build a
case stop harming yourself stop hurting
yourself when you like yourself you're
not compelled to look at that Instagram
to look at that last scene to check what
they're doing I think the best thing you
can do if you are on WhatsApp to take
your last scene off so that then you
can't even see what they're doing cuz
once your last scene is off their last
scene is off right stop the insanity and
go within keep going within the second
thing to stop doing if you're just in
the middle of a breakup or you're in no
contact stop posting like you're having
the time of your life on Instagram if
you're not if you're not right right
honestly I was guilty of this so I went
on a date with a guy in the middle of
like our breakup I went on a date with a
guy and this guy had the a Lamborghini
or a Ferrari I don't know what it was
and he arrived with this big bouquet of
flowers and I was like oh God that it's
freaked me out because I'd never met him
he arrived this big VK of flowers I was
like Photo opportunity now bearing in
mind I do not take photos and the person
that I was with knew that right so I not
the person that I was on a date with my
my ex knew that so suddenly if your
behavior begins to change they know what
you're doing you think that you're being
slick about it like no one knows I got
this guy to take this picture of me with
this big bouquet of flowers and this
yellow Lamborghini and posted it on my
WhatsApp story like can you can you
imagine the secondhand embarrassment and
when I did meet her with my a afterwards
he's like honestly it was just
embarrassing it was just laughable cuz I
knew what you were doing right they know
they know what you're doing don't
embarrass yourself stop trying to be
like
outside being like look at me look at me
look at me please love me please love me
please love me cuz that's all that that
is right and so I've embarrassed
myself for you on behalf of you so you
don't have to go through that right you
don't have to do that so stop the
posting stop the quotes you know you
always know when a girl is going through
a breakup because she'll startop posting
quotes all over Instagram just stop
right it's not necessary go within you
feel that need to post is it is it
authentic like do you want to genuinely
post because you're having a great time
and you know it's normal to post that's
absolutely fine or is it like please
like this photo please you know see how
hot I look let me edit this photo says
I'm like the hottest girl and then he
sees what he's missing out on we've all
been there right it's not worth it just
relax and keep going within now the
third thing to stop doing and this is
really dependent on your
situation for
example if you've just broken up and you
are emotional and you're feeling upset
and all of this stuff it's not really
the right time to date so I would say in
that time stop dating at that time stop
dating however if you're in like a no
contact situation it's been a few weeks
a few months you've been doing
self-concept work you've been working
out feeling
good maybe it is the right time today I
don't know you have to decide I am only
now dating after years of being broken
up with the ex that basically all these
videos are about right I'm only now
feeling good about dating and it's so
much fun dating should be fun it should
be exciting it shouldn't be like you
shouldn't be in your head so if you are
just in the middle of a breakup you know
and you're on this date with this person
and all you're thinking about is your ex
or when they text you or checking your
phone like you're not being present
you're not showing up as your best self
it's not fair to that person but it's
also not fair to you because you're
hurting yourself even more wishing that
the person opposite you was your ex all
you can think about is what they're
doing who they're with right so take
that time to kind of neutralize how
you're feeling about the ex before you
start you know deciding who the next is
whether it's the ex or whatever so
that's the things I would stop doing
immediately whether you're in no contact
or whether you've just broken up so
these are the things that you want to
immediately begin doing work out as
little and as often as you can whether
that's 10 minutes on a yoga mat in front
of your TV following something on
YouTube whether that's a 10minute walk
in the morning 10 minutes at night you
want to get your body moving you want to
move this dormant energy and the more
that you start moving your body you're
going to feel lighter you're going to
look lighter as well you're going to
start actually shedding you know
whichever fat that you have or you know
start seeing some ABS whatever it is
that's going to naturally make you feel
incredible then you start seeing
yourself in the mirror and you're like
damn
and this ties into the next point which
is dress up for yourself just so that
you start feeling top tear so you start
truly believing that you are that prize
cuz you see when you look in the mirror
and you go to the bathroom I am the
prize I am that guy I am that girl right
and so it becomes less believable that
they don't want you because you're not
worthy and more believable that actually
there is a chance that we could get back
together
because they'd be lucky to have me and
it you kind of go through that those
emotions of maybe they don't want me cuz
I'm not worthy to actually they would be
lucky to have me anyone would be lucky
to have me because of these little
things that you start implementing into
your daily routine now when you are in
this no contact and you know the middle
of a breakup or whatever you want to use
this no contact as a time to reflect on
the relationship now if you've clicked
on this video because you want to
manifest that ex back the point is is
that you're not manifesting that person
back already established this
relationship does not work for whichever
reason and so when we think about
manifesting this person back we're not
we're manifesting a different version of
that person and so you we're using that
time to reflect on the relationship
reflect on what happened reflect on the
part that you had to play in it reflect
on the part that they had to play in it
and really take this time to understand
what it is that you desire in your next
interactions with them or someone else
you want to forget what you feel and
remember what you deserve if you were
wronged by this person how could you
even desire to be with that person if
you wronged this person why did you
believe that they deserve that treatment
and what were you believing about
yourself it's really a time for
reflection and understanding okay this
is what I want this is what I do not
want but that relas ship that version of
that person is not what we are
recreating because the same thing will
happen again if that has been no change
this is seeing them in a completely
different light for example when you
answer these questions about this person
every single answer you initially say
has to change in order for you to begin
seeing them better so they always they
are known for it's not like them too
they are the type of person that fill in
the blank
right however you're viewing them has to
completely and radically change and also
how you view yourself at the same time
has to change in order for that to come
back together as a brand new
relationship where you can actually try
again in a few weeks or a few months
whatever the case may be but by this
point you're seeing yourself different
you're also seeing them completely
different it's a brand new relationship
with two new people and some books I
would actually recommend to help you
along this breakup is radical
forgiveness radical self forgiveness
breaking the habit of being yourself the
power of positive thinking and of course
our favorite on this channel love
yourself as if your life depends on it
there's so many more as well but these
are really great to get started on
understanding the dynamic of the
relationship and also understanding your
role to play in the breakdown of the
relationship another thing is that
whether or not you want to rekindle this
you still want to be sending love to
that person to their experiences in
their life because the second that you
are bitter about any breakup or not
being with them or not hearing from them
you're slagging them off to your friends
you're saying nasty things about their
character you're not changing you're not
changing how you view them so they
cannot change and you're also not
changing how you view yourself so you
cannot change and so even if you do hear
from them in a few weeks or a few months
nothing will change because nothing has
changed right so it's really important
to send that love that unconditional
love when you like a beautiful flower
you don't pluck it out of the ground
because it will die you let it Bloom you
let it do its thing you give it that
space you give it that love that
unconditional love I don't need anything
from you I don't expect anything from
you whatever you need to do whatever
space that you need I respect that but I
also respect myself right and so you
take that time to focus on yourself to
to glow up differently and it's not for
them it's not so they can see look how
good I'm doing it's never about that
you're glowing up for you so that you
can move differently and when you move
differently you see differently in your
reality you expect different things you
demand different treatment and you
become completely
unrecognizable by actually implementing
these things you also want to be
imagining who are you what does your
ideal life and scenario look like by
yourself being happy with yourself being
happy alone being happy doing your
hobbies meeting friends falling in love
with your life romanticizing your life
in every way and when you do feel that
fulfillment and that new person comes in
or that an older person comes in or
whatever it's no longer that they are
the whole cake they're just the cherry
on the top and one thing I will say is
that I know a lot of people come to this
channel because they're manifesting
their ex back and that's what I did and
you know we've spoken about this on my
videos but I have to say that the
breakdown of that relationship of us no
longer being together is the best thing
that's ever happened to me in my life
House of vibrations would never
exist and so you have to find your house
of vibrations what is your passion what
is something that you can monetized that
you love doing anyway that you're so
familiar with and once you recognize
that it was never the person and it was
always the importance that you placed on
them you made them that important you
made them that that valuable you made
them that special you reduce their
importance and recognize who you are and
what you desire and suddenly you're not
feing for this person anymore because
they're just not that special they never
were they never will be and it's the
same for anything in life the second
that you reduce that importance you
begin to actually attract what it is
that you want and so while you may have
clicked on this video to manifest your
ex back or whatever I want you to know
that please go through the motions I
know you may be in pain right now I know
you may be crying and feeling sorry for
yourself and moping around but please go
through the motions without constantly
going back and forth without constantly
trying again let's try again let's try
again let's try again you will waste so
many months and years of your
life instead just cut it clean do the
inner work don't be feing don't be
begging don't be crying don't be sending
flowers to the house yes that was me
just really doing the work and
constantly going within and then in a
few months or a year if you decide okay
we're both brand new people let's start
again then do it again but I promise you
if you have truly done the work and
you've truly elevated they suddenly not
that attractive so I trust this video
helped you manifest you are worthy you
are loved I love you and thank you
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