WOMEN get ATTACHED to THESE Men - Do THIS when she STOPS Replying to you or pulls away WHEN DATING!

Summary

The video script offers dating advice for men, emphasizing the importance of patience and not over-communicating in text conversations with women. It suggests that women often test interest levels and that men should demonstrate they have other options while still showing genuine interest. The speaker shares his insights on how to stand out from other men, even those with looks, money, or status, by understanding the psychological aspects of attraction and the value of not being overly available or needy.

Takeaways

• 📚 Building a relationship is not about trying to save, retain, or build something; it's about attracting and not over-pursuing.
• 📱 The cell phone is a buffer between real-life interactions and can lead to misunderstandings in dating dynamics.
• 🤔 Patience is crucial in dating; don't rush responses or interactions, as emotions and circumstances can change rapidly.
• 🔄 Women may pull back or delay responses as a test to gauge a man's interest and emotional investment.
• 💬 Communication via text is not always an accurate reflection of real-life feelings or intentions.
• 👥 Having multiple options and not appearing overly needy or available can signal higher value and attract women.
• 🤳 The 'blue dot' mentality of immediately responding to messages can be detrimental; let some messages wait to show you have other priorities.
• 📉 Over-communicating interest can push women away; it's important to demonstrate that you have a life outside of waiting for her responses.
• 🎯 Focus on creating a vibe and emotional connection through messages rather than heavy or demanding topics.
• 🕰 Allow time to pass (4 to 10 days or more) before sending a follow-up text to demonstrate patience and not desperation.
• 💡 The key to successful dating is understanding and navigating the psychological frames of value that women are looking for.

Q & A

What is the main focus of the video script?

The main focus of the video script is to discuss strategies for maintaining a woman's interest in dating, emphasizing the importance of patience and not over-communicating interest.

What does the speaker claim is one of the top things that can get women attached?

The speaker claims that demonstrating patience and not over-pursuing women are among the top things that can get women attached.

What is the 'powerful step-by-step process' mentioned in the script?

The 'powerful step-by-step process' refers to the approach of not over-communicating interest and applying patience in dating interactions, which can be used even if a woman pulls away or doesn't reply to messages.

How does the speaker define 'game' in the context of dating?

In the context of dating, 'game' for a man is about attracting a woman, while for a woman, it's often about retaining the relationship and testing the man's interest level.

What is the significance of the speaker mentioning 'hypergamy' in the script?

The significance of mentioning 'hypergamy' is to explain that women seek the highest value fit and use the phone as a tool to exercise this by talking to multiple men, thus men should not be overly affected by delayed responses.

Why does the speaker emphasize that cell phone interactions are not real life?

The speaker emphasizes that cell phone interactions are not real life to highlight that emotions and responses on a phone do not always reflect real-life feelings or intentions, and should not be over-interpreted.

What is the role of 'patience' in the dating advice given by the speaker?

Patience is crucial in the dating advice because it allows the man to not appear needy or overly invested, and it gives the woman space to show genuine interest without feeling pressured.

What does the speaker suggest is the reason for a woman not replying to a man's messages?

The speaker suggests that a woman might not reply as an 'interest test' to see how the man reacts, to gauge his emotional investment, and to determine if he has other options.

How does the speaker recommend reactivating a conversation with a woman who has stopped texting?

The speaker recommends reactivating a conversation by sending a light-hearted message, a picture, or a voice memo that creates a positive vibe or emotion, rather than something that requires heavy thought or commitment.

What is the mindset shift the speaker suggests men need to adopt when it comes to dating?

The speaker suggests that men need to adopt a mindset of not being overly affected by a woman's delayed responses and not letting the need to 'fix' or 'handle' every text message dictate their emotional state.

Outlines

00:00

📚 Building Genuine Connection: Overcoming Texting Barriers

The speaker introduces a method to foster genuine connections with women, emphasizing the importance of patience and psychological understanding in the dating process. He shares a community member's success story to illustrate the effectiveness of the approach and discusses the common pitfalls men face, such as over-communicating interest and not recognizing the manipulative power of cell phones in dating. The key takeaway is to master the art of texting and to stand out by understanding women's psychological needs for value and pre-selection.

05:01

🌐 The Illusion of Connection: Cell Phones and Hypergamy

This paragraph delves into the role of cell phones as a buffer in real-life interactions, explaining how they facilitate hypergamy by providing women with the opportunity to assess multiple potential partners. The speaker advises against over-pursuing women and instead promotes patience and self-assurance. He uses a real-life story to demonstrate how a woman's emotions can significantly influence her decisions, underscoring the importance of not taking a lack of communication personally and maintaining a 'long game' approach in dating.

10:03

🧐 The Art of Patience: Navigating the Emotional Dynamics of Dating

The speaker discusses the importance of patience in dating, explaining that a woman's responses are influenced by her feelings at the moment, her mood, and how other men make her feel. He suggests that men should not interpret a lack of response as a lack of interest, but rather as an opportunity to demonstrate their value and desirability. The paragraph highlights the concept of 'interest tests' and the need for men to show emotional strength and independence to be seen as high-value partners.

15:04

🤔 The Paradox of Hypergamy: Balancing Attraction and Commitment

The speaker explores the concept of hypergamy, explaining that women seek men who are both attractive and committed. He discusses the importance of demonstrating emotional strength and having options to show pre-selection. The speaker also emphasizes the need for men to be emotionally invested in the relationship without appearing needy or desperate. The goal is to create a sense of security and value for the woman, making her feel that she is more than just an option.

20:05

🕰 The Time Horizon of Love: Patience and Emotional Timing

This paragraph focuses on the importance of timing and patience in dating. The speaker advises allowing time to pass before sending a second text message and emphasizes not micromanaging interactions. He suggests that men should have multiple options and not rush into commitments, using the time to demonstrate patience and emotional stability. The speaker also recommends condensing texting to specific hours to show that the man has a full life outside of the interaction.

🛠 The Fixer Mentality: Letting Go of the Need to Control

The final paragraph addresses the 'masculine fixer' mentality, where men feel the need to immediately address and resolve issues, such as responding to text messages. The speaker encourages men to let go of this mentality in the context of dating, allowing messages to sit and not being controlled by the need to respond promptly. By doing so, men can demonstrate emotional strength and independence, which are attractive qualities to women and can lead to a more successful dating experience.

Keywords

💡Attachment

Attachment in the context of the video refers to the emotional bond or connection that forms between individuals, particularly in romantic relationships. The video discusses strategies for creating a strong sense of attachment in women towards men, suggesting that the right approach can make women view men as 'storybooks' they want to explore. The script mentions that this process can be applied even if a woman initially pulls away or does not reply to messages.

💡Real-life application

Real-life application pertains to the practical use of concepts or strategies in everyday situations. The video emphasizes the importance of applying the discussed techniques in one's own dating life to achieve success. It suggests that the steps outlined are not just theoretical but can be effectively used in real interactions.

💡Self-belief

Self-belief is the confidence an individual has in their own abilities and worth. The script highlights the importance of self-belief in dating success, mentioning that it brings happiness to the speaker when men in the community express newfound self-belief after applying the discussed strategies.

💡Psychological frames of value

Psychological frames of value refer to the mental constructs that determine what is considered valuable or desirable in social interactions. The video suggests that understanding these frames can give men an advantage in dating, as it can help them stand out even if they lack traditional markers of success like looks, money, or status.

💡Over-communicating interest

Over-communicating interest is the act of expressing too much desire or eagerness in a relationship, which can be off-putting. The script warns against this behavior, advising that patience and not over-pursuing are key to maintaining a woman's interest.

💡Hypergamy

Hypergamy is the social practice of seeking a mate of higher social status. In the video, it is mentioned that women use their phones to exercise hypergamy by engaging with multiple potential partners, thus increasing their chances of finding a higher value mate.

💡Preliminary stages of dating

The preliminary stages of dating refer to the initial phase of getting to know someone with the potential for a romantic relationship. The video emphasizes the importance of patience during this phase, as rushing or over-pursuing can be counterproductive.

💡Interest test

An interest test is a strategy used to gauge the level of interest or investment from another person. The script describes how women might not reply to messages as a way to test a man's interest level and to see if he becomes needy or anxious.

💡Discrepancy in SMV (Sexual Market Value)

Sexual Market Value (SMV) refers to an individual's perceived worth or attractiveness in the dating market. A discrepancy in SMV can create attraction, as the video suggests that women are attracted to men who demonstrate higher value or desirability compared to themselves.

💡Pre-selection

Pre-selection is a concept in dating where an individual is seen as more desirable because they are already chosen or preferred by others. The video mentions that showing signs of having other options can signal pre-selection and make a man more attractive to women.

💡Masculine fixer mentality

The masculine fixer mentality refers to the tendency for men to want to solve problems or complete tasks immediately. The video advises against this approach in dating, suggesting that letting things unfold naturally and not rushing to respond to messages can be more appealing to women.

Highlights

The video discusses a method to get women attached by viewing men as a storybook they want to uncover page by page.

A step-by-step process is presented to apply in real-life dating scenarios, even when a woman pulls away or doesn't reply to messages.

Success stories from the community are shared, illustrating the effectiveness of the presented dating strategies.

The importance of self-belief in dating success and the happiness it brings to the presenter is emphasized.

The community has grown to over 600 members, offering a supportive environment for dating success.

A conclusion is drawn that most men lose dating interactions due to being manipulated through cell phones and not knowing how to respond correctly.

Mastering cell phone communication is key to standing out from other men and understanding the right psychological frames of value.

Patience is advised instead of over-communicating interest, which can lead to women losing interest.

The cell phone is described as a buffer between real-life interactions and a tool for women to exercise hypergamy.

A real-life story illustrates how a woman's emotions can drastically change her decisions regarding relationships.

The video explains that a woman's phone replies are guided by her feelings, mood, and how other men make her feel.

Men are encouraged to not equate a woman's silence on text with a loss of interest.

The concept of 'Game' is explored, where women test men's interest levels to see if they have other options and are not overly needy.

The video stresses that it's not a man's job to build a relationship but to attract and not over-pursue.

Attraction is tied to a discrepancy in sexual market value (SMV), and showing patience can signal higher SMV.

The importance of having multiple options and not investing too much in one woman is highlighted for maintaining attraction.

The video concludes with advice to remove the 'fixer' mentality and let interactions unfold naturally without trying to control every detail.

Transcripts

okay everybody so in today's video this

is going to be one of the number one

things that actually gets women attached

that you're talking to this is one of

the things that gets them to almost view

you as a story book that they want to

literally uncover Page by Page and I'm

going to show you how to put this into

real life practice and real life

application in your own dating life so

that way you can have success this is

something that you can even apply if she

starts to pull away from you this is

even something that you can apply if she

does not reply to you or does not reply

to your text messages this is a very

powerful step-by-step process that I've

created so stick with me until the end

of this video because all of these keys

are very important now here's how I know

that this works and here's how I know

that this is actually possible one of

the guys in our community goes I've got

four girls phone numbers tonight and

then right below that he goes literally

got two women waiting for me to get off

so they can hang out LOL he says this

works almost too good exclamation

mark and then he says can't believe I am

capable of this that is the part that

makes me most happy is when a guy says I

can't believe I am capable of this and

to see him actually have more

self-belief that is what actually brings

me the happiness to keep doing this

every single day for you guys and to

make this video even cooler we just

crossed over 600 members inside of our

community which is why this is the best

spot for guys to actually get real life

dating success okay after doing this for

a lot of years now here's the biggest

conclusion that I have came to majority

of men lose the women in relationships

that they're dating or they lose their

dating interactions and the women that

they're talking to purely because they

are often times manipulated through the

cell phone they don't necessarily know

how to respond to text messages and

often times what happens is they are

overc communicating interest in certain

areas without even realizing it and a

lot of this comes down to the cell phone

if you can actually master that and

understand how to respond and how to

reply to women the right way you're

going to be miles ahead of majority of

men that don't know what they're doing

because this right here is why most men

lose their dating interactions and on

top of that if you can do this the right

way you're going to stand out from the

majority of all other guys even if they

have good looks or money or status

because you actually understand the

right psychological frames of value that

a woman is looking for so here's what I

can tell you stop thinking that a girl

is done talking to you after not

replying for a day or two I don't care

if the girl doesn't reply for 3 Days 4

days 5 days 10 days even I don't care

stop not thinking that she's done

talking to you because of that because

the only thing that is going to make her

actually stop talking to you for good is

if you overc communicate your interest

by you constantly overp pursuing her in

different ways when in reality if you

have a little bit more patience and

realize that life is probably a lot

longer than you think you can definitely

make sure that these interactions go

somewhere so here's what you have to

know about dating in general if you have

a cell phone in your hand with you and a

woman the phone is nothing more than a

buffer between you and real life this is

what you have to understand it's not

real none of it is real life so I don't

care how many hearts okay that you maybe

get when she's heting your messages or

anything like that I don't care how many

messages she Hearts I don't care how

many text messages she either sends you

or she doesn't send you I don't care or

I don't give a how many emojis you

get it is all fake it's fake and it's

not real life despite how it makes you

feel so this is what you have to realize

phones are free attention for her to

exercise hypergamy and probability of

better options through sheer volume of

men to talk to and that's it so say this

with me one more time phones the cell

phone in general what this is is phones

are free attention for her to exercise

hypergamy and the probability of better

options through sheer volume okay

through just having more options of guys

to talk to of men to talk to and that's

it so what the cell phone is is the cell

phone is her ability to exercise

hypergamy to only get the highest value

fit well how do you become the guy who's

the highest value fit you do this by not

necessarily wanting or needing to talk

to her you do this by not necessarily

caring if a week goes by and you guys

don't have any communication because

those of you who actually want to

maintain relationships for months or

even years with a specific woman you are

going to have to understand that the

preliminary stages of dating requires

one word that most men don't have and

that would be patience okay you need

some patience so her phone replies are

guided based on three things and three

things only when she replies to you

whether she does or whether she doesn't

it is guided based on these three things

number one how the text message that you

sent made her feel in that exact moment

okay because keep in mind her feelings

could change and then in a day or two

she might not care if that wasn't the

best text and then all of a sudden she

replies to you number two how her mood

is at that exact moment maybe there's

other life circumstances and factors

going on that dictates her mood and

dictates the priority level of if she

cares to reply to that text message or

not and number three how other men are

currently making her feel so to give you

a real life story of how much a woman's

emotions dictates what she does and the

decisions that she makes okay there was

a guy who I know who was dating a girl

okay they were literally in a

relationship and then here's what

happened she ended up leaving him to

pursue this other guy well then after a

couple weeks when her and this other guy

were going through some drama and the

new guy didn't want to see her that

night okay keep this in mind the other

guy that she was talking to the new guy

he didn't want her anymore or he started

talking to a new girl so then because

right there in that moment because her

emotions were in a state of confusion

and because she was upset what she did

that night was she called her

ex-boyfriend and went and slept with her

ex-boyfriend just so she had somebody to

sleep with just to feel validated and

just to feel like somebody wants her

right then and there in that moment so

that ex-boyfriend who got left ended up

sleeping with his past girlfriend due to

the fact that a different guy left so

since the other guy left now she wanted

to sleep with somebody in that exact

moment just to feel validated just to

feel like she's very attractive right

there in that moment so this is how deep

this goes her emotions will constantly

change so keep this in mind that's a

real life story that I have so the phone

is a buffer between you and real life

that's the first step you have to

understand now moving into this column

if a woman stops texting you it does not

mean that she does not like you anymore

you have to understand this it doesn't

mean that she doesn't like you it

doesn't mean that at all she might still

like you what she's probably doing if

she wants to test your interest level if

you're going to get needy if you're

going to want a reply all of that

she's testing to see if you have other

things going on in your life and if this

one text message really means a whole

hell of a lot to you this is the word

Everyone likes to use Game well what's

game game as a man is seeing if you can

attract the girl game as a woman is

often times retaining that relationship

with that guy so in the beginning she is

testing your interest level to see if

you have the skills to actually attract

her a lot of times in the beginning they

will make you do 100% of The Upfront

pursuing a lot of times women will make

it where they don't reach out they don't

set any dates they let the men kind of

filter and select and go after and

pursue the women that they want to go

out on a date with that's just how it is

most girls don't necessarily try a lot

of times to get that date with that guy

they wait for the man to come to her

well okay so why most men fail longterm

okay is they try to save or retain or

build a relationship say this with me

one more time they try to save they try

to retain pain or they try to build a

relationship say this with me it is not

your job to build it is not your

job to build anything it is not a good

use of your time to try to put effort

into a relationship a relationship and

trying to build something that has to do

with you and a companion is nothing more

than words you are going to really take

time out of your day as a man to sit and

try to build some words that doesn't get

you anywhere in life and that doesn't do

anything for you so because of that most

men fail longterm because they are

trying to save or retain or build a

relationship well what does that mean

that means that guy has entered into his

feminine energy because like I told you

here game as a woman is often times

retaining the relationship so it's not

necessarily your job to do that what it

is your job to do is to attract her and

make sure that you don't overp pursue to

prove that you have the patience to

hopefully appear pre-selected like you

have other options because that's what

she wants deep down is to know that

you're a winner with other options thank

you very much for for listening to all

that now let's go to the next point this

is a skill you can't get good at because

the second you try to build a

relationship or retain her attention or

retain her attraction she leaves you and

she can't help it see this is the other

thing that guys have to understand and

guys have to realize she can't help that

she left you she can't help that she

pulled away from you that is called

Mother Nature that is called just how

they were born so when guys start to

demonstrate things that are unattractive

they will naturally pull away and it's

not like she's making the conscious

decision to do that that's how Mother

Nature Made it is that way when her

attraction senses something's off she

just leaves completely so listen to me

and hear me out this is a skill that you

can't get good at because the second you

try to build a relationship or retain

her attraction and retain her attention

she leaves you so this is the mindset

the mindset is this I don't care what

happens she could leave at any time and

stop seeing me and it's out of my

control this is what I tell myself if

I'm talking to any date this is what I

tell myself if I'm talking to any woman

because the truth is you don't know if

you're going to ever see somebody again

or not so the mindset that I have 24/7

is I don't care what happens during this

interaction at all I don't give a

she could leave at any time and she

could stop seeing me at any time and

it's out of my control so because of

that I'm not even going to try because

the more time that I put into this it

starts to look like I have nothing to do

and nothing else going on so keep that

in mind so back to my point okay the

point that I made up top is stop

thinking a girl is done talking to you

after not replying for a day or two

here's what I can tell you you will

never be able to fully retain a woman's

attention or attraction because her

emotions dictate how she feels about

certain things and circumstances in that

given day or during that given day or

whatever the case may be these things

are out of your control so I would say

that that would be true with 90% of the

women that I've been with now moving

your attention to this piece okay she is

is waiting to reply to you often times

she is waiting to test you to see what

you will do so this is what you have to

understand is when a woman doesn't reply

to you this is called an interest test

she is testing your interest level to

see if this is going to raise your

anxiety to see if you're going to double

text her and sometimes that's okay if

you need to reactivate the conversation

within you know a week or two or

something or maybe you change the mood

with a new text message or something

that you send her that's witty okay

and on top of that she's testing to see

if you are the best option for her so

she is waiting to test you and to see

what you will do now when she stops

replying these are mostly interest tests

like I just told you so why why would

she need to test your interest level why

is this an interest test well you see

women know that men often times want to

get laid she knows this she knows that

you want to get laid men know that women

want that man's time time care attention

and potential resources for the future

okay this is like an inverse Dynamic

going on so with that said what does she

do well she pulls back to get you more

emotionally invested because she wants

to try to get you to love her so think

about that for a second she wants to try

to get you to love her so what she's

doing is she has to say okay I know that

most guys want to get laid because I

know that most guys want to get laid

what are the things that I need so that

way there's the level of security and

resources to where if we had potential

kids together one day there is

definitely some resources here for me

okay so what does she want she needs

your love she needs your care she needs

your time she needs your attention she

needs your emotional investment and she

needs to see that she holds more weight

in your emotional availability than all

of the other women out there so that

makes her want to actually be with you

so keep this in mind men often times

trade attention for hopes of future sex

access so she wants him to Value her so

it feels like it's more than just that

this is why what she's doing is she is

often times not replying or she is going

to be testing your interest level to see

what you're going to do because often

times one of the things that makes her

feel more secure is knowing that you

will potentially have other options but

despite you having those other options

which signals pre-selection she sees

that you and her have something that's

different so this is what she's doing

now if a guy gets get needy right here

and starts texting her a lot and calling

her a lot and figuring out why she's not

replying or what's going on this is

going to Signal lower value and then

she's going to exit so hypergamy is like

a dual Edge kind of thing going on she

wants to make sure you're attractive and

has options and you can potentially

exercise those options if you wanted to

but on top of that she's wanting to make

sure that if she decides to invest in

you with what you're wanting you know

how to reciprocate and give her what

she's wanting so it's a very fine line

that's going on the entire time now as a

man you will have to do 70% plus of the

work up front to try to talk to her and

try to set a date like I have told you

in the beginning they are going to make

you often times do 100% often times even

of setting things up and making sure

that this date can happen but let's use

this just for a rough number okay just

for a rough estimate let's say a man

will have to do 70% plus okay of the

work upfront to try to talk to her and

try to set a date now why is she doing

that why is she almost getting you to

preload a lot of attention towards her

because like I said she knows that men

often times want to get laid so in order

for you to get often times what you want

a lot of times which is intimacy an

emotional connection right potentially

like being with her on that level

romantically she needs to make sure that

she gets what she wants out of it which

would be resources time attention and

potential love so she wants you to Value

her so it doesn't feel like she's just

an option so what comes down to this or

what goes into this is the word patience

you need to have patience because

everything and I mean everything

operates on that woman's time Horizon

you do not get to choose when her

emotions work in your favor if you're

going to understand how love works okay

and the type of man that she starts to

invest into you are going to have to be

patient and you let things unfold day by

day at a time you can't micromanage

every little detail and every little

text message sometimes you're going to

hear from her and sometimes you won't

and that's just how it is because

emotions change so it comes down to a

word that I call patience now allow 4 to

10 days to pass maybe even sometimes 2

to 3 weeks if you need to before you

will now send that second text message

like I told you down here back to the

point I would say 90% of the women that

I've slept with I have had to double

text at some point but I didn't do it at

a point where I was doing it out of

being needy or signaling that I don't

have any other options it's like okay 2

3 weeks went by this is a specific life

event or something that occurred in my

life it makes sense to texture this or

to see what she's up to it makes sense

to send this and if her emotions are

going to work in my favor at that time

you have a lot higher chance because

you've demonstrated that you have

patience you demonstrate that you have

other things going on but at the same

time she's enough of a priority where

you still were willing to reach out you

still were willing to send that second

text message so you have to play the

long game with this and that's why often

times with men what you need to realize

is you need options you need to be

talking to 10 maybe 15 girls on text

message at a time you need to see who's

into you and who isn't because out of

these 15 girls I would say probably half

of them are going to be showing the

interest level that you're needing to

actually make them a potential option

that's real and then out of that you

know half of them so out of that seven

or eight I would say maybe only three or

four of them once you meet in real life

are going to have authentic chemistry so

this is about laying your cards right

and demonstrating that you have options

and this is the type of guy that she

starts to fall in love with this is the

type of guy that she gets very attached

to because he shows that he has patience

he's calm enough to just sit in the

moment and let things play out so here's

what I can tell you if a woman doesn't

reply to you and you let this you know 4

5 6 7 8 9 10 plus days play out you can

reactivate a conversation with a lot of

different things in the past I've done a

picture that I send her of me eating

food okay I've done voice memos or voice

messages something simple something that

just creates a Vibe something that

creates a smiley face of Feelgood energy

this is all you have to do you don't

have to do anything heavy you don't have

to do anything that's harsh topics that

require a lot of thought right you

purely just have to reactivate the

conversation with an emotion and a Vibe

and if you can do that you're going to

win so she may even reach out to you too

this is the part that I'm trying to get

across there was a time where I was

talking to a girl and I told myself okay

on day 10 I'm going to send that second

text message and then it got to day nine

and she was the one who now finally

reached back out to me why because I

showed patience very important so here's

what I can tell you always do two things

with women when you are talking to them

the first thing that you're doing is you

are satisfying hypergamy and what that

means is that shows that you are the guy

who is strong enough emotionally to

weather any kind of storm you are the

highest value fit that she can find

number two you are showing a discrepancy

in smv sexual market value so she's

attracted to you that's what attraction

to a woman is attraction to a woman is a

discrepancy in smv so a lot of times

women will be attracted to you and they

will want things to play out with you

but she has to pull back she has to stop

replying she has

to not text message you a lot or she has

to wait 12 to 24 sometimes 48 hours

before she texts you back because she

wants to see what you will do so a man

with options number one will not get

needy number two a man with options will

not feel the need to respond as soon as

possible and number three a man with

options will talk when it's convenient

for him a lot of times what I would

recommend you guys doing is condensing

your text message times with women to

just like you know from maybe like like

7:30 p.m. to before you go to bed right

so that little 2 to 3 hour window that's

probably the best time because at least

she sees your day is over and at least

it shows like you have other things

going on throughout the day so my

biggest shift over the past three to 12

months was this let me explain what you

have to do and I know that this is hard

you have to remove the masculine doer or

do it or fixer or the fix it guy

mentality you see as men we like to

handle things and when I say handle

things you like to handle problems in

your life or you like to get stuff done

that's part of just oftentimes being a

man is you see that there's a task and

you finish it to get it done with so

here's what I can tell you you get a

text message right we've all been there

and you see that little blue dot pop up

on your text message histories and on

your text message history the ones that

you have not opened yet it comes up as a

blue dot and it shows that you have to

open it majority of men if you watch

their behaviors and if you watch their

patterns

what they want to do is when they get a

message like that they want to open it

right away and they want to handle it

because to them it's almost like

business it's like now it's something on

my to-do list I have to respond to this

I have to take care of this and then

wait for her to reply women do not

operate that way because if you see

their cell phones they will have tons of

blue text messages that they have not

opened yet and they don't care because

they're operating on their own time

frame and often times their cell phone

doesn't necessarily control their

day-to-day habits they just operate when

they want to do stuff so this is the

biggest mindset shift I've had over the

past 3 to 12 months is removing the

masculine fixer or get it done guy

mentality of getting stuff done because

it doesn't work that way when it comes

to dating so what I can tell you is this

if you are typically in the mindset

where you see that blue dot pop up on

your phone and you're like okay I got to

open this and I have to make sure that I

get this done the answer is no no you

don't you sit there and you let it wait

you you let it sit maybe she's going to

reach out to you in a couple hours and

even double text message you so if you

do this if you operate this way and you

don't let the cell phone control your

emotional state when talking to women

this is the type of guy she gets

attached to this is the type of guy she

wants to invest in and this is the type

of guy she wants to date so stop

thinking that a girl is done talking to

you after just not replying for a day or

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