What to Do When He Says He's Not Ready for a Relationship

Summary

Relationship coach Amy North from Vancouver discusses how to handle a situation where the guy you're interested in isn't ready for a relationship. She advises against begging or trying to persuade him, suggesting instead to sympathize and encourage him to take time for himself. This approach makes you appear understanding and self-respecting, which can make him reconsider his stance. For more tips on winning men over, Amy recommends visiting her site and subscribing to her channel for additional dating advice.

Takeaways

• 💡 When a guy says he's not ready for a relationship, it usually means he doesn't want to give up his single lifestyle.
• 🕒 There are situations where his reasons may seem more justified, such as having a busy schedule or still being affected by a previous relationship.
• 🙅‍♀️ Begging, pleading, or trying to talk him into a relationship won't work and may make you appear desperate or manipulative.
• 🤝 Sympathize with him and agree with his decision to not be in a relationship, but do so with poise and understanding.
• 🗣️ Suggest that he takes time for himself to figure out what he wants and express your support for his happiness.
• 👍 Show that you respect yourself and won't wait around indefinitely by stating your need for someone who is certain they want to be with you.
• 💪 This approach can make him realize your value and reconsider his decision about being in a relationship.
• ❗ By encouraging him to be alone, you make the idea less attractive to him, which might make him rethink his stance.
• ❤️ Demonstrating care for his wants and needs, while also showing self-respect, can make him see you as someone special.
• 🌐 For more tips and specific phrases to make men desire you, visit Amy North's website and check out her devotion sequences.

Q & A

Who is Amy North and what is her profession?

Amy North is a relationship coach from Vancouver, BC, and the author of the Devotion System.

What is the main topic discussed in the video?

The main topic discussed is what to do when a guy says he’s not ready for a relationship.

What are some common reasons why a guy might say he's not ready for a relationship?

Common reasons include not wanting to give up his single lifestyle, having a busy schedule, or not being completely over a previous relationship.

What approach does Amy North suggest avoiding when trying to change a guy's mind about a relationship?

She suggests avoiding begging, pleading, having a negative attitude, harsh words, or trying to talk him into a relationship as these can make you look desperate or manipulative.

What is Amy North's recommended response when a guy says he's not ready for a relationship?

She recommends agreeing with him and encouraging him to take time for himself, expressing understanding and support for his happiness, while also making it clear that you want someone who is certain they want to be with you.

Why does Amy North believe that encouraging a guy to take time for himself can be effective?

Encouraging him to take time for himself can make him question whether being alone is really what he wants and can make him realize that he has found someone special who genuinely cares about his happiness.

How can showing self-respect and not waiting around for him influence his decision?

It shows that you love and respect yourself too much to settle for less, which can make him realize that unless he commits, someone else might, thereby increasing his desire to be with you.

What does Amy North suggest viewers visit her website for?

She suggests visiting her website, www.coachnorth.com, to watch a free video presentation and learn about her devotion sequences, which are sets of words designed to make men wild with desire.

What additional resources does Amy North offer on her YouTube channel?

She offers other dating advice videos and encourages viewers to subscribe to her channel and check out this additional content.

How does Amy North suggest viewers can support her content creation?

Viewers can support her by subscribing to her channel, watching her videos, and providing feedback and questions in the comments section.

Outlines

00:00

🌟 Introduction to Amy North and Relationship Advice

Amy North introduces herself as a relationship coach from Vancouver, BC, and the author of the Devotion System. She sets the stage for discussing a common issue women face: when a man says he’s not ready for a relationship. Amy emphasizes the importance of knowing how to handle this situation to potentially make him ready for a relationship and strengthen the bond.

🔍 Understanding Why He Might Not Be Ready

Amy explains that often, when a man says he’s not ready for a relationship, it’s because he doesn’t want to give up his single lifestyle. She acknowledges other reasons like a busy schedule or lingering feelings from a past relationship. Regardless of the reason, she stresses the need to change his mind without begging, pleading, or using negative attitudes.

💡 Effective Strategies to Change His Mind

Amy advises against trying to talk a man into a relationship, as it can make him feel manipulated. Instead, she suggests sympathizing with him and encouraging him to take time for himself. This approach makes him realize his reasons for not wanting a relationship may not be as compelling, and he may start to see the value in committing.

🗣️ The Power of Agreeing with Him

She provides an example of how to respond when he says he’s not ready for a relationship. By agreeing with him and showing understanding, it can make him feel valued and respected. This response can make him question his decision and appreciate your care for his happiness, potentially leading him to reconsider his stance.

💪 Empowering Yourself While Encouraging Him

Amy highlights the importance of showing that you won’t wait around for him indefinitely. Letting him know you want to be with someone who is certain about being with you demonstrates self-respect and can motivate him to commit before someone else does.

🌐 Additional Resources for Winning Him Over

Amy invites viewers to visit her website for more helpful phrases and techniques to win a man over. She promotes her devotion sequences, designed to make men desire women more intensely.

🎬 Conclusion and Call to Action

In the conclusion, Amy thanks her viewers, encourages them to subscribe to her channel, and check out her other dating advice videos. She invites questions and feedback in the comments section and promises to respond as soon as possible, signing off with well wishes.

Keywords

💡relationship

A relationship is a connection or association between two people, typically romantic in this context. The video's main theme revolves around dealing with a potential partner who is not ready for a relationship. The concept is explored through advice on how to handle such a situation without appearing desperate.

💡commitment

Commitment refers to the state of being dedicated to a cause or activity, in this case, a romantic relationship. The video addresses the issue of men not being ready to commit and provides strategies to encourage commitment without pressure or manipulation.

💡single lifestyle

Single lifestyle is the way of living that involves being unmarried and without a long-term partner. The video suggests that men often avoid relationships to maintain their single lifestyle, which they may find more attractive or less burdensome.

💡sympathize

To sympathize means to share or understand the feelings of another. The video advises women to sympathize with a man's reasons for not wanting a relationship, showing understanding and support rather than trying to pressure him.

💡self-respect

Self-respect is the regard for one's own standing or position. The video emphasizes the importance of self-respect, suggesting that women should communicate their need for a committed partner and not settle for someone who is unsure.

💡manipulate

To manipulate means to control or influence someone in a skillful but often unfair or deceitful way. The video warns against trying to manipulate a man into a relationship, as this can backfire and cause him to run away.

💡agreeable

Being agreeable involves being pleasant and willing to agree with others. The video suggests that women should be agreeable and supportive when a man says he is not ready for a relationship, as this can make him more likely to reconsider his stance.

💡devotion sequences

Devotion sequences are specific sets of words designed to make men desire a deeper connection. The video mentions these sequences as a tool to help women win over men, indicating they are part of the advice and techniques offered by the speaker.

💡poise

Poise refers to graceful and elegant bearing in a person. The video advises women to handle the situation with poise, maintaining dignity and calmness while discussing the man's reluctance to commit.

💡empathy

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. While not explicitly mentioned, the concept of empathy underlies the advice to sympathize with the man's feelings and to support him in his need for space, thereby fostering a more genuine connection.

Highlights

Meeting someone who feels like 'the one' but isn't ready for a relationship.

Amy North is a relationship coach and author of the Devotion System.

Common scenario: a guy saying he's not ready to commit.

Importance of handling the situation properly to make him ready for a relationship.

Understanding that most men who say they're not ready don't want to give up their single lifestyle.

Recognizing justifiable reasons like a busy schedule or not being over a previous relationship.

Avoid begging, pleading, or having a negative attitude as it won't make him commit.

Sympathize with him, but avoid making it a pity party to keep his reasons from seeming legitimate.

Agree with his need for space and encourage it with a poised response.

Example response: 'It seems like you need to be on your own for a while to figure out what you want.'

Such a response shows you care about his happiness and demonstrates self-respect.

Encouraging him to take time for himself may make him question if it's a good idea.

Letting him know you won't wait around shows self-respect and could make him realize he might lose you.

Mentioning that someone else might scoop you up if he doesn't act.

Invitation to visit www.coachnorth.com for more helpful phrases and devotion sequences.

Closing with an invitation to subscribe, comment, and check out other dating advice videos.

Transcripts

So you’ve met this guy and you can’t help but think that he may be “the one.”

The only problem is he says he’s not ready for a relationship.

What should you do?

Hey ladies, Amy North here, welcome to my channel.

For those of you who don’t know me I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver, BC and

author of the Devotion System, a program I’ve designed to help women find and lock down

the love they want and deserve.

Now today I want to talk about something that I get asked often, and that’s what to do

when the guy you’re into isn’t ready to commit.

Unfortunately this happens more than you may imagine, which is why knowing how to deal

with this kind of situation is so important.

When done properly you can not only make him ready for a relationship, but it can strengthen

your bond to boot!

So, how can you do it?

Here’s the thing.

Most times when a guy says he’s not ready for a relationship it’s because he’s not

wanting to give up his single lifestyle.

Of course there are situations where his reasoning seems more justified, like if he has a busy

schedule that get in the way, or if he still isn’t completely over his previous relationship,

but reasons aside, if he says he’s not ready for a relationship then you’re going to

need to change his mind.

Of course, no amount of begging or pleading is going to work here because it’ll make

you look desperate and frankly, pathetic, and no negative attitude or harsh words will

want to make him want to commit to you either.

I mean, do you blame him?

It’s also worth mentioning that trying to talk him into wanting to be in a relationship

with you isn’t a wise move either.

If you do, he’ll feel like he’s being tricked or sold on the idea.

Once he feels this way he’ll make a run for it.

What will work though is if you sympathize with him.

That said, you’re going to want to do so with poise, because really you shouldn’t

make this a pity party for him.

If you do he’ll feel his reasons for not wanting a relationship are legitimate.

Instead, you’re going to want to agree with him, and almost encourage that he backs away

from having a relationship with you at this time.

For example, if your guy says he’s not ready for a relationship then you can say something

like this:

“It seems like you need to be on your own for a while to figure out what you want.

I just want you to be happy, so if you need to be alone I understand.

I hope I’m still here when you are ready, but until then I need to be with someone who

is 100% certain that they want to be with me.”

This is the kind of response that will work wonders for making him ready to commit to

a relationship for a couple reasons.

First, he’ll probably be surprised that you’re cool with him not being ready, and

will love that you are being so agreeable and kind.

The fact that you care about his happiness will speak volumes and this alone will make

him realize that he’s found someone special.

Second, encouraging him to take time for himself will make him question if it’s even a good

idea.

I mean, if you’re making it seem like yeah, he should be alone, then that idea isn’t

going to be as attractive to him anymore.

In fact, he’ll probably quickly realize that this isn’t want he wants.

At the same time you mentioning that this may be a good idea does the opposite of what

trying to sell yourself to him does.

This means he’ll get the impression that you’re being genuine and not trying to manipulate

him.

Again, he’ll feel like you care about his wants and needs.

And lastly, letting him know that you won’t wait around for him, and that you want to

be with someone who absolutely wants to be with you too, that shows that you love and

respect yourself too much to settle for less.

This will make him realize that unless he scoops you up, someone else will, which believe

me, is always an easy way to win a man over.

If you’re looking to learn some other helpful phrases that you can use to win any man over

then visit my site, www.coachnorth.com and watch the free video presentation.

There you’ll learn all about my devotion sequences, which are sets of words I’ve

designed specifically to make men wild with desire for you.

So believe me, you don’t want to miss out on these.

Well that just about does it for this video, thanks so much for watching.

I hope that you found what you learned here helpful, and if so then you can show your

support by subscribing to my channel and checking out my other dating advice videos.

After all, it’s you guys who allow me to keep coming out with new content for you.

If you have any questions about what I’ve covered here today then feel free to post

those and any other feedback in the comments section below.

I always love hearing from you and will do my best to get back to you as soon as possible.

So then, until next time take care and good luck!