Porn Masturbation addiction Made oath not to watch but keeps falling back in same sin assim alhakeem

Summary

The video script discusses the challenges of overcoming personal sin, specifically the addiction to pornography, and emphasizes the importance of repentance and spiritual discipline. It explains the consequences of breaking an oath to Allah and outlines the steps for atonement, including feeding or clothing the poor or fasting. The speaker advises eliminating triggers, such as smartphones and computers, and filling one’s life with positive, faith-building activities. Ultimately, the message emphasizes personal responsibility, relying on Allah's mercy, and taking practical steps toward overcoming temptation through discipline, repentance, and seeking support from righteous companions.

Takeaways

• 😀 The speaker discusses a personal struggle with a sinful habit (watching pornography) and the emotional and psychological consequences (depression and feeling trapped).
• 😀 The speaker acknowledges the importance of breaking an oath made to Allah, which led to the worsening of their situation. Acknowledging this is seen as an important step toward redemption.
• 😀 When breaking an oath, there are specific consequences mentioned in the Quran, including three options for atonement: freeing a slave (not applicable today), feeding or clothing 10 poor Muslims, or fasting for three days.
• 😀 The speaker clarifies that the voluntary fasting done by the individual did not count as atonement because it was not connected to the broken oath in a proper way.
• 😀 The speaker stresses that everyone is tested on earth, and the habit of indulging in sin is viewed as a test from Allah, with the individual's choices determining their spiritual outcome.
• 😀 The speaker refutes the idea of being unable to stop the sinful behavior by comparing it to other dangerous, irrational actions (e.g., jumping off a building), emphasizing that control and willpower are key.
• 😀 Practical advice is given for eliminating temptation: removing smartphones and computers that enable access to harmful content, and using simpler phones with limited functions.
• 😀 Environmental control is suggested by having a PC screen positioned so that it faces the family and others, making it harder to access inappropriate material in privacy.
• 😀 The speaker encourages imagining the impact on family members (especially younger siblings or children) if they were to be exposed to such sins, emphasizing the long-term consequences.
• 😀 The speaker stresses that constant vigilance is required to avoid sinful behavior, suggesting the individual act as though they were being watched by Allah 24/7 and maintain fear and shame of Allah's judgment.
• 😀 Beyond avoiding sinful habits, the speaker emphasizes filling one's time with beneficial activities such as memorizing the Quran, studying Islamic knowledge, and surrounding oneself with righteous Muslim peers to reinforce good habits.

Q & A

What was the oath made by the individual in the transcript?

The individual made an oath to Allah to stop engaging in a sinful behavior, which is watching pornography. However, they broke this oath and continued the behavior for a period of time.

What was the impact of breaking the oath on the individual?

Breaking the oath led to feelings of guilt, depression, and a series of negative side effects, which the individual did not initially recognize as being related to the broken oath.

How does the Quran suggest making reparations for breaking an oath?

The Quran offers three options for expiation when an oath is broken: freeing a slave (which is no longer applicable today), feeding or clothing ten poor Muslims, or fasting for three days if the other two options are not financially feasible.

Why don't the three days of fasting count as an expiation for the broken oath?

The three days of fasting are voluntary days and do not count as an expiation unless the individual is unable to feed or clothe ten poor Muslims, which was not the case in this situation.

What analogy is used to emphasize that overcoming sin is within one's control?

The analogy compares the struggle to resist sin with the thought of jumping off a building. The speaker suggests that just as one wouldn't impulsively jump off a building, one should also resist the urge to indulge in sin by taking control of their actions.

What practical steps are suggested for eliminating access to pornography?

The advice includes eliminating devices such as smartphones, PDAs, and computers that facilitate access to pornography. One suggestion is to switch to a basic phone without internet capabilities, or to set up the computer in a family area where others can easily see the screen.

What is the importance of surrounding oneself with righteous Muslims?

Surrounding oneself with righteous, practicing Muslims is important because they can offer support, encouragement, and accountability. Being around people who share in positive habits can help replace the negative influences that might encourage sinful behavior.

How can someone fill their time with beneficial activities to overcome sin?

One suggestion is to engage in activities that bring one closer to Allah, such as memorizing the Quran, studying hadith, and engaging in acts of worship or charity. This helps to redirect focus and build a stronger connection to faith.

What does the speaker mean when they say 'there is no magical pill' to stop sinning?

The speaker emphasizes that overcoming sin requires personal effort, commitment, and discipline. There is no easy fix or quick solution, and the individual must take active steps to change their behavior and ask for Allah's guidance.

What is the overall message regarding repentance and overcoming sinful behavior?

The overall message is that while everyone is tested, it is possible to overcome sinful behavior through sincere repentance (Tawbah), making reparations for broken oaths, taking practical steps to avoid temptation, and surrounding oneself with positive influences. Allah is Merciful and will guide those who strive to improve.