Are you forebearing? | My Dear Heart Ep. 16 | Ramadan Series | Dr. Haifaa Younis | Jannah Institute

Summary

This video script explores the concept of patience and forbearance, contrasting it with anger. It emphasizes the importance of developing patience through conscious effort, citing examples from Islamic history, such as the actions of Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) and his companions. Stories of notable figures like Abu Huraira, Abdullah bin Abbas, and Abu Dharr al-Ghifari are shared to demonstrate the power of self-control and forgiveness in the face of provocation. The speaker encourages viewers to strive for patience in their own lives, stressing that it is a learned behavior that can lead to peace and better relationships with others.

Takeaways

• 😀 Anger is a common emotion, but some people have the ability to remain calm and rarely get angry.
• 😀 Patience (hilm) can be learned and developed through consistent practice, as emphasized by the Prophet Muhammad ﷺ.
• 😀 The famous hadith 'knowledge is gained through learning, and hilm is gained through practicing' teaches that patience is a skill to cultivate.
• 😀 A person can fake patience at first, and through practice, it becomes a natural part of their character.
• 😀 The story of *al-Ashajj` Abdullah ibn Qais* illustrates how patience is an innate trait that can be nurtured and is a blessing from Allah.
• 😀 Abdullah ibn Abbas' response to being insulted shows that forbearance and patience can transform negative situations and prevent regret.
• 😀 The example of Abu Dharr al-Ghifari's encounter with a young boy who broke the leg of his sheep demonstrates responding to provocation with calmness and wisdom.
• 😀 The importance of remaining calm is emphasized in personal stories, such as the interaction on a flight where remaining composed prevented further escalation.
• 😀 The Quran mentions the qualities of the 'Servants of the Most Merciful,' including walking humbly and responding peacefully when provoked.
• 😀 Practicing hilm and patience helps prevent rash decisions and encourages dignity, leading to better interactions and fewer regrets in life.

Q & A

What is the main topic discussed in the transcript?

The main topic discussed in the transcript is anger and its opposite, patience (hilm), focusing on how to develop and practice patience in our daily lives.

What is the significance of the phrase 'knowledge through learning' mentioned in the transcript?

The phrase 'knowledge through learning' refers to the idea that qualities like patience (hilm) can be acquired and refined through conscious effort, much like how knowledge is gained through study and practice.

What does the speaker mean by the saying 'fake it until you make it'?

The saying 'fake it until you make it' implies that even if one does not naturally possess a trait like patience, they can practice acting as though they do until it becomes second nature.

Who is Al-Ashajj Abdul Qays, and why is his story significant in the transcript?

Al-Ashajj Abdul Qays is a companion of the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ), known for his natural patience and gentleness. His story is significant because it illustrates how these virtues can be inherent in a person, but they can also be developed through conscious effort, as demonstrated by his response to the Prophet's observation of his character.

What does the Quran say about the qualities of 'Ibad-ur-Rahman' (Servants of the Most Merciful)?

In the Quran, specifically at the end of Surah Al-Furqan, the qualities of 'Ibad-ur-Rahman' are described as humble, peaceful, and patient. They walk the earth with dignity and respond to ignorance or insults with peace, saying 'Salam' (peace).

What lesson can be learned from the story of Abdullah ibn Abbas when he was insulted?

The lesson from the story of Abdullah ibn Abbas is the power of calmness and patience in the face of insults. Despite being verbally attacked, he responded with dignity and kindness, offering help to the person who insulted him rather than retaliating.

How did Abu Dharr al-Ghifari react to a young boy who intentionally broke the leg of his sheep?

Abu Dharr al-Ghifari displayed incredible patience when a young boy intentionally broke the leg of his sheep to provoke him. Instead of reacting in anger, Abu Dharr chose to show restraint and decided not to punish the boy, showing the importance of controlling one’s anger.

What is the significance of the story of Umar ibn Abdul Aziz in the transcript?

The story of Umar ibn Abdul Aziz highlights the importance of responding with patience and understanding, even in moments of irritation. When he tripped over a sleeping man in the mosque and was insulted, he calmly replied and chose not to retaliate, setting an example of restraint and leadership.

How does the story of the servant girl who spilled water on Al-Hasan al-Basri illustrate the practice of hilm?

The story of the servant girl spilling water on Al-Hasan al-Basri shows how hilm (patience) and forgiveness should be practiced. Instead of reacting in anger, Al-Hasan forgave her, remembering the virtues of patience and kindness as taught in the Quran.

What can be learned from the incident on the airplane where a passenger got angry over a drink?

The incident on the airplane demonstrates the power of remaining calm and composed in the face of unreasonable anger. The flight attendant, who remained calm despite being verbally abused, exemplified the effectiveness of patience in defusing tense situations.