The EASY Way to Text Girls on Tinder, Hinge or Bumble

Summary

This video script offers a comprehensive guide to improving online dating success by optimizing messaging strategies. It emphasizes the importance of creating attraction, comfort, and commitment within a few text exchanges to secure a date. The speaker shares a 22-year-tested strategy, debunks the myth of needing extensive online connection before meeting, and illustrates the process with a practical example from a dating app. The goal is to efficiently transition from app interaction to real-life dating by skillfully navigating conversations and avoiding common pitfalls.

Takeaways

• 📈 Improve Messaging: Small tweaks in messaging can significantly increase the number of dates obtained from dating apps.
• 🤔 Common Mistakes: Many men struggle with messaging, losing potential dates due to ineffective communication strategies.
• 🔑 Good Messaging: Effective messaging is simple and purposeful, each text moving the conversation closer to a desired outcome.
• 📝 Strategy Overview: The speaker has a 22-year-old online dating strategy that continually improves and refines over time.
• 🚫 Avoid Prolonged Messaging: Long conversations without making plans can lead to inactivity or being seen as 'just a friend'.
• 🤝 Building Blocks: To successfully transition from online to offline, one must establish attraction, comfort, and commitment.
• 📞 Final Message: The ultimate goal of messaging is to lead to a simple and direct exchange of contact information to plan a date.
• 💡 Early Mention of Plans: Introducing the concept of a date early in the conversation prevents it from feeling sudden or pressured.
• 🔄 Interaction Dynamics: The order of building attraction, comfort, and commitment may vary, but it often follows a specific sequence for effectiveness.
• 📉 Risk of Delay: Delaying the close after establishing necessary elements can lead to boredom, loss of momentum, and competition from other suitors.
• 🔗 We Formation: The use of 'we' in conversation indicates a sense of togetherness and is a strong sign towards commitment and comfort.

Q & A

What is the main claim made in the video script about online dating messaging?

The main claim is that by making a few small tweaks in messaging, one can increase the number of dates obtained from apps like Hinge, Bumble, Tinder, and Match.com by five to ten times.

According to the script, what percentage of potential dates are typically lost due to poor messaging?

The script suggests that 80 to 90 percent of potential dates are lost because of ineffective messaging.

What is the speaker's strategy for moving a conversation from an online dating app to an offline date?

The speaker's strategy involves establishing attraction, comfort, and commitment within four to seven texts before suggesting to exchange phone numbers and plan a date.

What are the three elements a girl needs to feel before she's ready to meet offline, according to the script?

The three elements are attraction, comfort, and commitment.

How does the speaker define 'attraction' in the context of online dating messaging?

In the context of online dating, 'attraction' means being perceived as an attractive, fun, and high-value individual who is direct and assertive, without resorting to flattery or persuasion.

What does 'comfort' signify in the online dating messaging process described in the script?

'Comfort' signifies that the girl has enough knowledge about the person to feel at ease and not be concerned about meeting a 'total weirdo' or someone potentially unsafe.

What is the importance of 'commitment' in the speaker's messaging strategy?

'Commitment' is important because it means that the idea of meeting and making plans has already been introduced and agreed upon before the actual close of the conversation, preventing it from being a surprise or causing pressure.

What is the final message the speaker plans to send to a girl when initiating a conversation on an online dating app?

The final message is a simple and direct request for the girl's phone number, phrased as 'Sounds good. My number's [number], what's yours?'

How does the speaker use the concept of 'we' in the conversation to build comfort and commitment?

The speaker uses 'we' to create a sense of a shared entity between the two individuals, implying a connection and mutual understanding, which helps build comfort and a sense of commitment.

Can you provide an example from the script where the speaker uses humor and playfulness to establish attraction?

An example is when the speaker messages a girl saying, 'I feel like you copied off my paper for this test,' using humor and a playful tone to get her attention and establish attraction.

What is the significance of the phrase 'challenge accepted' used by the girl in the example provided?

The phrase 'challenge accepted' signifies that the girl is willing to meet the speaker's standards and is ready to take on the challenge of going on a date, indicating a positive level of attraction, comfort, and commitment.