If He's Pulling Away, Breakup With Him - Psychological Dating Hacks
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses relationship advice, emphasizing preemptive breakups to avoid a dying relationship and the importance of knowing when to end things. It also covers how to create better conversations by assuming comfort and familiarity, making emotional impressions, and the power of excitement in meeting new people. The speaker shares insights on forgiveness, giving advice, and the impact of body language on trust. The script concludes with a pitch for a course that teaches blending masculine and feminine energies to improve various aspects of life.
Takeaways
- 💔 **Preemptive Breakup**: If you sense a relationship is dying, consider breaking up first to avoid a painful end.
- 🔄 **Reactivating Attraction**: Breaking up might make your partner want you back, increasing their efforts to impress you.
- 🗣️ **Conversation Dynamics**: Engage in conversations as if you know the person to create a comfortable atmosphere.
- 🤝 **Building Rapport**: Break rapport occasionally to create a dynamic that can make the other person want to regain your approval.
- 😃 **Making a Good Impression**: Focus on making others feel good rather than trying to impress them with what you say.
- 🤗 **Meeting New People**: Feel genuinely excited when meeting someone new to transmit positive energy.
- 🙏 **Forgiveness**: Forgive those who offend you to remove bitterness and maintain a positive outlook.
- 📈 **Showing Results**: Respond to advice with results to validate the advisor and build a stronger relationship.
- 👀 **Eye Contact**: Make strong eye contact to appear more trustworthy and reliable.
- 🤔 **Curiosity**: Pique curiosity in others to gain their full attention and interest.
- 🎁 **Reciprocity**: Be the first to be honest or give a gift to increase the chances of receiving the same in return.
Q & A
What is the advice given for preemptively breaking up in a relationship that feels off?
-The advice is to do a preemptive breakup if you feel the relationship is dying and conversations are forced. This can save time and emotional distress, as it either leads to an acceptance of the breakup, indicating the relationship was already on a downward spiral, or it might make the other person want you back more, showing they truly value you.
How can assuming you know someone improve conversations?
-Assuming you know someone can lead to more natural and comfortable interactions. It changes your behavior to be more open and familiar, which can make the other person feel known and understood, thus fostering better conversations.
What is the significance of breaking rapport in building relationships?
-Breaking rapport involves creating a temporary discomfort after establishing a connection to make the other person feel like they've lost something. This can make them work to regain your approval, deepening the interaction and creating a more memorable impression.
Why is it beneficial to feel excited when meeting someone new?
-Feeling excited when meeting someone new can make the other person feel excited too. This positive energy can create a warm and welcoming atmosphere, making the interaction more enjoyable and memorable for both parties.
What is the impact of forgiving someone who has offended you?
-Forgiving someone who offends you removes bitterness and negative emotions from your heart. It allows you to feel compassion and maintain a positive outlook, rather than letting the offense define your interactions and emotions.
How can you show gratitude to someone who gives you advice?
-Showing gratitude for advice involves coming back to the advisor with results or feedback, regardless of whether the advice worked or not. This validates the advisor's input and can strengthen your relationship with them.
What is the importance of making eye contact when trying to appear trustworthy?
-Making strong eye contact is crucial for appearing trustworthy because it signals honesty and confidence. People tend to look away or blink more when they lie, so maintaining eye contact can counteract these behaviors and build trust.
How can you get someone to be more attentive to what you're saying?
-To get someone to be more attentive, you can create a sense of curiosity by saying something surprising and then pausing for their reaction. This piques their interest and makes them more likely to listen intently to what you have to say.
What is the strategy behind being honest first if you want someone to be honest with you?
-Being honest first can encourage reciprocation, as it sets a tone of openness and trust. It increases the likelihood that the other person will feel comfortable enough to be honest in return.
How does giving a gift influence the likelihood of receiving one in return?
-Giving a gift creates a sense of obligation or desire to reciprocate, often leading the recipient to give a gift back, and typically one of greater value. This is based on the principle of social reciprocity.
What are the key topics covered in the proposed course for personal development?
-The course covers topics such as establishing a strong masculine foundation, embracing feminine energy, navigating male and female friendships, releasing the burden of the past, and increasing observational power to read people better.
Outlines
💔 Preemptive Breakups and Building Rapport
The speaker suggests that if you sense a relationship is failing, it might be best to initiate a breakup preemptively. This approach can save time and emotional turmoil if the other party was unlikely to fight for the relationship. They also discuss the importance of behaving as if you know the person you're interacting with to build rapport and make them feel comfortable. This can lead to better conversations and connections. The speaker shares personal anecdotes about approaching people with the assumption of familiarity, which often leads to more genuine interactions.
🤗 Creating Excitement and Forgiveness
The speaker emphasizes the power of feeling and showing excitement when meeting someone new, which can create a positive and welcoming atmosphere. They also talk about the importance of forgiveness when someone offends you, suggesting that holding onto offense can negatively impact your life. Instead, they recommend responding with compassion and understanding, which can lead to personal emotional freedom and a more positive outlook on life.
🤔 Curiosity, Honesty, and Influence
This paragraph discusses various techniques for engaging with others, such as creating curiosity by withholding information to pique interest, being the first to be honest to encourage reciprocal honesty, and the concept of giving to receive. The speaker also introduces a course that they plan to create for their nieces, which will cover topics like establishing a strong masculine foundation, embracing feminine energy, and navigating personal and professional relationships. The course aims to help individuals improve various aspects of their lives by understanding and balancing masculine and feminine energies.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Preemptive Breakup
💡Attraction
💡Assumption of Comfort
💡Rapport
💡Emotional Responses
💡Forgiveness
💡Results
💡Body Language
💡Trustworthiness
💡Curiosity
💡Honesty
Highlights
Preemptive breakup can save time and emotional distress if the relationship is inevitably ending.
If you break up with someone and they genuinely like you, they may want you back, increasing their attraction.
Feeling like you know the person you're interacting with can lead to more comfortable and natural conversations.
Assume comfort to make others feel at ease and build rapport quickly.
Breaking rapport by creating a dynamic of push and pull can make interactions more engaging.
Meeting someone new with excitement can make them feel excited to meet you too.
Forgiving someone who offends you can remove bitterness and improve your emotional state.
Responding to advice with results can validate the advisor and strengthen your relationship.
Changing body language can indicate whether someone is truly listening or just pretending.
Making strong eye contact can make you appear more trustworthy.
Creating curiosity in a conversation can make people more attentive to what you're saying.
Being honest first can encourage others to be honest with you.
Giving a gift can make people feel compelled to give a gift in return, often better than the original.
Learning to balance masculine and feminine energy can improve various aspects of life.
The course will teach how to establish a strong masculine foundation without harming feminine energy.
Embracing feminine energy involves developing self-awareness and mastering voice and facial expressions.
Navigating male and female friendships will be discussed, including how to identify different types of friends.
The course will help release the burden of the past and stop destructive mental projections.
Increasing observational power can improve the ability to read people better.
The course is available for pre-order at a discounted price before its official release.
Transcripts
feel like the relationship is going to
shits break up with them one of the best
things to do is that you know that you
know that moment when you know the
relationship is dying you know like the
relationship is not like holy [ __ ] like
something's off the conversations feel
forced and all that sort of stuff if you
feel like your relationship is not where
you want it to be a simple solution and
risky solution but simple solution is do
the preemptive breakup break up with
them first break up with them and say
I'm I'm just not happy in this
relationship what's gonna happen is that
either they're going to accept it okay
and and if they say yeah then then guess
what it was inevitable like they really
didn't like you you're saving yourself
the time and look I know emotionally is
hard emotionally is very difficult to
realize that but you're saving yourself
the time most people won't do this but
it's the best thing to do I wish I I
would have done it when I had the chance
to and the other thing is that um you
break up with them and um and if they
really if they if if if they really
actually like you what's going to happen
is that if you break up with them
they're going to want you back they're
going to say please don't do it please
don't do it and they actually become
more attractive to you because they
thought they were going to lose you one
of the best ways to have better
conversation is to Simply feel as though
you know the person why because when you
feel as though you know the
person you actually start behaving in a
way that'll make them feel as though
they know you it's one of the craziest
things like people there were so many
times when I would approach a girl and
they'll tell me you're tell like they'll
tell me that this the interaction action
the interaction was as though I knew the
person for a while and even better
people who people who would see me
approach would think that I knew them
for a while and they they'll see them
rejecting me and they'll think that it
went well why because by simply assuming
Comfort people feel comfortable when you
see someone don't don't feel as though
you don't know them feel as though you
know them hey what's up Tommy how you
doing Tommy how's it going oh yo you
from around here a [ __ ] yo um where were
you at where you at before is Oh
California ah man y I need to move there
one day man yeah man I'm tired of New
York City bro like this [ __ ] is too much
man what you came to New York City for
though and then you just start talking
but the thing is that feel as though you
know them why because your brain has a
certain your brain has a certain
personality for people who you don't
know and it's usually awkward all right
but you usually have a certain
personality that's why people say be
yourself but the problem is that we have
different personalities for different
situations so you usually have a
personality which is the most attractive
one when you know the person person but
that's all up to you that's all up to
the way that you perceive the person
because there have been people that we
known for many years we don't see them
for many years and we come back and and
we feel as though we don't know them
it's not that bound no more the only
difference is not that the person
changed is that your perception of them
changed or they or they changed but the
whole point is that if you change your
perception you're going to change the
way you behave so feeling as though you
know them feeling as though you don't
you already have comfort makes the
Comfort it's one of those paradoxes it's
it's one of the most most powerful
techniques that I use and I still use um
even until today um all right number 27
a good impression is all about how you
make the person feels all right so
simply stop focusing on making the
person feel good and focus no stop
focusing on trying to impress them
simply focus on making them feel good
and making them have fun all right so
it's not about what you say remember
like I said earlier that's why I told
you guys to shut the [ __ ] up I love
saying
that because it's not about what you say
it's about how you make them feel so if
you help them make if you make them feel
good they're going to like you more
that's all what a good impression is all
about so the way to do it this is to
Simply let them talk about the things
that they enjoy and also break Rapport
for example breaking Rapport is when is
when you build some Rapport when you
feel like this when you feel like you
have some comfort right and then you
break that comfort for example um asking
them where you from um California holy
[ __ ] I would have never guessed you from
California and though I say why I don't
know you look like from New York City
you just had you just had like a resting
[ __ ] face but you you're you're a very
nice person though like you look very
mean but you're nice see that that's
breaking Rapport like you gave them a
backand of com you look like you have a
resting [ __ ] face but you're not so
they can't really get mad at you um so
breaking report is kind of like a way to
to [ __ ] with them another way you can
break a report is to um is to be hot and
cold warm and cold um push him um push
him away and then pull them to you like
I like I um I love you I hate you love
you I hate you you know that little
Dynamics that's how you break Rapport
and so what's going to happen is that
because you're breaking that Rapport
they're going to feel like they lost
something and because they feel like
they lost something they'll work to
regain it all right and so and but and
that and those are all emotional
responses and so the more emotions you
make the person feel the more of an
impression they're going to have on you
the most memorable people and the most
memorable um events in our lives are
usually the ones that involve the most
emotions all right number 28 when
meeting someone new feel exced excited
so when you meet someone new actually
feel excited remember mer neurons if you
actually feel excited to meet someone
they're going to feel excited to meet
you you feel you feel it in their energy
and this is one of the most powerful
techniques because it's one of those
things that people forget to do hey
what's up man what's up no [ __ ] that
[ __ ] man hey how you doing come here yo
no [ __ ] that give me a hug man like feel
as feel as though you actually know them
and if you feel that compassion like you
see them as though you see them as
though it's a long long lost fan that
you haven't seen in a good while they're
going be like what do I know him but
they're actually going to feel good
because of the positive attention that
you given them it's I love doing that
and when I meet people that's how I
actually greet them with with with
actual warmth in my heart right oh you
want you to be here it's like dogs you
know when they see you they feel excited
and they run towards you and they want
to give you a hug and they want to be
around you and all that sort of stuff oh
oh sorry sorry sorry it growled all
right number 29 if someone's being a
[ __ ] to you forgive
them the worst thing in the world is
being offended because you keep that
inside it becomes a thorn and you
revolve your life around that thorn in
order not to feel offended you put
Shields around that or Shields around
that thorn rather than taking out the
thorn you take you you you you take the
[ __ ] move and you create a life where
you're not offended you make sure not to
hang around people who offend you you
make sure not to watch look at the
channels the YouTube channels that talk
that has contradicting beliefs what I
want you to do is when someone does
something stupid or offends you in your
mind just forgive them just say oh man
like you know what I forgive you man you
you you don't know what you're doing man
I forgive you you actually got to know
me you like me so you know what I
forgive you see them as though they're
actually like people who don't know what
they doing like Jesus in the cross
forgive them Father for they they know
not what they do something like that
right and so what what things to happen
is that you actually feel good you
actually feel compassion for the person
you take away the vitual from your heart
all of the bitterness and you actually
feel good you know I love doing that
that's what I do sometimes not most of
the time not when I play basketball [ __ ]
those [ __ ] um 30 if someone gives you
advice come back them come back with to
them with results hint hint so I'm not
saying you guys to do you know I'm not
telling you guys to do something you
know but I'm just saying that if
somebody ever gives you advice
especially if there's someone who's like
higher level than you and can actually
give you something in life like like you
know a
career come back to them with the
results come back to them with feedback
nothing's better than saying yo like you
remember that advice you gave me it
didn't work but I did this it doesn't
matter if it did or did did not work
asking them for advice will give them
will actually will actually give you
something to return to and also it'll
increase their self-esteem and validate
them because their advice worked I'm not
lying I'm not lying to you guys when you
guys give me you you guys send me emails
and say look this actually worked I
actually feel good it feels good it
really really really does it's like
watching people eat the food that you
enjoy that you made want to know if if
someone's actually listening change your
body language people who have people who
have report and who are in sync if
somebody changes their body language
everyone else would change their body
language all right so if you want to
know whether someone's actually
listening or whether someone's actually
just Faking It just change your body
language change just go like that and
notice if they if they mirror you if
they mirror you that means that they're
listening and that means that they're
interested if they don't mirror you that
means that there's a connection and and
both of you guys are not really having a
conversation because it's kind of like
Pokemon when you trade Pokemons when you
trade poke in Game Boy when you trade
Pokemons they link up all right and so
the and so the same thing is that when
you're when you're when you're in sync
with a person if something changes in
this person it affects the other person
you see so if you guys are not really
reacting to each other intuitively that
means there's no connection you see so
number 20 once once who come across as
more trustworthy make eye contact what
this thing is that when people lie what
happens they look away when people lie
they look away when people lie they
blink more all right so by simply making
stronger eye
contact you become more trustworthy it's
it's eye eye contact is so underrated
holy [ __ ] um number 21 get um get
someone in a curious State all right
when you're meeting someone you have to
get them in a curious state in a state
of who is this person okay so to get
someone's interest into what you have to
say just say this you know what you kind
of surprise
me pause and let them respond and
they'll always say why then now you have
their undivided attention now you get be
like well because but before I say that
yo did you know that blah blah blah blah
for example you you say you know you
kind of surprise me and they say why you
you you act as though you get an answer
but you cut the thread and talk about
something
else well for example um you know you
kind of surprised me well for real why
well before I say that do you know that
blah blah blah blah now what's going to
happen is that deep down deep down
they're like I want to know why I want
to know why I want to know why but
they're listening to you deep down you
already planting in them to listen to
you by using that so they'll pay more
attention to you it's kind of like
watching a show watching a movie for to
watch the end simply because you want to
see the end you become interested in the
middle you see it it's one of those
easiest tactics to use in order to um
get people to listen to you all right um
number 22 be first if you want someone
to be if you want someone to be honest
with you be honest first if you want
someone to reveal a secret to you reveal
a secret to them first now it doesn't
really have to be a secret you could
just say you could just lie and say that
you're really revealing a secret in
reality you're not really revealing a
secret but generally speaking if you
want someone to do something for you do
it first want people to do you a favor
do favor
all right you want people to act to to
feel vulnerable and to open up in a
relationship you open up first because
it it don't increase the likelihood that
the person's going to
reciprocate all right and and chances
are that the reciprocation will be a lot
greater than your input give a gift
people going to feel compelled to give a
gift back but most of the time it's a
better gift that's how usually work all
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