3 SECRETS to AVOID DRY Text Conversations

Summary

The video script delves into the art of texting to maintain and enhance attraction in dating scenarios. It criticizes common but ineffective approaches like asking mundane questions and emphasizes the need for playfulness, flirtation, and sparking emotional investment. The speaker outlines three secrets to avoid dull conversations, including ignoring uninteresting questions and focusing on emotional engagement across a spectrum of feelings. The script promises to transform viewers' texting game, aiming to make them stand out like 'Adonis' rather than blending in as a 'Jeffrey'.

Takeaways

• 😀 Responding immediately to a text after a long wait might not be the best strategy to build attraction.
• 😅 Avoid stalking social media profiles of potential partners as it can lead to negative assumptions and jealousy.
• 🤔 Recognize that being overly interested in someone's daily activities can come off as dry and unattractive.
• 🚫 Stop asking boring questions like 'what are you up to?' as they can kill the conversation and show lack of creativity.
• 💬 Be playful, flirty, and a bit sexual in your text messages to keep the conversation engaging and interesting.
• 🤩 Show confidence by not always answering every question directly, especially if it leads to a boring conversation.
• 🔥 Ignoring a boring question and moving on to something more exciting can demonstrate high value and keep the conversation lively.
• 💭 Make her think about you constantly by evoking a range of emotions, not just positive ones.
• 😎 Being emotionally invested in someone is more important than just being attracted to them; it's about occupying their thoughts.
• 🏋️‍♂️ Improve physical appearance with workout routines to enhance attractiveness, as suggested in the video description.
• 🛌 Learn from common bedroom mistakes by watching the private video linked in the description to avoid ruining relationships.

Q & A

What is the main issue that the speaker addresses in the video?

The speaker addresses the issue of ineffective texting strategies that men often use when communicating with women, which can lead to dry conversations and a lack of attraction.

What does the speaker suggest is a common mistake men make when texting women?

The speaker suggests that men often make the mistake of asking boring questions such as 'What are you up to?' which leads to uninteresting and dry conversations.

What is the first secret to avoiding dry conversations according to the speaker?

The first secret is to stop asking boring questions and instead be playful, flirty, and sexual in the conversation to keep it engaging and attractive.

What is the second secret the speaker mentions for texting women?

The second secret is to make the woman emotionally invested in the conversation by making her think about the man more, even if it involves evoking a range of emotions, not just positive ones.

What is the third secret the speaker reveals for effective texting?

The third secret is to not let the conversation be led by the woman's boring questions, but to ignore them and move on to more exciting topics to maintain attraction.

Why does the speaker say that most guys are 'Jeffries' in the context of dating?

The term 'Jeffries' is used to describe men who are not successful in dating and relationships because they lack the confidence and the right approach to texting and attracting women.

What is the analogy used by the speaker to describe a 'beta male' version of himself?

The speaker uses the analogy of a 'beta male' who looks like him but is less attractive and less confident, having a long Snapchat streak with a girl but not being able to maintain her interest.

What is the character 'Adonis' in the script supposed to represent?

Adonis represents the ultimate male archetype who is confident, not overly eager, and prioritizes his work, which paradoxically makes him more attractive to women like Anastasia.

What does the speaker imply about the effectiveness of traditional dating advice?

The speaker implies that traditional dating advice, which often includes taking an interest in a woman's life, is not effective for attracting women and can actually be counterproductive.

What is the speaker's opinion on taking advice from women regarding dating?

The speaker believes that taking advice from women on dating is not helpful because most women cannot pinpoint what they are actually attracted to and often give advice that is not effective.

What are the 'three bedroom mistakes' the speaker mentions in the video?

While the specific mistakes are not detailed in the script, the speaker mentions that there is a private video discussing the three worst mistakes men make in the bedroom when their relationship becomes serious.

Outlines

00:00

📱 Over-Texting and the Attraction Dilemma

The first paragraph discusses the pitfalls of over-texting and the negative impression it can create. It describes a scenario where a man named Jeffrey obsessively texts a girl and checks her social media, leading to a realization that she's spending time with another man. The paragraph emphasizes the importance of not being overly eager in text conversations and introduces the concept of 'Jeffries' as men who fail to attract women due to their lack of confidence and poor texting skills. It also introduces 'Adonis' as the archetype of a man who commands attention and attraction through his confidence and work ethic, contrasting him with 'Jeffries.' The speaker encourages self-awareness and the willingness to improve one's social and texting skills.

05:00

😜 Playful Texting to Avoid Dry Conversations

This paragraph focuses on the second secret of effective texting: being playful, flirty, and slightly sexual. It argues against the common advice of showing interest in a woman's life through mundane questions, which the speaker deems unattractive. Instead, the speaker suggests adopting a fun and teasing approach to messaging, which can lead to a more engaging and emotionally stimulating interaction. The importance of not being one-dimensional and not just trying to make the woman like you, but rather making her think about you, is highlighted. The speaker also warns against letting the conversation become boring by answering questions that don't add value or excitement to the interaction.

10:00

🚫 Ignoring Questions to Maintain Attraction

The third paragraph delves into the unconventional strategy of ignoring questions that could lead to uninteresting conversations. It suggests that instead of responding to every question, one should move on to more exciting topics to keep the interaction lively. This tactic is portrayed as a sign of confidence and can make a woman more intrigued and emotionally invested. The speaker acknowledges that this approach might seem socially abnormal but asserts its effectiveness in maintaining and growing attraction. The paragraph also introduces a bonus secret: making a woman emotionally invested by evoking a wide range of emotions, not just positive ones, which can lead to a deeper connection and attraction.

Keywords

💡Beta Male

In the context of the video, 'Beta Male' refers to a man who is seen as less assertive or dominant compared to the stereotypical 'Alpha Male.' It is used to describe a man who may lack confidence and attractiveness, as seen when the speaker compares himself to a less attractive and confident version of himself in the story of the girl and the Snapchat streak.

💡Jeffrey

'Jeffrey' is a character in the video's narrative who exemplifies behaviors that the speaker advises against. It's used to represent the average guy who may not be successful in dating scenarios, often engaging in behaviors like stalking social media or responding too quickly to texts, which are portrayed as undesirable.

💡Adonis

Adonis is portrayed as the ideal masculine figure in the video, embodying confidence and success with women. The name is used to illustrate the type of man who commands attraction and respect, as opposed to the 'Jeffrey' character. For example, Adonis is shown giving a confident smile to Anastasia without needing to chase after her, unlike the Jeffries.

💡Attraction

Attraction in the video is discussed as a complex emotional response that can be influenced by various factors. It is not just about physical appeal but also about emotional investment and the play of different emotions. The speaker emphasizes that to be attractive, one must be playful, flirty, and sometimes even provoke negative emotions to make the other person think about them more.

💡Playful

'Playful' is a key concept in the video, suggesting a light-hearted and teasing approach to texting and interacting with potential romantic interests. It is used to describe the type of messages that can create a fun and engaging conversation, as opposed to 'dry' or boring questions that lead to uninteresting dialogue.

💡Flirty

Flirtiness is presented as an essential component of texting and interaction in the video. It refers to the use of suggestive or light-hearted comments to create a sense of attraction and intrigue. For example, the speaker suggests using flirty messages to make the conversation more engaging and to provoke an emotional response.

💡Sexual

The term 'Sexual' is used in the context of adding an element of desire or sensuality to the conversation. It is part of the speaker's advice to be more engaging and attractive by incorporating a level of sexual innuendo or suggestion into the text messages, which can create a more intense emotional reaction.

💡Emotional Investment

Emotional investment is a central theme in the video, where the speaker argues that making a woman think about a man frequently, regardless of the type of emotions, is key to attracting her. It is the idea that occupying a woman's thoughts, even with a mix of positive and negative emotions, can lead to a stronger attraction.

💡Ghosting

Ghosting is the act of suddenly cutting off all communication with someone without any explanation. In the video, it is mentioned as a common issue where a man might be doing well with a woman, but then she stops replying, which can be a result of not maintaining her emotional investment or interest.

💡Confidence

Confidence is a recurring theme in the video, with the speaker emphasizing its importance in attracting a romantic interest. It is portrayed as a key trait of the 'Adonis' character and is linked to the ability to ignore 'boring' questions and to take control of the conversation, which can intrigue and attract the other person.

💡One-Dimensional

The term 'One-Dimensional' is used to describe an approach or person that lacks depth or variety. In the video, it is used to criticize the strategy of trying to make a woman happy all the time, suggesting that a more multifaceted emotional approach is needed to truly attract someone.

Highlights

The importance of not responding immediately to texts to create intrigue.

Avoiding the temptation to stalk someone's social media can prevent negative impressions.

Recognizing the difference between being just a friend and being a romantic interest.

The concept of being the 'ultimate male' by prioritizing work over chasing after attention.

The power of a singular, well-crafted text message in commanding attraction.

Admitting personal shortcomings in social interactions is the first step to improvement.

The ineffectiveness of generic and boring questions in text conversations.

The mistake of taking an interest in a girl's life through text can come off as self-centered.

Being playful, flirty, and sexual in text conversations can spark attraction.

The strategy of making a woman emotionally invested in you rather than just liked.

Ignoring boring questions and moving on to more engaging topics can maintain attraction.

The bold approach of not answering questions directly can intrigue and attract.

The idea that evoking a range of emotions, not just positive ones, can deepen attraction.

The paradox that being 'impossible' or challenging can make a man more attractive.

Free resources offered for improving physical attractiveness and understanding bedroom mistakes.

The encouragement to do the hard work, especially when it's challenging.

Transcripts

he's finally texted me after four days

yes I'm gonna respond straight away

that'll get her I'll do it Jeffrey don't

do it no response yet and so Jeffrey

starts to stalk her Instagram story

she's with another guy oh yeah he he's

just they're just friends yeah they're

just friends

oh [ __ ] that just that just gave me a

[ __ ] redfill bro I'm gonna stop the

[ __ ] intro right here there was a

girl like I sound horrible by saying

this but she had like more of a beta

male version of me like he looked like

me but less attractive and less

confident and he and her had a 48 day

Snapchat streak like story thing like so

they had texted each other every single

day for 48 days which is like what two

months almost and every single time she

would put me on her story at night time

in the back of her car he would start

blown up if I was there and every single

time I would see her even be repulsed by

this guy's messages and send him the

same messages back what tanza he's just

my friend I was just her friend and she

was naked when she sent that message to

him Adonis

Adonis notices Anastasia walking past

him he gives her a confident smile even

a little wing and then he goes right

back to his work Anastasia is left

wondering why he isn't running up to her

like all of the Jeffries but it makes

sense he is the ultimate male after all

and work is his priority she's waiting

and waiting and waiting for his text

message and when it finally comes my God

what a text that is instantly she is so

excited to see him how did Adonis

command this much attraction from

Anastasia just from his singular text

message that's what Adonis is going to

teach us today before we begin you need

to admit that you are someone who

probably needs this advice in this video

you need to hold your hand up right now

because most guys can't do this most

guys are Jeffries and they can't even

admit that they're not like excellent in

a certain area you need to hold your

hand up and say you know what I often do

get into dry conversations through text

I often do text the girl and the

attraction that we may have had just

diminishes because I'm not amazing at

texting before I've never really

actively improved my texting game I just

text however my default Jeffrey brain

tells me to do and it's not been that

effective so far if you can relate to

that experience you need to hold your

hand up and just kind of say like yeah

you know what I kind of need this video

most guys will never do this they've got

this arrogant sense of like yeah I'm so

sick a girl should like me and they're

lonely they stay like that forever when

I was 17 18 19 21 22 I totally admitted

to myself that I wasn't good with girls

and that I need to constantly keep

improving so that I could get what I

want which was love and relationships I

had that humility to hold my hand up and

say I need to improve this area of my

life and that's why I made progress the

three secrets that we're gonna cover and

one of these is my best one my personal

one that no one has ever told you about

because it's gonna seem so silly that

every other YouTuber every other person

you've ever asked for dating advice

they'll think that it's weird you try it

once and you'll be like oh [ __ ] okay

this is how I'm gonna text for the rest

of my life my friend Sam has done this

and every single time he uses this

certain like tactic that I taught him he

always comes to me like we always laugh

about how stupid it is but how it just

has worked to actually get what we want

most guys will never have the confidence

to do it because it seems a bit weird

but first of all the first secret to

avoiding dry conversations and this was

something that I did so many times stop

asking boring ass questions never ever

will you ever ask a girl trust me never

ask a girl ever again what are you up to

haha that used to be my first message

that I would send to girls on Tinder I

remember that I finally got two matches

on Cinder bro I made my account it took

me like three days this was you know 16

17 years old I got two matches of girls

that weren't even attractive and I sent

them both what you up to haha both of

them disappeared the next time I opened

the app and I was like no no you know if

one disappeared she could have unmatched

me but there's no way that both of them

would match me broke I went on to the

other little Cog icon I clicked on that

went on to the help I sent their tech

support a ticket saying that I've

mysteriously lost my matches I'm gonna

say that again my texting was so dry

that I lost both of my matches in an

event that felt like there was a tech

issue never ever will you ever ask the

girl hey what you doing haha there was

another girl that I met from Tinder I

told this story just recently and my

friend helped me to get her phone number

like I asked them what to say I got a

phone number and our conversation like

it actually like you know was very for a

long period of time because she kept she

never rejected me she just you know gave

me dry conversation and every single day

I would message her hey what are you

doing and she would literally reply TV

space you the letter U question mark

XXX

do you think I ever even met her in

person never mind even dating her or

sleeping with her obviously not the guy

that these girls are sleeping with are

not asking them these boring ass

questions like taking an interest in

their lives I know that seems silly

because I know that every other piece of

advice that you've probably seen online

what's like that the blue pill good boy

feeling that all these other people have

told you on how to attract girls

no absolutely not I'm telling you right

now that's not the way to attract a girl

at all think about it what is the usual

common experience of a girl who's kind

of annoyed at the guy who keeps [ __ ]

her and won't commit that kind of guy is

he there like taking an interest oh my

God okay so you've got science class and

then Matt's class and then you've got to

watch Steve no he's literally just

taking an interest in himself that kind

of guy is quite selfish and the thing is

women will ever be able to openly admit

these things this is why we don't ever

take advice from women in terms of

dating because most women I say about 99

can't really pinpoint what they're

actually attracted to women will say oh

you know I really want the guy who cares

about me every guy that they're [ __ ]

is quite selfish and self-interested so

asking these questions to take an

interest in their life it's not what the

guys are doing that she's actually

falling for so what are they doing well

they're using secret number two which is

to be playful flirty and sexual these

guys are not asking her these dry

questions like oh wait what are you

gonna do after science club the kind of

guys that are actually sleeping with

these girls actually dating these girls

these girls are obsessed with these

girls are like crying because this guy's

not replying guess what these guys

actually are like they don't care about

what she's doing they're just having

like a fun time messaging her and like

playing around with her so so far we've

covered that you're not gonna act like

the guys who get left on red which are

taking an interest in life because

that's not attractive even though every

girl will tell you it is it's so weird

because it's like I'm telling you to do

something which girls will tell you

doesn't work and yeah it will work

you'll never find a girl who's totally

obsessed with the guy who takes an

interest in their lives just as simple

as that if there is anyone like that if

there is any relationships like that

it's usually that the guy's really

feminine the girl's really masculine and

the guy's just obsessed with her and

while she wants to go and do her career

and [ __ ] which probably isn't the kind

of relationship that you want if you're

a masculine guy when a feminine woman if

you want a woman who's more taking an

interest in you whilst you take an

interest in your work so the way to then

text the girl is to always hold this

kind of like funny flirty playful

attitude when you text that there's no

dry oh what are you gonna do it's more

like I bet you're stepping on snails

right now that's a [ __ ] random one I

bet like that's let's just just try that

bro instead of ever asking to go oh what

are you doing right now literally just

send another message I bet you're

stepping on snails right now I'm gonna

send that as your first Tinder message I

guarantee you'll get more responses then

hey how are you doing to attract a woman

it isn't even about making her like you

every guy who's actually successful with

women knows this and every guy who's not

good with women maybe you doesn't know

this every [ __ ] boy every player the

guys who have been Ultra successful with

women know what it is you don't have to

make a woman like you you just have to

make a woman emotionally invested into

you you have to Simply make her think

more about you and she will fall for you

it's as simple as that you have to take

up more brain space for her the little

chump who's one dimensional and takes an

interest in her and just asks her how

she's doing well he doesn't take up that

space because she's just thinking oh

yeah it's boring Chomp he's not

mysterious is yep that's what I expected

him to say I expected him to send me a

chumpy message he did okay sweet so

you're not confirmed no need to think

about him anymore but Chad why won't he

reply back and why did he just reply

back with like a seemingly insult now

she's thinking about this Chad guy and

she's taking a screenshot sending it to

her friends like what does this mean did

she say he said that I'm stepping on

snails what does he mean you make her

think about something you act playful

and flirty and a little bit sexual I bet

you're watching step brother porn right

now now obviously you've got to kind of

know your audience and you don't want to

do this with some girls offended or

something but the thing is the guy who's

actually getting this girl doesn't even

give a [ __ ] if she's offended you don't

need to like steal my lines but you need

to just come up with something that

actually makes you laugh the whole point

of this is that you're this like

authentic high value guy who's literally

just doing whatever you want so don't

just completely copy my sentences but

find something that literally makes you

laugh like you can't stop laughing as

you're about to send it to her like

you're just playing with it you're just

teasing her and when you've done that I

guarantee that if this girl is actually

attracted to your normal natural

masculine energy she's gonna be totally

into you she's gonna text you back

something great and she's gonna take an

interest in you and this is actually

where most guys [ __ ] up so you may have

done this before you may have actually

been quite attractive to a girl she's

actually texting you she's interested in

you it seems all great you might even go

meet up and then she just kind of

disappears she stops replying she starts

ghosting you so many guys have been

through this and they don't realize the

most important secret that we need to

cover which is my special one which will

save you from this experience of you

know actually doing well with a girl and

then falling off the guys who know what

to do at this point usually won't tell

you because you know if I tell you this

you're gonna start like taking more

girls and I don't want you to do that

but you know what I'm gonna tell you and

it's gonna seem weird and you're not

going to implement it but maybe one

percent of people who watch this video

are gonna implemented actually think

okay [ __ ] I'm gonna use this tactic for

the rest of my life and are you ready

secret number three and the most

important most weird that you're

probably not going to implement because

you're too soft for this do not let her

burn the conversation to the ground

quite frankly a lot of girls are boring

as [ __ ] most guys will let a woman take

the lead a girl will take interest in

them you know the guy said something

nice so the guys look attractive and the

girl will send them a message like also

what are you up to right now hey how you

doing the girl will ask these questions

and guys will get they oh my God guys

she's asking me a question well she's

taking it inside yeah I'm good how are

you no reply she sent you a message

asking how you are you reply because you

know she's just taking an interest in

you and then she doesn't reply to you

what most guys don't understand what the

[ __ ] just happened because some girls

when they start to lead the text message

conversation and they start to ask you

the question and it's natural for you to

answer and then ask them oh what are you

what do you think about the same topic

it is boring guess what most guys would

do and it's the worst thing possible to

do to maintain or even grow her

attraction it's something that you do

all the time even though it seems Common

Sense she asks a question guess what

most guys do they answer the question

most guys by answering her shitty boring

question will make the conversation just

die out because now you're in this

boring conversation about oh how are you

do you want to know what secret number

three actually looks like in a practical

sense and you might not even have the

confidence to do this because it seems

quite socially abnormal she will ask you

a boring ass question this will come up

it's almost a trap and you move on as if

she hasn't even said that you just move

on to the next thing that you wanted to

say what are you doing tonight are you

free at 6pm it's gonna seem a little bit

like you're autistic this is why most

guys don't have the confidence for this

she's going to ask you a question and

the normal social thing to do is to

respond to the question and move on no

no she's going to ask this boring ass

question and you're going to reply with

something that's just instantly more

exciting and attractive even though it

seems like it's so weird like you've not

answered this question girls are so

attracted to a guy who does this that

they don't even usually pick up on this

sometimes a girl will play oh you didn't

ask my question secret number three

which I'm sure that most guys are never

going to use because you need a level of

confidence for this most guys are

[ __ ] honestly it's probably you I'm

not gonna lie it probably is you right

just probably this but if you weren't a

[ __ ] and if you really wanted to get

this girl you wouldn't allow her to burn

the conversation to the ground and she

doesn't really mean to do this when a

girl takes an interest in you and asks

you questions that's a good sign but

most guys take that good sign and they

ruin it by answering her question and

then the conversation just stands out

the best thing you can do when she asks

you a question that's gonna lead to a

boring part of the conversation just

ignore it completely ignore it

completely send a message as if you've

not even seen that straight away when

she sent you some boring ass [ __ ] a

question you reply with the secret

number two like a quick statement

accusation like a little playful thing

like hey how are you I bet you're

watching Step Brothers porn right now

just because it's literally she's gonna

remember you so much more than the

[ __ ] Dewey who replies yeah I'm good

how are you honestly you want the best

secrets for getting girls secret number

four bonus secret just make her

emotionally invested in you do whatever

it takes to make her think about you the

most most guys most girls will never be

able to tell you this even the guys who

do this themselves don't even know what

they're doing I'm telling you right now

there is one secret way one absolute way

to make a girl obsessed with you just

make her think about you all the time

most guys are too impossy for this and

they'll only want her to think about

them in the positive sense the real

Chads the real [ __ ] boys the real

players the guy who gets so many girls

because they're just [ __ ] good at

navigating women they know for a fact

it's not just about her thinking

positive things in her mind it's about

making her angry making her upset making

her emotional making her excited every

spectrum of the emotion for guys for us

to like a girl it's only one Spectrum

it's just like attraction it's just

liking them for a girl to like us it's

this whole spectrum of like the more

emotions excitement horror anxiety

stress happiness all these ones

literally there's hundreds of motions

the more that you can tap into the more

that she's gonna be be into most guys

are going to be too afraid to do this

they're going to struggle with girls for

the rest of their lives but if you can

just somewhat agree with this message

and just try it next time obviously

don't get put in jail or anything but

just remember this concept of okay you

want to hit the spectrum of emotions

you'll realize the truth behind

attracting girls is so simple it's just

that we as men have been trying to

attract girls in the way that we would

be attracted to a girl which is okay

like we've got to like him for a girl to

be attracted to you and actually want to

[ __ ] you it's not even about just

attraction it's just about emotional

Investments this is why the guy like the

Chads Drive women insane crazy this is

why you often see girls complaining and

get angry about the guy that they're

[ __ ] they're [ __ ] them and they're

not even thinking positively about them

and so here's you the one-dimensional

jump just trying to make her happy you

hit one one little part of the emotional

Circle that's the one overpowered

absolutely overpowered like something

I've just told you there most guys are

not going to use it but maybe if you do

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