A Weird Trick To Get More Confidence
Summary
TLDRThe speaker discusses the concept of confidence, defining it as self-assurance in one's identity and comfort in being oneself in various situations. They share a personal trick to boost confidence: verbalizing one's internal monologue when alone, which helps to recognize and challenge irrational thoughts and practice expressing oneself authentically. This practice is suggested as a way to improve self-awareness and social comfort, leading to increased confidence.
Takeaways
- π Confidence is a trait that varies among individuals; some are naturally more self-assured, while others struggle to voice their thoughts.
- π The speaker defines confidence as two abilities: knowing who you are and being comfortable being yourself in different situations.
- π€ People with low confidence might act differently around others, not portraying their true selves, unlike confident individuals who can be themselves even with strangers.
- π‘ The speaker shares a personal trick to boost confidence, which involves verbalizing one's internal monologue when alone to become more aware of one's thoughts.
- π£οΈ By speaking out loud, one can identify and challenge irrational or unhelpful thoughts that may be running in their head.
- πΆββοΈ The trick can be practiced alone, such as while walking, driving, or any time when one is by themselves, pretending to be a vlogger narrating thoughts.
- π Speaking your thoughts can help you realize which thoughts are not rational, providing a feedback loop that wasn't present when thinking internally.
- π’ The act of verbalizing thoughts can also help with social situations, as it trains you to be more comfortable with expressing what's on your mind.
- πͺ The speaker suggests that confidence can be distilled to the ability to say what's on your mind, which is something that can be practiced and improved.
- π€·ββοΈ There's a risk of being perceived as 'crazy' by others if they see you talking to yourself, but the speaker argues that the benefits outweigh this minor inconvenience.
- π The speaker recommends trying this method and possibly sharing experiences in the comments, emphasizing that it's a personal discovery, not a scientifically-backed technique.
Q & A
What is the speaker's personal definition of confidence?
-The speaker defines confidence as having two abilities: knowing who you are and not being unsure about what you're doing every day, and being comfortable being yourself in different situations.
Why does the speaker believe that some people are born with confidence?
-The speaker suggests that some people are born with confidence because they are able to talk and walk everywhere with their heads held high, expressing their thoughts without fear from the moment they can communicate.
What is the 'trick' the speaker learned to boost their confidence?
-The trick involves verbalizing one's internal monologue when alone, turning it into an external monologue, which helps in recognizing and adjusting irrational thoughts and getting used to expressing oneself openly.
How does the speaker describe the internal monologue of shy or unconfident people?
-The speaker describes it as a constant internal dialogue that runs 24/7, where people say things in their head that they would never voice out loud.
What is the benefit of verbalizing one's internal monologue according to the speaker?
-Verbalizing the internal monologue allows a person to hear and evaluate their thoughts, realizing which ones might be irrational or unnecessary, and it helps in practicing expressing oneself openly.
Why does the speaker suggest that verbalizing thoughts can help in knowing who you are?
-By verbalizing thoughts, a person gets a better sense of their true thoughts and feelings, which contributes to self-awareness and understanding of their identity.
What is the issue the speaker identifies with not speaking one's mind?
-The issue is that when people don't speak their minds, especially in social situations, they may act in ways that are not true to who they are, leading to a disconnect and a lack of confidence.
How does the speaker recommend using the 'trick' before going to the gym?
-The speaker recommends using the 'trick' by verbalizing whatever is on their mind while driving to the gym, using it as a way to hype themselves up and prepare mentally for the workout.
What is the potential downside of verbalizing one's internal monologue in public?
-The potential downside is that others might perceive the person as being 'crazy' if they see them talking to themselves, which is something the person might have to accept or deal with.
Why does the speaker suggest that journaling or making YouTube videos could be helpful?
-These activities can help externalize internal thoughts, making them feel more real and allowing for a more objective look at one's situation, which can contribute to building confidence.
What does the speaker mean by 'saying what's on your mind makes everything real'?
-The speaker means that by expressing one's thoughts out loud, those thoughts become more tangible and real to the person, which can be relaxing and help in reducing the mental burden of bottling up thoughts.
Outlines
π€ The Struggle with Confidence
This paragraph discusses the concept of confidence, highlighting the difference between those who naturally exude it and those who struggle to voice their thoughts, even among friends. The speaker shares personal experiences of lacking confidence and introduces a unique self-devised method to boost confidence. The essence of confidence is defined as knowing who you are and being comfortable being yourself in various situations. The paragraph sets the stage for the 'trick' to be explained, which involves externalizing one's internal monologue to gain self-awareness and improve confidence.
π£οΈ Verbalizing Internal Thoughts to Build Confidence
The speaker presents a personal strategy for enhancing confidence by verbalizing one's internal monologue when alone, such as during a walk or driving. This practice is said to reveal and challenge irrational thoughts, leading to a better understanding of oneself and improved self-assurance. The speaker also touches on the importance of being genuine in social situations and the benefits of expressing one's true thoughts and feelings openly. The paragraph concludes with a recommendation to try this method as a means to make one's internal world more tangible and to foster a more objective perspective on personal situations.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Confidence
π‘Internal Monologue
π‘Self-Awareness
π‘Portraying Oneself
π‘Shyness
π‘Introversion
π‘Verbalizing
π‘Authenticity
π‘Social Disconnect
π‘Personal Growth
Highlights
Confidence is defined as the ability to know who you are and being comfortable being yourself in different situations.
Some people naturally have confidence, while others struggle with voicing their thoughts even to friends.
The speaker used to be one of the least confident people, having difficulty expressing thoughts even to friends.
Confidence involves not being nervous around strangers and being true to oneself regardless of the audience.
A personal trick to boost confidence is verbalizing one's internal monologue when alone.
Verbalizing thoughts can help identify and challenge irrational or unhelpful thoughts.
The act of speaking thoughts out loud provides feedback and can adjust one's perspective on their own thoughts.
Confident people tend to express whatever is on their mind without fear.
The speaker suggests practicing speaking one's mind to improve the ability to express oneself authentically.
Introverts may lose the ability to speak fluently if they go too long without social interaction.
Daily practice of verbalizing thoughts can help overcome the hesitation to express oneself in social situations.
Confidence can be boiled down to the ability to say what's on one's mind at all times.
The speaker shares a personal example of challenging irrational thoughts by verbalizing them.
Lying to oneself can be a part of the process to build confidence and change one's mindset.
The speaker recommends trying this method before going to the gym or other activities to build confidence.
The method of verbalizing thoughts is not based on scientific research but on personal experience.
The speaker encourages viewers to try verbalizing their thoughts and share their experiences in the comments.
Transcripts
confidence is one of those tricky things
where some people are born with it you
all know this person from the moment
they were able to talk they just walk
everywhere with their head held high
saying what's on their mind not a fear
in the world but then there's people
like you and me um you know we grow up
and we just it's very hard for us to
voice what's on our mind to strangers
and even our friends sometimes you know
you you go to the you go to the barber
and you don't like your haircut and you
just don't say anything because you
don't have the confidence to I've been
there if you guys don't know a couple
years ago like just watch some of my old
First videos um I was one of the most
least confident people on the planet you
know I had difficulty even talking to my
friends sometimes saying what's on my
mind um but there's a trick I learned
kind of recently that has boosted my
confidence unbelievably and it's a
really weird thing and I'm going to get
into it but first I want to talk about
what is confidence because you know you
see this word throw around all the time
but what actually is it I personally I
Define confidence is two abilities the
first ability is to know who you are you
know not be unsure about what you're
doing every day and the second thing is
how comfortable you are being yourself
in different situations so you know
someone who's very unconfident they may
not act like themsel even around their
friends and family whereas someone who's
really confident they can act like
themselves around random strangers you
know they they see a pretty girl on the
street stone cold sober and still they
cannot even not be nervous whatsoever so
a really confident person is someone who
knows who they are are and is not does
not have a problem whatsoever portraying
that wherever they go so um that this
leads me to the trick I found and I'm
going to try to explain this in a way
that makes sense because it is really
weird I don't this is one of those rare
times where I didn't get it from reading
a book I didn't get it from seeing some
inspirational video this is something
that I literally just came up with on my
own so I'm going to see if I can patent
this trick but basically here here's the
science behind it shy people unconfident
people um we have this internal
monologue running 24/7 you know we're
talking in our head but we never voice
it because you know for some reason and
this is mainly for introverts extroverts
if you're watching this let me know if
you guys have the same thing but
basically this internal monologue is
running 247 and we're saying things in
our head that we would never say out
loud you know and some of sometimes
these things we're saying are very
ridiculous but the thing about confident
people they whatever's in their head
they just say and it's a beautiful thing
that if everyone could do that the world
would be a much better place but
basically here's the trick and here's
how you manipulate this when you're by
yourself or wherever you're most
comfortable I I usually do this when I'm
driving but you know you could be on a
walk or something anytime you're by
yourself just try to take that internal
monologue and just verbalize it make it
an external monologue so let let's say
you're walking you're going on a walk by
yourself or you're driving or whatever
whatever thoughts you're having in your
head literally pretend like you're a
YouTube vlogger and just say all of them
I started doing this like a month or two
ago and what I found is when you say
your internal monologue a a great
benefit of it is that you get to hear
some thoughts that are actually
ridiculous that you would never think
are ridiculous in the first place like
you ever have that moment where you
think something all the time and then
when you finally say it out loud you're
like well that's kind of stupid and it's
because when you say it in your head you
don't really have that feed back of like
hm maybe that is kind of stupid but when
you actually verbalize these internal
thoughts you can actually be like hm
maybe I shouldn't think that way you
know for example um I I'll give you a
personal example I for whatever reason
fall into these ruts where I think like
no one likes me for no reason whatsoever
and I'll be thinking that over and over
and it'll make so much sense in my head
but when I actually get into this mode
where I actually talk about it you know
to no one I'm just saying it uh to
myself I'm like wait this is kind of
stupid cuz you know if you hear someone
else say something stupid you can
immediately be like okay that's stupid
but for whatever reason when we have
stupid thoughts in our head they just
sound completely normal and we keep uh
we keep um we keep persisting with those
thoughts because there's no way to um
you know recognize that stupid but if
you can just take some time every day to
just say out loud what your in internal
monologue is thinking you're you're
going to get a way better sense of um
what who you actually are and that leads
to the the first part of confidence of
knowing who you are the second reason
this strategy is so um effective is
because if you're an introvert like me
or you just um aren't around people that
much you you've probably had a moment
where you go a whole day or something
without talking to anyone and then when
you finally do end up talking to someone
uh you literally lose the ability to
speak like the words in your brain just
don't work at all so if you if you can
take some time literally just talking by
yourself saying whatever is on your mind
then you're a lot more likely to do what
confident people do which is just saying
what's on your mind that's literally I
mean if if you could boil down
confidence to one thing it's just saying
what's on your mind all the time and and
you know obviously there's exceptions to
this there's sometimes where you're
going to not want to do this but you
know life unbelievably you know who
would have thought thought it but life
will get so much better if you can just
be yourself as much as possible and
people like me and probably you if
you're watching this you know we have
this problem where we'll have this
internal monologue of who you actually
are but then we're so uncomfortable in
social situations that we say things
that aren't who we are at all and it
just leads to this complete disconnect
because of the lack of confidence that
people think you are someone you're not
because you're not being who you are but
basically this trick I I do it almost
every day before I go to the gym and
it's been so effective you know I'm like
driving to the gym I literally just say
whatever's on my mind you know I try to
Hype myself up a little bit I'm like and
sometimes you can even lie to yourself
while doing this I I was going to the
gym today I'm like I am going to lift
more than anyone else there and then you
know I just bounced off those thoughts
but you know just this taking some time
to say exactly what's on your mind is
going to make everything so real because
when you when you limit your thoughts to
just staying in your brain is we're
getting very deep here but I hope this
makes sense if you limit your thoughts
all the time to what's in your brain and
it's not going to feel real and also so
like no one is ever going to know you
but I think having that ability to say
what's on your mind and just it it's
relaxing almost because you know it
makes whatever you've been bottling up
in your brain feel so much more real so
um yeah I would definitely recommend um
trying this out I don't even like I said
I didn't read it in a book or anything
see see one of those um how to be
confident videos I don't I don't watch
those at all but just the the ability to
say what's on your mind and you know if
you have a friend you trust you can
practice that on a person that's
probably even better but you know if you
want to start from somewhere just take
some time to say exactly what's on your
mind if you're by yourself in a car on a
walk whatever um I think it's really
great um just because you can be
yourself and it it's if someone sees you
doing this they're going to think you're
crazy and you know that's just something
you're going to have to deal with there
was one time I was talking to myself in
the car and then someone looked at me I
was like you you know it just is what it
is I mean if people think you're crazy
temporarily um that's fine but I think
it's so important to get your thoughts
out in any way possible I mean may maybe
for you you'd enjoy journaling more um
making YouTube videos uh anything that
can make your um make your internal
thoughts externalized because it'll make
it feel so much more real and you can
look at your situation more objectively
so um yeah I don't I don't know um if
this is backed by science or anything
this is just something that I've found
personally to be very very helpful so go
um go after you're done this video go um
just say what's on your mind for a
little bit and I think you'll find it's
pretty surprisingly helpful so uh yeah
that's all I got for today's video let
me know your thoughts in the comments
with that being said Peace
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