The Telltale Signs He's Officially Fallen in Love with You (without saying it)
Summary
TLDRThe speaker reflects on the unrealistic portrayal of love in movies compared to the profound, complex love he witnessed in real life, particularly in his uncle's marriage. He suggests themes for a movie that would authentically depict a man's love, emphasizing silent signs such as disregarding others' opinions, treating a woman as a necessity, showcasing the Big 3 C's (communication, commitment, compromise), and supporting a partner's weaknesses. The transition from friendly to protective actions signifies a man's deepening love, challenging societal norms and expectations.
Takeaways
- 🎬 The speaker is not fond of unrealistic romantic movies, feeling they often fail to capture the true essence of a man's love.
- 💔 The speaker has witnessed both the beauty and the ugliness in love, emphasizing that love is not always a 'happily ever after' story.
- 👴🏼🧓🏼 The love story of the speaker's uncle and aunt serves as a profound example of genuine love, showing a deep connection that lasted until death.
- 🖤 The speaker believes that a man's love is best shown through actions rather than words, especially in the face of societal gossip and judgment.
- ❤️ A man in love will prioritize his woman's needs over others' opinions, showing a deep commitment and acceptance of her.
- 🤝 The speaker suggests that a man's love is characterized by the 'Big 3 C's': Communication, Commitment, and Compromise.
- 💪 A man in love will celebrate his woman's strengths but also support and work on her weaknesses, fostering mutual growth.
- 🏠 The transition from friendly to protective actions and attitudes is a silent sign of a man falling in love, indicating a deeper emotional investment.
- 🔓 When a man is in love, he will open up about his vulnerabilities and struggles, inviting his partner to be part of overcoming them.
- 🛡️ A man's love is also shown by treating his woman as a necessity, not a convenience, which means taking care of her as one would a vital need.
- 🌟 The speaker proposes making a movie to depict these silent signs of a man's love, aiming to provide a more accurate portrayal of male affection.
Q & A
What is the speaker's general opinion on love stories and movies?
-The speaker is not a big fan of love stories and movies, particularly 'hopeless romantic' ones, as they find them unrealistic, especially from a man's perspective.
What does the speaker believe is missing in most love movies?
-The speaker believes that most love movies fail to capture the true essence of a man's love for his woman and the complexities of real-life relationships.
Can you describe the speaker's view on the love between his uncle and aunt?
-The speaker holds a high regard for the love between his uncle and aunt, describing it as a great love that lasted from the beginning until his aunt's passing, creating a family and a legacy.
What is the speaker's perspective on the impact of gossip on relationships?
-The speaker suggests that gossip and rumors can be harmful to relationships, but true love involves not caring about others' opinions and being 'all in' with one's partner.
What are the 'Big 3 C's' the speaker refers to in the context of a man's love for a woman?
-The 'Big 3 C's' mentioned by the speaker are communication, commitment, and compromise, which are essential aspects of a loving relationship according to the speaker.
How does the speaker define the difference between 'need' and 'use' in a relationship?
-The speaker defines 'need' as taking care of something with one's last bit of energy because of the fear of loss, while 'use' implies having a replacement in mind, indicating a lack of genuine care.
What does the speaker suggest is a silent sign of a man falling in love with a woman?
-The speaker suggests that a silent sign of a man falling in love is the transition from friendly actions and vibes to protective actions and lover-like vibes and energy.
How does the speaker view the role of communication in a relationship?
-The speaker views communication as a crucial part of a relationship, where a man should actively communicate his love and intentions, showing a desire to understand and be understood.
What does the speaker mean by 'cheering your strengths but catering to your weaknesses'?
-The speaker means that a man should acknowledge and appreciate a woman's strengths while also providing support and care for her weaknesses, working together to improve and grow.
How does the speaker describe the process of a man letting a woman into his life?
-The speaker describes it as a process where a man, if truly in love, will let a woman into his vulnerabilities and struggles, seeking her help and showing trust in the relationship.
What is the speaker's proposed theme for a movie about a man's love for a woman?
-The speaker's proposed theme for a movie is to showcase the silent signs that a man is falling in love with his woman, focusing on the transition from friendship to love and the deep emotional connections formed.
Outlines
🎬 Realistic Love vs. Hollywood Romance
The speaker expresses a personal disconnect with traditional love stories and romantic movies, which they find unrealistic and often overly idealistic. They contrast these with real-life experiences of love, which include both beauty and ugliness. The speaker admires the deep love demonstrated by their uncle and late aunt, highlighting the genuine connection and commitment that transcends the superficial portrayals in media. The narrative emphasizes the silent signs of a man's deep love, such as disregarding others' opinions about his partner and prioritizing her needs over his own.
🤝 The Essence of True Love and Partnership
This paragraph delves into the silent signs of a man's love, focusing on the transition from friendly to protective actions and the importance of communication, commitment, and compromise. The speaker argues that a true relationship involves supporting each other's strengths while addressing weaknesses together. They stress the significance of a man's willingness to show vulnerability and the importance of mutual growth and understanding in a relationship. The speaker's intention to capture these profound aspects in a hypothetical movie is a testament to their belief in the transformative power of genuine love.
🌟 Overcoming Ego for Love's Sake
The final paragraph discusses the challenge men face in transitioning from friendship to romantic love, often due to societal expectations and personal pride. The speaker suggests that a man's willingness to move beyond this 'ego' and openly express his feelings is a significant step in acknowledging his love. They propose showcasing this transition in a movie to help viewers understand the complexities of male affection and the courage it takes to pursue a deeper connection.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Love Stories
💡Unrealistic
💡Journey
💡Marriage Relationship
💡Heartbreak
💡Silent Signs
💡Opinion
💡Need vs. Use
💡Big 3 C's
💡Strengths and Weaknesses
💡Vulnerabilities
💡Transition
Highlights
The speaker expresses a personal disinterest in unrealistic love stories often portrayed in movies.
Contrasts the often happy endings in romantic movies with the more complex and sometimes painful realities of love witnessed in life.
Shares a personal account of a deep and impactful love story between the speaker's uncle and aunt.
Describes the profound love between the uncle and his late wife, highlighting their strong bond and the legacy they created together.
Mentions the uncle's current struggle with heartbreak after the death of his wife, emphasizing the depth of their love.
Suggests that movies fail to capture the true essence of a man's love for his woman.
Proposes the idea of creating a movie or TV show to accurately depict a man's love, focusing on silent signs of falling in love.
Discusses the first silent sign of a man's love as disregarding others' opinions about his partner.
Explains that a man in love accepts and defends his woman against gossip and rumors.
Stresses the importance of not letting external negativity affect the love and unity in a relationship.
The second silent sign is treating a woman as a necessity rather than a convenience, showing genuine need and care.
Illustrates the difference between needing and using someone through the analogy of disposable items.
The 'Big 3 C's' - communication, commitment, and compromise - are identified as essential in a loving relationship.
Argues that a man in love will both celebrate and support his partner's strengths and weaknesses.
Describes the importance of a man catering to a woman's weaknesses as a sign of deep love and partnership.
Suggests that a man's willingness to let his partner into his vulnerabilities is a significant sign of love and trust.
Talks about the transition from friendly to protective actions and words as a man falls in love.
Believes that the proposed movie would provide insight into the male perspective on love and relationships.
Ends with a note of thanks and well-wishes, hoping the discussion helps viewers understand men's minds in love.
Transcripts
love stories I was never a big fan of
those love movies what do you call them
like uh hopeless romantic movies I could
never really get with them because they
just seem so unrealistic especially in
the eyes of a man most of them always
ended in a good way ended happily ever
after but a lot of the love I witnessed
in life did not end up like that the
journey was not always happy diddly I've
seen a lot of ugly things in
relationships and love but I've also
seen a lot of amazing things beautiful
things and love that a movie can never
touch or even show but in my opinion for
some reason movies just never
encapsulated the love that A man gives
shows and movies never really show the
true essence of a man's love for his
woman one of the greatest examples that
I've seen in my life when it comes to
love is the marriage relationship and
love that my uncle and Aunt the one I
talked about recently that just passed
away the love that they had from day one
to day now I witnessed such a great love
until the point that they past her
together together created a family
created a legacy and had a great impact
on me and relationships like that that
I've witnessed in my life is what I base
love on especially when it comes to my
uncle because right now he's suffering a
major heartbreak you know as you know my
aunt died his wife died so just imagine
that part of you just being torn apart
and just and going forever and I was
thinking to myself if I was to make a
movie on a man's love for a woman one
thing that I would talk about are the
silent signs that he has fallen in love
with his woman his Queen his forever
thing and if I was to make a movie or a
TV show the first thing that I would
talk about or show when it comes to a
man showing signs that he has fallen in
love with his Queen is that he no longer
cares about our opinion y'all opinion on
her I have witnessed this firsthand too
many times with the dudes in my life my
brothers my uncles my friends people
talk people going to talk and they have
heard rumors rumors and gossip and nay
saying about their woman each and every
one of them but one common thing that
they tell me is that I don't care I love
that because they are down for their
woman it has gotten to a point that they
are all in with their woman and it shows
in their acceptance of what other people
say about their woman because at the end
of the day what matters the most is what
he cares what he thinks about his woman
this world is sick man people are going
to try to break up your relationships
they're going to try to break up your
love and your marri marriages people are
jealous of you people are jealous of
good things happy things and as they say
misery loves company so they will do
their very best to break up your company
but you cannot break up that company
when you do not believe everything
someone says about your loved one when
you know your woman so much or you know
your partner so much and you are down
for them that much that the little
things people say could never break up
your big love I love seeing that another
thing that I would place in this movie
another silent sign that a man is has is
fallen in love with his woman is that I
will show that male actor and treat his
woman in this as a need and not a use
you see When a Man Loves a Woman a huge
silent sign is that she will feel needed
and not used you know when a man needs
his woman he shows it in his actions
even if he sucks with communication or
is not as well spoken the things he do
for you and to you will spell it out
because when you need something you take
care of that something which your last
last bit of energy life and everything
because you need this thing and without
this thing or this person you fear that
outcome you fear that vision of that
that loss but when you're using
something pay attention to this when
you're using something you're already
thinking about the future because when I
use something when you use something you
already have a replacement in mind like
when I use this paper plate to eat I got
another paper plate to use to replace
that or when I go to one of these you
know uh Mexican restaurants that want to
be stingy with the rice and
chicken know what I'm talking about and
I use one of the little plastic forks
there's tons of them there's there's
tons of extras of them because when I'm
done with that fork I can get another
Fork I'm using it I don't need it but
it's there for convenience men do not
treat their women as convenience when
they need them and going back to my
uncle when my aunt was alive every
action that he did in the church outside
of the church in our family gatherings
he did out of love and not just love I I
I want to emphasize on need he needed
her so bad so much and he showed that
and there's another thing another silent
sign that a man loves you that I would
love to put in this movie is to showcase
the Big 3 C's have you ever heard of
those the Big 3 C's well if you haven't
they are communication commitment and
compromise that Trinity got to be shown
in my movie in my series a man has to
present those three C's to you and not
only does he has to but he wants to like
I want to communicate to my love I I
want to compromise for my love I want to
commit to my love and I will do those
things because I love you right when
there's lacking and slacking in those
Seas it leaves a big hole there's a
gaping void and that gaping void will
become a black hole in your relationship
what else what else ah this is a good
one a silent sign that a man loves you
and I would have this male actor portray
this throughout the whole movie and
series is that he will cheer your
strengths but cater to your weaknesses
and there's no and or or these two
things are not separate this has to be
packaged together right A man should
cheer your strengths but cater to your
weakness so what does that mean
strengths are pretty easy to have to be
honest with you strengths your strengths
are easy to talk about they're easy to
boast and in my opinion you don't need
no more encouragement for that because
that is your strength you got that
locked down you you you've mastered that
probably you're good with those
strengths but the most important thing
is your weakness I'm I'm bigger to
sports and growing up in sports
throughout school and whatnot coaches
always told me you are as strong as the
weakest person or player on your team
now think about that you could have a
team of all great players but you are
only as strong or as good as the weakest
player on your team because in a team
everyone counts in a relationship both
of y'all count you cannot say that you
are doing good as a husband or a
boyfriend but your girlfriend or your
wife is struggling how could you say
that that's a major imbalance right so
what a real man is going to do he's
going to cater to your weakness he's not
going to pile on to your weaknesses he's
not going to criticize you for your
weaknesses he will keep you accountable
but keeping someone accountable is
totally different from criticizing let's
remember that part A real man is going
to work on your weaknesses and he's not
going to do it to you he's going to do
it with you you're going to help along
in this this is a process for both of
y'all and I know these things because I
I've seen these things I've witnessed it
all my life in the beautiful
relationships and love it is something
that I've always studied and been
interested about and one of the most
interesting parts of the relationships
and and the successful loves that I saw
is that there was always one partner
that was struggling more than the other
something was going on in that person's
life that one person's life that their
partner had to compromise communicate
and commit to they had to be there for
them they had to cater to their
weaknesses they had to feed them
encouragement and positivity because
it's not just all about strengths it's
about making you a better person and
making you a better person together
because making you a better person
together makes us better as a whole real
men know what I'm talking about and this
is going to be the the deep and profound
part of this movie I was to make a movie
about the silent signs that a man is
finally falling in love with his woman
and that is a man will let you in even
if his pride has a wall with bricks
thick as an elephant's leg eventually
he's going to let you in especially if
he has fallen in love with you and I've
seen this too he lets you into his
weaknesses he lets you into his
vulnerabilities he lets you into to the
things he struggles with he lets you
into to the scary parts about him and he
lets you in because he wants your help a
real man knows his weakness right and an
honest man knows the things that's
inside of his life or in his mind that
may hurt his woman and if he is willing
to let you in a big reason for that is
because he wants to tackle this thing
together it is it's hard to hide
struggles and demons especially when
you're becoming one with another when
you become one with another you take on
the traits of that other so if we going
to become one I need to let you know
some things right I need that man to
show that because that is what a man is
going to do when he is falling in love
with you if a man does that to you he
trusts you because some of the things
you might find out about him may be
shocking so if he's willing to show you
that part of him then he clearly has an
investment in you and hopefully it's an
healthy investment and one sign that I'm
going to talk about a silent sign that a
man has fallen in love with you that I
will probably put in the beginning of
this movie is that there is a transition
from friendliness to your mind the
actions go from friendly actions to
protective actions friendly Vibes and
energy to lover Vibes and energy and the
things he does say to you goes from
friendly type things to more intimate
and lovey Dy type say you're guys trying
to get out that friendship Bubble I
would definitely put that in the
beginning because that is a big step for
a man to take when he has fallen in love
with a woman is to actually simply put
show it showing it is super hard for a
lot of men because they know they have
to get out of that ego that they have
that Pride that they have that manist
that they have to show you that they
have a soft side for you that's a big
step and I've seen a lot of
relationships in my life where the
beginning part of their relationships
lasted so long because the Dude the guy
did not want to show his affection to
her he did not want to show that he fell
in a love with her cuz he was trying to
keep on this this this this aura or this
face and he was scared to show that he
wanted to be more than friends habit all
the time you know I think this movie
would be a hit what y'all think if your
guys SS the man ever did that y'all will
be the first to know but thank you for
watching this video hopefully it helps
some of y'all understand the Mind of Men
a little bit better peace and blessings
good
night
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