10 Things I Wish I Knew About Men In My 20s
Summary
TLDRIn this insightful video, the speaker shares wisdom about relationships, advising women to value themselves, not to overdo for men, and to understand that men value time and effort invested in oneself. She emphasizes the importance of being interesting and secure, rather than 'hard to get', and stresses the need for mutual commitment and respect in a relationship.
Takeaways
- 💔 Doing more for a man does not necessarily make him value you more. Sometimes, men may interpret additional efforts as a sign of their own worth rather than your value.
- 💰 Valuing yourself and investing time and effort into your own growth can make a man value you more. Men often equate value with the resources and attention you devote to yourself.
- 🌶️ Men are not necessarily attracted to a 'spicy' or overly challenging woman every day. They appreciate an interesting woman who can also make them feel good about themselves.
- 💬 Being 'hard to get but easy to be with' is a desirable trait. It means having a busy life but being enjoyable and relaxed when you are together.
- 😎 Confidence is attractive. Recognize your own value and don't undervalue yourself in relationships.
- 🚫 If a man is not your type or not ready for a relationship, it's important to accept this and move on, as trying to change his mind is usually futile.
- 👶 If a man is unsure about the relationship, you should be unsure too. It's crucial to align your expectations and not invest in a relationship where one party is hesitant.
- 👵 Young men may not be ready for serious commitments like marriage or fatherhood, so consider dating older men who are more likely to be ready for these roles.
- 🏃♂️ When a man asks for space, respecting his need for autonomy is essential. Trying to close the gap can push him away.
- 🤔 Sometimes the problem in a relationship might be your own expectations or attempts to change the other person. Accept them for who they are or move on.
- 👩❤️👨 It's important for women to take the initiative in showing interest in a man they like, rather than waiting for him to make the first move.
Q & A
What is the main theme of the video script?
-The main theme of the video script is about the wisdom the speaker wishes she knew in her 20s about men and relationships.
What misconception does the speaker address about doing more for men?
-The speaker addresses the misconception that doing more for men will make them value you more. She explains that men might see it as them being more valuable, not you.
Why is it important to value yourself and put yourself first according to the speaker?
-According to the speaker, valuing yourself and putting yourself first is important because men tend to value you more when they see you investing time and effort into yourself, similar to how they value their cars or other possessions.
What does the speaker mean by 'hard to get but easy to be with'?
-The speaker means that you should not be difficult to approach or engage with, but you should have a busy life and not be overly available. When you are with him, be enjoyable and fun to be around.
Why does the speaker say that being an 'interesting woman' is more attractive than being a 'spicy Saucy woman'?
-The speaker suggests that being an interesting woman with opinions and a secure attachment is more attractive because it makes a man feel like the man he wants to be, rather than being a challenge or a conquest.
What is the speaker's advice on how to handle a man who is unsure about a relationship?
-The speaker advises that if a man is unsure about a relationship, you should also be unsure and consider dating other people. You should not invest all your hopes in a relationship with someone who is not fully committed.
Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of not trying to change a man?
-The speaker emphasizes this because trying to change a man can be futile and lead to resentment. It's important to accept people for who they are and not attempt to mold them into what you want.
What does the speaker mean by 'pick the man, don't let the man pick you'?
-The speaker means that women should take the initiative to show interest in the man they want, rather than waiting for a man to approach them. This does not mean chasing them, but giving subtle signs of interest.
Why does the speaker warn against focusing too much on physical attraction?
-The speaker warns that physical attraction can fade quickly, and it's important to focus on shared values and how a man treats you. Looks alone are not enough to sustain a long-term relationship.
What is the speaker's stance on the idea that sleeping with a man will make him more attached?
-The speaker argues that sleeping with a man will not necessarily make him more attached if he is not already interested. It's important to be genuinely ready for that step in the relationship.
Outlines
💔 Misunderstanding Men's Value Perception
The speaker shares wisdom she wishes she knew in her 20s about men. She emphasizes that doing more for men does not necessarily make them value you more. She explains the common misconception that increased effort equates to increased value, which is often true in other areas of life but not in relationships. Men may misinterpret your actions as them being more valuable rather than recognizing your value. She advises focusing on your own worth and not overdoing for others.
💰 Valuing Yourself to Increase Your Value
The speaker discusses the importance of valuing oneself and investing time and effort into oneself. She uses the analogy of a man taking care of his car to illustrate how men often value things they invest in. She advises women to spend time and energy on themselves, not just on men, to increase their perceived value. This self-investment is not only beneficial for relationships but also for personal growth and development.
🌟 Being Interesting, Not Just 'Hard to Get'
The speaker refutes the romantic comedy stereotype that men are attracted to 'spicy' and difficult women. Instead, she advises being an interesting woman with opinions and ideas, but not overly confrontational. She emphasizes the importance of making a man feel good about himself through your eyes and actions. The speaker also discusses the concept of being 'hard to get but easy to be with,' suggesting that maintaining a busy life while being enjoyable in his company is more attractive than being constantly available and resentful.
🌈 Confidence is Key in Attraction
The speaker talks about the importance of confidence in attracting men. She advises women to see themselves as valuable, using the metaphor of a luxury item that is not easily accessible. She warns against acting desperate or seeking validation from men, which can detract from one's attractiveness. The speaker encourages women to be confident in their worth and to understand that men are attracted to those who know their value.
🚫 Accepting Men as They Are, Not Trying to Change Them
The speaker discusses the futility of trying to change a man who is not interested or not ready for a relationship. She advises accepting men as they are and not attempting to convince them to want what you want. She emphasizes that if a man is not your type or not ready for commitment, no amount of persuasion will change his mind. The speaker encourages women to let go of those who are not right for them and focus on finding someone who is.
👶 Lessons from Parenthood and Relationship Dynamics
The speaker shares insights from her personal experiences, including her struggle with postpartum thyroiditis and the lessons she learned about relationships. She advises women to respect a man's need for space and not to panic or try to close the gap when he pulls away. She also discusses the importance of picking the right man and not waiting for him to pick you, emphasizing the need for women to take initiative in showing interest.
💑 The Myth of 'The One' and the Importance of Compatibility
The speaker dispels the myth that there is one perfect man for every woman and that he will find her. She encourages women to be proactive in choosing the man they want to be with and to give clear signs of interest. She also stresses the importance of compatibility in values and life goals, rather than just physical attraction. The speaker warns against the belief that physical attraction will sustain a relationship in the long term.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Value
💡Self-worth
💡Interest
💡Femininity
💡Confidence
💡Type
💡Space
💡Attraction
💡Commitment
💡Independence
💡Selection
Highlights
Doing more for a man does not necessarily make him value you more.
Men often perceive additional effort as a sign of their own value, not your value.
Valuing yourself and investing time in yourself can make a man value you more.
Men value things that time, money, effort, and energy are spent on.
Men do not want a constant 'spicy' or confrontational relationship.
Men appreciate an interesting woman who can see them in a positive light.
Being 'hard to get but easy to be with' is a desirable trait in a woman.
Maintaining playfulness and femininity is key to being easy to be with.
Confidence is attractive; knowing your worth is crucial.
If a man is not ready for a relationship, no amount of persuasion will change his mind.
Young men in their early 20s are often not ready for serious commitments.
Respecting a man's need for space is essential in a relationship.
Trying to change a man is futile; accept him for who he is or move on.
Women should take the initiative to show interest in a man they like.
Physical attraction fades; shared values and mutual respect are more important in the long term.
Sleeping with a man early in the relationship does not necessarily make him more attached.
If a man is unsure about a relationship, it's wise for the woman to be unsure as well.
Transcripts
if you are ready I will impart some
wisdom on you right about now I'm going
to tell you what I wish I knew in my 20s
about men that I know now had I known
then my life would have been a lot
easier maybe not easier I don't know
maybe we're meant to just experience
these things as they happen but let me
tell you these are the things that I
wish I knew I don't know how many there
will be it will be in the title The
amount of things will be in the title
but here I am in my 30s about to impart
that wisdom so let's get into it number
one doing more for them does not equal
them valuing you
more let's pause for a second doing more
for them does not equal them valuing you
more there is this jux position of ideas
here because normally when we do more at
school when we do more for our friends
when we do more in life more value comes
out of it but unlike normal things men
are not the same they are not the same
sometimes they take from the fact that
you are doing more for them not the fact
that you are more valuable but the fact
that they are more valuable what they
see in your actions and doing more let's
say you're cooking for them you're
looking after them you're calling them
you're making sure their mental health
is mental healthing from that they do
not take the fact that you are valuable
they don't see those actions As You Are
amazing or you like them they see these
actions as I must deserve them that is
the male mindset that I must deserve
them if she is doing them because men do
not do things for people they don't see
value in so your doing this is adding to
his
valuessouth postpartum and after I have
my children I get thyroiditis which is
like hyperthyroid so if I'm talking a
little bit faster I get my blood test
results next week if I'm a little bit
more excited about this it's my thyroid
talking okay but the facts are still
fating the facts are still real the
thyroid might be doing the excitement
but the facts are still real number two
valuing yourself and putting
yourself first and putting a high price
on your time does make man value you
more so you might be thinking so okay me
doing things for him does not make him
value me what does Margarita I'm telling
you fact number two that I wish I knew
in my 20s is men value you through the
Paradigm of the amount of time and
effort you put into yourself have you
ever seen the amount of time and effort
a man puts into his car the old Banger
that he red does and reframes and does
all these things and Mak make sure it's
parked in the right garage and make sure
it's shine shoe D I know no car
terminology so I don't know what I'm
saying but what I am saying is in the
man's mind the thing that holds value is
a thing that time money effort and
energy is spent on so when he is
assessing you and you're putting a lot
of time into him and nothing into
yourself D he's done the calculation and
men in the comments are going to deny
this cuz they don't want you to know
this truth and this fact but it is the
truth and it is The Facts of
Life they will calculate that you are
not worth valuing much even if you are
the best thing since sliced bread even
if he initially adored you and wanted
you the value of you will go down and
that is a shame baby because you're
amazing the way to make him see you
differently is to actually put time into
yourself and furthermore forget the men
in this conversation for a second don't
you want to put more into yourself
don't you want to put more time effort
and energy into yourself because at the
end of the day even if it doesn't work
out with Gary or Brad you would have up
to the ante of who you are you would
have done growing you would have done
developing and evolving so forget him
for a second and understand this stop
doing for him what he's not asked you to
do stop running around like a headless
chicken and then resenting him when he
doesn't value you for it and instead
understand huh I'm going to put
something into myself and in his manb
brain he's going to equate the fact that
okay she's not doing anything for me
that I haven't asked her to do now
you're still a kind person if he asked
you for help you can help him we're not
talking about that or he asked you to
cook him a meal fine cook him the meal
girl go for it do what whatever you want
to do but the point is you put into
yourself you want to go get your hair
done you want to go get your nails done
cool do it let's come out of the nail
and hair category you go and do your
degree you need to go do your studies
you go study you don't drop that and go
meet him you want to see your aunt or
your mom you go do that you don't drop
everything to go and meet him that's
going to add value to you number three
men don't want a spicy Saucy fight every
day despite what romcoms have told you
they want an interesting woman in their
life but one who will help them see
themselves in the best light now that
was a really long sentence but let's
check it out again we are led to believe
as women because we're the ones who
watch romcoms or we are the ones who
watch 50 Shades of Gray that men want
this like spicy Saucy woman who's like
yeah whatever don't tell me no no no and
then he'll chase you and then somehow
make you succumb to his will and you
know this is all the like Pride and
Prejudice and all that kind of notion
that we get if you find a man you really
like you need to be an interesting woman
one that he can oppose in opinions and
have some kind of you know oppositional
conversation with that's that's true he
doesn't want just like this bean bag of
a woman who has no opinions but he wants
to see himself as amazing through your
eyes that's the whole notion of
femininity he wants to see himself as
this incredible man through your eyes
like when you see him when you witness
him these statements of like you're an
incredible man or you make me feel safe
or all that kind of stuff is really
important because he wants to the type
of woman a man would struggle to leave
and I tell you this many times is the
type of woman who makes him feel like
the man he wants to be that is the
biggest Crux that you need to understand
so these romcoms will sell us the idea
that women you know that we want to be
like this hard to get spicy woman who
makes his life hell basically and he's
like no Samantha please please let's
just be together he's like no because
you don't like the color I like stupid
that's not what men want and then women
are surprised when they act all saw
soury spicy and psycho that the guy they
want doesn't want them back you've got
to have a secure attachment to you and
people who are secure don't go around
presenting like a psychopath the point
is about someone who's secure and
confident that is so attractive it's
like a Tik Tok I saw where it's like a
nonchalant guy she's like oh I hate your
car he's like yeah that's all right
she's like you don't look like you go to
the gym and he's like yeah I don't go to
the gym and he in all the comments seen
like so attractive by the women because
people who are nonchalant and they're
accepting and a bit stoic and secure are
very attractive so don't be a spicy
Chihuahua be an interesting woman with
an opinion but spicy Chihuahua no number
four it's not about hard to get it's
about hard to get but easy to be
with you know what I mean you are not
hard to get by proxy of you acting hard
to get and being an [ __ ] you are hard
to get by the fact that you've got a
busy life but when you are with him
you're easy to be with if you can Master
hard to get but easy to be
with all men will be yours let me tell
you because the experience of being with
the feminine or being with a woman you
want for a man is all about you know fun
it's playfulness the idea of preserving
femininity as you grow up we don't age
we grow up okay is about maintaining
playfulness a lot of times playful is
like beaten out of women in society and
I get why life gets hard with children
and everything and it just gets tiring
if you can maintain your playfulness
girl you can maintain your femininity
and your youth in so many ways being
easy to be with is really hard for a lot
of women because they build resentment
from how a man treats them and by proxy
of building that resentment they want
him to know how much he's annoyed her
and hurt her when he's with her
so they do this thing where they're
always available whenever he knocks or
calls at 4:00 a.m. whatever but when he
does
arrive they switch on this like [ __ ]
demeanor and I love a [ __ ] demeanor
that's cool I love it I love a [ __ ]
gal but if you're going to be easy to be
to to get basically you can contact you
any point and see you and that's not a
problem but at the same time you're
going to be just a [ __ ] to be with
that's not how you get people enamored
with you and that's not how you feel
good about yourself either and that's
the bottom line of all these things that
I wish I knew in my 20s anyway like what
is the point of me just waiting on the
phone for him to contact me and want to
hang out with me and then when I do see
him I'm like didn't want to see me last
week bet you were busy doing D no it's
not about that it's like this build your
life if he doesn't fit into it because
he's always last minute then he's going
to fall away any anyway if he does make
time to see you see him when you're
happy to see him see him when you're in
your flow and your good energy it's not
going to make him change I know what
you're thinking you're like but
Margarita how's it going to make him
know that he shouldn't contact me last
minute well say it like a big woman with
your chest say I really don't like it
when you contact me last minute so if
you want to see me let me know in
advance and drop it there you don't need
to be hard to be with be easy to be with
think about it in friendships like if
you didn't turn your girlfriend's call
because you were so busy genuinely and
people can be genuinely busy you need to
understand that men aren't like a
against us it's like not an oppositional
Force right so if he was genuinely like
with his family or something and then
you were just this angry raccoon at him
and so annoying to be with and just
weird is that going to make you want to
be with him would that make you want to
be with a friend of yours imagine you
didn't reply to her and she's like all
right whatever you didn't reply to me so
why would I hang out with you but yeah
let's see each other anyway but you're
such a [ __ ]
friend no miss me with that number five
is if you're confident you will be
attractive to him confidence means
knowing your product has value and by
that I mean I see a lot of DMS from you
guys from women talking about how do I
mention that I want to get married or
how do I mention I want a longterm
relationship you're acting like you're
the biggest piece of trash at the bin
that all the juices from the bin and the
trash and everything has gone down to
and you're just like stuck to the bottom
of the bin you're you're acting like
people would be disgusted at the notion
of being around you or being with you
and you're like how do I let them know
that I want a relationship with me the
piece of trash at the bottom of the bin
I'm so disgusting how do I know that me
this disgusting bin trash wants to get
married babe understand that your
product AKA You has value have you ever
gone into a luxury store and people are
like I'm so sorry this disgusting bag I
know how do I let you know that that
we're trying to sell it no they're like
it's not even for sale for you you have
to get on the wait list think about
every brand that is luxurious you have
to get on the wait list for that bck and
you've got to get on that wait list for
the Bugatti or whatever it is I don't
know caruse but you know what I'm saying
you've got to get on the wait list and
if any of you come for me for equating
women to objects I miss me with that I
don't want it I don't want to know it
this is not the place I'm not pedantic
in language and I love a metaphor I live
for a metaphor so if you live for a
metaphor you're welcome on this channel
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wish I knew about men that when I tell
you you will not listen but I will tell
you anyway if you're not his type or he
is not
ready leave it leave him alone he will
not change his mind there's nothing you
can do there is no cool thing you can
say there is no acrobatic thing you can
do in the
bedroom there is no boob job you can get
there is nothing and if he is sure and
you are his type then there's almost
nothing you can do to put him off I know
that's really strange to say but it is
the truth that if you are not his type
and he is not ready you can pay him a
billion dollars and he will not be sure
and not be ready and it's a painful
thing to acknowledge like when I was
younger I thought that perhaps I can
work on someone's attraction for me I
just remembered oh my God memory
flooding back there was this guy that I
really really liked and he just did not
want a bar of me let's call him David
his name did start with a D so let's
call him David and and he was just not
interested and the amount I thought
about him I think it was like an ego
problem like I could not believe that
somebody no matter what I did was not
interested in me but leave it it's not
for you because at the end of the day as
a woman to develop your feminine energy
and to live this life in the purposeful
way you want to live it you do not want
to be with the guy who didn't want you
but you convinced him first of all it
never happens but second of all if
that's not convinced you this will
the fact that he didn't want you but you
had to do something to make him want you
what else are you going to have to do in
that relationship what are you going to
have to do jump through hoops or
whatever and I know you're thinking
right now if you're obsessed with a guy
yeah I'm willing to do that you're not
because it's going to get old because
your spirit and your soul is going to
get so like put down by their experience
that you're not going to want it anymore
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of tailing off the last one is if he's
not sure you shouldn't be either I wish
I knew in my 20s that if a guy isn't
sure if he's like yeah maybe we should
just date and you know see how it goes
or all these things but you're putting
100% eggs in that basket as soon as he
says I'm not sure you should not be sure
as well you should start dating other
people and I don't mean like in this
like I'll just date other people
rotational dating I don't know what the
terminology is but if he's not sure
you're not sure because if he's not sure
about you you're not sure about him and
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show understands that relationship and
family is deep at the core of what I am
trying to talk to you about it's not
just about dating it's about moving
forward building the life you want and
all these things and if you are trying
to build it with someone who's not sure
it's like trying to build a business
with a business partner who's not sure
about you don't try and sell something
to somebody who's not willing you've got
to be 100% in hence the case for
marriage that 100% of both of you are in
and you're in this together and neither
of you are leaving no matter what so
that's the case for that the next thing
I wish I knew in my 20s about
men and a lot of you DM me about this
but I never reply because I don't know
how to phrase it because there is a
minor exception to the rule maybe like a
2 percentile exception to the
rule but mostly young men are not ready
for the relationship that you are
looking for he is 22 years old he is not
ready to be a provider and a father and
and all these things now there are that
2% and some might say it's a hormonal
thing men in their early 20s are very
high
testosterone and low in the hormone that
makes men commit what is that hormone
come on thyroid give me my memory back I
cannot remember but if you look it up
there's a hormone that men oxytocin
maybe that goes up later in men's life
that makes them actually Bond whilst in
the beginning they're very high
testosterone like look at young men
they're very fiery high testosterone
they want to you know they don't get
attached that's the hormone that stops
them from getting attached and later in
life testosterone drops and they get
more of the hormone that makes them
attached and furthermore they're just
more ready for that in life so if you're
not dating that 2 to 5 percentile of
young men who are ready to wife you
maybe due to religious reasons or other
reasons I would strongly suggest that as
fun as it is to date when you're young
if you are looking oh my baby's crying I
might have to bring her into the
shot if you are dating to get
married either you wait into your 30s or
you look for an older guy and by older I
don't mean 50 I just mean in their 30s
and ready to take that step with you let
me get this child okay I got my little
handheld mammal she's here and going to
continue with the points when he needs
space closing the Gap will make even a
good guy run this is really hard to
understand in your 20s because all
you're trying to do is trying to
basically self soothe so when a guy is
asking for space or running away or
doing all these things like wanting to
be with his friends or even
communicating clearly to you I would
like more space and instead of
respecting it you are showing up at his
house being like Oh but I bought tickets
to this or you might be doing it a lot
more in a space like why would you need
space I thought you and I were dating
all these things the reality is even a
good guy will be put off by that because
healthy relationships need space but you
as a younger woman might believe unless
you're securely attached that you need
to close that Gap because you are
panicking oh my God he's running away
from me we're not going to be together
it's going to be really bad you're
trying to put a Band-Aid on the fact
that you feel like he doesn't want to be
with you the reality is you need to let
that guy go as soon as he says I want
space you need to be like run baby run
because number one if he's healthy and
normal he will have that space of 5
minutes and then he will come running
back to you because you'll be like wow I
miss her I have assessed I've been
without her it's really easy for a man
to assess how much you mean to him when
you are not right up close into his face
and that is healthy and you both need
that or if he's the type of guy who just
wants to avoid if he's avoidant down to
like the worst avoidant can that you can
be then let him go he will run away and
let him run free like a bird that he is
run Run free run wild my guy because we
don't need you here anyway you trying to
close the gap will make even a good man
run away from you because it's the Law
of Attraction he says I need space he
walks away a bit you're right behind his
back he walks away a bit more you are
you trying to grab the microphone my
daughter is trying to grab this
microphone she is saying put me on put
me on I'm going to tell them what I wish
I knew about men when I was 2 months old
it's going to make even a good man run
away because people want their space
human beings want space human beings
need to feel autonomous and like they
are in their own right and they can make
decisions so a good man will see you
always closing the Gap he won't have an
opportunity to miss you he won't have an
opportunity to see you from a part of
himself one of the most times someone
seems the most attractive in life is
when you see them doing something that
they are amazing at like doing their
PowerPoint or skiing if they're really
good at skiing and if you're always
behind his back stalking him he never
gets to see that from you number
next maybe sometimes you are the problem
let people be who they are and do not
try to change them if somebody's not
interested in you or they are interested
in you but they're just not the type of
person for you if they have different
values to you if they don't want the
same things you want and instead of
accepting them for who they are you try
and change them because you have the
audacity to believe that everybody
should live like you want to live and
change for you then you are the problem
in your 20s in my 20s I did not
understand that and I wish I knew that
like if someone's always late or if
someone doesn't like what I like or if
somebody doesn't want the relationship
that I want I thought I just have to
explain it to them enough for them to
want what I want and have my values that
is not true when someone shows you who
they are believe them if there's
somebody who isn't interested late only
interested in sex with you let them be
who they are stop trying to change
people next pick the man don't let the
man pick you I wish in my 20s I knew
that the idea that I'm just out there
and the man that is meant for me will
find
me is not right we as women drop the
handkerchief we as women see the guy
that we're interested in and have to
give him a sign of our interest we have
to give that man a sign of our interest
how do you do it ask him to hold your
coat drop the handkerchief
metaphorically speaking smile at him
look at him for too long there's all
these ways I talk about it in my
feminine energy course on margar
nazareno docomo check that out if you
haven't checked it out I talk about
these things a lot but the point being
pick the man you want it doesn't mean
you chase him never chase the man but
pick the man you want give him a sign
because a lot of times equality men
they're not going to come up to you
because they've been taught about the me
too movement they've been taught that
talking to you at the gym is uh cause
for concern so if you like him look at
him for a bit too long say he looks
great in something and then stop that is
the way to do it so don't chase him but
give him the sign pick the man the man
should not pick you next despite
thinking that looks is what will attract
you to him in the long term if he is not
the type of man that you want to be with
quality-wise and value-wise and how he
sees you and how he my daughter is
laughing at me that's so funny this is
not funny you need to listen to this
baby her name is Valentina you need to
listen to these points okay I'm telling
you these points so you can understand
and value what I'm saying so looks is
not all there is you might be attracted
to him at first but due to the fact that
you're a woman the looks will fade real
quick fast and sharp if he does not have
the same values like you will put six
foot into the dating apps don't you
right stop putting 5'8 or something see
what other men there are out there I'm
just using height as an example he can
look very sexy very quickly if he has
the same values as you wants to provide
for you and just sees you as a goddess
as opposed to that six-foot guy who is
not interested and I know right now
you're like no but he's sexy like I'm so
attracted to him he won't be he won't be
when you're paying for all your children
and you're working two jobs and he's
lying on the sofa because he's not
interested and he never was he's not
going to be sexy trust and believe and
number last if you've met him and you
want him to be attracted to you so you
sleep with him because you believe make
him attached because it makes us women
attached because hormonally that's how
we're base we sleep with them enough at
the start we think that we've conceived
their child biologically even though you
know intelligently that you haven't
because you're on the pill but your
body's like oh this could be the father
of our child quick lock him down so that
he provides for us and our children and
we don't die in the cave despite the
fact that it makes you attached and you
know that it will not make him attached
there is no amount of acrobatics you can
do if he's not interested in you that
will make him attach to you quite the
contrary my
friend if you do not do that with him
until you are ready genuinely ready then
it will make him quite interested in you
it's not going to make him lock you down
because you've done some kind of
gymnastics for him and it's not going to
make him more attracted to you or more
interested in you it's just not going
to all the secrets are in here okay this
book that I've just slammed shut for
those who are not watching anyway those
are the things I wish that I knew in my
20s about men suggest another
title that you would like to see next
time go on my Instagram go on my Tik Tok
any way you want suggest it things that
I might teach my son about women or
things I wish i' I'm here for you and I
will deliver love you lots like jelly
tots and I'll see you or I'll hear you
on the next one and thanks for Lending
me your ears
ciao
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