How To Actually Text Girls

Summary

The video script discusses a unique approach to texting women, contrasting it with popular but ineffective methods. The speaker, Hamza, emphasizes authenticity and self-improvement over game-playing. He outlines a step-by-step strategy, from the initial connection to meeting up, advocating for business-like formality with emotional connection texts. Hamza stresses the importance of not letting the woman lead the conversation and quickly arranging a date. He also addresses common questions about texting frequency and mindset, ultimately urging viewers to live a fun and authentic life to attract women naturally.

Takeaways

• 😀 The speaker, Hamza, criticizes common advice for texting girls, suggesting it's either too try-hard or too detached, and proposes his own method.
• 🔄 Hamza emphasizes the importance of authenticity in communication, advising to express genuine thoughts and feelings when texting a girl.
• 📱 He outlines a step-by-step strategy for transitioning from a stranger to a lover, starting with an initial connection and a simple, genuine compliment.
• 🙅‍♂️ Hamza advises against letting the girl lead the conversation and suggests ignoring typical conversational prompts like 'how are you?'.
• 🤝 He stresses the importance of taking the lead in the conversation to arrange a meet-up within a couple of days, reflecting self-respect and value.
• 📅 Hamza recommends structuring the date around an activity the guy is already planning to do, making it easy and attractive to invite the girl.
• 💬 He suggests sending occasional 'emotional connection' texts to express feelings and build rapport without relying on humor or memes.
• 🚫 If a date can't be arranged within a few attempts, Hamza advises to cut losses and stop messaging, preserving self-respect and moving on.
• 💡 The speaker highlights the importance of living a fun and interesting life, which naturally attracts women, rather than trying to be funny through text.
• 🧘‍♂️ Hamza touches on the mindset required for successful texting, which includes seeing it as a numbers game and maintaining a low emotional investment initially.
• 🤔 He addresses common questions about texting frequency and the challenges of distance or lockdown, advocating for real-life connections over text-based ones.

Q & A

What is the main issue Jeffrey faces in the script?

Jeffrey is happy that the girl he's interested in is replying to his texts, but he faces the issue of her making excuses not to meet him and eventually seeing her with another guy on Snapchat.

What is the speaker's opinion on the online advice for texting girls?

The speaker, Hamza, believes that most of the online advice for texting girls is 'absolute trash' and that it either focuses too much on humor and memes or is too avoidant and focused on logistics.

What is the 'Jeffree to Adonis' transformation Hamza refers to?

The 'Jeffree to Adonis' transformation is a metaphor for the self-improvement journey that Hamza helps young men go through, moving from a place of low self-esteem and ineffective communication to a more confident and attractive state.

What is Hamza's approach to texting girls?

Hamza's approach to texting involves a mix of business-like formality and emotional connection. He emphasizes authenticity, not letting the girl lead the conversation, and aiming to meet up within a few days.

Why does Hamza recommend not letting the girl lead the conversation?

Hamza believes that most girls are not good at texting and can make the conversation boring. By not letting the girl lead, he aims to avoid generic and uninteresting exchanges.

What is the significance of step four in Hamza's texting strategy?

Step four is about leading the conversation to organize a date within the next few days. Hamza argues that if a man cannot meet a girl within this timeframe, it may indicate low value and a lack of respect for oneself.

What should a man do if he cannot book a date within a few days according to Hamza?

If a man cannot book a date within a few days, Hamza suggests cutting losses, stopping the messaging, and potentially trying again after a significant period, like a month.

What is the purpose of sending 'emotional connection' texts before meeting up?

Sending 'emotional connection' texts is meant to express genuine feelings and thoughts about the girl, which can help filter out women who are not compatible with the man's authenticity.

What mindset should a man have when texting girls according to Hamza?

A man should have a mindset of abundance, treating texting as a numbers game with low emotional investment in any one girl, and focusing on living a fun life that naturally attracts women.

Why does Hamza advise against sending memes and focusing on humor in text conversations?

Hamza believes that focusing on humor and sending memes can reduce a man to just a 'texting buddy' and prevent the woman from wanting to meet in person to explore a deeper connection.