5 Tips For Single Males In The Swinging Lifestyle | Tips All Swinger Bulls Must Know
Summary
TLDRIn this video, Bella and Jay offer five tips for single males, known as 'bulls,' to succeed in the swinging lifestyle. They emphasize creating a standout dating profile, engaging with groups or couples, being respectful and courteous, avoiding desperation, and being genuine. They also stress the importance of patience and not being taken advantage of, ensuring a positive experience in the community.
Takeaways
- 😀 Create a standout dating profile by showcasing your interests both in and out of the lifestyle, and use current, well-groomed photos.
- 🔎 Only message couples who are open to meeting single males (bulls) to increase your chances of success.
- 👥 Get involved with a group or couple to feel more comfortable and safe, and to expand your social circle within the lifestyle.
- 🌟 Be respectful and courteous by addressing couples as a pair and avoiding making anyone feel uncomfortable.
- 🚫 Avoid coming off as desperate or awkward; engage in real conversations and friendships rather than just observing.
- 👍 Maintain good grooming and confidence to stand out and feel more at ease in social settings.
- 💡 Be patient in finding the right couple or group, as it may take time to establish connections.
- 🧐 Always be yourself and let your personality shine through to attract the right people and experiences.
- 🚷 Respect the rules of clubs and events, and be courteous by not intruding where you're not supposed to be.
- 🛡️ Don't settle for being taken advantage of; ensure that couples have good intentions and respect your boundaries.
Q & A
What is the first step to be successful as a bull in the lifestyle?
-The first step is to create a dating profile where you stand out from other bulls by including all your interests and having good, current pictures that show your personality.
Why is it important to have a good dating profile as a bull?
-A good profile helps you stand out, makes a strong first impression, and allows potential partners to connect with you beyond just playwise activities.
What is one big piece of advice for messaging on dating profiles in the lifestyle?
-Only message people who are looking for bulls. It's important not to message couples who have stated they are not interested in bulls as it's unlikely to change their preferences.
Why is getting involved with a group or couple beneficial for a bull?
-Getting involved with a group or couple increases your chances of success by providing a sense of safety and comfort, and it allows you to be invited to more events where you can meet like-minded people.
How can a bull ensure they are respectful and courteous in the lifestyle?
-A bull should always approach couples together, talk to both partners, and avoid making anyone feel uncomfortable or bombarded.
What is the importance of not coming off as desperate or awkward at lifestyle events?
-Appearing desperate or awkward can be off-putting to others. It's better to engage in conversations, make friends, and project confidence.
What should a bull do to avoid seeming creepy at lifestyle events?
-A bull should avoid behaviors like watching people from a distance or opening closed curtains. Instead, they should engage in social interactions and respect the rules of the venue.
Why is it crucial for a bull to be patient in the lifestyle?
-Finding the right couple or group takes time. Being patient allows a bull to build genuine connections and avoid settling for less than ideal situations.
How can a bull ensure they are not being taken advantage of in the lifestyle?
-A bull should set boundaries, be aware of red flags, and ensure that all parties involved are on the same page and have good intentions.
What is the final piece of advice for bulls who are new to the lifestyle or not having much luck?
-The final advice is to be yourself, show your personality, and be confident. Also, ensure that you are not being taken advantage of and that you are respecting others as well as yourself.
What is the significance of having a well-groomed appearance for a bull in the lifestyle?
-A well-groomed appearance helps a bull stand out and make a positive impression, which can lead to more successful interactions and connections.
Outlines
🐃 Becoming a Successful Bull in the Lifestyle
The video offers five tips for single males, known as 'bulls,' to succeed in the lifestyle community. The first step is to create a compelling dating profile that showcases personal interests beyond the lifestyle. It's crucial to have high-quality, current photos that represent one's best self without filters. Avoid messaging couples who explicitly state they are not looking for bulls. Instead, focus on those who are open to such connections. The video emphasizes the importance of having a strong profile to stand out among other bulls and increase the chances of being sought after.
🤝 Getting Involved in the Community
The second tip is to get involved with a group or couple within the lifestyle community. This involvement can lead to a sense of comfort and safety, as well as invitations to events that welcome single males. Making friends within the community can lead to more opportunities and experiences. The video suggests that being respectful and courteous is essential to avoid giving the wrong impression, especially when approaching couples. It's advised to engage in genuine conversations and form real friendships, as the lifestyle is not just about sexual encounters but also about building connections.
🚫 Avoiding Desperation and Awkwardness
The third tip addresses the potential pitfalls of appearing desperate or awkward. It's advised that single males should actively engage with others, rather than observing from the sidelines, which can come across as creepy. The video suggests dressing well and being confident to stand out and feel more at ease. It also touches on the importance of respecting the rules of clubs and events, such as not opening closed curtains or entering unauthorized areas. The message is to be genuine, confident, and respectful to enhance one's experience and the comfort of others.
🧍♂️ Being Yourself and Patience
The fourth tip encourages bulls to be themselves and to display their personality and confidence. It advises patience in finding the right couple or group to connect with, as it may take time. The video reassures viewers that with patience and the right approach, success in the lifestyle is achievable. It also warns against being taken advantage of, emphasizing the importance of setting personal boundaries and being aware of potential 'bull hunters' who might not have genuine intentions.
👋 Conclusion and Call to Action
The video concludes with a reminder to not settle for less than respectful and genuine connections. It advises bulls to trust their instincts and ensure that any potential partners are on the same page before proceeding. The hosts encourage viewers to like, comment, and subscribe for more content, and to leave suggestions for future videos. They express gratitude for the viewers' engagement and look forward to connecting in future videos.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Bull
💡Dating Profile
💡Interests
💡Groomed
💡Couples
💡Group Involvement
💡Respectful
💡Desperation
💡Confidence
💡Patience
💡Boundaries
Highlights
Make a dating profile to stand out as a single male in the lifestyle.
Include all interests, not just playwise, to connect with others on a personal level.
Ensure you have good, current pictures without filters to show your true personality.
Respect couples' preferences by not messaging those not looking for a bull.
Get involved with a group or couple to increase your success in the lifestyle.
Being part of a group can lead to invitations to events and more connections.
Be respectful and courteous to avoid the negative stereotype associated with single men in the lifestyle.
Approach couples together or talk to the male first to show respect.
Avoid coming off as desperate or awkward by making friends and engaging in real conversations.
Dress well and be confident to stand out and feel more at ease.
Be patient in finding the right couple or group as it may take time.
Show your personality and be confident to enhance your experience.
Ensure you are not being taken advantage of and maintain your boundaries.
Trust your gut and watch out for red flags when interacting with couples.
Make sure couples are on the same page before engaging to avoid misunderstandings.
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Transcripts
hey everyone welcome back to the forplay
channel I'm Bella I'm
[Music]
Jay so today's video is going to be five
tips about how to be successful in
lifestyle as a bull so what a Bull is
for anyone who doesn't know that is a
single male in the lifestyle so this
what you need to know first step is
going to be make a dating profile and
this is where you have a chance to stand
out from other Bulls one thing want to
definitely do is you want to put all of
your interest so not just what you want
to do playwise like yes do put all of
that but put some your interest outside
the lifestyle if you like sports or you
like whatever it is write that in there
so people can make connections to you
more than just about what you want to do
playwise make sure you have really good
pictures you want to be very well
groomed you want to be the best dressed
you want to really stand out so you
don't want just and make sure you're not
using filters make sure you're not using
a picture from 10 5 10 years ago make
sure it's a current picture and make
sure they're not just all like wee we
PS you want to show yourself your
personality and I'm telling you you will
stand out if you have a good profile one
big piece of advice is a lot of couples
will have no profile that they are
looking for couples they're looking for
single females and they'll say not
looking for bulls do not message people
that do not want a bull I I promise
you're not going to be the one person
that like convinces them that they need
a bull so just message the people that
are looking for bulls and then that way
you're going to actually have success
the number of messages we have got from
Bulls when our profile says we're not
looking for
Bulls doesn't work so keep that in mind
okay message people that are really
looking for that and that's where you
really are going to find the connections
and looking for the people that really
do want to meet because there's a ton of
people out there that are looking for
Bulls but you need to find the right
people there are a lot of single males
in the lifestyle a lot of single guys
who want to be in the lifestyle and
there's not as much demand for them so
that's why it's so so so important to
have an amazing profile make sure your
pictures are good and show the best
version of yourself so you can have the
best experience in the lifestyle and so
you are actually sought after out of all
of the other Bulls tip number two now
this is a huge one it is to get involved
with a group or with a couple and you
are going to have so much more success
this way we have seen so many bulls able
to get really involved in a group and
you feel very comfortable and safe
because you have friends you're going to
be able to find events that do allow for
single males a lot of clubs on Fridays
or weekdays will allow single males
those nights are going to people are
going to be more looking for males so
you're going to want to go in there and
really try to make friends because if
you can get involved in a group that's
when you're going to start getting
invited to other events and people are
going to say Hey you know he's a really
safe guy we've had great experiences
with him and I promise you that is going
to be the biggest key to you having
successful lifestyle is really making
friends and getting involved because
then that way people know that you're
trustworthy and I think at the end of
the day that's really what people are
looking for in Bulls and those couples
can introduce you to maybe they have a
unicorn friend maybe they have a single
friend that's a woman and then maybe you
guys can get together and then you can
have this like swinging Love Story We we
actually know a lot of people who have
had that like they were they were a
unicorn and a bowl in the lifestyle came
together and now they're a couple in the
lifestyle so that's always something
that's possible tip number three is be
respectful and courteous this goes for
everyone in the lifestyle obviously the
reason why single men in the lifestyle
or both seem to have a bad rap is
because of this it's because a lot of
couples have had bad experiences with
bulls and so make sure you're respectful
and courteous and how you can do that is
make sure you are going up to a couple
and talking to them together as a couple
or talk to the guy first there's been so
many times where a single guy has waited
for my husband to go to the restroom and
then would come up to me and talk to me
and like I would feel very bombarded
sometimes there'll be like a couple of
them coming up to me and it's like why
couldn't you just come up to both of us
it feels very very strange when the men
wait for the other like wait for your
other half to go away like just go up
together yes and we've had those people
that when I came back to talk with her
just walk off and just in the
conversation wherever it was it's really
weird and that is just not how you want
to do it you want to talk to both people
or talk to at least the male first and
maybe they uce you to your their wife
but you just want to be able to talk to
the couple because that's where you're
going to find success you don't want to
make the woman feel uncomfortable you
don't want to make anybody feel
uncomfortable but like whenever a
woman's like by herself it's like
whenever she's the most vulnerable like
don't do that whenever you do go up and
meet new people make sure you're making
like actual conversation real
conversation and making real friendships
cuz this isn't just about spicy stuff
like the lifestyle isn't just about sex
like it's about friendship too and so
you want to make sure that you are going
in showing that you're not there just to
sleep with people all right that brings
us into tip number four it is don't come
off as desperate or awkward now we are
not saying that most Bulls are desperate
awkward but sometimes that is the way it
comes off if you are just walking around
kind of sitting in the corner and at
watching people if you're a single male
it can come off kind of creepy maybe
that is not how you're intending to be
but it can come off that way so we
strongly advise going up talking to
people making friends and not just
sitting there watching because that can
come off the wrong way and even if
you're not intending it to it still
might send the wrong signal and that's
definitely not what you want to do we
touched on this when we were talking
about the profiles but you want to be
the best addressed at the club too and
you're going to have the best experience
that way this is going to make you stand
out and it's going to make you feel more
confident and so that's going to help
with the desperation awkwardness where
like you don't come off that way when
you come off confident and you come off
in this way that like you're well put
together you're respectful you're going
to have a better experience and people
are going to feel more comfortable
around you from experience we have seen
bulls that will go up and actually talk
to people and make friends and we've
been like a cruise before and by the end
you see that these single men have so
many friends they're so involved in
groups and you see the people that
didn't do that that only stuck to the
other single guys and they're still just
sitting there watching so it may be a
little bit nerve-wracking to go up and
talk to people together or try to get
involved but we promise once you do
you'll be able to and you really will
have so much more fun that way another
little tip is we've seen this before and
not saying it's everybody but we have
had single men like if you're on a
Friday night or something where they'll
open a curtain in a room that's supposed
to be closed and just be respectful be
courteous don't be weird and rude that
is such a rude thing to do and if you're
not supposed to be somewhere respect
that rule just stay in the areas you're
supposed to be at that time so that's
just another piece of advice that
probably shouldn't have to be said but
just make sure that you're following all
the rules and really really respecting
everybody in the club tip number five is
to just be yourself it's kind of a
combination of all of the tips but make
sure you're showing your personality
make sure you're confident make sure
that you are really standing out as you
and not you know again being awkward or
or being or seeming desperate or seeming
creepy that confidence is really going
to show through and make your experience
so much better we also highly advise
being patient you're not just going to
find the right couple really really
quickly I mean maybe you do but it might
take a while to find the right couple or
to get involved in the group so just be
patient and I promise with time you're
going to have a lot of luck but it is
that waiting game of trying to find the
right people it's all going to be worth
it because the lifesty is a really
really cool space there is so much room
for single males there but you're just
going to have a little bit harder time
at the beginning because of the stigma
that's associated with it but hopefully
not you watch this videos you know some
things to avoid you know things that you
can do to have your chances be the best
of finding friendship in the lifestyle
and one more thing do not get taken
advantage of so yes as a single guy in
the lifestyle there's a lot of single
men and the demand isn't there but that
doesn't mean that you need to settle for
anything right like you want to make
sure that the couple has good intentions
and that they're not treating you like
an object to fulfill their fantasy you
don't hear the word bull hunter as often
but it's definitely a thing and so you
want to make sure that you have your own
rules your own boundaries for yourself
you want to make sure that you're
watching out for the red flags for
couples if there's a couple that's not
on the same page if trust your gut if
you have a weird feeling about a couple
don't continue to go on with it and make
sure if a woman says she wants to play
with you you know make sure you've
talked to her husband make sure that
they're on the same page so that you're
never stepping on any toes so I said
like B said make sure that you're not
getting taken advantage of cuz it's not
talked about as much but it definitely
definitely happens so have respect for
couples but make sure to also have that
respect for yourself and make sure
people are respecting you and that
brings us to the end of this video
hopefully these tips were able to help
you especially if you're newer into the
lifestyle as a single male maybe you've
been in it for a while and you don't
know why you're not having the best of
luck hopefully these tips were able to
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