Sex Therapist ANSWERS "What is Edging" Male MASTURBATION Techniques!

Summary

In this video, Amanda Pasciucco, a sex therapist known as 'the sex healer,' offers guidance on improving self-pleasure practices, especially for those who identify as male or have a penis. She discusses the impact of lifestyle choices on erections, the importance of altering one's relationship with porn, and exploring new techniques and body positions during self-pleasure. Additionally, Amanda emphasizes the significance of understanding the pelvic floor muscles and avoiding overly tight grips. The video encourages open conversations about pleasure and offers practical advice to enhance sexual health and satisfaction.

Takeaways

• 🔍 **Take Inventory**: Pay attention to lifestyle factors like diet, sleep, medications, and smoking that affect erections.
• 👫 **Communication**: Discuss new self-pleasure techniques with your partner to foster openness and mutual understanding.
• 🚫 **Alter Relationship with Porn**: Recognize that porn is entertainment and not a standard to measure real-life sexual experiences.
• 🎭 **Explore Alternatives**: Try listening to erotica or visiting nude beaches to diversify your sexual explorations.
• 💪 **Learn About PC Muscle**: Understand the importance of the pelvic floor muscles and seek professional guidance for appropriate exercises.
• 🤲 **Release the Death Grip**: Experiment with different hand positions and pressures to enhance self-pleasure experiences.
• 💧 **Use Lube**: Ensure to use lubricant for comfort and avoid cross-contamination between body areas without washing.
• 🎶 **Vary Tempo**: Experiment with different stroke speeds and pressures to find what feels best.
• 🧍 **Change Body Position**: Try different positions to discover new sensations and experiences.
• 📚 **Download the Guide**: Access the free pleasure practice e-guide for more tips on enhancing erections and orgasms.

Q & A

What is the main focus of Amanda Pasciucco's video?

The main focus of Amanda Pasciucco's video is to educate viewers, particularly males or those with a penis, on how to improve their self-pleasure practice.

What is Amanda Pasciucco's professional background?

Amanda Pasciucco is the owner and founder of a life coaching and therapy practice and is known as a sex healer.

What is the first tip Amanda gives for improving self-pleasure practice?

The first tip is to take inventory, which means paying attention to factors such as diet, medications, sleep, and lifestyle habits that can affect erectile tissue and sexual performance.

Why should someone inform their partner about trying new self-pleasure techniques?

Informing a partner about trying new self-pleasure techniques can foster open communication about pleasure and sexual health, and it allows the partner to also consider working on their own self-pleasure if they wish.

How does Amanda suggest altering one's relationship with porn?

Amanda suggests altering one's relationship with porn by recognizing it as entertainment and not a reflection of real-life sexual experiences. She also encourages exploring alternatives like listening to erotica or visiting places where nudity is accepted.

What is the importance of understanding the PC muscle according to the video?

Understanding the PC muscle is important because it plays a critical role in erection and ejaculation control. Amanda advises consulting a professional to determine the correct type of exercises for one's specific needs.

What does Amanda mean by 'releasing the death grip'?

Releasing the death grip refers to adjusting the tightness of one's grip during self-pleasure to explore different sensations and avoid overly tight or damaging pressure.

Why is it important to explore different body positions during self-pleasure?

Exploring different body positions can help diversify one's self-pleasure experience and potentially enhance sexual experiences with a partner by avoiding becoming fixed to a single approach.

What is the significance of using lube as mentioned in the video?

Using lube is significant for comfort and safety during self-pleasure, reducing friction and the risk of injury. It also enhances sensations.

How often does Amanda Pasciucco's channel release new videos?

Amanda Pasciucco's channel releases new videos every Wednesday at 9 p.m. Eastern Standard Time.

What is the purpose of the Pleasure Practice eGuide mentioned in the video?

The Pleasure Practice eGuide is a free resource designed to provide tips and techniques to help viewers achieve their desired types of erection, ejaculation, and orgasm.

Outlines

00:00

🔍 Self-Pleasure Practice for Men

Amanda Pasciucco, a life coach and sex therapist, introduces a video aimed at teaching men how to enhance their self-pleasure practice. She emphasizes the importance of taking inventory of lifestyle factors such as diet, sleep, medications, and body weight, as these can affect erectile tissue. Amanda encourages viewers to communicate with their partners about exploring new self-pleasure techniques, promoting open dialogue about pleasure. She also discusses the impact of pornography on self-pleasure, suggesting alternatives like listening to erotica or visiting nude beaches to foster a healthier relationship with one's body and sexuality.

05:04

💪 PC Muscle Awareness and Exploration Techniques

The second paragraph focuses on the importance of understanding and engaging the pelvic floor muscles, also known as the PC muscles, for better sexual health. Amanda clarifies that she is not a doctor but has learned from pelvic floor therapists about the varying needs for strengthening or relaxing these muscles. She advises viewers to seek professional guidance to determine the appropriate exercises. The paragraph also covers the need to release tight grips during masturbation, explore different hand positions, and consider the use of lubrication. Amanda suggests experimenting with stroke speed and pressure, as well as body positions, to diversify one's self-pleasure experience. She concludes by promoting a free e-guide for further tips on enhancing erections and orgasms.

Keywords

💡Self Pleasure

Self pleasure refers to the act of stimulating one's own body to achieve sexual pleasure. In the video, self pleasure is discussed as a practice that can be enhanced and improved, particularly for individuals who identify as male or have a penis. The script suggests that there is a need to step up one's self pleasure practice, indicating that it is an area where individuals can learn and grow.

💡Erections

Erections are the physiological response involving the enlargement and firmness of the penis due to sexual arousal. The video script emphasizes the importance of understanding one's erections in the context of self pleasure and sexual health. It is presented as a key aspect of male sexual function that can be influenced by various factors such as diet, exercise, and mental state.

💡Pleasure Practice Guide

The Pleasure Practice Guide mentioned in the script is presumably a resource designed to educate and guide individuals on how to improve their sexual pleasure practices. It is offered as a tool for those who wish to learn more about enhancing their self pleasure experiences, suggesting that there is a methodical approach to sexual pleasure that can be learned and applied.

💡Sex Education

Sex education in the context of the video refers to the instruction and information about human sexuality, which is contrasted with the easily accessible but often unrealistic portrayals of sex found in pornography. The script suggests that good sex education is harder to find than porn and is crucial for understanding real-life sexual experiences and expectations.

💡Porn

Pornography, or 'porn', is used in the script to describe sexually explicit material that is often consumed for entertainment. The video discusses the negative impact of porn on individuals' perceptions of sex and their own sexual performance, encouraging viewers to alter their relationship with porn and seek more realistic forms of sexual education.

💡PC Muscle

The PC muscle, or pubococcygeus muscle, is a part of the pelvic floor and plays a significant role in sexual function, particularly in controlling ejaculation and urinary continence. The script advises learning about the PC muscle as part of self pleasure practice, indicating that understanding and exercising this muscle can lead to better sexual experiences.

💡Kegels

Kegel exercises are a set of physical exercises designed to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles, which can enhance sexual performance and urinary control. The video script cautions that not everyone should perform Kegel exercises in the same way, as some individuals may need to focus on relaxing rather than tightening these muscles.

💡Death Grip

The term 'death grip' in the script metaphorically describes an overly tight grip during masturbation. The video suggests releasing this tight grip and exploring different hand positions and pressures to diversify one's self pleasure practice and prevent potential harm or numbness.

💡Lube

Lubrication, or 'lube', is a substance used to reduce friction during sexual activities, including masturbation. The script emphasizes the importance of using lube to enhance pleasure and comfort during self pleasure, as well as to ensure cleanliness and safety when exploring different erogenous zones.

💡Body Position

Body position in the context of the video refers to the physical postures one might adopt during self pleasure. The script encourages experimenting with different positions, such as sitting, lying down, or standing, to vary the self pleasure experience and potentially discover new sensations or techniques.

💡Ejaculation

Ejaculation is the release of semen from the penis, typically accompanied by orgasm. The video script discusses the importance of understanding the connection between one's body, erections, and ejaculation, suggesting that through self pleasure practice, individuals can learn to control and optimize their ejaculatory responses.

Highlights

Learn how to enhance your self-pleasure practice, especially for those who identify as male or have a penis.

Get a free pleasure practice guide by staying tuned till the end of the video.

Amanda Pasciucco, a sex therapist and founder of life coaching, shares her expertise on self-pleasure.

Take inventory of lifestyle factors affecting erectile tissue health.

Consider discussing new self-pleasure techniques with your partner.

Alter your relationship with porn to reflect the realities of sex and intimacy.

Explore alternatives to porn for a healthier sexual mindset.

Consider visiting nude beaches or clothing-optional retreats to normalize diverse body types.

Learn about the importance of the PC muscle for sexual health.

Understand the difference between strengthening and relaxing PC muscles.

Consider professional guidance for the right pelvic floor exercises.

Release the 'death grip' during masturbation to explore different sensations.

Experiment with different hand positions and techniques for self-pleasure.

Use lube and maintain hygiene when exploring different erogenous zones.

Vary stroke speed and pressure to enhance self-pleasure experiences.

Change body positions during self-pleasure to find what feels best.

Download the free pleasure practice e-guide for more tips on improving sexual experiences.

Stay updated with new videos every Wednesday at 9 p.m. Eastern Standard Time.

Follow the channel on social media for more insights into sex education and therapy.

Transcripts

by the end of this video you're gonna learn how  to step up your self pleasure practice this is  

especially for you who identify as male or have a  penis stay tuned till the end of the video to find  

out how to get your pleasure practice guide if you  want to know more about why we believe pleasure is  

healing please click like subscribe and hit the  bell so you can get our new videos every week  

I'm Amanda Pasciucco. I'm the owner and founder  of life coaching and therapy and I'm known as  

the sex healer I'm gonna teach you what I taught  hundreds of others about their erections and how  

to get the most out of their self pleasure  practice my first tip is take inventory so  

what does that mean notice what you eat drink the  medications you're taking how you're sleeping all  

of these things do affect directions the amount  of weight that you have on your body the amount  

that you smoke these things do affect the erectile  tissue in the body also the techniques that you're  

going to learn in this video could affect you if  you have a partner so if you do have a partner  

who you are either monogamous or in an open  relationship with feel free to tell them that  

you're gonna try new self-pleasure techniques I  know that's kind of odd but there is no shame in  

talking about pleasure we are taught to believe  that there is however if you take some time and  

really think about it your relationship with your  body and your partner's relationship with their  

body when you guys are really fulfilled from self  to self you can have a much better engagement from  

one to the other so let's not hide the fact that  we're upping and changing our ability to maintain  

our pleasure in our erections it also gives your  partner the ability to decide if they want to work  

on self pleasure too next step we have to alter  the relationship with porn porn is so easily found  

and it's much harder to find good sex education  than it is to just get a porn video so porn is  

entertainment it isn't real it takes hours to  prep for the few minutes of a that you see in  

real life there is sometimes hair there are smells  there are liquid sounds there embarrassments there  

are emotions that come up intensity fun desire  arguments crying periods different things happen  

and that's real life so when you're comparing  yourself to the body or the type of sex that the  

porn stars are having please remember that this is  for entertainment purposes this is not real please  

don't feel bad about yourself and start having  body shame because you're not measuring up to  

those around you that you're seeing in these porn  scripts one of my favorite tips and techniques  

that I'm going to give you is alter your  relationship with porn if you constantly watch  

porn why not try to do something else perhaps  listen to erotica perhaps if you have a partner  

ask them to record something that sounds really  sensual for you to listen to start using your mind  

and fantasy in a new way if you're really brave  maybe go to a place where there are other nude  

people who are consenting around you nude beaches  clothing optional retreats there are actual places  

where people do this and maybe that would help  you see that there are a range of different body  

types and all body types and all consenting  adults are able to practice sexuality to the  

amount that they feel safe and comfortable what's  your favorite erotic tip that doesn't have to do  

with visualizing another partner or visualizing a  fantasy at all is there anything that you do that  

really engages the body or the mind please share  it with us in the comments below next tip learn  

about the PC muscle so I am NOT a doctor I am a  sex therapist there are amazing people trained  

that are pelvic floor physical therapists I have  gone to one I believe I have the best pelvic floor  

therapists in the world so great and has taught me  so much but what I think is most important about  

this for all individuals is that some people's  PC muscles are weakened because of masturbation  

or because of sitting and how their body moves all  day and some people their PC muscles are too tight  

and strained so therefore when you hear people say  oh do your kegels do your kegels be certain that  

you know what side you're on because if you're  doing your kegels to tighten the muscles and  

you're one of those people who are already tight  and strained to begin with really the working  

that you need to be doing is on the relaxing so  not everyone is the same I would say outsource  

that and find someone who's a professional  to let you know what type of exercises you  

need to be doing but this is important getting  these muscles engaged and understanding how to  

use them is critical for being able to understand  the connection between your body the erection and  

then the ejaculation next tip release the death  grip some people grip so tight that no orifice  

of another human is as tight as the fists that you  are making so release the death grip try different  

ways if you usually do it like this turn your hand  this way if you often hold one hand and the other  

one is down here try to go on the top there are  a bunch of nerve endings in the perineum and the  

anus please be sure to explore use Lube and please  don't take things that are from the anus area and  

move them to the genitals without washing your  hands in between and we want to make sure that  

we are not spreading different areas to other  areas so that we cause any concerns be sure to  

think about the stroke speed not only going hard  and fast but what about slow and soft what about  

slow and hard what about fast and soft there are  different tempos and different pressures and those  

are things that you ought to be considering to  calibrate finally body position if you often lay  

down I suggest that you sit up if you often sit  possibly lay down if you kneel maybe stand if  

you often stand why not kneel if you stand looking  into a corner why not stand looking in the mirror  

if you usually do it in the shower why not try it  dry there are many different ways to toss things  

up and the idea here is that we're not going to  stick with one way of reaching pleasure because  

if we only use one approach we are not going  to be able to mimic or get this approach and  

technique with our partner so if you want tips on  how to get your erection to give you the types of  

ejaculation and orgasm that you're looking for  please download our pleasure practice eguide. it  

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