Lecture 3 Being a Good Public Speaker

Rukiya Michele
9 Jun 202323:13

Summary

TLDRIn this lecture, Professor Akua introduces the fundamentals of public speaking, emphasizing that it is a skill that can be developed rather than an innate talent. She discusses key components such as drawing on conversational and writing skills, developing an effective oral style, and respecting differences. She illustrates her points with examples, including famous speakers like Martin Luther King Jr. and John F. Kennedy. The lecture also covers practical advice on speech preparation, audience analysis, and the importance of cultural awareness in effective communication.

Takeaways

  • πŸ—£οΈ Public speaking is a skill that most people are not born with and must be developed over time.
  • πŸŽ“ There are exceptions like Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and President John F. Kennedy, who seemed to have a natural gift for public speaking.
  • πŸ“š The lecture supplements the textbook and other course materials, emphasizing the importance of learning how to deliver a speech effectively.
  • 🀝 A good public speaker utilizes conversational skills to engage the audience and make the speech sound natural rather than robotic.
  • πŸ“ Composition skills are essential for public speaking; speakers should prepare full-sentence outlines to structure their speeches.
  • 🎨 Developing an effective oral style is crucial, which includes the speaker's unique way of speaking and the vocabulary they use.
  • πŸ‘οΈ Demonstrating respect for differences is vital for public speakers, including cultural nuances and inclusive language.
  • πŸ‘‚ Listening and understanding the audience's needs and expectations is key to tailoring a speech effectively.
  • πŸ‘€ Eye contact and acknowledging all parts of the audience are important to avoid making anyone feel slighted.
  • πŸ“‘ Note cards are recommended for speeches to help with delivery without relying on reading from a full manuscript.
  • πŸ”‘ The four key hallmarks of a good public speaker are conversational skills, writing skills, an effective oral style, and respect for differences.

Q & A

  • What is the main topic of Lecture Three as presented by Professor Akua?

    -The main topic of Lecture Three is public speaking, focusing on what it is and what it isn't, as well as the skills and attributes that contribute to effective public speaking.

  • According to Professor Akua, are people born with the ability to be excellent public speakers?

    -Professor Akua states that most people are not born with the ability to be excellent public speakers, suggesting that it is a skill that must be developed over time, although there may be exceptions like Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and President John F. Kennedy.

  • What is an example of a skill set that a good public speaker should develop, as mentioned by Professor Akua?

    -A good public speaker should develop conversational skills, writing skills, an effective oral style, and demonstrate respect for differences.

  • Why is it important for a public speaker to draw on their conversational skills?

    -Drawing on conversational skills helps a speaker to come across as more engaging and relatable, making the speech sound less robotic and more like a natural interaction, which is more appealing to the audience.

  • How does Professor Akua suggest students prepare their speeches for the course?

    -Students should prepare full-sentence outlines for their speeches, which will then be used to create supporting PowerPoint slides and note cards for their presentations.

Outlines

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πŸŽ“ Introduction to Public Speaking Skills

Professor Aku starts Lecture Three by introducing the topic of public speaking, emphasizing that it's a skill that most people are not born with but can be developed over time. She mentions exceptions like Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and President John F. Kennedy, who seemed to possess a natural gift for oratory. The professor also highlights the importance of learning to be a public speaker, noting that it involves more than just speakingβ€”it's about delivering a message effectively. She outlines the key hallmarks of a good public speaker, including conversational skills, writing skills, an effective oral style, and respect for differences, and hints at the importance of these points for future quizzes and tests.

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πŸ—£οΈ Enhancing Public Speaking Through Conversational Skills

In this paragraph, the focus shifts to the role of conversational skills in public speaking. Professor Aku explains that treating a public address as a conversation can help alleviate nerves and create a more engaging and charismatic presentation. She stresses the importance of audience analysis and topic selection from the previous lecture, noting that understanding the audience's knowledge level is crucial for crafting an effective speech. The professor also discusses the use of full-sentence outlines and note cards as tools for organizing and delivering speeches, rather than reading from a manuscript, to ensure a more natural and interactive speaking style.

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✍️ Utilizing Writing Skills in Speech Composition

The professor discusses the importance of writing skills in the composition of speeches. She explains that public speaking involves preparing full-sentence outlines that include an introduction, body, and conclusion, with attention-grabbing elements and transition sentences. The outlines are then used to create supporting materials like PowerPoint presentations and note cards. The paragraph emphasizes the development of an effective oral style by considering one's lexicon, or personal way of speaking, and adapting it to be engaging and appropriate for the audience. The professor also shares personal anecdotes about her direct communication style and the need to adapt it based on the context and audience.

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🌐 Respecting Cultural Differences in Public Speaking

In this paragraph, the professor underscores the importance of demonstrating respect for differences in public speaking. She uses a personal anecdote about a student, Priyanka, to illustrate the cultural nuances that can affect communication. The professor reflects on her mistake of not considering cultural norms when giving feedback, which led to an uncomfortable situation. This serves as a lesson on the importance of being aware of and sensitive to cultural differences, including non-verbal cues and communication styles, when addressing diverse audiences.

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πŸ”„ Recap of Key Components for Effective Public Speaking

The final paragraph of the script serves as a recap of the key components for being an effective public speaker. The professor reiterates the four main skills: leveraging conversational skills, utilizing writing skills, developing an effective oral style, and demonstrating respect for differences. She reminds students that these components are crucial for success in public speaking and that they will be covered in quizzes, tests, and exams. The professor concludes by emphasizing the importance of understanding and applying these skills in the context of the 21st-century global audience.

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Keywords

πŸ’‘Public Speaking

Public speaking refers to the act of addressing an audience in a formal setting. In the video, it is the central theme, emphasizing that it is a skill that can be developed rather than an innate talent. The script discusses how even individuals like Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and President John F. Kennedy, who were exceptional speakers, still possessed a skill that could be cultivated by others. The professor also highlights that public speaking is not merely about speaking but delivering a message effectively to an audience.

πŸ’‘Communication

Communication is the process of exchanging information, ideas, or feelings. The script touches on communication as an essential aspect of public speaking, noting that it involves more than just speaking; it requires understanding the audience and conveying the message in a way that resonates with them. Effective communication is a skill that public speakers must master to engage and connect with their audience.

πŸ’‘Conversational Skills

Conversational skills are the abilities used in everyday dialogues, such as tone, pace, and the natural flow of speech. The video emphasizes the importance of leveraging these skills in public speaking to create a more relatable and engaging experience for the audience. The professor suggests that treating a public address as a conversation can help alleviate nerves and create a more authentic connection with listeners.

πŸ’‘Writing Skills

Writing skills are the abilities to effectively construct and convey thoughts in written form. In the context of public speaking, these skills are crucial for preparing speeches, creating outlines, and developing content that is well-organized and coherent. The script mentions that students will write full-sentence outlines to prepare for their speeches, indicating the direct application of writing skills in the speech preparation process.

πŸ’‘Oral Style

Oral style refers to the unique manner in which a speaker delivers their speech, including the choice of words, tone, and overall presentation. The video discusses the development of an effective oral style as a key component of public speaking. It mentions that each person has a lexicon or a personal way of speaking, and public speakers must refine this to ensure it is engaging and appropriate for their audience.

πŸ’‘Respect for Difference

Respect for difference acknowledges and values the diversity of thoughts, cultures, and perspectives. The script highlights the importance of this concept in public speaking, where speakers must be aware of and sensitive to the varied backgrounds and experiences of their audience members. The professor shares an anecdote.

Highlights

Public speaking is a skill that most people are not born with and must be developed over time.

Notable exceptions like Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. and President John F. Kennedy seemed to have been born with a natural gift for public speaking.

Caroline Kennedy's example demonstrates that even children of great speakers may not inherit their skills.

Public speaking is a learnable skill set that involves delivering a message effectively.

Just because one speaks does not make them a public speaker; it's about the ability to engage and connect with an audience.

Good public speakers build upon four key hallmarks: conversational skills, writing skills, effective oral style, and respect for differences.

Conversational skills are crucial for making public speaking feel like a natural conversation rather than a robotic performance.

Understanding the audience is essential for crafting a speech that meets the needs of both novices and experts.

Writing skills are utilized in preparing full-sentence outlines for speeches, which are then used to create supporting materials.

Note cards are used for speeches instead of full manuscripts to encourage natural delivery and prevent reading verbatim.

Developing an effective oral style involves creating a unique way of speaking that resonates with the audience.

Speakers must be aware of cultural nuances and adapt their communication style to show respect for different cultural practices.

Inclusive language and behavior are vital for demonstrating respect for diversity among audience members.

The importance of eye contact varies across cultures and should be approached with cultural awareness.

The speaker's style should be effective in moving the audience and achieving the desired outcome, whether it's participation or action.

Speakers should be mindful of their use of fillers and strive for clarity and directness in their communication.

The lecture emphasizes the importance of continuous learning and development in the art of public speaking.

Upcoming lectures will cover the model of communication, further enhancing the understanding of effective public speaking.

Transcripts

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hi this is professor akua and this is

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lecture three now lecture three we are

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now going to get into the meat of things

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okay so the first thing we want to talk

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about really is

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public speaking what it is or what it

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isn't uh talk about communication also

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what it is and what it isn't so the

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first thing I want to talk about and

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this is I'm starting with chapter one

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actually okay

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and this will supplement the reading and

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other assignments and activities and

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quizzes that you'll have this is a

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supplement so

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one of the first things that I want you

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to know about public speaking is that

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public speaking

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you're not born

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with it

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most people aren't born with it okay

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most people are not born with the

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ability to be excellent Orchards now I

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believe that there are sometimes

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exceptions to the rule

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and for example I think that Dr Martin

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Luther King Jr was an exception I think

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that President John F Kennedy was also

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an exception I think both of them were

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really born with the gift

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however what I also want you to know is

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that you can become a good speaker

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and it's interesting because there's a

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video that I used to show of President

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Kennedy's daughter Caroline Kennedy

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and Caroline

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to me was a horrible speaker

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I don't know about now but in this

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particular clip she was horrible

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especially considering the fact that her

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dad was President Kennedy and that he

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was a great auditor it to me just proves

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that you're not necessarily born with it

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it's a skill that you have to work on

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it's a skill that you have to develop

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over time so learning to speak in public

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and learning to be a public speaker and

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again I'm coming from your in your

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textbook it is something that you have

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to learn how to deliver it is a skill

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set that you can develop over time okay

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and

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just because one speaks does not make

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them a public speaker in fact I noticed

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that in your introduction speeches

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several of you mentioned that you are

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already public speakers

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and so one of the assignments that we're

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going to do really soon is we're going

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to talk about what is everyone's current

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previous past experience with public

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speaking because

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there are some things that

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every public speaker needs to know yes

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and so we are going to talk about those

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really soon so one of the things that I

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want to talk about today are some of the

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things that help us to build our skill

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set as public speakers

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a good public speaker

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I'm sorry you guys this little Nat fly

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is still flying around here and I just I

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don't know what to do

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a good public speaker draws on several

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things or utilizes several

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existing skill sets so number one a good

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public speaker draws on conversational

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skills

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this person draws on writing skills

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this person develops an effective oral

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Style

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this person also demonstrates respect

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for difference these are four key four

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key Hallmarks of a good public speaker

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please note that as I've mentioned

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before I'm going to mention it now and I

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will undoubtedly mention it again

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everything that is covered in these

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lectures is subject to appear

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on a quiz a test or an exam so it is

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important that you are watching these

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videos and it is important that you're

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taking notes in addition

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to this I oftentimes embed the extra

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credit opportunities into the lectures

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so some of you will be looking around

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and you're saying I didn't know that

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there was an extra Credit Opportunity

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usually it's because you're not watching

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the lecture videos

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so

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when there are extra credit

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opportunities

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they will be embedded into the lectures

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so that's all I can say so a word to the

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wise as my mentor said is always

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sufficient so let's proceed so these

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four Hallmarks demonstrating respect for

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difference drawing on one's existing

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composition skills writing skills

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developing an effective oral style and

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drawing on your conversational skills

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are things that are going to help you to

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be a better public speaker to better

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address an audience

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now

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along with these four Hallmarks comes

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you know how we get how we get it done

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okay so let's talk about it

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drawing on your conversational skill

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It is believed that one of the ways that

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a speaker becomes better is to see a

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public address as simply a conversation

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what often happens is that people are in

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a position where they have to address an

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audience and now their nerves are out of

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control they are

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they lack confidence in their ability to

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execute they think they're going to

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forget something they think that they're

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going to say something off

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color and while all those things are

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possible

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some of that anxiety has come because

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you've placed this speaking

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requirement or moment in some separate

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category outside of conversation

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no one as an audience member no one

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wants to listen to a speaker who sounds

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robotic

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who sounds stiff

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we want speakers who are engaging who

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are uh charismatic we want speakers to

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keep us on the edge of our seat we want

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speakers who write us up we want

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speakers with whom we can connect we

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want speakers who help us to make sense

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of the information especially if it's

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something that's kind of above our heads

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we want speakers who who we can relate

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to easily

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all of this comes by way of treating

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that public address as an opportunity to

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have a conversation

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so you want to build on lean on drop

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upon or rely on your conversational

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skills

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I hope that makes sense

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okay

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part of relying on that conversational

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skill goes back to lecture two wherein

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we discussed audience analysis and and

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topic selection

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you have to know a little bit of

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something about your audience in order

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to Be an Effective public speaker

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do they already know the information

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that you're providing are they already

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seasoned professionals experts in that

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field or are they novice and they've

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never heard most of the information

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before that you're going to be sharing

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what if both of those types of people

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are in the room then you have to craft

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a lecture craft a presentation that

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meets the needs of the novice and of the

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expert if they're both sitting in your

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room

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as you are preparing your speech okay

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also you will draw on your skills and

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composition

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this simply means that you're going to

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be writing now for this course you are

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not writing an essay per se but you will

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write your speeches you will prepare

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full sentence outlines for your speeches

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full sentence outlines you guys you will

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use those to prepare for you prepare

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your speeches and then

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the full sentence outline

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you will then

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create a PowerPoint that supports it and

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you will also create note cards that are

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taken from the outline and it's the no

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cards that you will use in order to give

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your speech it just so happens where I'm

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sitting there there's a set of note

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cards here oh no

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so see you'll just be using regular note

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cards you can use three by five or four

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by six that's going to be left to you to

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decide but see just regular note cards

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here

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um you know just

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regular

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note cards just

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regular coupons so you'll be taking your

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outline and then you'll be preparing

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note cards for the purpose of this class

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you will not be reading from a full

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manuscript you will not be typing out an

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outline or an essay and then just

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reading it off the paper you will be

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using note cards and in those videos

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that you're going to record I'll expect

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to see note cards in your hands and not

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manuscripts also to the point that

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someone mentioned in the introduction

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videos

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I don't recall who at the time

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but you're not going to be doing

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anything from memory you're not going to

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be committing these speeches to memory

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so you don't have to worry about

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forgetting necessarily what to say

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because again you will have your

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that's right note cards in your hand

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when it's time to present

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so again as a speaker you are going to

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be relying upon your composition skills

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and so you will be considering your

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topic you will be preparing an outline

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excuse me which deals with your

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organizational skills and in writing and

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you will be preparing introduction of

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body and a conclusion you will have an

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attention getter you will also have

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transition sentences throughout to tie

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all the pieces together you guys notice

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how I'm using my hand you will have

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transition sentences throughout to tie

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the pieces together they tie the pieces

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together and so again all of that is

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using your existing compositional

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writing skills okay

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next

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a public speaker a good public speaker

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is developing an effective oral style

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each of us have what we call a lexicon

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okay Alexa con is your kind of personal

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um

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unique way of speaking your personal

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unique way of speaking and that includes

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your style of speech the types of words

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that you use it's really heavy on the

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types of words that you use which

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vocabulary you pull from in order to

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speak

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and each of us have it again going back

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to the example of Dr Martin Luther King

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Jr Dr King had a style yes if I could

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just sit here today and say

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excuse me you guys all the time I don't

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know if I were to sit here and say I

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have a dream one day it's not just

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because I said I have a dream which is

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classic Dr King it is also that style

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that he had in his oratory

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presentations you will find that style

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throughout his career even when he

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wasn't doing the guy have a green the

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mountaintops you'll find that or

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one can say his style was very

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reminiscent of an old school Southern

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Baptist preacher back in the 1950s and

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60s because that's what it sounded a lot

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of like

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um

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so each of us develop our own style

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we have to be careful that it is an

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effective style the style that moves the

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crowd the style that gets people going

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the style that gets us the um

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results that we're looking for

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participation or action whatever it is

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we have to know and develop our own

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stylists my style is very direct I don't

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get around the bush frequently I I

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communicate very directly I say what I

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mean I mean what I say

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excuse me I don't know what's going on

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um

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but I also know that in speaking so

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directly that sometimes I have to

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reconsider if speaking so directly is

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going to be successful for me in

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particular circumstances and scenarios I

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have to consider that so

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some of the words that I use very

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frequently if I'm being honest that's

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like my catchphrase that's something

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that I use frequently I do use fillers

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just like everyone else I don't use them

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as much today as I did

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35 years ago

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or 40 years ago I don't use them as

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frequently but I do use them

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sorry

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sorry in your

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in creating your effective oral Style

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it also means again that you are

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considering your audience and what their

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needs are what their expectations are as

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audience members for you for example

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let's say you wanted to borrow money

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from a relative okay and let's say

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this relative like me

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values

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let's say this relative like me values

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direct communication okay

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what would happen if you if the relative

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wanted to if you wanted to borrow money

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from the relative or for me you know and

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you came in with hey professor how you

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doing how's the family how's work how

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your classes how's the semester you know

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when was the last time you took a cruise

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how was Florida how's your family

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someone like me who values very direct

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communication

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might not like that approach

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because after you've said all that then

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you're going to ask me can you borrow

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money which is the reason you called

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anyway

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someone like me who values very direct

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and honest and over communication I

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would prefer

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excuse me

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I would prefer that you just ask for the

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money first

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tell me that you're calling because you

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need to borrow money let's discuss that

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first and then we can talk about the

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family the job the cruising the holiday

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the vacation the friends the event so

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whatever else it is that we have to

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possibly discuss I value that very

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direct upfront open communication now

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someone else

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made value

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more emotional communication that allows

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you or requires you first to inquire

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about their well-being the well-being of

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the family the work the home the most

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recent activities Etc and then

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ask for the money

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neither approach is wrong or right

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however

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your ability to Be an Effective

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communicator and to do the style that

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your audience needs or requires is

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important to your success to be able to

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secure the thing that you're looking for

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yes I hope that makes sense

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okay and then finally of course I want

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you to remember that

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effective public speakers or good public

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speakers demonstrate respect for

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difference

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knowing that it's okay to feel to think

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differently than others including your

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audience is important

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knowing to respect all of the players of

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all the people in the room or at the

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table is critically important using

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language that is inclusive of everyone

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is important

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something even as simple as

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looking at various sides of the room

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sometimes the speed can focus on one

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side of the room maybe right in front of

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them because they're nervous but then

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they never look over to the right they

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never look over to the left and those

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members could feel slighted in that

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experience and so you always want to

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address your audience right you want to

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address your audience left and as well

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as the center you always want to

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consider the differences in the room you

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want to speak to different experiences

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wherein others can see themselves and

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some of the examples that you render

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when you are making a speech respecting

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the cultural differences and nuances is

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important for example

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my very first year teaching full-time

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it was Speech day and I had these two

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students who were participating it was a

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group it was a group speech assignment

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and I had these two students who were

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together

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Rhonda and Priyanka

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and

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Priyanka

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her voice was so

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soft and Light

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it was very difficult to hear her

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even in a room where it was totally

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silent and she was the only one speaking

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at the moment it was still very

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difficult to hear her and so as I was

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giving each pair of student each group

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feedback

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excuse me

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I mentioned to Priyanka that she needed

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to speak louder

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that she needs to speak more loudly that

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she needed to raise her voice that she

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needed to project more I did you know I

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said all that and the next thing you

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know

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I also noticed that Priyanka was not

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looking at me when I was speaking to her

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and

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all of my training went totally out the

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window at that moment and mind you my

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masters is in Multicultural

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communication and I took Intercultural

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communication courses as well as an

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undergrad interpersonal and all those

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things are very heavily influenced

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culture courses yes as well as in my

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masters so I know better I know better

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but it had left my head and before I

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knew it I said to her Priyanka I'm

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speaking to you look at me why are you

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looking at the ground I'm speaking to

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you and next thing you know Bianca began

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to cry

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foreign

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she began to cry right in front of me

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and in front of her classmate at the

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time she was only with the young woman

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that she presented because she wasn't in

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front of the rest of the class

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you guys

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I felt so badly

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I felt so badly because I had done

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something to make her cry and I had not

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considered the simple fact

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that looking down culturally for her

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was a way to show respect to me as her

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professor

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but as you know in the U.S this notion

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of looking at people when they're

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speaking to you is a privileged way of

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communicating by privileged I mean it's

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the way that we in the U.S tend to

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expect people to do yes and when they

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don't do that we put all kinds of labels

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on why they aren't doing it

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disrespectful they're lying they're not

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trustworthy Etc in fact for her

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culturally she was showing a sign of

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deference and respect by looking down as

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I was

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um

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reprimanding or correcting her behavior

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if you will so again if I had that to do

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over I would not dare say to her hey why

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are you not looking at me I'm speaking

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to you I would simply say I would ask

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her does she understand what I mean when

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I say she needs to project her voice and

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I would even ask her is it something

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that she thinks that she can do

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growth is amazing and being aware of the

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cultural uh nuances and the cultural

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ways of living and being of other people

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is highly important it always has been

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but even more so now in the 21st century

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so these have been some highlights of

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what it means to be a public speaker in

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lecture four we're going to talk about

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the model of communication okay you guys

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I hope you've enjoyed this one there are

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four

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key components of what it means to be a

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good speaker these days yes

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yes four key components of four skills

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you're going to draw on your existing

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conversational skills you're going to

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draw on your writing skills you're going

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to develop an effective oil style and

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you are going to demonstrate respect for

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difference

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again as my mentor always told me a word

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to the wise is always sufficient

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everything in lecture is subject to

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appear on a quiz test or exam all right

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you guys have a great day

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