How to NEVER Be Nervous Around Girls

Summary

In this video, the speaker addresses the fear and anxiety many men face when approaching women. He introduces two key mindsets that can eliminate nerves and help men confidently engage with women. The first mindset is about viewing every interaction as a high-value opportunity, where the man should feel worthy of the woman and the relationship. The second mindset is an opportunistic one, urging men to act on their goals rather than making excuses. By embracing these mindsets, men can gain confidence, improve their dating lives, and approach women without fear or hesitation.

Takeaways

• 😀 Approaching women is an opportunity to open doors for potential relationships, from romantic partners to casual connections.
• 😀 Fear, nervousness, and anxiety prevent many men from approaching women, even when they want to.
• 😀 Viewing yourself as a high-value man who brings something valuable to the table can help eliminate fear when interacting with women.
• 😀 If you feel unworthy, it's important to reflect on your actions and day-to-day life to align them with your goals and values.
• 😀 Confidence comes from knowing your worth and being selective about who you give your time to, not just seeking validation from others.
• 😀 Many men avoid opportunities with women because they make excuses like being too busy or uncomfortable approaching them.
• 😀 Every action we take is an investment, and you should ask yourself if your current actions are taking you closer to your goals.
• 😀 The key to success with women and life in general is developing the freedom to act on your desires without fear or excuses.
• 😀 The more you practice taking risks and putting yourself in challenging situations, the stronger and more confident you will become.
• 😀 By approaching women with an open, confident mindset, you’ll grow and improve, leading to better relationships and a stronger sense of self.

Q & A

Why do men often feel nervous when approaching women?

Men feel nervous due to fear, anxiety, and a lack of self-worth. They often don't feel deserving of high-caliber women, which stems from feelings of inadequacy in their own lives and actions.

How can reframing the mindset help overcome nervousness when approaching women?

Reframing helps by shifting the perspective to one of value. By seeing oneself as someone with a lot to offer, the act of approaching a woman becomes less intimidating, as it is viewed as offering an opportunity rather than seeking one.

What is the '100 dollar bill' analogy in the context of dating?

The '100 dollar bill' analogy represents the idea that when a high-value man approaches a woman, he should feel as though he is offering her an opportunity worth something significant, similar to giving her a valuable gift, like a $100 bill or even more.

Why is self-reflection important for overcoming feelings of unworthiness?

Self-reflection allows men to identify the areas where they feel inadequate or incongruent with their desired self-image. Understanding these gaps can help men work towards feeling more confident and worthy of high-caliber women.

How does an opportunistic mindset impact one's dating life?

An opportunistic mindset encourages active searching for chances rather than making excuses. By choosing to view each moment as an opportunity, a man is more likely to take action, such as approaching women, rather than remaining passive.

What are common excuses men make when avoiding approaching women?

Common excuses include thinking the woman is with a group of friends, feeling too nervous to interrupt, assuming she is not interested, or doubting whether they would be able to engage in a conversation in a noisy environment.

Why should men see each opportunity to approach a woman as an investment?

Seeing an approach as an investment means recognizing that every action is a choice that either moves you closer to your goals or keeps you where you are. Investing in taking action leads to progress, while avoiding it keeps you stagnant.

What does the speaker mean by saying there's 'no failure' when approaching women?

The idea is that as long as you approach with confidence and authenticity, there is no real failure. Even if the interaction doesn't lead to success, the process itself builds personal growth and freedom.

How does having a 'free spirit' help in dating and approaching women?

A 'free spirit' refers to living authentically and acting on desires without overthinking or making excuses. This freedom allows a man to approach women with confidence, overcoming hesitation and fears that typically hold him back.

What is the importance of cultivating inner freedom in dating?

Cultivating inner freedom allows a man to act on his desires without being constrained by fear or self-doubt. This inner strength and self-assurance make it easier to approach women and build meaningful connections.