The Burnout Gamble | Hamza Khan | TEDxUTSC

TEDx Talks
7 Mar 201620:36

Summary

TLDRIn this engaging talk, Hamza, a self-proclaimed 'recovering overachiever,' shares his personal journey of experiencing and overcoming burnout. He reflects on how striving for constant success led him to extreme stress, burnout, and a deep emotional and physical collapse. Drawing from the 12 stages of burnout, he emphasizes the importance of managing stress, unlearning unhealthy work habits, and shifting from overachieving to high-performing. He advocates for resilience, balance, and prioritizing mental health to sustain long-term success while avoiding burnout. His message is clear: burn bright, not out.

Takeaways

  • 💼 Overachievement is overrated: Constantly pushing for success can lead to burnout, and it's not sustainable in the long run.
  • 🧑‍💻 Overachieving extends to all aspects: The speaker's overachieving tendencies impacted both their professional life and personal leisure activities.
  • ✈️ Burnout realization: The speaker's missed vacation was a wake-up call, leading to deep reflection on why they felt this way.
  • 📉 12 stages of burnout: The speaker discovered Herbert Freudenberger and Gail North's 12 stages of burnout, which reframed their perspective on work and stress.
  • 🚩 Signs of burnout: Neglecting personal needs, displacing conflicts, revising values, withdrawing from relationships, and eventually falling into depression are key indicators.
  • 🎓 Overachievement in education: The speaker shares how overachievement started during their academic life, juggling numerous extracurricular activities and maxed-out course loads.
  • 😓 Relationship with stress: The speaker realized they had an unhealthy relationship with stress, partly due to external factors and internal desires to prove themselves.
  • 🏋️‍♂️ High-performance over overachievement: The speaker suggests transitioning from overachiever to high performer, balancing productivity with sustainable effort.
  • 🧠 Reframing stress: Stress can be seen as a measure of engagement with life, not something to avoid completely but to be managed positively.
  • 🔥 Burn bright, not out: The central message is to maintain passion and energy without extinguishing oneself through overexertion. The goal is long-term sustainability.

Q & A

  • What is the main theme of Hamza's speech?

    -The main theme of Hamza's speech is the dangers of being an overachiever, the risk of burnout, and how to transition from being an overachiever to a high performer by managing stress effectively.

  • Why does Hamza argue that being an overachiever is counterproductive?

    -Hamza argues that being an overachiever is counterproductive because it often leads to burnout, exhaustion, and unhealthy stress, which can harm personal well-being and long-term productivity.

  • What personal experiences does Hamza share to illustrate his point?

    -Hamza shares experiences of running two agencies simultaneously, overworking himself, missing an epic vacation due to cold feet, and passing out in his office bathroom after a 72-hour work stretch as examples of how overachievement led to burnout in his life.

  • What are the 12 stages of burnout, according to Hamza?

    -The 12 stages of burnout include the compulsion to prove oneself, working harder, neglecting personal needs, displacing conflicts, revising values, denying problems, withdrawing, exhibiting odd behaviors, devaluing relationships, experiencing inner emptiness, suffering from depression, and eventually burning out physically, mentally, and emotionally.

  • How does Hamza describe the relationship between success, stress, and burnout?

    -Hamza describes success as requiring effort, which induces stress. When stress is unregulated, it can lead to burnout. He emphasizes that while success is important, it should not come at the cost of one's health and well-being.

  • What does Hamza mean by 'productive anxiety'?

    -'Productive anxiety' refers to maintaining a balance where a person stays slightly uncomfortable and driven without tipping into the negative stages of burnout. It is about using stress to fuel productivity while managing it effectively to avoid burnout.

  • What advice does Hamza give for reducing the probability of stress?

    -Hamza advises reducing the probability of stress by avoiding high-risk activities, staying in a sustainable zone of productivity, and managing stress levels by finding a 'sweet spot' where you are slightly uncomfortable but still functional.

  • How does Hamza define resilience in the context of managing stress?

    -Hamza defines resilience as the ability to adapt to stress. He suggests that resilience can be built by gradually stepping outside of one's comfort zone and facing stress in manageable doses, allowing one to grow stronger without being overwhelmed.

  • Why does Hamza emphasize the importance of 'unlearning' stress?

    -Hamza emphasizes unlearning stress because many people view stress only negatively. By reframing stress as a sign of engagement with things that bring growth and love into life, people can reduce the negative impact of stress and handle it better.

  • What final message does Hamza leave the audience with?

    -Hamza's final message is to 'burn bright, not out,' meaning that people should keep their passion and drive alive but avoid pushing themselves to the point of burnout. He encourages finding balance and maintaining a sustainable level of productivity.

Outlines

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🔥 The Myth of Overachievement and Its Toll

The speaker, Hamza, starts by addressing the concept of being an overachiever. He questions whether constant winning and accumulating success are truly beneficial, emphasizing that being an overachiever can lead to significant personal harm. Hamza shares his personal experience of being a 'recovering overachiever,' revealing how he once prided himself on working relentlessly. In 2014, despite having a successful year, he reached a breaking point and planned an ambitious vacation, only to experience emotional and physical cold feet just before the trip. He couldn't understand why he didn't go, leading him into a deep self-reflection about burnout.

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🚨 The 12 Stages of Burnout: A Personal Experience

Hamza discusses the 12 stages of burnout, as outlined by psychologists Herbert Freudenberger and Gail North. He traces how his own work ethic, driven by a need to prove himself, escalated from overwork to burnout. As an overachiever, his professional and personal life suffered due to neglecting essential needs like sleep and relationships. Eventually, this led to conflicts, withdrawal, and even erratic behavior. He describes reaching a point of devaluing others and feeling an emptiness that rendered his goals meaningless. Hamza highlights how this cycle led to burnout across various milestones in his life, including as a student and employee.

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💼 The Age of Stress: Society's Collective Burnout

Hamza contextualizes his personal experience within the broader societal issue of stress. He notes that we live in the 'golden age of stress,' where work demands and fear of job loss create immense pressure. Stress has become a pervasive issue that negatively impacts the global economy, costing billions due to absenteeism and healthcare expenses. He introduces the concept of 'death by overwork,' citing alarming statistics from China and Japan, where people literally die from working too much. Millennials, in particular, feel this pressure, and Hamza reflects on how his upbringing and external factors contributed to his susceptibility to burnout.

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🔄 Transitioning from Overachiever to High Performer

In this section, Hamza shares his realization about the root causes of his burnout. He admits that, while 50% of his stress stemmed from external factors, the other 50% was due to his own mindset. He discusses how he became addicted to the dopamine rush of overachievement and how it led him to neglect his health. Using a risk assessment framework, Hamza explains that he learned to mitigate stress by balancing productivity and maintaining healthy anxiety. He emphasizes finding a sustainable rhythm, staying slightly uncomfortable to avoid falling into burnout, and controlling stress through productive anxiety.

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💡 Major Keys to Avoiding Burnout

Hamza concludes by offering practical advice on how to prevent burnout. He outlines three major 'keys': First, unlearn traditional views of stress and recognize that not all stress is bad—some is necessary for growth. Second, develop resilience, which he defines as the ability to adapt to stress, using the example of hormesis (exposing oneself to small amounts of stress to build tolerance). Third, maintain balance in life by gradually stepping out of one's comfort zone to prevent overexposure to stress. Finally, Hamza emphasizes the importance of passion and balance, encouraging the audience to 'burn bright, not out.'

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Keywords

💡Overachiever

An overachiever is someone who strives to perform exceptionally well, often beyond reasonable expectations. In the video, the speaker identifies as a 'recovering overachiever,' discussing the unhealthy patterns of relentless work and success-seeking behavior that lead to burnout. Overachievers are often motivated by external validation, pushing themselves to the point of exhaustion, which the speaker advises against.

💡Burnout

Burnout refers to a state of physical, mental, and emotional exhaustion caused by prolonged stress and overwork. The speaker explains the 12 stages of burnout, using his own experiences as an example of how continuous overachievement without rest can lead to a breakdown. Burnout is a central theme of the video, representing the consequences of not managing stress and workload effectively.

💡Stress

Stress is described as a disruptive force that affects a person's physical and emotional balance. The speaker talks about 'unlearning stress' and emphasizes that while stress is inevitable, it can be managed. The distinction between 'good stress' and 'bad stress' is made, suggesting that stress, when properly framed, can be a sign of engagement and growth, rather than a negative force.

💡Productive anxiety

Productive anxiety is introduced as a positive form of stress that keeps a person motivated and focused without leading to burnout. The speaker suggests that finding a balance, or 'sweet spot,' where a person feels slightly uncomfortable but still productive, is essential for long-term success. This concept contrasts with the overwhelming stress that leads to burnout.

💡Resilience

Resilience is the ability to adapt to and recover from stress or adversity. The speaker explains that resilience is critical to sustaining long-term success and preventing burnout. By gradually stepping outside one's comfort zone and building tolerance to stress, individuals can become more resilient. This concept is presented as a solution to the chronic stress that leads to burnout.

💡Stages of burnout

The speaker discusses the 12 stages of burnout, a framework developed by Herbert Freudenberger and Gail North, which outlines the gradual process leading to burnout. These stages include the compulsion to prove oneself, working harder, neglecting personal needs, displacing conflicts, and ultimately experiencing depression. The stages provide insight into how burnout develops over time.

💡Human doing vs. human being

The phrase 'human doing' refers to someone who defines their worth by constant activity and achievements, while 'human being' emphasizes the importance of simply existing and experiencing life without overextending oneself. The speaker reflects on his transition from a 'human doing,' obsessed with productivity, to a 'human being,' focused on balance and well-being.

💡Ego depletion

Ego depletion is the idea that individuals have a finite amount of willpower each day, and it diminishes with each decision made. The speaker uses this concept to explain how constant decision-making and overwork erode one's ability to manage stress and maintain focus, ultimately leading to burnout. It's an important psychological factor in understanding how burnout occurs.

💡Icarus myth

The Icarus myth, where Icarus flies too close to the sun and his wings melt, serves as a metaphor for overachievers who push themselves too far and risk crashing. The speaker uses this story to illustrate the dangers of overconfidence and extreme effort, advocating for finding a balanced 'altitude' where productivity is sustainable without leading to burnout.

💡Work-life balance

Work-life balance is the idea of maintaining a healthy separation between professional responsibilities and personal well-being. Although not explicitly mentioned, the speaker implicitly advocates for this concept by discussing how neglecting personal needs such as sleep, relationships, and relaxation leads to burnout. Achieving work-life balance is key to avoiding the negative effects of overachievement.

Highlights

The speaker emphasizes the downside of being an overachiever, calling it counterproductive and harmful.

The speaker shares personal experiences of burnout, describing how overachieving negatively impacted his life, particularly in 2014.

An example of excessive overachievement is shared, with the speaker planning an exhausting vacation itinerary across multiple cities, only to cancel at the last moment.

The speaker introduces the concept of burnout through the 12 stages defined by Herbert Freudenberger and Gayle North, providing a detailed breakdown.

Burnout begins with the compulsion to prove oneself, followed by working harder and neglecting basic needs like sleep, food, and relationships.

The speaker highlights how burnout leads to a downward spiral, where values shift, problems are denied, and relationships deteriorate.

A personal anecdote is shared about experiencing burnout in different stages of life, from being a student to a professional, illustrating its recurring nature.

The speaker connects burnout with unhealthy relationships to stress, explaining how societal pressures exacerbate stress.

Stress is defined as a disruption to equilibrium, and the speaker describes how 69% of employees report work as a significant source of stress.

The global impact of stress is discussed, including terms like 'karoshi' and 'guolaosi,' which refer to death by overwork in Japan and China.

Millennials are identified as the most stressed generation in the workforce, according to the speaker.

The speaker reflects on personal external pressures, such as being a first-generation student and a racialized minority, contributing to stress and burnout.

A major turning point occurs when the speaker realizes that unregulated stress leads to burnout, prompting a shift in how stress is approached.

The speaker introduces the concept of 'productive anxiety' as a method to avoid burnout while maintaining high performance.

Key strategies are shared to unlearn stress, reduce its impact, and build resilience, including the idea of taking small steps outside the comfort zone.

The final message is to 'burn bright, not out,' emphasizing the need to balance passion and productivity to avoid the detrimental effects of burnout.

Transcripts

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are you an overachiever if all you do is

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win win win no matter what and if you've

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got money or some other benchmark of

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success on your mind and you can never

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get enough and if for whatever reason

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every time you step up in the building

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and everybody's hands go up please raise

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your hands and make them stay there make

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them stay there and if you feel so

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inclined up down up down up down my name

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is Hamza and I have some advice for all

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you overachievers in the audience

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alright stop I mean it I'm serious

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being an overachiever is overrated it's

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counterproductive and if you haven't

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already you are going to hurt yourself

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in the process I need you to trust me

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I'm a recovering overachiever myself I'm

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a full one year sober actually there

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used to be a time in my life where I

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would enjoy the moniker of a robot of a

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machine of a cyborg when people would

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describe me as such it was a badge of

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honor it would make my circuits tingle I

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was a human doing I pride myself on

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sheer output I would burn the midnight

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oil I would burn the candle on both ends

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I would fire on all cannons I was on

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fire and 2014 was an exceptional year

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for me that year I accomplished more

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than I ever thought I could I ran two

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simultaneous agencies I wrote I taught I

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spoke I did all of these things for a

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living at the same time and that year in

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the summer I told myself at the end of

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the year I would take an epic vacation

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because I needed it I could see the

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signs I could see the wear and tear I

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said I would go hard for the next six

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months and in December I would take off

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now here's the thing about being an

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overachiever it doesn't just stop in the

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professional you overachieve even when

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it comes to leisure look at this

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ridiculous itinerary I kid you not

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Toronto - New York New York - Milan

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Milan - Prague Prague - Amsterdam

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Amsterdam to Kuala Lumpur I have the

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ticket stubs to prove it my Airbnb --zz

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were booked I had ten things I wanted to

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do in each city I was going to jam pack

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this trip with more things to do and on

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top of that I was somehow gonna write a

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book called getting more things done I

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know I know

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now middle of December it's time to go

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my bags are packed I've called everyone

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I needed to call I'm ready to leave and

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then this happens

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cold feet

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suddenly my head my heart my body are

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completely out of sync

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I'm sitting there with my boarding pass

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printed in hand stuffing the last few

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things into my bags and I look at the

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clock and there's two hours to go I can

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still make it I drag my feet I've got

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one hour to go maybe if I hop in the cab

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and book it I can still make it half an

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hour to go maybe home alone style I

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could run right to the terminal and

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grease the attendant get in didn't

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happen five four three two one

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I watched the clock countdown and that

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flight left I didn't go on the trip I

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didn't go on the trip and I could not

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for the life of me understand why so for

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the next thirty days I had to ask myself

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some really tough questions because I

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was mad I was sad I was resentful I was

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confused

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I was ashamed I felt this cocktail of

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emotions that I had never felt before

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what happened what the hell happened why

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did this happen something wrong with me

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how could I prevented this

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how did I see this coming was this

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inevitable and am I alone

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and so I spent the next 30 days doing

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some research while at home I looked up

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the term burnout now I had heard of

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burnout before I've heard it used in

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different contexts I never wrap my head

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around what burnout actually meant and

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then I discovered the 12 stages of

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burnout by herbert freud and Berger and

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Gayle north and once it was visualized

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for me as such it completely reframed

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the way that I saw myself in the context

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of my work my success and ultimately my

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happiness it always starts out the same

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the compulsion to prove yourself came up

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that's all me no help that's all me all

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me for real me against the world I'm

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gonna hustle hard I have so much to

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prove and that leads perfectly into

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working harder the 9 to 5 becomes the 9

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to 7 becomes the 9 to 9 and before you

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know it you're neglecting all of your

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needs your sleep your food your family

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your friends the things that are

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supposed to give you the energy to work

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hard

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you are now sacrificing for short-term

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gain and this is where things start to

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get ugly after this stage you start to

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displace conflicts thumbs up we have to

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talk right now all right now I got too

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much on the go thumbs up but we really

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really need to talk I can't I can't talk

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about this right now and then you start

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to revise your values the things that

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are supposed to be the foundations of

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your person the values the attributes

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the beliefs that you hold dear suddenly

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become malleable you know you start off

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every day with a finite amount of

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willpower and with every decision you

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make during that day some of that

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willpower is eroded this is a concept

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known as ego depletion now imagine being

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in a state of ego depletion perpetually

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and then you start to deny the problems

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that you're having

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um so your work is suffering no it's not

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what are you talking about

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Hamzah you're not pulling your weight

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yes I am people become antagonistic to

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you and then you begin to withdraw

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naturally you pull away from work you

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pull away from your family you pull away

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from your friends and before you know it

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a certain randomness begins to

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creep into your life you start drinking

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maybe you start smoking maybe maybe not

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things that you didn't think you would

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do you're certainly starting to exhibit

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now you're starting to do things that

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people are noticing is odd and then you

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begin to diminish and devalue the role

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of people in your lives your co-workers

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your family your friends are less than

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humans now they're just these nagging

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voices in your life that you want to get

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away from nobody's good enough and then

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comes the inner emptiness

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everybody's got goals their own

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definitions of success for the most part

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you're able to visualize them but when

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you're in this stage stage 10 those

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goals become obscure you don't know

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where you're going you don't know where

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you are you begin to question everything

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and then comes the depression this is

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different than sadness this is a deep

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dark pinging throbbing pain a hollowness

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and emptiness a perpetual haze over your

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life and before you know it you're burnt

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out physically mentally and emotionally

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you're gone it hurts

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it's embarrassing especially if you're

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an overachiever like me now here's the

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thing in seeing the visualization of the

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12 stages of burnout I realized that

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this wasn't my first rodeo I'd been here

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before in different degrees I had

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flirted flirted with burnout at almost

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every professional milestone in my

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career first as a student right here

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like a lot of the students in this room

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I wasn't satisfied with simply one

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student organization I threw myself at

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ten didn't just take four courses I

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maxed out I took seven I took eight I

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threw myself at my academics at my

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extracurriculars I tried to cram in as

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many lifetimes as possible into a

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singular life span and I'm never going

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to be able to live down the

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manifestation of this burnout it was two

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weeks before a major conference and I

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was a publication - manager I was

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responsible for turning in print

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materials and two weeks before I just

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wasn't

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in the right headspace didn't have the

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work done I was too embarrassed to tell

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people about it and so what did I do

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I pulled out I let my team down and I've

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never been able to reconcile with those

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negative feelings and it happened again

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as an intern I was working at a record

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label and I was so eager to please my

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boss I would work 15 hour workdays and

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then after that I would go help my boss

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at shows and there was one particular

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stretch of 72 hours where I might have

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slept maybe 3-4 hours

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I woke up at the end of this bender to

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the wrapping of the door in the office

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bathroom I was passed out in the office

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bathroom for eight hours deeply

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embarrassing deeply shameful just not me

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not the brand not Who I am and it

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continued to happen it happened to me as

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an employee it happened to me as a

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founder I was predisposed to burning out

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something had to change so I needed to

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look at the root cause of my burnout and

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I discovered that I had a very unhealthy

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relationship with stress now we're going

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to define stress as the result produced

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when a structure system or organism is

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acted upon by forces that disrupt

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equilibrium or produce strain I had an

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unhealthy relationship with stress but I

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wasn't alone

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we are arguably in the golden age of

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stress this is possibly the most

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stressful we have ever been as a species

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in fact 69% of employees reported that

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work was a significant source of stress

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for them we all feel this relentless

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pressure to perform and there's multiple

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stressors that contribute to this

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feeling the fear of job redundancy

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layoffs increased demands for overtime

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but it's not just affecting us

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personally is affecting the entire

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economy we're losing 300 billion dollars

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a year in lost productivity caused by

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absenteeism turnover and health care

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expenditures that also include death I

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kid you not the Japanese call it Hiroshi

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the Chinese called goooo Lao si these

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words literally mean death

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by work death by work take that in 1600

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people in China every day die from work

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I'm not talking about laboring in the

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fields I'm not talking about working in

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a factory I'm talking about sitting

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behind a desk staring at a screen for

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upwards of 10 12 15 hours a day dying

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because of hemorrhage internal failures

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seizures it's brutal and the kicker the

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most stressed of this multi-generational

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workforce me millenials a lot of you in

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the audience today

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now I had to dive even deeper why was I

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so predisposed to stress why was I so

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predisposed to burnout 50% of it was

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external factors outside of my control

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first generation student from a lower

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middle class family and a racialized

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minority my father wanted me to fit

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conveniently inside the Career Trinity

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dr. Loy an engineer you can imagine his

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dismay when I said I want to be a

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marketer back was against the wall and I

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had more to prove from the jump

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but then the other 50% was me indulging

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in these feelings I began to like being

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an overachiever the dopamine release

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wasn't it was intense with every number

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I put on the board every achievement I

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built a certain momentum and I began to

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relate to quotes like this from mr. Kobe

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Bryant to think of me as a person that

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over achieved that would mean a lot to

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me that means I put a lot of work in

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except in the last two years of my

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career and squeeze every ounce of juice

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out of this orange that I could and then

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I began to see it I saw it clearly in

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December of 2014 while I was recovering

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from burnout I saw that every single day

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for the last however many years I'd been

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working and studying I was gambling I

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was gambling with my health and my

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well-being

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I wanted success however I defined it

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and success requires effort effort

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induces stress and unregulated stress

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can lead to burnout now some of the

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variables over here would never

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gonna change I still had a lot to

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accomplish but maybe just maybe I could

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change my response to stress and so I

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applied a simple risk assessment

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framework to the solution to this

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problem could I reduce the impact of

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stress and could I reduce the

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probability of stress and I looked at

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the 12 stages of burnout again where did

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things start to get ugly for me Stage

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four in fact I was at my most productive

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when I was in the first two stages and I

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could sustainably operate within them

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every now and then I have to dip into

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stage 3 but as soon as I touch stage 4

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that's when I went all the way down the

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dark hole of burnout dare to know this

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you can avoid burnout you can make the

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transition from overachiever to high

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performer and have all of the benefits

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of being an overachiever without all of

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the downside it's going to require you

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to make the transition and develop a

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state of productive anxiety now special

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cloth filler I'm going to give you some

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major keys I'm going to give you some

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major keys not going to leave you

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hanging I promise the first thing you

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need to do is to unlearn stress in its

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entirety and regain control of the

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situation

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unlearn stress and consider this the

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reason why you get up out of bed every

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morning according to Thomas Hobbes the

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engine of the human is appetite and a

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version we're drawn to things and

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repelled from things and what are we

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repelled from pain hurt stress if I

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asked you do you want two more to be a

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stressful day everyone in here is going

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to say hell no but according to dr.

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Kelly McGonigal author of the upside of

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stress there's two types of stress

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there's good stress and there's bad

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stress in fact simply reframing a

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stressful situation is one in which

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you're experiencing good stress is

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enough to change your mood and your

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opinion and your attitude in that moment

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instead of looking at stress is what we

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defined it as above maybe it's time to

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look at

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stress is this a measurement of how

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engaged you are with the things that

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bring love and growth into your life

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another one major key number to become a

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high performer and reduce the

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probability of stressful situations in

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your life now some stress is inevitable

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maybe you can call it good stress maybe

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some of it is bad but overall you can

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reduce the probability of it happening

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if you're not familiar with the Icarus

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myth let me give you the sparknotes

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version Daedalus and a son Icarus are

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trapped on the island of Crete now in

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order to escape they're surrounded by

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water datalist builds two contraptions

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two sets of wings made of wood wax and

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feathers they fly out and Daedalus tells

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Icarus don't fly too low because if you

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get close enough to the ocean the foam

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in the mist is going to make your wing

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soggy and you'll sink to your death at

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the same time don't fly too high because

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what's going to happen the wings are

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going to burn they're going to melt

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they're going to fall off and you'll die

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so they began to fly they find a nice

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altitude and what is it giris do he gets

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confident he gets cocky he flies too

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high the wings melt they burn any

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plummets to his death Daedalus on the

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other hand makes it all the way like

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Daedalus I want you to find a new

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altitude find that perfect space find

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that sweet spot of productive anxiety

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for me it was the first three stages for

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you could be different whatever it is

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it's going to keep you in perpetual

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productivity with a little bit of

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anxiety another one major key number

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three reduce the impact of stress a year

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and a half ago a couple of friends and I

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got together and we wrote a blog we

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produced a blog called year one and what

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we did is we reverse engineered the

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careers of a hundred and seventy-five

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people who we deemed to be extremely

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successful athletes politicians artists

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activists you name it and we distill

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their careers down to a very early point

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in their lives to hone in on one

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particular attribute something that has

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guaranteed them lasting success and

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overwhelmingly we found that one value

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gave the

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most guarantee of lasting success

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resilience resilience is your ability to

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adapt to stress now how do you develop

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resilience the Greeks had a solution for

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this as well or Mises our Mises

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describes the process by which you

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consume a small amount of poison which

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is otherwise lethal for you and could

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kill you in a full dose and small

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administered doses and doing so actually

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builds up your tolerance to that very

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toxin how do you manifest this now as a

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human being instead of running and

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dashing and flying and bounding towards

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your comfort zone and outside of it take

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baby steps do something every day that

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scares you step outside of your comfort

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zone gradually because burnout occurs

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when you're continuously far beyond your

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comfort zone that's a high risk activity

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when you are an overachiever you are

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always engaging in high-risk activity

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and there's diminishing returns what you

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really want to do is remain slightly

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uncomfortable all the time and thereby

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Rees entering your risk factor initially

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you have moderate risk because you've

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diminished and reduced the probability

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and the impact of stress and overtime as

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you build up more resilience as you

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continue to relearn stress as you

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continue to make that transition from

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overachiever to high performer you will

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gradually move back to a place where

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eventually hopefully stress in your life

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is rare and trivial now this is the trip

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I'm taking one leg short told myself

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let's take it easy let's not go as hard

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as we did last time not a lot plan to be

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honest I'm still going to be doing some

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of the things that I wanted to do in the

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previous trip but for the most part I'm

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going to relax I'm going to recharge I'm

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going to restore because I've made the

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transition from human doing back to

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human being and that came from my

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rethinking at a very comprehensive level

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burn out burn out just look at that word

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take

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burn out it's not the fire that's the

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problem it's the absence of the fire

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that's the issue the fire the symbol the

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metaphor for passion for desire for

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action for activity for movement for

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fuel

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once that's extinguished that's the real

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problem so if you're going to take

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anything away from this it's simply burn

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bright not out thank you

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