The Science of Awkwardness

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20 Mar 201513:55

Summary

TLDRThis script delves into the nature of awkwardness, exploring its role in social behavior and its evolutionary roots. It explains how awkwardness acts as a social guide, prompting us to avoid uncomfortable actions and navigate social norms. The script also touches on the psychological and physiological responses to awkward situations, the empathy behind vicarious embarrassment, and the brain's processing of social faux pas akin to physical pain. It concludes with advice on overcoming self-consciousness and gaining perspective on one's social interactions.

Takeaways

  • 😅 Awkwardness is an uncomfortable feeling that arises from social situations where norms or expectations are not met.
  • 🤝 Social norms and etiquette provide a framework for behavior, but awkwardness can occur when these are not explicitly defined or when they are breached.
  • 🧠 Awkwardness is a tool that helps to refine social interactions, guiding us to avoid certain actions and to navigate unexpected social encounters.
  • 🤔 Feeling awkward indicates an understanding of social cues and a desire for smooth social interactions, which is beneficial for social cooperation.
  • 😳 Demonstrating self-consciousness or embarrassment when appropriate can make a person seem more trustworthy and forgivable to others.
  • 🌐 Vicarious embarrassment is a form of empathy where we feel discomfort for others in awkward situations, even if we are not directly involved.
  • 🧐 The degree of empathy a person has can be linked to how easily they experience vicarious embarrassment, but it doesn't necessarily correlate with their own susceptibility to embarrassment.
  • 🔬 The brain processes social missteps similarly to physical pain, activating regions associated with discomfort and the 'fight or flight' response.
  • 💉 Oxytocin, known as 'the love hormone', influences both positive and negative social feelings and may make social interactions more memorable, especially negative ones.
  • 🌐 The tendency to overthink social interactions and feel self-conscious is partly due to the negativity bias, where negative experiences have a greater impact on us.
  • 🌟 The realization that others are the main characters of their own stories, a concept called 'sonder', can help put one's own awkwardness into perspective and reduce self-consciousness.

Q & A

  • What are some common awkward social situations mentioned in the script?

    -Common awkward social situations include not knowing what to do with your hands, offering a handshake when the other person offers a fist bump, forgetting someone's name, getting caught staring at a stranger, and overhearing a couple breaking up.

  • What is the psychological term for the discomfort felt during awkward moments?

    -The psychological term for the discomfort felt during awkward moments is 'awkwardness', which makes us feel uncomfortable and can even cause us to cringe.

  • How does the script describe the relationship between awkwardness and social behavior?

    -The script describes awkwardness as a tool that sands social dynamics by smoothing out behaviors that are not explicitly ruled by etiquette or laws, thus guiding social behavior.

  • What role does awkwardness play in social interactions according to the script?

    -Awkwardness plays a role in nudging us to avoid certain actions in the future and helps smooth things out when unexpected social situations occur.

  • Why is feeling awkward sometimes considered a sign of social intelligence?

    -Feeling awkward is considered a sign of social intelligence because it shows that a person understands and is keen on maintaining smooth social exchanges, which is important for successful cooperation in social life.

  • How does the script explain the concept of 'vicarious embarrassment'?

    -Vicarious embarrassment is explained as a function of empathy, where individuals feel uncomfortable on behalf of others who have committed a faux pas, even if they themselves are not directly involved.

  • What are the physiological responses to social challenges that can cause awkwardness?

    -Physiological responses to social challenges include increased blood pressure, sweating, increased breathing, nausea, and a contraction into a protective fetal position, which can exacerbate feelings of awkwardness.

  • How does the script relate the experience of awkwardness to physical pain?

    -The script relates awkwardness to physical pain by explaining that social missteps activate brain regions associated with the sensation of physical pain, such as the secondary somatosensory cortex and the dorsal posterior insula.

  • What is the role of the neurotransmitter oxytocin in social interactions as described in the script?

    -Oxytocin, sometimes called 'the love hormone', modulates both positive and negative social feelings. It plays a role in trust, attachment, and also in recognizing negative facial expressions and social stimuli, making social interactions more salient in our memories.

  • What advice does the script offer to help overcome self-conscious anxieties after an awkward encounter?

    -The script suggests gaining perspective by considering the famous advice of Eleanor Roosevelt, which encourages not worrying about what others think of you because they are more concerned with their own thoughts and actions.

  • What is the term 'sonder' as mentioned in the script, and what does it represent?

    -'sonder' is a term that represents the realization that every person you pass by is living a life as complex and vivid as your own, with their own ambitions, friends, and worries, making your own awkwardness seem small in comparison.

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