Tonality & Body Language | Jordan Belfort
Summary
TLDREl guion habla sobre la importancia de controlar la conversación en ventas, enfatizando la necesidad de mostrarse agudo, entusiasta y como un experto en el campo en los primeros cuatro segundos. Se discute la influencia de la tonalidad y el lenguaje corporal en la comunicación efectiva, destacando que el 90% de la comunicación depende de estos elementos, mientras que las palabras solo representan el 10% restante.
Takeaways
- 🗣️ La importancia de controlar la conversación en los primeros segundos para influir en la interacción.
- 🔍 En los primeros cuatro segundos, es crucial establecer ser agudo, entusiasta y un experto en el campo.
- 📈 El tono de voz es fundamental para transmitir seguridad y confianza, y debe ser utilizado de manera intencional.
- 💬 La comunicación no verbal, como el lenguaje corporal, es tan importante como el tono de voz y representa el 90% de la interacción.
- 🤝 La empatía y el cuidado hacia la otra persona son esenciales para establecer una conexión y generar confianza.
- 👥 La percepción de ser similar al prospecto es clave para establecer una conexión y hacer que se sienta cómodo.
- 🎯 La influencia se puede aumentar mediante la utilización de tonos específicos que refuerzan la convicción y la sinceridad.
- 👩⚕️ Ejemplos como médicos y peluqueros ilustran cómo la experiencia y la percepción de ser un experto son cruciales para la confianza del cliente.
- 💼 La habilidad de vender no solo depende de las palabras, sino también de la manera en que se transmiten a través del tono y el lenguaje corporal.
- 🌟 La carisma es una habilidad aprendible que se compone de un tono efectivo, un lenguaje corporal apropiado y cuidado en el uso de las palabras.
Q & A
¿Qué momento mágico se describe en el guion?
-El momento mágico se describe cuando el hablante observa a sus 12 hombres y nota que están desalentados y desarmados, lo que le lleva a darse cuenta de la importancia de su forma de hablar y cómo influye en la dinámica de la conversación.
¿Qué frase utiliza el hablante para describir la reacción de sus hombres?
-El hablante utiliza la frase 'the phrase goes' para describir la reacción de sus hombres, aunque el guion no proporciona la frase completa.
¿Qué importancia tiene el control de la conversación en la influencia?
-El control de la conversación es crucial en la influencia, ya que permite al hablante tomar el liderazgo y guiar la interacción de manera efectiva, lo que es fundamental para influir en los demás.
¿Cuáles son los tres aspectos que se deben establecer en los primeros cuatro segundos de una conversación según el guion?
-Según el guion, en los primeros cuatro segundos de una conversación se deben establecer: ser percibido como perspicaz (sharp as a tack), estar entusiasmado (enthusiastic as hell) y ser percibido como un experto en el campo (an expert in your field).
¿Qué rol juega el entusiasmo en la influencia?
-El entusiasmo juega un papel fundamental en la influencia, ya que comunica una urgencia y una pasión por lo que se está discutiendo, lo que puede hacer que los demás se sientan más inclinados a confiar en el hablante.
¿Qué es lo que el hablante sugiere que las personas hagan al principio de una conversación para establecer su autoridad?
-El hablante sugiere que para establecer autoridad al principio de una conversación, es importante hablar con tonalidad y utilizar el lenguaje corporal de manera efectiva, más que el uso de palabras específicas.
¿Qué es la tonalidad y por qué es importante en la comunicación?
-La tonalidad es el tono o el matiz que se utiliza al hablar, y es importante en la comunicación porque puede transmitir certeza, sinceridad o razonabilidad, lo que puede hacer que el mensaje sea más persuasivo y efectivo.
¿Cuáles son los elementos clave para establecer una conexión de confianza con alguien según el guion?
-Según el guion, para establecer una conexión de confianza se deben hacer sentir que se les cuida (cuidado) y que hay una conexión personal o empatía ('I'm just like you').
¿Qué importancia tienen las palabras en comparación con la tonalidad y el lenguaje corporal en la comunicación?
-Según el guion, las palabras representan solo el 10% de la comunicación, mientras que la tonalidad y el lenguaje corporal son mucho más importantes, representando el 90% del impacto total en la comunicación.
¿Qué es el carisma según el guion y cómo se puede aprender?
-El carisma, según el guion, es una habilidad que se puede aprender y se compone de tres elementos: una tonalidad efectiva, un lenguaje corporal apropiado y evitar decir cosas estúpidas.
¿Por qué es importante evitar decir cosas estúpidas en una negociación o venta?
-Evitar decir cosas estúpidas es importante en una negociación o venta porque puede minar la confianza y la autoridad del hablante, lo que podría afectar negativamente el resultado de la interacción.
Outlines
🗣️ Control de la conversación y percepción de experticia
El primer párrafo enfatiza la importancia de controlar la conversación en los primeros segundos para influir en los demás. Se menciona que es crucial ser percibido como un experto en el campo, mostrar entusiasmo y estar preparado. La clave para lograr esto no es solo en las palabras, sino en la tonalidad y el lenguaje corporal. El autor comparte que esta habilidad fue enseñada a Danny, quien era un vendedor natural. Además, resalta que la influencia se logra al tomar el control de la conversación, pero no necesariamente haciendo todo el hablar. En cambio, se debe hacer preguntas inteligentes para que el prospecto hable y se recoja información valiosa. La tonalidad es un elemento crítico para la comunicación y la persuasión, y el autor sugiere que se pueden utilizar diferentes tonos para transmitir certeza, sinceridad o razonabilidad.
🤝 Establecer una conexión y empatía
El segundo párrafo se centra en la creación de una conexión con la persona a la que se está hablando, lo cual es fundamental para la influencia. Se destaca que la comunicación no solo depende de las palabras, sino también de la tonalidad y el lenguaje corporal. Estas dos últimas son las que conforman el 90% de la comunicación, siendo la tonalidad y el lenguaje corporal los más importantes. El autor explica que la empatía y la conexión se logran a través de la tonalidad y el lenguaje corporal, y que es esencial que el prospecto sienta que se le cuida y que hay una similitud entre él y el vendedor. Además, se menciona que la carisma es una habilidad aprendible que se compone de una tonalidad efectiva, un lenguaje corporal apropiado y la importancia de evitar decir cosas estúpidas que puedan perjudicar la relación o la venta.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡influencia
💡tonalidad
💡experto
💡entusiasmo
💡comunicación no verbal
💡rapport
💡palabras
💡seguridad
💡conciencia
💡conexión
Highlights
The importance of establishing control in the first few seconds of a conversation.
The necessity of appearing sharp, enthusiastic, and an expert in your field within the first four seconds.
The concept that controlling a conversation doesn't mean doing all the talking, but rather asking smart questions to gather intelligence.
The role of tonality in influencing and persuading others.
How certain tones can be used intentionally to enhance persuasiveness.
The idea that tonality and body language make up 90% of communication, with words only accounting for 10%.
The significance of body language in conveying authority and expertise.
The impact of Bill Clinton's empathetic body language and tonality on public perception.
The process of making unconscious communication patterns conscious to improve influence.
The three core elements of charisma: effective tonality, appropriate body language, and avoiding saying stupid things.
The importance of making the prospect feel cared for and understood.
The need to establish a sense of commonality and connection with the prospect.
The idea that people make snap judgments based on initial impressions and communication.
The strategy of using tonality to make the listener consider the speaker's true meaning.
The concept that words alone are not enough; tonality and body language are crucial for effective communication.
The emphasis on the importance of appearing sharp and enthusiastic to gain trust and influence.
The role of expertise in building credibility and influencing decisions.
Transcripts
here's the deal the magic moment was
when I looked at my 12 men Drake's as
the phrase goes and they were they were
so disheartened over what it was going
on they were disarmed they couldn't
close rich people I could Danny could
before that we'll be closing average
moms and pops and I realized what was
happening and I realized in this one
moment that I had a certain way of
speaking that I had taught to Danny
because Danny was a natural salesman it
was a way of speaking that was allowing
me to immediately take control of the
conversation at the heart of all
influence once you learned to control
the linguistic encounter you'll be
shocked at how easy it is to influence
now I'm not saying that when you control
a listing Cather you're doing the
talking that's not what I mean in fact
it's the opposite when you're in control
you're asking very smart questions and
it's the prospect that's doing the
talking you're gathering intelligence
but in those first few seconds when you
open up your mouth you got four seconds
and it in those first four seconds if in
those first four seconds that's a brain
fart right in those first four seconds
you don't establish three things let me
tell you what they are you got four
seconds of a conversation four seconds
you got to establish number one that you
are sharp as a tack sharp is attack it's
got to come out right away
number two that you're enthusiastic as
hell enthusiastic as hell and number
three and I said it before I'm gonna say
ten more times and I'll make you say it
out loud you got to be perceived as an
expert in your field as what
or what you want to receive as an expert
sell you an expert what's the word you
gotta be perceived as an expert you got
four seconds to progressive sharp on the
ball enthusiastic it must be good
nothing sells like enthusiasm and don't
say all people
I'm not talk about oh my god not not
that enthusiasm like it's so great no
I'm talking about 'old enthusiasm
enthusiasm that's just below the surface
it's a certain way of talking with a bit
of urgency in your voice that says wow
that [ __ ] must be good it's not yelling
and flailing your arms not like a [ __ ]
so I don't mean that sharp is attack
enthusiastic as hell an expert in your
field we want to do business with
experts you get hurt you gotta go to a
doctor who do you want to go through the
guy who graduated yesterday from Medical
School was a guy who's been doing it for
20 years which 120 r--'s which one an
expert bingo
you go get a haircut before an important
occasion who you're going through the
guy who just graduated from beauty
school or the professional hair cutter
which one the pro professional experts
authority figures it's a sad thing
our parents my mother your mom your dad
our parents told us don't judge books by
their covers who heard that they did and
so the way we do human beings judge
books by their covers we make snap
decisions we see someone we size them up
we rip them apart put them back through
them boom
either they're you know on the ball and
perceive the right way an authority
figure an expert or they're a dullard
like sharp is attack enthusiastic as
hell an expert in your field you got
four seconds to do it and how can you do
it in four seconds well it's not the
words I mean think about it what words
could you really say in four seconds hey
Jonathan mom sobs doesn't it say what
the [ __ ] is wrong with this guy he's
nuts there are no words no magic words
there
right words to say but how you really
allow that to come across how that comes
across is two ways and the first is
through something called tonality your
tonality there are certain tones that we
use now in human communication in
matters of influence there are ten that
we use again and again and again and
your watch we do it all night long
whether it's or I talk with certainty or
I talk with sincerity or I say well you
know it's a pretty reasonable thing to
do and the reasonable man tone is all in
certain tones that when you use them at
the right time see right now use them by
accident you like when you talk if you
feel certain you talk certain you can
actually use these tone on purpose
and you become incredibly persuasive
just by that alone because when you use
the right tonality while you're speaking
and this is true of everybody as I speak
you will narrate against me you'll say
what the [ __ ] this guy is is that true
now I agree
but if I speak without tonality you'll
start that married if I use tonality
you'll zero in say what does he really
mean by that you start to hook into my
tonality and you give me control it
gives me control when I speak if I spoke
like this Vic all might be out you'd be
talking in your own head but when I put
the tonality on it force you to
unconsciously consider what do I really
mean what's it really trying to say we
try to give meaning to the tonality that
makes sense yes it happens through
tonality and when you're in person
through body language certain ways we
move our body how we stand how we shake
ends our eye contact not just how we
move our body but how we listen to other
people Bill Clinton President Clinton
was the best he would lie to us we love
them anyway because for that second when
we saw him you'd be like I feel your
pain he had this he was like great with
getting into what's called what raw
boom say the word what's the word louder
what's the word
ah the essence of all influence you take
control the conversation and then you
must get into rapport you must get into
rapport with the person and how do you
do that well there's two things that
must come across let me tell you what
they are
rapport is based on two core elements
number one the prospect in his heart of
hearts unconsciously he must be saying
you care that you care about him that is
something in your tone and empathetic
sympathetic tone your body language your
facial expressions and your words
because let's talk about communication
as a whole there's three types you have
tonality and you have body language
which by the way watch the the I'll go
over here let me just give you the
division here tonality and body language
make up about 90% you value this is 45%
tonality 45% body language and then 10%
is the words and there's different
numbers based on which study you read
but they're all around the same totality
and body language is the bulk of
communication the words are easy on a
silver platter your hands - when the
words they can memorize in a very simple
language pads but what really influences
what people don't get is that tonality
and bucks a load of my voice is
important this is really a tonality in
body language look at my hands the way
it's just it's so it's ingrained in Who
I am at this point of my life but when
you just start doing this what I do is
that you make what's unconscious in your
con as soon as it becomes conscious -
you start to implement and this is the
unconscious part of the straight line
it's really really powerful so you have
tonality you have body language and the
words and you know we hear about this
thing about you know charisma Jordan's
got Christmas he's got massive charisma
oh she does it in there and people say
that black I don't have charisma that's
a duck like mentality charisma is an
entirely learn herbal skill won't know
what it is how you do it
charisma is made for three things
effective tonality it's number one to
appropriate body language to number
three not sing stupid [ __ ]
that's the third part which could be the
hardest part of all for a Salesman
especially especially once they start
getting further down the line meaning as
a sale goes on which is why we do pay a
lot of attention to the words that we
say we want to make sure that we
understand what our language patterns
are how you accomplish things we need to
accomplish in a sales or negotiation you
don't want to say stupid things right
number one they must think we care and
we should care by the way because you
know you're crazy if you don't want you
know trying to hurt someone number two
is I'm just like you then on some level
they just feel there's a commonality
that I'm just like you they feel a
connection
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