Dan Bilzerian on Psychololgy of Hot Girls & best Advcie for Success
Summary
TLDRIn this video transcript, the speaker discusses his experiences with addiction and the pressures of maintaining a brand image. He shares insights on dating and relationships, highlighting common mistakes men make, such as over-communicating interest and lacking confidence. The conversation delves into the importance of indirect approaches, the role of pre-selection in attraction, and the impact of societal conditioning on men's dating strategies. The speaker emphasizes the need for men to learn from their mistakes, build genuine connections, and maintain a sense of self-worth in the dating market.
Takeaways
- 🐒 The speaker used to feel like a 'sign spinning monkey', indicating a sense of being trapped in a repetitive and unrewarding cycle.
- 🔄 The transition to working with Ignite brought a 'higher level' of work, suggesting a significant positive change in the quality of work.
- 💔 The speaker openly discussed a past 'sex addiction', hinting at personal struggles and a desire for deep and honest conversation.
- 🚀 The launch of the Sigma society program indicates a proactive approach to help men improve their dating and social skills.
- 🙅♂️ A key mistake men make is 'overcommunicating interest', which can be off-putting and put them in a less appealing position.
- 🎯 The speaker emphasizes the importance of approaching interactions indirectly to avoid setting oneself up for rejection.
- 📚 Women are often more 'socially calibrated' due to societal expectations and the advice from books and peers, giving them an edge in dating.
- 🤔 The speaker suggests that men often underestimate the value of learning and applying effective strategies in dating, unlike other skills.
- 💪 The concept of 'pre-selection' is introduced as a powerful tool in dating, where being desired by others makes one more attractive.
- 🚫 The script warns against the mainstream narrative that being overly 'nice' is the key to success in dating, arguing it can be counterproductive.
- 🔄 The discussion highlights the importance of not just effort, but the right kind of effort, in achieving success in dating and relationships.
Q & A
What did the speaker feel like during his sign spinning monkey days?
-The speaker felt like a rat on a treadmill, feeling obligated to keep doing things for the brand but eventually got over it.
What is the speaker's perspective on the role of dopamine in pleasure seeking?
-The speaker believes that dopamine spikes from pleasure seeking are addictive, often stemming from a perceived lack in one's younger days.
What is the Sigma Society program launched by the speaker?
-Sigma Society is a program that provides men with a blueprint on how to be attractive and successful in dating.
What are some of the biggest mistakes men make when approaching women, according to the speaker?
-Men often massively overcommunicate interest in initial interactions, which can lead to them being perceived as less appealing due to the power dynamics it creates.
Why does the speaker advocate for an indirect approach when men interact with women?
-An indirect approach avoids setting oneself up for rejection and allows the interaction to unfold without the immediate pressure of a binary acceptance or rejection.
How does the speaker compare the dating market to poker?
-The speaker compares dating to poker, emphasizing the importance of not revealing one's hand too early, much like not showing all your cards in poker.
What does the speaker suggest is the reason behind women reading books on dating strategies?
-Women are more socially calibrated due to constant interaction with men, and reading books allows them to refine their strategies, similar to how one would improve at poker knowing everyone's cards.
What is the speaker's view on the effectiveness of traditional dating advice?
-The speaker believes much of the traditional dating advice is dead wrong and counterproductive, especially when it comes to the dynamics of attraction and maintaining power in relationships.
Why does the speaker think that masculinity is important in the dating market?
-The speaker argues that masculinity is important because it's a trait that women are often attracted to, and the current culture's push for equality and against traditional masculinity is misleading men in the dating market.
What is the speaker's advice for men in relationships where they feel they are making too many sacrifices?
-The speaker advises that men should not settle for making too many sacrifices in a relationship, as it can lead to a loss of respect and appreciation from their partner.
Outlines
🐒 Overcoming Personal Struggles and Addiction
The speaker begins by discussing his past as a 'sign spinning monkey' and feeling trapped in a monotonous routine. He describes his journey with Ignite, which helped him elevate his life to a higher level. He candidly shares his struggle with sex addiction, attributing it to a dopamine spike from pleasure-seeking and a perceived lack of female attention in his youth. The conversation shifts to his book, where he delves into the development of his addiction and his path to recovery.
🚀 Sigma Society: A Blueprint for Attraction
The speaker talks about his program, Sigma Society, which aims to provide men with strategies to become more attractive and successful in dating. He emphasizes the importance of understanding the current dating landscape and avoiding common mistakes. He identifies two main areas where men falter: during initial interactions and within relationships. He criticizes the tendency of men to overcommunicate interest, which can lead to a loss of power in relationships, and discusses the influence of media and societal expectations on men's approaches to dating.
🤔 The Psychology Behind Attraction and Dating
In this section, the speaker explores the psychological aspects of attraction and dating. He discusses the concept of pre-selection and jealousy as tools to increase a man's attractiveness. He argues that women are often more socially calibrated due to their experiences and the advice they receive from media and peers. The speaker also addresses the importance of indirect approaches to reduce anxiety and the impact of societal conditioning on men's dating strategies.
💪 Challenging Societal Norms and Stereotypes
The speaker criticizes societal norms that promote equality between men and women in dating, arguing that these norms are often misguided and counterproductive. He discusses the impact of mainstream media on men's understanding of attraction and the importance of embracing traditional masculine qualities. The conversation touches on the polarization in the dating market, where a small percentage of men are perceived as more successful, leading to unrealistic expectations among women.
🔥 The Impact of Sacrifice and Investment in Relationships
The speaker discusses the dynamics of power and investment in relationships. He warns against making too many sacrifices for a partner, as this can lead to a loss of respect and appreciation. He emphasizes the importance of balance and the need for both parties to invest in the relationship. The conversation also covers the reasons behind women cheating, with boredom and a lack of perceived value in the relationship being highlighted as key factors.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Pleasure seeking
💡Sex addiction
💡Sigma society
💡Overcommunication of interest
💡Anxiety and fear of rejection
💡Indirect approach
💡Pre-selection
💡Tunnel vision
💡Masculinity
💡Power dynamics
Highlights
The speaker feels compelled to perform for the brand, leading to a sense of being overworked.
Ignite's return to action is described as a significant improvement in performance.
A struggle with sex addiction is acknowledged, with a candid discussion about its impact.
The link between pleasure seeking, dopamine spikes, and addiction is explored.
The speaker discusses launching the Sigma society, a program aimed at helping men improve their dating success.
Common mistakes men make in initial interactions and relationships are highlighted.
The dangers of overcommunicating interest and the impact on attraction are explained.
Anxiety and fear of rejection are identified as major issues for men when approaching women.
The importance of an indirect approach to reduce the risk of rejection is emphasized.
Women's awareness and strategies in dating, influenced by books and social learning, are discussed.
The speaker argues that men often neglect to apply strategic thinking in dating as they would in other areas of life.
The concept of pre-selection and its role in attraction is introduced.
The speaker shares insights on how to elicit jealousy and create social proof to appear more attractive.
The challenges faced by men in the dating market are compared to the dynamics of poker playing.
The speaker reflects on the process of compiling data and developing the Sigma society program.
The importance of avoiding common dating mistakes to improve success rates is stressed.
The negative effects of putting in too much effort early in a relationship are discussed.
The speaker addresses the issue of tunnel vision in dating and its detrimental effects on men's approach.
The role of masculinity in dating success and the impact of societal messages on men's dating strategies are examined.
The speaker shares a personal story of helping a friend improve his dating life, highlighting the potential for change with guidance.
The necessity of the Sigma society program due to the lack of accurate dating advice for men is explained.
Transcripts
I was a [ __ ] sign spinning monkey you
know I was like a rat on a [ __ ]
treadmill and I kind of felt like I had
to keep doing this stuff for the brand
and whatever but I was kind of over like
I just done everything and with Ignite
we kind of like came back and did
everything like on a [ __ ] way higher
level MH and that was cool but I just
like I said man I got over it you know I
was like just doing the same [ __ ] all
the time and um can only [ __ ] I mean I
had a bad sex addiction you know it's
just [ __ ] girls three four times a
day every day it's like can you tell us
about like because you know you've
talked about that in your book um can
you tell us like how that came to be and
then how you got over it the sex
addiction
yeah I
think I don't know it's just like a I
mean pleasure seeking is like dopamine
spikes right dopamine's addictive so you
want to feel good it makes you feel good
it's kind of something that I think gets
ingrained from a perceived lack and I
think when I was younger I had a
perceived lack of girls and
so yeah just [ __ ] went way the other
direction yeah now you've been doing it
for a while and actually you just
launched a program Sigma society and you
kind of give guys like the blueprint on
you know how to be attractive how to get
girls and we've had discussions on this
as well um but I think this is something
that's definitely needed especially in
today's like dating Marketplace what
would you say is like some of the
biggest mistakes that guys make when it
comes to like getting girls and
maintaining that
attraction well it's there's it's
twofold there's like what mistakes they
they do going into interactions and then
there's the mistakes that they make in
the relationships and I think both
things were frustrating for me I was
watching my friends in these
relationships where they had just lost
all their power and they're just getting
bitched around or like kissing ass to a
girl that's way [ __ ] beneath them and
then I see a lot of guys getting blown
out in the initial interaction because
they go in and they just massively
overcommunication interest and I think
that's probably the biggest mistake that
guys make and that's kind of what
they're told that's what Hollywood tells
them that's like kind of the accepted
thing is to go up to a girl give her a
bunch of compliments and the problem
with that is it puts her in a position
of like okay I know I can have this guy
do I want him and when you're looking at
something through that lens all the
flaws magnify and it just makes a thing
less appealing and I think guys they
just make that mistake and they don't
know any better yeah and I was able to
look at like some of your stuff which
thank you for the you know access to
some of it um and you're real big on
like telling guys like hey to overcome
the anxiety you want to kind of approach
it from an indirect perspective would
you say anxiety and fear of rejection is
like most guys biggest issue when it
comes to talking to women yeah I think
it's a big problem and I think when you
go in and you know take more of an
indirect approach where you're not
overcommunication interests you don't
set yourself up for rejection right like
if you go in tell a girl how beautiful
she is or you ask her out on a date or
you ask for a number it's kind of like a
binary response she either has to accept
or reject and usually women's default
setting is to reject so I think that you
know even if they like you yeah I mean
it's just they're just used to it and
then they expect the guy to Chase and
then eventually they'll you know
whatever ever but they keep the guy
chasing chasing chasing and that's what
these books like the rules and all these
you know books that these women have it
teaches them to do is to keep the guy
chasing and that just puts them in a
massive position of power because their
flaws disappear and that guy's flaws
magnify and I just don't want to see
guys in that position because it's
unnecessary like you can go in you can
open the interaction you can start
talking to a girl without letting her
know like it's like playing poker these
guys just like want to [ __ ] flip
their cards over it's like a lot harder
to [ __ ] win in poker when everybody
can see your [ __ ] cards you mentioned
something that is very interesting about
the rules and girls reading books I
think this is something that needs to be
talked about more like guys don't
understand that like women actually like
read books and practice this crap like
they don't like like a lot of guys go in
clueless but like girls number one they
already deal with men all the time and
then number two a lot of them talk to
each other about this very thing and
there's books on it like can you talk
about that a little bit like how
educated women really are when it comes
to like finessing men dating them
extracting value without necessarily
giving value back yeah I mean you know
to give the poker analogy again it's
like you know women are playing poker
and they're just seeing cards well you
get better at poker if you knew
everybody's [ __ ] card and you saw
every time somebody's blow you know what
I mean you just learn faster and I feel
like that's what happens to women like
from the time they're like 13 14 years
old like all these guys are hitting on
them communicating interest letting them
know like hey I want to sleep with you
and when they do that then it's like
okay they correlate all these things the
guys do with a guy wanting to sleep with
them so they're just more socially
calibrated and the way I would you know
explain it for a guy is it's like the
guy just goes in the gym sees a heavy
bag and starts hitting the heavy bag
well if you hit a heavy bag for 10,000
hours you're not going to be a [ __ ]
great boxer but if you get some [ __ ]
coaching and some training and you spend
[ __ ] 100 hours you're going to be
better than that guy that spent 10,000
hours just Drilling in all the [ __ ]
bad techniques and all the wrong [ __ ] I
think that's what guys do is like and
it's good to have volume like it's good
to just get out there and [ __ ] do
this stuff but if you don't do it
correctly you're just you know your
chances of success are going to [ __ ]
go down dramatically and that's true of
anything [ __ ] golf I just don't
understand why guys will take [ __ ]
Direction with golf and [ __ ] bad or
pingpong or whatever the [ __ ] ever chess
they get for everything other than the
most important thing they're [ __ ]
doing which is you know choosing their
[ __ ] lifelong partner or the girl
that they're dating or whoever you're
spending the most time with and that's
going to be your girlfriend your wife
whatever or somebody you have kids with
and now you're stuck with them whether
you like it or not for the next 18
[ __ ] years that's like a pretty
important thing and I feel like guys
just assume like oh like I got this or I
know what the [ __ ] to do and they just
don't yeah they don't and and it's even
worse because like you mentioned all
those hours like if you mention like
practice all these hours with bad
technique it's gonna like set in and
it's way harder to to unlearn a bad
habit than to learn a new one yeah like
taking a guy that's never done any
[ __ ] boxing and just teaching him the
proper technique from the start is
easier than like having them unlearn all
the mistakes that they've been making so
you know while I think a guy that goes
out and just you know has a bunch of
experience is going to be better off
than a guy that doesn't do anything I'm
just saying like there's a version where
you can learn the right thing to do and
then put in [ __ ] time and get there a
lot faster I'm all about like doing the
least amount of effort and getting the
most amount of volume in the the
shortest period of time possible and
it's like I want them to have as many
positive interactions as possible
because that's going to give them more
confidence more confidence deals better
results it's kind of like a snowball
that can go in One Direction or can go
the [ __ ] other yeah and most guys it
goes the [ __ ] wrong direction and
then they just you know convince
themselves I'm not good-look you know
enough for women or women don't like me
or whatever and they're right but the
difference is like they can do something
about that and I think that's one thing
that guys don't understand is like women
can't really make themselves that much
better looking like they can do a little
bit of stuff they're born ugly they're
kind of [ __ ] but guy's born ugly he's
still like we can make up another way
elon's not goodl looking like you know
[ __ ] you know Seth Rogan's [ __ ]
ugly like there's plenty of ugly guys
that get a ton of [ __ ] yep and you know
there's just like there's 12 different
attraction triggers that you can [ __ ]
Implement and like you know
pre-selection is one that a lot of guys
don't understand and that's one that I
use like you know one of the best you're
you're one of the best guys when it
comes to pre-selection by far buddy I
could go into a club with two or three
girls that really wanted to [ __ ] me that
I had been [ __ ] that were all over me
and just literally like point at other
girls they didn't even know who the [ __ ]
I was but because hot girls were
interested in me obviously that's not
like a you know easily transferable one
to other guys but there's different
versions of that like you know I mean
you can elicit jealousy pretty [ __ ]
easily just on your story just making
girls think about you like let's say
you're out of a [ __ ] bar and you take
a picture of a martini glass and your
beer you know she's you know girls going
to wonder like oh who is he with you
know what I mean like and that's a
pretty easy thing to do so you don't
have to have three girls lining up to
[ __ ] you to implement pre- selection and
jealousy and a lot of things that are
like really powerful for getting a girl
to want to sleep with you you know and
it's interesting because not many people
talk about this you know I mean
obviously guys like yourself me we talk
about this but like you know
conventional dating coaches are like
just be a nice guy take her out blah
blah blah and I think nowadays if you're
not like willing to talk about these
uncomfortable realities when it comes to
female nature like you're just not going
to get ahead and pre-selection is I
would argue one of the best and
strongest triggers and it's social proof
you can't fake that yeah it's super
powerful and you got a lot of these like
you know male dating coaches or guys
giving advice that are like super
good-looking guys have never had any
[ __ ] problems that you know like
stuff that works for them is not going
to work for the average guy and then you
have women teaching this stuff and it's
like the women are the worst comical man
yeah cuz they they can't even tell you
what they want like if you ask most
women like what they want in a guy and
then you look at the last five or 10
guys they [ __ ] they have like almost
none of these things so like they don't
even know what they want it's not really
about what they say that they want it's
what they respond to that I focused on
and so look I had a big sample size of
girls that wanted to [ __ ] that I screwed
it up with and a big sample size of
girls that wanted to fight me that I
also [ __ ] and until you have that
control group which most guys don't have
until you have that volume you can't
really run an experiment and figure out
like what works and what doesn't work
and I look at you know dating kind of
like poker in the beginning like you
know everybody had Theory and a lot of
guys thought this was the right thing
and you know there's a lot of guys that
agreed like you know after like 10 years
like all the best players agreed this
this and this was right and they had the
supercomputers and the quants that just
like figured the [ __ ] out and then we
realized like how wrong we were about
certain things that we were sure of and
I think dating is similar like I think
there's a lot of like really bad
accepted advice out there that's just
dead wrong that a lot of people think is
right yeah and you you know you spent
quite a bit of time well obviously from
like dealing with women throughout your
lifetime but you also spend a lot of
time like compiling data for this
specific program remember me and you
talking about it almost like two years
ago like we've been working on this for
a while it was harder than I thought you
know take us through that well just cuz
a guy can box doesn't mean he can teach
somebody how to [ __ ] box right and so
like I had to actually like break down
like what would work for other guys why
things work for me why things didn't
work for me the big thing was figuring
out the mistakes like we just need to
start there like if guys just wouldn't
make 10 of the most common mistakes like
they would have 99% better [ __ ]
results so like you know stop making the
mistakes and and also like small tweaks
will have a massive Downstream impact on
like your success or your failure and so
a lot of this isn't necessary in fact
you know it's not necessarily like
putting in more effort in fact a lot of
times it's putting in less effort to get
a better result because a lot of guys
correlate this with like business where
it's like I put in a bunch of effort I
get a promotion I show up at [ __ ]
3:00 a.m. and change my Bud's Tire I
have his back in a fight like he's going
to be a better friend like all this
stuff which is true but all that effort
that you put into a girl before you
[ __ ] her actually cut Cuts against you
I agree with them bro I've always told
guys this like putting a bunch of Sweat
Equity and time into a girl a lot of the
times is actually one of the few
endeavors where it's counterproductive
it's 100% counterproductive like almost
unequivocally I mean this is not like in
a long-term relationship right like this
is before you [ __ ] the girl the more
effort that you put in absolutely will
cut against you yeah and people just
like don't value what they can have very
easily and if you're [ __ ] chasing
after a girl if you're putting in a ton
of effort you are in that category of
somebody that she can [ __ ] have she
knows that she can have you with very
little effort because you're the one
putting in the effort two people can't
[ __ ] chase only one person can chase
and so in the relationship some is
always
pursuing and you know I I don't I just
[ __ ] don't want the guy chasing after
the girl so hard that she can never
chase after him you mentioned something
really interesting in one of your videos
when I was watching where when guys are
chasing they're almost like in tunnel
vision and when they're in this tunnel
vision they're not necessarily looking
at like their mistakes they're so
focused on pursuing the girl and like
getting laid that they're not even
looking at the behaviors they're
demonstrating to chase after the girl
can you talk about that a little in a
little bit more detail why that tunnel
vision is so bad
it puts them in a bad frame it and and
this is the frame that most guys go into
it from is like this girl's hot how do I
get her and what that frame is is this
girl's looks are enough I'm going to do
whatever I can get whatever I can do to
get this girl just based on the fact
that she's hot and most girls do not
value the things that they didn't have
to work for she didn't have to work for
the fact that she's hot right so hot
girl sees a guy pursuing her and
automatically like anybody pursuing you
anybody that's working hard to get your
you know attention or respect or
whatever is by default beneath you like
you're not trying to [ __ ] impress the
janitor yeah you know you're not trying
to impress somebody that you don't feel
like is better than you so just by
Framing the interaction like that and
especially early in the interaction when
these guys go up and overc communicate
interest before the girl has earned it
in any way shape or form based on like
who she is and it's just based on her
looks automatically she's going to look
at this guy as like okay he's not very
Discerning he doesn't have a lot of
options like me being cute is enough I
can have him do I want him and that's
not the [ __ ] spot that I want these
guys going in especially with hot girls
because like the hotter the girl the
more [ __ ] that are pursuing her
when you've got 10 options and they're
ruthless too yeah when you got you can't
make as many mistakes with a hot chick
as you could with like a mid or an ugly
girl like like you make one stupid
mistake with a hot girl and you're done
yeah because like think of a dating show
if you have [ __ ] 10 20 options like
you're not going to go for the first
[ __ ] one you're going to sit back be
like okay I know I can have all 20 of
these which one do I want and that's
usually the position that a hot girl's
in yeah and what I want the guy to do is
get the girl in a position of like oh
maybe I might lose this guy this guy has
other options other women want him I
want to compete you know just think
about like an auction you know like your
mentality in an auction is very
different than when a traveling salesman
shows up at your [ __ ] doorstep and
tries to sell you know whatever the [ __ ]
he wants to sell when somebody tries to
sell you you're looking at what's wrong
with the [ __ ] thing you know let's
say a business deal you know all your
buddies are getting into a business deal
and there's like you know the [ __ ]
thing is closing and like you just want
to get in like how do I get in and
that's the way you want to a woman
looking at you is like I don't want to
lose this guy he's got other women
pursuing him not like you know and
another thing that guys do is they overc
communicate you know their availability
they tell the girl they over assure the
girl like you're the only girl that I'm
talking to yeah you they do that all the
time you know it's like yeah just
because like that's what they want to
hear but that's not what's going to be
affected with the girl so a lot of these
guys like think like okay if this is
what I would want to hear that's what
the girl would want to hear and you're
not in the same [ __ ] position as a
hot girl unless you're like a super
[ __ ] famous even then your mindset is
different because the girl wants to like
date a guy the guy wants to [ __ ] the
girl like don't try and think like oh
just because if for me it'll be true for
her that's just [ __ ] wrong that's
such a great Point like you like you
sitting there and saying like you're the
only girl I'm talking to is like not the
same as her saying that to you like it's
her job to not be a [ __ ] it's your job
to be attractive and if you're a [ __ ] by
by definition whatever who cares right
as a guy well it's just it's just a very
different thing it's like the whole lock
and key analogy right like the [ __ ]
key that opens a bunch of locks is a
good key the [ __ ] locked because open
all the keys a shitty lock right so like
because women have the choice it's a
very different thing like you know if a
girl's you know been [ __ ] by 100 guys
it [ __ ] massively lowers her value if
a guy's had sex with 100 girls it means
that he's desirable he's confident he's
probably decent in bed like it says a
lot right it says a lot of good things
right and so I think it's one of those
things where you just have to understand
the difference in Psychology between a
woman and a man and like this whole
culture is pushed like everything is
equal men and women are the same it's
just like and that [ __ ] up guys
mentality like they kill masculinity
they're like doing all these things
which I think is another reason why men
are having such a [ __ ] bad time in
the dating Market is because they're
being programmed with all the [ __ ]
that's like counter to the [ __ ] truth
which is like masculinity is bad you
know like women want the super nice guy
equal Partners it's just all [ __ ]
it's just all [ __ ] that's why like
the [ __ ] girl is not always dating
the [ __ ] nice guy there's like a line
full of them at every [ __ ] Walmart
that are invisible to women like they
don't want what they say that they want
they want the guy that's like you know
interesting that they might not be able
to get the guy that's you know going to
be exciting like that's the things that
girls go after like and you see it in
some movies you see it in like the
[ __ ] romcoms where they just like
you know put the gay guy in there and
like shows up with the flowers and the
[ __ ] chocolates and gets the girl
which is just like absolute nonsense but
then sometimes there's more accurate
depictions where like the girl ends up
falling for the bad boy and if you look
at like the qualities that the bad boy
has that's something that's attractive
to most women so that's like one thing
that Hollywood got right but like most
guys don't ever try and like you know
take on those qualities they take on the
qualities of like the main character the
[ __ ] super nice guy that ends up with
the girl but that's just like that's not
how the real world works yeah no it's
it's yeah it it's crazy how popular
media you know movies television Etc
like they're just basically telling guys
yeah be cucks and you'll get girls and
it's like no dude that's not how it
works it's it's crazy me how
counterproductive um mainstream media is
with like telling guys how to actually
be attractive cuz what it takes to be
actually be attractive shows like on
flat in realities about women that
people don't want to hear yeah I mean
and you see it in the dating market
right like back 50 years ago like the
average guy got an average girl and
everything was decent and like it's like
you know the same thing with wealth like
all these things have just been so
polarized now it's like 5% of guys get
all the girls and the rest of guys have
like [ __ ] no shot yeah and that's why
I felt like I should do this because I
felt like there are so many guys just
like quitting yeah that's what I was
going to ask you next like what made you
like want to do this you know there's a
guy I was like playing video games with
kind of [ __ ] nerdy dude didn't get a
lot of [ __ ] like didn't work out like
this [ __ ] and I just kind of like took
him under my wing and like got him on
HRT got him in the [ __ ] gym like got
him to stop smoking weed and now he's
you know got a girlfriend and she's
[ __ ] pregnant is he stopped smoking
weed he's working out all the time like
his entire life [ __ ] changed off you
just giving him some tips yeah I didn't
have to do that much you know just to
like kind of like Point him in the right
direction like stop him from doing the
same [ __ ] mistakes that all these
other guys made I know you mentioned
this guy last time we spoke yeah cool so
you guys are still talking yeah yeah I
mean like I said he just got he just got
a girl pregnant he's like he's happy
yeah it's it's crazy so and you were
like you know what I need to scale this
out and help more guys well I just felt
like nobody was giving them the right
information yeah there was just so much
bad information there L you know it's
like you [ __ ] get a bad M cuz they
censor you when you give this good
information out they they'll say you're
mogist they'll ban you off Tik Tok me
and you were talking about Tik Tok
earlier yeah I mean that's a part of it
but I also feel like there's not a lot
of guys that have figured this out like
you really have to like go out there and
just like you know figure out what works
and what doesn't work and the only way
to do that is to have a big sample size
and I feel like a lot of these like male
dating coaches like they have a lot of
theory and like stuff sounds good but
like these guys don't get a lot of [ __ ]
facts you they outside they're not like
you know you have to [ __ ] like hundreds
or thousands of girls to figure this
[ __ ] out you know it's kind of like one
of these things where since there is no
[ __ ] road map there is no like
established like right directions and
wrong directions everybody kind of like
starts from [ __ ] zero well actually
now they don't start from zero back in
our day we started from [ __ ] zero
like now they start [ __ ] you know
from like a negative 5050 because like
they've been programmed with all this
bad [ __ ] so they have to like unlearn
all the bad [ __ ] and then only then are
they starting off at [ __ ] Baseline
coupled with the fact that women expect
way more now like they have these crazy
[ __ ] delusions of what they deserve
or what's like you know like you know
what's an average guy like just like
what they think is normal or average is
so [ __ ] skewed when I ask girls how
much money do you think an average guy
makes on her show almost every time
$100,000 a year [ __ ] crazy bro like
the average guy is only making like 30
to 50K depending on where they live but
like the average girl thinks the average
guy is making $100,000 per year which
lets you know like these a lot of these
chicks like expect a lot off rip yeah
and the problem is they go out there and
they [ __ ] all these 5% guys and then
they end up just like settling for some
rich guy that's going to take care of
them and the rich guy thinks like he got
this great girl and the girl's like just
with him so he'll pay her [ __ ] bills
because she feels like she can't get one
of these 5% guys to actually date her so
it's like automatically that interaction
sucks and one of the things I tell guys
like you want to make a girl want to
[ __ ] you there's like there's girls that
want to [ __ ] guys there's girls that
want to date guys and there's a
combination right and I want guys in the
bucket of like the girl wants to date me
and she also wants to [ __ ] me or just
that she wants to [ __ ] me and then you
can make her want to date you but like
the category that you absolutely don't
want to be in is the category of like
she wants to date me but she doesn't
want to [ __ ] me yeah because those are
the guys that get taken advantage of
absolutely and that's guys this is
important [ __ ] man um and and I'm
important that it's I'm glad that we're
like rehashing this cuz you have to like
drill this in a guy's head like so many
times cuz right now there's somebody
watching that probably doesn't get sex
from his girlfriend or his wife or his
fiance like she stopped [ __ ] him and
he's just saying her like I'm still
going to marry her it's like no dude
like you're literally setting yourself
up for failure yeah I mean that's like
the biggest manipulation tactic ever if
a girl's ever just like you know using
her [ __ ] or [ __ ] or something as
like a tool to get what she wants like
you're already in a [ __ ] horrendous
position and I and I think a lot of guys
don't realize like how they get in this
position it's like small little battles
lost you know it's like there's there's
this [ __ ] War for power going on and
small victories and small [ __ ]
defeats add up and these guys you know
they'll just cave or they'll be like oh
you know happy wife happy life like let
me just appease the wife and it's like
they appease them appease them appease
them into the point where like the girl
loses respect for the guy and then
cheats on him the guy just gets
blindsided has no idea where it came
from and I see that a lot where these
women they just like subconsciously like
lose you know respect for the guys over
time and then the guy is just so
surprised when she cheats on him he's
like but I was such a good boyfriend and
I never cheated on her I always told the
truth and I was there for and I did this
and I did that and it's just like you
know when you when you make too many
sacrifices for a woman they become
expected and not appreciated and a lot
of guys end up in this category where
they're just making more and more
sacrifices trying to win the girl's
approval and that's just actually
subconsciously driving her away because
she's never having to invest in the guy
she's never having to like do anything
for the guy so it just puts her in a
constant state of like okay I know I can
have this guy do I want him and then
she's looking for other options versus
like when she's wondering what's this
guy doing you know like you know how do
I get him to stop talking to this other
girl like you know I want to make him
you know mine like I don't want him
talking to other girls like all this
stuff that makes her want to work for
the guy and the more you work for
something the more you value it and I
think a lot of guys are in these
relationships with the woman isn't
working for the guy at all and when
you're in that spot like like I said you
don't really value things you don't work
for would you say that's the number one
reason why women cheat because obviously
a lot of girls have like cheat on their
boyfriends with you and you found out
after the fact like would you say that's
like one of the top reasons why girls
cheat I mean it always starts with he
was so nice but so I would say so I
would say [ __ ] terrible I would say
being bored I think a lot of women get
bored in a relationship a lot of women
like know that the guy's never going
anywhere that he doesn't really have any
other options like he's completely
invested not that that's like a bad
thing is that you know to be dedicated
to a woman but be dedicated to a woman
because you like her not because you
don't have other options yeah you know
you're choosing her versus you're just
get settling what you can settling yeah
exactly for the low hanging fruit and I
think a lot of guys end up in that spot
and if you're not willing to [ __ ]
walk you're never going to have power
and I think a lot of these guys are not
willing to walk yeah that's very true um
so you've been compiling
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