How To Tell She's NOT The One: Catholic Dating
Summary
TLDRIn this video, the speaker addresses Catholic men on three key indicators to discern if a woman is not the right partner for marriage. First, a devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary is essential, as it signifies predestination and is vital for a healthy, holy family. Second, constant sarcasm during dating can evolve into relationship-damaging behavior post-marriage, undermining the man's authority and respect. Lastly, a woman's disregard for her health is a practical red flag, as physical fitness is crucial for parenting. The speaker emphasizes daily Rosary prayers for discerning a suitable spouse and offers a link for men to join a community for prayer and overcoming vices.
Takeaways
- 🙏 The video is specifically targeted at Catholic men, advising them on how to discern if a woman is suitable for marriage within their faith.
- 👩🦰 A woman's devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary is considered indispensable for a Catholic marriage, as she is seen as a role model for wives and mothers.
- 🙅♀️ The speaker warns against pursuing a relationship with a woman who does not show devotion or openness to developing a relationship with the Blessed Virgin Mary.
- 🗣️ Constant sarcasm during dating is flagged as a potential issue that could escalate into a more serious problem after marriage, affecting the respect and authority of the husband.
- 🏠 The video emphasizes the importance of a wife's respect for her husband as the head of the household, and how sarcasm can undermine this dynamic.
- 🏋️♀️ Health and fitness are highlighted as practical considerations for a successful marriage, as the physical demands of parenthood require energy and vitality.
- 🍏 The speaker advises against complacency in health habits, advocating for intentional efforts to maintain a healthy lifestyle for the sake of family life.
- 👨👩👧👦 The video suggests that children learn how to treat their father from their mother's behavior, implying the importance of a respectful example.
- 🙏 Praying five decades of the Rosary daily is recommended for discerning a marriage well and for seeking guidance from a higher power.
- 🔗 The video includes a call to action for viewers to join a group for daily Rosary prayers and to overcome personal vices and addictions.
Q & A
What is the primary criterion for choosing a partner according to the speaker?
-The primary criterion is the woman's devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary, which is considered indispensable for a Catholic man looking for a partner.
Why is devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary emphasized as essential in the video?
-Devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary is seen as a sign of predestination and is necessary for a successful marriage and family life, as she is considered the Queen of Peace and Families.
What is the significance of the Blessed Virgin Mary being a role model for a wife and mother?
-The Blessed Virgin Mary is seen as the ideal role model for a wife and mother due to her purity, obedience, and motherhood, which are virtues that are highly valued in a Catholic marriage and family.
What is the second point of consideration the speaker mentions for discerning a potential spouse?
-The second point is the presence of constant sarcasm during dating, which could become a source of annoyance and undermine the man's authority in marriage.
How does sarcasm during dating potentially affect the dynamics of a marriage?
-Sarcasm that may seem cute or funny during dating could turn into dagger-like remarks in marriage, damaging the relationship and the respect that children have for their father.
What is the third practical advice given by the speaker for evaluating a potential spouse?
-The third advice is to ensure that the potential spouse takes care of her health, as maintaining physical fitness is crucial for the energy demands of parenthood.
Why is health and physical fitness important for a potential spouse according to the video?
-Health and physical fitness are important because they are necessary to meet the energetic demands of being a parent and to set a good example for children.
What does the speaker suggest as a daily practice to discern marriage well?
-The speaker suggests praying five decades of the Rosary every day as a way to discern marriage well and to seek guidance and blessings from God.
What is the role of prayer in the process of finding a Catholic spouse according to the video?
-Prayer, specifically the Rosary, is seen as a means to expedite the process of finding a spouse and to make the search more pleasing to God.
What additional resource does the speaker offer for men looking to improve themselves and find a Catholic spouse?
-The speaker offers a link in the video description to join a group of men who pray the Rosary daily and work on conquering vices and addictions.
What are the three most practical tips the speaker provides for finding a Catholic spouse?
-While the specific tips are not detailed in the transcript, the speaker mentions a video where he shares three practical tips on finding a Catholic spouse.
Outlines
🙏 Essential Qualities for a Catholic Spouse
This paragraph addresses men, specifically Catholic men, on the importance of finding a spouse who shares their faith and values. The speaker emphasizes the necessity of a devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary, suggesting it's a crucial test for potential partners. He explains that a lack of devotion or unwillingness to develop one could be a significant red flag. The speaker also warns against constant sarcasm in a relationship, which might seem cute during dating but could become a source of annoyance in marriage. Lastly, he stresses the importance of a partner's commitment to health and fitness, as it is essential for the physical demands of parenthood. The paragraph concludes with a call to prayer, specifically the Rosary, as a means to discern one's marriage path.
📿 The Power of Prayer in Discerning Marriage
In the second paragraph, the speaker encourages daily prayer, specifically praying five decades of the Rosary, to help discern one's path in marriage. He suggests that this practice will expedite the process and be pleasing to God. The speaker also invites viewers to join him and a group of men in a daily Rosary prayer, aiming to conquer vices and free themselves from addictions. He provides a link in the description for those interested in joining. Additionally, he offers to share three practical tips on finding a Catholic spouse in a subsequent video, encouraging viewers to watch that video for further guidance.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Catholic
💡Devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary
💡Predestination
💡Queen of Peace
💡Domestic Church
💡Sarcasm
💡Head of the Household
💡Health and Fitness
💡Prayer
💡Rosary
Highlights
The video specifically addresses men, particularly Catholic men, on dating advice.
The importance of a woman's devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary in a Catholic relationship is emphasized.
A woman's openness to developing a relationship with the Blessed Virgin Mary is crucial for a Catholic marriage.
The role of the Blessed Virgin Mary as a role model for wives and mothers in a Catholic household.
The necessity of the intercession of the Blessed Virgin Mary for receiving Grace and salvation in the Catholic tradition.
The significance of a woman's devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary as a sign of predestination.
The impact of a woman's constant sarcasm on the dynamics of a marriage and the respect for the husband.
The potential for dating behaviors, like sarcasm, to become sources of annoyance in a long-term marriage.
The importance of a woman's health and physical fitness for the roles of motherhood and fatherhood.
The practical advice on maintaining health as a non-vanity metric for being an effective parent.
The advice for men to pray five decades of the Rosary daily for discerning a good marriage.
The suggestion that praying the Rosary can expedite the process of finding a suitable spouse.
An invitation for men to join a group for daily Rosary prayers and overcoming vices.
Three practical tips for finding a Catholic spouse are offered in a linked video.
Transcripts
this video is for men I'm speaking to
Men I'm addressing men so if you're a
woman and you watch this video and
something doesn't sit right with you in
my language or my tonality just know
that I'm addressing men in the way that
men want to be spoken to or at least in
the way I would have wanted to be spoken
to when I was a young Catholic dating
man in this video I'm going to tell you
three ways to tell that she is not the
one if you are dating and you are a
Catholic man the first and the most
important and this one is absolutely
indispensable if I were dating again I
would not even consider a woman who
failed to meet this test even if she was
perfect in every other way in a
practicing devout Catholic if she failed
this test I would not even look at her
does she have a Devotion to the Blessed
Virgin
Mary if she does not that is bad news
and I do not recommend pursuing a
relationship with her or at the very
least is she open to developing a
relationship to the Blessed Virgin Mary
because if you're going to be a wife and
a mother you need a role model and you
need the Blessed Virgin Mary in that
spot God has so ordained in today's day
and age that nobody receives Grace and
nobody is saved without the intercession
of the Blessed Virgin Mary all of the
spiritual writers in the Catholic
tradition say that Devotion to the
Blessed Virgin Mary is a sign of
predestination this is indispensable for
your marriage because our lady is the
Queen of Peace and the queen of families
and you need her to be the queen of your
family if you're going to have a
domestic Church a household that raises
good and holy children and that's what
marriage is for so if she does not have
a Devotion to the Blessed Virgin Mary or
at the very least is not open to
developing one it's bad news get rid of
her second thing and this is less of a
red flag and more of a yellow flag but
it's really important that once we get
married our conversation levels drop by
about 30% when you're dating and you're
constantly with the person and you're
enjoying your time together and there's
still that novelty and that honeymoon
stage then things go really really well
but if she's doing this and doing this
constantly this is something that you
need to address it's maybe not an
absolute red flag but it's very much a
yellow flag and that is constant sarcasm
if you're dating somebody and they're
constantly making snide remarks and kind
of picking on you in a way that's cute
right there's a level of of flirting
there
but once you get married all of those
things that may have seemed cute while
you were dating now may become sources
of annoyance that's why Jesus gives
sacramental Graces for people who are
married because he knows how difficult
it is to live with any person even if
they're wonderful and beautiful and
smart and holy it's difficult to live
with the same person over and over again
day in and day out for 50 to 70 years
until both of you die so those remarks
right now that may seem funny or cute
are going to start to stab like daggers
once you're married and once you've been
married for a while because men are the
heads of the household we are the kings
of our houses and we deserve and should
to a certain extent demand respect and
if your wife is constantly making snide
comments constantly being sarcastic and
undermining your Authority that's going
to damage your relationship and it's
going to hurt the way that you view
yourself as the head of the household
and it's also going to impact the way
that the children view you in the future
if the children's first example of how
to treat dad comes from mom being
sarcastic and snide then what are the
children going to learn they're going to
learn oh I can be sarcastic with that
and that's okay no this is something
that's fixable but if you are
experiencing a relationship with a woman
who's constantly being sarcastic address
that and say hey we may need to cut back
on this because it's not good for us
long term and the third thing and this
is incredibly practical and this is
going to be something that you have to
address at some point if you want to
have a long and beautiful successful
marriage because it's so easy in today's
day and age to make this mistake and to
fall into what everybody else is doing
and then you end up like everybody else
but the third thing the third way that
you can tell that she's not the one is
if she doesn't take care of her health
at all this is not a vanity metric this
is not a oh you have to look so good to
date me oh you have to be under this
percent of body fat to date me no it's
not that at all but in today's culture
if you just eat what everybody else eats
you're going to end up unhealthy and
unenergetic and unable to be the mother
or the father that God is calling you to
be you have to put an intentional effort
towards being healthy and maintaining
your physical fitness because it takes a
lot of energy to be a mom it takes a lot
of energy to be a dad you're going to
need to be healthy in order to take on
those challenges well and if you're
still watching this video all the way to
the end thank you and God bless you and
I just want to add this and this may be
the most important thing in this entire
video video if you want to discern
marriage well you have to pray 5 Decades
of the Rosary every day make sure that
you are practicing that devotion and if
you're looking for a sign or looking for
some encouragement to start this is it
whether you're a man or a woman pray
five Decades of the Rosary every day and
it's going to expedite the process and
be more pleasing to our Lord and if you
want to join me and a group of other men
in praying the rosary daily and in
conquering our vices and freeing
ourselves from our addictions then check
out the link in the description and I'll
see you there and and if you want to
know my three most practical tips on how
to find a Catholic spouse then check out
this video next
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