3 DAILY HABITS (*Get more done in 1 DAY than others do in 5).

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25 Mar 202319:30

Summary

TLDRThis video emphasizes the importance of prioritizing high-value tasks, learning to say 'no' to urgent but unimportant distractions, and focusing on one task at a time for productivity. It also discusses strategies for habit formation, including overcoming the struggle phase and maintaining new habits.

Takeaways

  • πŸ˜€ Prioritize high-value tasks by identifying and focusing on the most important tasks first, just like focusing on high-value questions in a game.
  • πŸ•’ Develop the habit of 'organizing tomorrow today' by planning the next day's tasks before lunch, focusing on the top three important tasks and one must-complete task.
  • πŸ’‘ The subconscious mind can help prepare for tasks during sleep, known as the Zeigarnik effect, which keeps uncompleted tasks in both conscious and subconscious mind until completed.
  • πŸš€ Start your day with momentum by completing the most important task first, which can lead to increased productivity and reduced anxiety.
  • ❌ Learn to say 'no' to urgent but not important tasks to avoid sacrificing important tasks for urgent ones, and to maintain a healthy work-life balance.
  • 🏠 Balance personal and professional life by setting boundaries and not letting work intrude on personal time, as demonstrated by the example of a co-worker interrupting family dinner.
  • 🎯 Focus on one thing at a time to avoid being overwhelmed and to maintain productivity, as shown by the Navy SEALs training example.
  • 🌐 Recognize the importance of managing information overload by prioritizing and focusing on the most important tasks, rather than trying to do everything at once.
  • πŸ”„ Understand the three phases of habit formation: the honeymoon phase, the struggle phase, and the second nature phase, to better establish and maintain new habits.
  • πŸ‹οΈβ€β™‚οΈ Ritualize new habits for the entire week to ensure consistency and avoid falling back into old habits during weekends or breaks.
  • πŸ€” Ask yourself how you will feel if you win or lose a struggle to motivate yourself to overcome challenges in habit formation.

Q & A

  • What is the main concept of the hypothetical game described in the script?

    -The main concept of the hypothetical game is to prioritize high-value tasks. Participants have 24 minutes to answer 10 questions, with three questions worth ten thousand dollars each. The trick is to identify and focus on these high-value questions first to maximize winnings.

  • How does the script relate the hypothetical game to real-life tasks management?

    -The script compares the game to daily life, where each day has 24 hours and a list of tasks. It emphasizes the importance of identifying and prioritizing the most important tasks (akin to the high-value questions in the game) to gain an unfair advantage in productivity.

  • What is the 'Organize Tomorrow Today' habit and how does it work?

    -The 'Organize Tomorrow Today' habit involves spending five minutes before lunch each day to plan for the next day. It includes identifying the three most important tasks and one must-complete task, helping to prioritize and plan the day more effectively.

  • Why is it important to identify and prioritize high-value tasks each day?

    -Prioritizing high-value tasks is crucial because it helps individuals focus on what truly matters, leading to greater productivity and success. It also leverages the subconscious mind to prepare for task completion, as explained by the Zygarnik effect.

  • What is the Zygarnik effect and how does it relate to task management?

    -The Zygarnik effect refers to the phenomenon where uncompleted tasks remain in both the conscious and subconscious mind until they are completed. This effect suggests that identifying and prioritizing tasks can help the mind prepare for their successful completion.

  • What is the second habit discussed in the script and why is it important?

    -The second habit is 'Say No'. It is important because it helps individuals avoid trading important tasks for urgent ones, which can lead to burnout and reduced productivity. Learning to say no is crucial for maintaining focus on personal priorities.

  • How can saying no to urgent tasks help in maintaining a work-life balance?

    -Saying no to urgent tasks helps maintain a work-life balance by allowing individuals to prioritize personal and family time. It prevents the intrusion of work-related urgencies into personal life, thus fostering a healthier balance.

  • What is the third habit discussed in the script and what is its significance?

    -The third habit is 'Focus on One Thing at a Time'. Its significance lies in the power of focus to enhance productivity and success. By concentrating on one task or goal at a time, individuals can achieve better results and avoid the overwhelm caused by multitasking.

  • How does the story of Bobby Gasoff illustrate the power of focus?

    -Bobby Gasoff's story illustrates the power of focus through his strategy of narrowing his mind to a single focus point during the brutal 'Hell Week' in Navy SEALs training. By focusing only on the very next step, he was able to endure and succeed, demonstrating the effectiveness of focused effort.

  • What are the three phases of habit formation discussed in the script?

    -The three phases of habit formation discussed are the Honeymoon phase, the Struggle phase, and the Second Nature phase. Each phase represents different stages in the process of establishing a new habit, with the Struggle phase being the most critical where most people give up.

  • What are some practical tips for overcoming the Struggle phase in habit formation?

    -Practical tips for overcoming the Struggle phase include ritualizing the new habit for the entire week, recognizing when you are in the Struggle phase, asking yourself how you will feel if you win or lose the struggle, and life projection to visualize the outcomes of success or failure.

  • What are the three monsters that can disrupt a habit once it has reached the Second Nature phase?

    -The three monsters that can disrupt a habit in the Second Nature phase are the Discouragement monster, the Seduction of Success, and Disruption due to events like illness or vacations. These can lead to setbacks if not managed carefully.

Outlines

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πŸ˜€ Prioritize High Value Tasks

The first paragraph introduces the concept of prioritizing high-value tasks in daily life, akin to a hypothetical game where certain questions are worth more. It emphasizes the importance of identifying and focusing on the most critical tasks first to gain an unfair advantage in productivity. The speaker suggests a habit called 'organizing tomorrow today,' which involves planning the next day's tasks before lunch, focusing on the top three important tasks, and prioritizing one of them as a must-complete task. This approach is likened to the Zygarnik effect, where the mind continues to work on uncompleted tasks even during sleep, leading to better preparation and reduced anxiety for the next day.

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πŸ™…β€β™‚οΈ Saying No to Urgent Tasks

The second paragraph discusses the habit of saying no, particularly to urgent tasks that may not be important. It illustrates the point with a scenario where a person interrupts family time to help a co-worker, thereby prioritizing urgency over importance. The speaker warns against confusing urgent and important tasks and suggests that saying no is crucial for maintaining balance in life. The narrative includes a story about a retired athlete who learned to be more selective in his actions by placing a picture of his family on his desk, prompting him to consider his priorities more carefully. The paragraph concludes with the advice to make saying no a daily habit and to be mindful of the choices we make in our daily lives.

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🎯 Focus on One Thing at a Time

The third paragraph highlights the power of focusing on one thing at a time, using the story of Bobby Gasoff, who successfully endured Navy Seal training by focusing on one step at a time. The speaker contrasts this approach with the common trap of multitasking, which leads to being busy but not productive. The paragraph emphasizes the importance of being productive rather than merely busy, suggesting that focusing on a single task can lead to better outcomes and increased fulfillment. The speaker also provides practical tips for overcoming the struggle phase in habit formation, such as ritualizing the habit, recognizing the struggle phase, asking oneself how winning or losing will feel, and visualizing the future impact of the habit.

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πŸ† Building and Maintaining Habits

The fourth paragraph summarizes the key habits discussed in the video: organizing tomorrow today, saying no to urgent tasks, and focusing on one task at a time. It also delves into the three phases of habit formation: the honeymoon phase, the struggle phase, and second nature. The speaker provides strategies for overcoming the struggle phase, such as ritualizing the habit, recognizing the struggle, focusing on emotions, and visualizing the future. Additionally, the paragraph warns about the potential pitfalls in the second nature phase, including discouragement, the seduction of success, and disruption. The speaker concludes by encouraging viewers to learn more about habits from the books 'Organize Tomorrow Today' and 'Atomic Habits'.

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Keywords

πŸ’‘Prioritize

Prioritize means to arrange tasks or activities in order of importance. In the video, it is emphasized that successful people prioritize their tasks by focusing on the most important ones first. This concept is illustrated through a hypothetical game where the player must identify and answer high-value questions first to maximize their winnings. The video suggests that organizing tomorrow today by identifying three high-value tasks each day can lead to greater productivity and success.

πŸ’‘Habit

A habit is a regular practice or routine behavior that is typically performed unconsciously. The video discusses the importance of developing good habits, such as organizing tomorrow today, saying no, and focusing on one thing at a time. These habits are presented as strategies for achieving success and maintaining balance in life. The video also outlines the three phases of habit formation, highlighting the challenges and strategies for establishing and maintaining new habits.

πŸ’‘Zygarnik Effect

The Zygarnik Effect refers to the psychological phenomenon where people remember uncompleted tasks more than completed ones. In the video, it is mentioned that by organizing tomorrow today, individuals can leverage the Zygarnik Effect by preparing their minds for the tasks ahead, leading to better sleep and waking up with fresh ideas related to the tasks at hand.

πŸ’‘Urgent vs. Important

The video distinguishes between tasks that are urgent (needing immediate attention) and those that are important (having significant long-term value). It cautions against prioritizing urgent tasks over important ones, which can lead to neglecting what truly matters. An example given is interrupting family time to respond to a co-worker's urgent request, thereby trading a valuable personal moment for a less significant work task.

πŸ’‘Momentum

Momentum in the video refers to the impetus or force that drives a process forward. It is used to describe the benefits of completing high-value tasks early in the day, which can create a sense of progress and motivation to continue being productive. The video suggests that starting the day with a completed task can generate momentum, making it easier to tackle subsequent tasks.

πŸ’‘Productivity

Productivity is the effectiveness of production, as measured in terms of the rate of output per unit of input. The video contrasts being busy with being productive, emphasizing that being busy does not necessarily equate to being productive. It suggests that focusing on a single task at a time can lead to higher productivity, as opposed to multitasking, which can lead to being overwhelmed and underperforming.

πŸ’‘Honeymoon Phase

The Honeymoon Phase, as described in the video, is the initial period when starting a new habit, where everything feels easy and motivating. It is the first phase of habit formation, characterized by enthusiasm and a sense of challenge. However, the video warns that this phase is temporary and that challenges will arise, leading to the struggle phase.

πŸ’‘Struggle Phase

The Struggle Phase is the second stage in habit formation, where the initial excitement wanes, and challenges begin to surface. The video explains that this is a critical period where most people give up on their new habits. Strategies such as ritualizing the habit, recognizing the struggle, and visualizing the consequences of success or failure are suggested to help overcome this phase.

πŸ’‘Second Nature

Second Nature in the video refers to the final phase of habit formation, where the habit becomes so ingrained that it requires minimal effort to maintain. The video cautions that even at this stage, one must be vigilant against complacency, as disruptions or setbacks can easily lead to a relapse into old habits.

πŸ’‘Ritualize

Ritualize means to establish a routine or ritual for a particular activity. The video suggests that ritualizing a new habit throughout the entire week can help in maintaining consistency and overcoming the struggle phase. It emphasizes the importance of having rituals not just during the weekdays but also on weekends to prevent backsliding.

πŸ’‘Multitasking

Multitasking is the act of attempting to perform multiple tasks simultaneously. The video argues against multitasking, stating that it can lead to a lack of focus and reduced productivity. It encourages focusing on one task at a time to achieve better results and maintain a clear sense of purpose.

Highlights

The importance of prioritizing high-value tasks in daily life, similar to a game where some questions are worth more points.

The concept of 'Organize Tomorrow Today' as a habit to plan and prioritize tasks effectively.

Spending five minutes before lunch each day to plan for the next day, focusing on the three most important tasks.

Identifying one task among the three as a 'must-complete' to ensure critical priorities are met.

The subconscious mind's role in preparing for tasks during sleep, influenced by the 'Zygarnik effect'.

The benefit of starting the day with preparedness and momentum, leading to increased productivity.

The necessity of saying 'no' to urgent but non-important tasks to maintain focus on what truly matters.

The distinction between urgent and important tasks, and the common mistake of prioritizing the former over the latter.

The story of a retired athlete who learned to be selective in helping others by considering his family's importance.

The idea that saying 'yes' to one thing often means saying 'no' to something else, emphasizing the need for careful choices.

The power of focusing on one thing at a time, illustrated by the story of Bobby Gasoff and his Navy SEAL training.

The common trap of multitasking and its negative impact on productivity and confidence.

The difference between being busy and being productive, with a focus on creating 'fire with no smoke'.

Understanding the three phases of habit formation: honeymoon, struggle, and second nature.

Strategies to overcome the struggle phase in habit formation, such as ritualizing habits and recognizing the phase.

The importance of visualizing future outcomes to motivate oneself through the struggle phase of habit formation.

The potential pitfalls in the second nature phase of habit formation, including discouragement, seduction of success, and disruption.

The overall summary of the three habits discussed: organizing tomorrow today, saying no, and focusing on one task at a time.

Transcripts

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habit number one organize tomorrow today

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imagine I come to you and ask you to

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play a game with me you will get 10

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questions if you answer them correctly

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you will win money each question is

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worth a thousand dollars however there

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are three questions that are worth ten

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thousand dollars you have 24 minutes to

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answer all 10 questions but here's the

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thing

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I will not tell you which of those

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questions is worth ten thousand dollars

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you will only know how much you have won

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at the end of the game so the game

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starts now I've made it hard for you by

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not telling you which of those three

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questions are worth ten thousand dollars

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but what I don't know about you is that

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you are a pretty smart person and you

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have already figured out the trick and

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know that question number two number

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four and number six are the high value

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questions

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I don't know how you did it but you

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somehow figured out the trick before the

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game begins now as soon as the game

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starts which questions are you going to

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focus on first the answer is obvious

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right you wouldn't move on to another

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question before you made sure that you

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answered those three questions first the

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remaining seven questions are just

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bonuses if you get them right

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there's a very high chance that you will

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win quite some money in this game

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because you knew the trick

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this was a hypothetical game but what

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you don't realize is that you are

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actually playing this game every single

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day in real life when your day starts

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you get 24 hours and you get a list of

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tasks you need to work on just like in

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our game most of those tasks are worth

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one thousand dollars and only two or

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three are worth ten thousand dollars if

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you can identify and prioritize those

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three high value tasks and get them done

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first you will gain an unfair Advantage

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just like you did in that game by

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prioritizing those high value questions

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in life

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the biggest underrated skill is probably

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the ability to prioritize

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successful people don't get everything

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done they don't even get most of their

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to-do lists done their secret is that

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they have the habit of getting the most

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important things done organizing

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tomorrow today is a simple habit that

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can help you prioritize and plan your

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day more effectively here's how it works

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every day before you eat your lunch you

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spend five minutes planning for tomorrow

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by asking two simple questions number

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one what are the three most important

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things I need to get done tomorrow

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number two among these three important

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tasks which one of them must I complete

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no matter what

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so when you look at your list it should

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have three tasks on top and one

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highlighted as a must

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and finally several smaller tasks that

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you also need to complete but are not

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your priority

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identifying daily priorities might seem

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like an insignificant step to take but

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doing it the previous night turns your

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subconscious mind loose while you sleep

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and freeze you from worrying about being

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unprepared you wake up with great ideas

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related to the tasks you hadn't even

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considered as you sleep your brain will

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automatically start preparing for the

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successful closing of those loops

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this is known as the zygarnik effect

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which basically means that uncompleted

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tasks stay both in the conscious and

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subconscious mind until the task is

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completed in other words the mind

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doesn't like unfinished business

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high-level mathematicians and writers

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use this method a lot before going to

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bed they take a few minutes to analyze

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the problem they are working on or they

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are stuck on and then the mind works all

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night to close the loop and they wake up

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in the morning with great ideas

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another benefit of organizing tomorrow

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today is that you can go into your next

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day feeling more prepared and less

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anxious in the morning instead of trying

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to generate momentum you will come in

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with momentum already in place and when

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you knock off that first most important

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task from the list you will be

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generating even more momentum

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if you are going to apply this Habit to

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your own life and start organizing

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tomorrow today then keep these three

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things in mind number one don't wait

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until it is the very last thing in your

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day to organize for tomorrow do it a bit

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earlier in your day before lunch is a

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great time make a rule for yourself to

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organize tomorrow before you take the

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first bite number two for some reason if

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you can't work on your important tasks

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then at least spend one minute on them

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this will help you to develop the Habit

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number three remember if you don't

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prioritize other people will do it for

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you you are always working on priorities

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the question is whose priorities are you

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working on yours or somebody else's

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second habit say no

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you've just got home from work your wife

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and your son are waiting for you so you

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can have dinner together you sit down to

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eat and your son starts telling you

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about his day and that's when your phone

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shows you a notification A co-worker

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needs your help to find a document

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do you remember where we left the sales

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report he asks you interrupt your son

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and start texting your friend what can

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you do you think you have to help your

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co-worker or he'll be in trouble while

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you do that your family has dinner and

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now your wife is the only one who knows

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what happened during your son's school

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day

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I'm sure that if I ask you who's more

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important to you your son or your

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co-worker your answer would be my son of

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course but what you just did was trade

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something important for something urgent

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urgent and important are two different

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things but very easy to be confused for

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example let's say you're at work trying

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to finish a report by the end of the day

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it's a report you have to submit every

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day by 6 PM while you are busy with the

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report suddenly your boss messages you

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and asks you some urgent questions if

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you are like most people you're going to

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stop working and answer all the

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questions your boss is asking until he

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is satisfied and goes away then you will

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start working on that report but here's

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the thing you already lost momentum in

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quite some time as well which means you

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will probably miss the 6 PM deadline and

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work overtime not just that you are also

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going to miss the dinner with your

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family and then when your partner asks

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you why you are late you will start

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complaining about your job and blame

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your boss

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I know you won't like this but you are

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the one to blame not your boss you were

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the one who didn't have the courage to

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say no to your boss you were the one who

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traded something

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urgent for something important the right

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thing to do in this scenario was to

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explain to your boss that you were

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working against an important deadline

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and you would get back to him once you

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were done

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urgent things come up all the time when

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you say yes to one urgent thing you're

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saying no to another important thing

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just like when you said yes to your boss

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you said no to your own work into your

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family

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I know saying no is hard it is

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uncomfortable and we've not been used to

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doing it especially when the person is

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someone above us but without it life

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becomes impossible to handle

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I once heard a story about a retired

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athlete who is always eager to help

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people for years he would help anyone in

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any way he could to the point he was

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more burned out than he had ever been

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before retirement and he was spending

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less and less time at home with his

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family

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so we made a very simple change he

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placed a picture of his wife and kids on

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his desk next to his phone every time A

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call came in he would stop for a moment

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and think about what he was really

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saying yes and no to he didn't stop

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helping others but he became more

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selective about his actions so remember

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when you say yes to something you're

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saying no to many other things you're

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always choosing Choose Wisely put a

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sticky note on your computer if you have

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to do whatever you need to do but make

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saying no a daily habit I don't want to

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sound like I've mastered these habits

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and I'm here to teach you no I am still

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struggling I am still catching myself

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reading an email on my phone while my

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daughter is trying to talk to me I am

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still missing dinners because I forgot

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to say no the important thing is that

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compared to yesterday I am a little bit

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better today at saying no and that is

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what matters we should always compare

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where we are today compared to where we

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were yesterday instead of comparing

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ourselves to others okay I went off

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topic here a bit so to summarize make it

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a habit to say no especially to the

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things that are urgent but not important

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third habit focus on one thing at a time

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Bobby gasoff had just finished college

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with the ambitious goal to join the Navy

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Seals these guys are the best of the

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best in the US military when it comes to

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combat he prepared himself and when he

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got there he was in Peak physical and

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mental condition but there was something

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called hell week that he wasn't prepared

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for it was designed to separate the

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toughest from the rest and it was brutal

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they had less than 30 minutes of sleep

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each night and they were always cold and

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wet by the third day Bobby was

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completely exhausted he still had four

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nights to go and the best runner and

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swimmer in the group had just quit when

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the trainees finally got a few minutes

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to eat in between activities the

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instructors would walk among the

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exhausted men and call out the long list

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of brutal activities that were scheduled

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for the rest of the time left this was a

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tactic designed to overwhelm the weak

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candidates and eliminate them Bobby

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thought about quitting too but instead

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he came up with a strategy he would

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narrow his mind to a single Focus Point

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thinking about the four long days of

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torture that were coming was driving him

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crazy so he decided to focus only on the

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very next step Bobby acted as if that

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was the only hard thing he'd ever have

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to do in his life Bobby kept his one

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step Focus the entire time among the 240

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men Bobby was one of the 24 left and one

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of the only two who graduated as an

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officer Bobby is an example of the power

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of focus when you focus on too much not

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only do you get overwhelmed but you lose

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focus on the really important things

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one of the most common traps to fall

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into in business and life is to try to

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focus on too much and lose focus on the

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really important things doing so not

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only causes underperformance but also

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has a tremendous negative impact on your

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confidence simply look at your own life

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how much information do you have access

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to on an average day technology is

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amazing but humankind is still learning

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how to deal with it technology gives us

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the ability to receive more information

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but it doesn't teach us how to

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prioritize that information and deal

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with it so you have a full email inbox

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several texts to reply to courses you

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need to take to improve at work and

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networking events to attend and you

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still need to find time for your loved

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ones which one of these are you going to

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focus on

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here is what is certainly going to

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happen if you focus on too many things

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you will not feel fulfilled you will

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always be busy but not productive

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there's a big difference between busy

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and productive busy people are like a

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fire that produces so much smoke but

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very little heat on the other hand

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productive people are like intense fire

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with no smoke busy people are very good

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at producing a huge cloud of smoke they

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are always talking on the phone they are

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always running from one meeting to

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another one and they are always working

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overtime there is so much smoke that

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when you are looking from the side you

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assume that there is a huge fire going

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on there

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but in reality there is no fire there is

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no heat

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it's just smoke the person is just busy

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and not productive at all so to

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summarize habit number three if you want

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to feel fulfilled and productive don't

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focus on too many things focus on the

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single most important thing try to apply

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it to all aspects of your life for

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example apply the same principle to this

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video and pick only one habit and work

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on that instead of focusing on all three

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now either when you are establishing one

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of these habits or any other habit there

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will come a day when you will hit a wall

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maybe on day three or on day 13. there

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will come a day you will not feel like

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exercising you will feel stressed and

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you will be tempted to ruin your

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progress building new habit is never

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easy but luckily I have quite practical

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tips for you that you can use for any

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kind of habit so here it is a lot of

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books say that it takes us 21 days to

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build a new habit but that's not correct

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the reason is simple your habits are in

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a constant state of formation you are

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constantly making them stronger or

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weaker based on how much attention

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you're giving them each day if you're

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trying to add a new habit to your daily

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routine or replace a bad one with

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something else you must understand the

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three phases of habit formation the

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first phase is called the honeymoon

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this usually starts when you're inspired

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by something cool like a book conference

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podcast or an idea of having six-pack

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abs the first few days I'll feel easy

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and you'll say to yourself oh yeah I can

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do this I am ready for the challenge

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unfortunately the honeymoon phase

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doesn't last forever on day three or on

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day eight you start facing the obstacles

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this is where the second phase the

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struggle phase starts this is the point

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where I can do this turns into

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this is harder than I thought or is it

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really going to matter if I miss a day

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you start battling between your new

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habits and old habits this is a normal

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stage and the most important one because

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this is where most people give up this

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is the graveyard for many habits to pass

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this stage you only need to win two or

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three of your struggles here are four

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techniques to help you pass this stage

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successfully number one ritualize

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for many people the weekend is the best

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part of the week but for me it was the

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worst part why because I had all my

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habits ritualized during the week

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especially my diet however the weekend

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was the only time I didn't have rituals

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very often I would eat healthily and

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exercise the whole week but end up

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ruining all of my progress during the

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weekend for a while I couldn't figure

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out why this was happening but then

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realized it was all because I had very

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few rituals for the weekend so if you

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want to make it easy to win your

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struggles ritualize your new habit for

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the entire week

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number two recognition

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when you get to day three of the

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exercise plan and you are lying in bed

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debating with yourself about whether or

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not you want to go out in the rain and

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get it done recognize where you are

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learn to Simply say to yourself I have

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entered the struggle phase recognizing

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that you are in a struggle phase is like

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taking the blindfold off before the

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fight begins now you know what you are

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fighting remind yourself that it is

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important to win this one today why

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because each time you win a struggle the

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next one becomes easier to beat thanks

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to the momentum you are creating

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momentum works the other way too each

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bite you lose makes it easier to quit

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the next time number three ask two

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questions to yourself when you're in the

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struggle ask yourself how will I feel if

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I win this struggle and how will I feel

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if I lose it this changes your focus

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from your struggles to your emotions as

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you do that focus on the good feelings

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like hope optimism and pride instead of

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the negative ones associated with losing

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number four life projection visualize

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how your life will be in five years if

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you do not make the desired change and

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consistently win your struggles what

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will your life be like five years from

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now if you keep on following the same

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diet if you don't exercise if you don't

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quit smoking be honest with yourself

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create a detailed projection and imagine

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how you would be feeling then now do the

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same thing but if you succeed what will

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your life be like if everything goes

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well

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this is a powerful exercise that will

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help you win your struggles

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finally the last phase is called second

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nature at this stage your desired habit

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requires very little effort to happen

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you feel like you already have won the

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battle but don't let your guard down so

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fast because there are three big

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monsters hiding behind the bushes ready

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to attack

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number one

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discouragement monster

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one of the unfortunate realities of the

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world is that just because you work hard

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and do the right things good things

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don't automatically Flow To You For

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example you changed your diet and did

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all the right things but it didn't

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produce the weight loss results you

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hoped

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it is very easy to slip into the mindset

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of why do I bother it doesn't matter

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what I do anyway the discouragement

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monster is very dangerous because it

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will make you stop trying however before

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you stop remind yourself that the

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progress comes in spurts not in regular

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intervals you don't lose half a kilogram

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every week you lose nothing for two to

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three weeks and then suddenly you lose a

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kilogram this is just the nature of

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progress in anything

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number two seduction of success after

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you've been successful with the new

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habit it's easy to let your guard down

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and slip back into old ways let's

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suppose you're trying to lose weight and

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manage to get your new eating habits to

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the second nature stage you look at

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yourself and think oh I've managed to

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eat healthy for the last three months I

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am rocking it it won't be a problem if I

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eat a piece of cake today and you're

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right it won't be a problem to make an

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exception now and then but if you make

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too many exceptions you'll end up back

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where you started before you know it one

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success should Prime you for the next

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success not become a point where you can

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bail out

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number three disruption

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this can come in many forms you might

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get sick or go on a long vacation

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whether it is vacation or illness any

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break in the routine is a potential

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danger and it can take you back to the

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struggle phase

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I have personally found out that it is

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very important to take it very easy

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after A disruption for example if you

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were exercising for one hour before you

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got sick don't push yourself to exercise

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the same amount after you recover take

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it very easy for a few exercises until

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you re-establish The Habit otherwise you

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will feel discouraged for not being able

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to perform at the same level and lose

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your habit I will quickly sum up

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everything we covered in this video

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habit number one organize tomorrow today

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and make sure you always complete your

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three high value tasks first before you

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move on to the other tasks habit number

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two say no as often as you can during

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the day especially to the things that

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are urgent but not important habit

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number three don't multitask learn to

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laser focus on a single task at a time

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and on a single goal at a time if you

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focus on too many things you will be

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busy but not productive don't be the guy

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who produces tons of smoke and very

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little fire

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finally we talked about the three phases

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of habit formation and how understanding

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each phase can help you to win through

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your struggles when establishing a new

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habit if you would like to learn more

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check out the book called organize

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tomorrow today this video was created

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based on that book and if you would like

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to learn more about habits then check

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out the summary of the book called

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Atomic habits you probably see it on

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your screen right now thanks for

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watching

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