"Mengatasi Keraguan Diri" Konseling Individu Pendekatan REBT Teknik Self Talk

Summary

The counseling session follows Arina, a student struggling with low self-confidence, particularly in class where she hesitates to express her opinions or answer questions due to fear of judgment. Through dialogue with the counselor, Arina identifies her negative self-talk and learns to replace it with positive affirmations. The counselor introduces self-talk techniques and encourages Arina to adopt positive thinking patterns, rewarding herself for progress and applying these strategies in real-life situations. The session concludes with a commitment to change, and a plan for future sessions to track Arina's progress in building confidence.

Takeaways

• 😀 Arina struggles with low self-confidence, especially in academic settings like answering questions or expressing opinions in class.
• 😀 Arina discovered the counselor through Instagram after feeling disturbed by her self-doubt and lack of confidence.
• 😀 This is Arina's first counseling session, and she came voluntarily, hoping to overcome her self-confidence issues.
• 😀 The counseling process involves a safe, confidential environment where Arina can share her thoughts and concerns openly.
• 😀 Arina’s negative thoughts include fear of being wrong in class and being laughed at by her friends, which prevent her from participating.
• 😀 Arina is aware that her fears are irrational, but she struggles to overcome them. The counselor helps her identify and address these irrational thoughts.
• 😀 The counselor introduces self-talk techniques to help Arina reframe her negative thoughts into positive affirmations.
• 😀 Arina is encouraged to write down her negative self-talk and transform it into positive self-talk, which she does successfully.
• 😀 The positive self-talk Arina adopts includes reassuring herself that mistakes are part of learning and that her courage will be appreciated.
• 😀 Arina sets a personal commitment, using rewards and punishments to encourage herself to keep up positive self-talk and maintain progress in overcoming her self-doubt.
• 😀 The counselor and Arina agree to monitor her progress and possibly plan future meetings to continue working on Arina’s self-confidence and emotional growth.

Q & A

What was the primary issue that Arina discussed in the counseling session?

Arina’s primary issue was a lack of self-confidence, particularly in class. She felt afraid to express her opinions or answer questions, fearing judgment or ridicule from her peers and lecturers.

What caused Arina to seek counseling in the first place?

Arina sought counseling because she was feeling disturbed by her lack of self-confidence. She had discussed her problem with friends but couldn't find a solution, so she turned to Instagram and found the counselor's information.

How did Arina describe her fear when participating in class discussions?

Arina explained that she often has an opinion but finds it very difficult to express it. She fears that if she raises her hand to answer a question, her answer might be wrong, and she might be laughed at by her friends or scolded by the lecturer.

What technique did the counselor use to help Arina overcome her negative self-talk?

The counselor introduced Arina to the technique of self-talk, encouraging her to change her negative self-talk into positive affirmations. This technique helped Arina reframe her irrational thoughts and focus on positive outcomes.

What is irrational thinking, and how did it affect Arina?

Irrational thinking refers to unreasonable thoughts that are not based on reality and can have negative consequences. In Arina's case, her irrational thoughts about being laughed at or scolded, despite never experiencing these situations, hindered her ability to participate in class.

How did Arina respond when asked to write her negative self-talk?

Arina wrote down her negative self-talk, which included fears such as being laughed at by friends if she made a mistake, feeling ostracized, and being scolded by her lecturer if she answered incorrectly.

What was the positive self-talk that Arina came up with?

Arina’s positive self-talk included affirmations like 'If I make a mistake, it’s okay because it’s part of the learning process,' 'If I make a mistake, my friends will appreciate my courage,' and 'My lecturer won’t scold me for making a mistake.'

Why did the counselor introduce a reward and punishment system to Arina?

The counselor introduced the reward and punishment system to help Arina stay committed to practicing positive self-talk. This system served as a way to reinforce her commitment to changing her mindset and overcoming her fears.

What was Arina’s personal reward and punishment system?

Arina decided that her reward for practicing positive self-talk would be eating her favorite snack, 'sebelak,' once a week. Her punishment for failing to apply positive self-talk would be not eating 'sebelak' for a month, with the time increasing if she violated her commitment again.

What conclusion did Arina come to at the end of the counseling session?

Arina concluded that continuing negative affirmations would prevent her from developing her potential. However, if she practiced positive affirmations, she would be able to overcome her self-doubt and grow her confidence.