Hakikat dan Tujuan Pernikahan | Buya Yahya

Summary

This video discusses the Islamic perspective on marriage, highlighting that it is generally permissible (mubah) but becomes obligatory (wajib) if a person is at risk of engaging in forbidden acts, like zina (adultery). Marriage can also be considered a sunnah (recommended) if a person has the means and is not overly driven by lust. The video emphasizes the importance of intention in marriage and suggests that avoiding sin is a valid reason for getting married. It also addresses the social pressures and changing perceptions of marriage, urging respect for individual circumstances.

Takeaways

• 😀 Marriage is considered 'mubah' (permissible) in Islam, similar to eating or sleeping, but becomes mandatory when avoiding it leads to sinful behavior like zina (fornication).
• 😀 A person who does not feel the need to marry, or has no fear of falling into sinful acts, does not have to marry; it is not obligatory for them.
• 😀 Marriage can be a 'sunnah' (recommended) for those who are financially capable and have normal sexual desires, but it may become mandatory if they fear committing sin.
• 😀 If a person has the financial means and the ability to marry, but chooses not to because they fear falling into sinful behavior, then marriage becomes obligatory for them.
• 😀 Marriage can also become 'haram' (forbidden) if a person marries with bad intentions, such as to mistreat or oppress their spouse.
• 😀 The concept of 'sunnah' in marriage refers to following the example of the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH), and performing it in the right circumstances is rewarded, but avoiding it due to dislike or laziness is not allowed.
• 😀 The minimum intention for marriage is to avoid sinful behavior like zina, and this intention is considered noble and righteous.
• 😀 Niyyah (intention) plays a significant role in the validity of marriage; it should be for the sake of Allah and not just to fulfill personal desires.
• 😀 While it is permissible for someone not to marry if they do not feel the need or are focused on spiritual practices, they should not avoid marriage out of a dislike for it, especially when it is the Sunnah of the Prophet.
• 😀 Marriage is seen as a means to protect oneself from haram actions, to raise righteous children, and to help fulfill religious and social duties, such as supporting family and being part of the community.

Q & A

What is the fundamental view of marriage according to the speaker?

The speaker views marriage as something 'mubah' or neutral, meaning it is neither obligatory nor prohibited. It is like basic daily activities such as eating or sleeping, where it becomes a necessity only under certain circumstances.

Under what conditions does marriage become obligatory (wajib)?

Marriage becomes obligatory when a person has the ability to marry and fears falling into haram actions, such as zina (adultery) or self-pleasure. If their desires are strong and uncontrollable, marriage becomes a duty to avoid sin.

When is marriage considered recommended (sunah)?

Marriage is considered recommended (sunah) when a person has the means to marry, but their desires are not intense, and they can manage their urges through other means like self-discipline. It is encouraged to marry in such cases, but not obligatory.

What happens when marriage becomes haram?

Marriage becomes haram if a person does not have a genuine desire for it, or if they are likely to treat their spouse unjustly or cause harm. For example, marrying with the intention of mistreating the partner or failing to fulfill marital duties could make it sinful.

What is the difference between the sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad and the personal choice of marriage?

The sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad refers to his actions, and while following it brings reward, it is not obligatory. However, for an individual, marriage can become mandatory if they are at risk of sin, or optional if it does not lead to negative consequences. The key distinction is that sunnah may not apply in the same way to everyone.

How does one determine if marriage is a personal obligation?

A person must evaluate their own circumstances: if they have the means and the desire to marry, and if they fear falling into sinful actions, such as zina, then marriage becomes an obligation. It’s about assessing one’s needs and desires in relation to Islamic teachings.

Why does the speaker emphasize the importance of intention in marriage?

The speaker stresses that the intention behind marriage is crucial. A person can marry for various reasons, but the intention should align with goodness, such as avoiding sin, fulfilling one's duties, and seeking halal (permissible) means for fulfilling desires.

How does the speaker describe societal views on marriage?

The speaker highlights that societal views can complicate marriage decisions. Some parents and individuals may make marriage difficult by imposing unrealistic expectations, while others may dismiss it as unnecessary. The speaker advocates for understanding the individual’s personal needs and supporting them in making the decision.

What is the role of parents in the marriage of their children, according to the speaker?

Parents should understand that their children have personal desires and needs. They should not obstruct marriage but help facilitate it, especially if the child has reached an age or stage where marriage is a natural next step. The speaker advises that parents should support their children's decision and not impose unnecessary barriers.

What are the underlying spiritual purposes of marriage mentioned in the transcript?

Marriage is seen as a means to avoid sinful actions, fulfill one's desires in a halal way, and seek the blessings and rewards from Allah. It is also viewed as a way to seek companionship, build a family, and support one another in faith and life.