Why INTPs Break Up from a Relationship
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the tendency of INTPs to suddenly withdraw from relationships. It suggests that this behavior stems from initial doubts about the relationship's viability, which INTPs may ignore due to the other person's pursuit. The speaker, an INTP, shares personal insights and advises INTPs to be assertive and communicate early to avoid leading others on. They also recommend that non-INTPs seeking relationships with INTPs should encourage open dialogue to understand INTPs' feelings and intentions.
Takeaways
- ๐ค INTPs may drop a relationship suddenly due to initial doubts or lack of confidence in the relationship's future.
- ๐ง INTPs are cautious and analytical when approaching relationships, often taking many steps to ensure compatibility.
- ๐ซ If an INTP doesn't actively pursue a relationship, it might indicate that they have reservations or have deemed the person unsuitable.
- ๐ฅ INTPs might ignore early warning signs about a partner if they find some aspects of them likable, leading to a later realization that the relationship won't work.
- ๐จโโค๏ธโ๐จ INTP men might be more passive in relationships, allowing others to pursue them, which can lead to misunderstandings about their level of interest.
- ๐ฉโโค๏ธโ๐ฉ INTP women might find it challenging to set boundaries and stop a relationship that they have deemed unsuitable.
- ๐ INTPs spend a lot of time analyzing their feelings and attraction to certain characteristics, which can lead to a clear understanding of what they want in a partner.
- ๐ค INTPs benefit from relationships with individuals who are more communicative and sensitive to relational dynamics, such as INFJs.
- ๐ซ INTPs should take a stand and not let themselves be swayed into relationships that they have doubts about to avoid hurting themselves and others.
- ๐ฃ๏ธ INTPs are advised to have open conversations early on in a relationship to understand the other person's feelings and intentions.
Q & A
Why do INTPs sometimes suddenly drop off a relationship?
-INTPs may suddenly drop off a relationship because they were not confident in the relationship from the beginning or they had already deemed the person they are investing in as someone they shouldn't be investing in, leading to a 'wake-up call' later on.
What is the role of caution in INTPs' approach to relationships?
-INTPs approach relationships with caution, taking many mental steps to analyze compatibility and ensure they are making a good investment of their time and emotions.
Why might an INTP initially ignore warning signs about a potential partner?
-An INTP might initially ignore warning signs because they find things they like about the person and hope for the best, which can lead to overlooking red flags.
How do INTP men typically behave in relationships?
-INTP men may be more passive in relationships, allowing themselves to be pursued rather than actively pursuing, which can lead to apathy and a lack of investment in the relationship.
What is the importance of communication at the beginning of a relationship for INTPs?
-Having a real conversation at the start of a relationship is crucial for INTPs to ensure they are on the same page and to prevent misunderstandings and potential relationship cut-offs later.
What advice does the speaker give to those pursuing an INTP?
-The speaker suggests allowing the INTP to make the first move towards you, as this indicates they are genuinely interested and willing to step out of their comfort zone.
What does the speaker suggest non-INTP individuals should do when dating an INTP?
-The speaker advises non-INTP individuals to engage in open conversations to understand the INTP's feelings and thoughts about the relationship and to ensure they see a future with you.
Why might INTPs be more compatible with certain personality types?
-INTPs might be more compatible with personality types that are more sensitive and communicative about relational dynamics, such as INFJs, because they provide a platform for more conversation and understanding.
What is the speaker's perspective on the role of intuition in INTPs' relationships?
-The speaker believes that as INTPs get older, their intuitive sense becomes stronger, helping them to better understand compatibility and the core of a relationship.
What does the speaker suggest INTPs do to prevent ending up in a relationship they are not confident in?
-The speaker suggests that INTPs should take a stand and not let external factors push them into a relationship they are not confident in to avoid hurting themselves and others.
How does the speaker describe the process of INTPs analyzing relationships?
-INTPs spend a lot of time processing and analyzing why they are attracted to certain characteristics and people, which helps them become more confident in their choices.
Outlines
๐ค Understanding INTP Relationship Dynamics
The paragraph discusses the tendency of INTPs to suddenly withdraw from relationships. It suggests that this behavior stems from a lack of initial confidence in the relationship or a realization that the person is not a suitable match. The speaker admits to having experienced this themselves and explains that INTPs are cautious in relationships. They mention that INTPs might ignore early warning signs and hope for the best, leading to a potential 'wake-up call' later. The paragraph also touches on the idea that INTPs spend a lot of time analyzing their feelings and compatibility, which can lead to a confident decision about who they are attracted to. It closes with the suggestion that INTPs should be more assertive in their relationships to avoid misunderstandings and potential hurt.
๐โโ๏ธ Navigating INTP Relationships: A Call for Communication
This paragraph focuses on the challenges INTPs face in relationships and the importance of clear communication. It discusses the potential hesitation that can arise when an INTP enters a new relationship, given past experiences of sudden relationship endings. The speaker advises that having an open conversation early on can be beneficial. For those interested in an INTP, the paragraph suggests allowing the INTP to make the first move, as this can indicate genuine interest. It also highlights the potential difficulty INTPs can have in ending relationships if pursued by others. The speaker acknowledges their limited perspective as a male INTP and invites feedback from female INTPs. The paragraph concludes with a recommendation for INTPs to take a stand and engage in deeper conversations about the future of their relationships to avoid ending up in a situation that could cause harm to both parties.
Mindmap
Keywords
๐กINTP
๐กRelationship
๐กSponsor
๐กWake up call
๐กApathy
๐กCompatibility
๐กINTP men
๐กPursue
๐กINFJ
๐กESFP
๐กCommunication
Highlights
INTPs may drop out of relationships suddenly due to initial lack of confidence or doubts about the partner.
INTPs approach relationships cautiously, often analyzing potential partners carefully.
INTPs might ignore early warning signs about a partner if they find some aspects of them attractive.
INTPs can have a 'wake-up call' where they realize a relationship is not right for them.
INTP men may allow themselves to be pursued, appearing indifferent to the relationship's progress.
INTPs spend a lot of time processing why they are attracted to certain characteristics in others.
INTPs may recognize patterns in the types of people they are attracted to.
INTPs may not actively pursue relationships but rather go along with them.
INTPs may cut off relationships to avoid a worse ending down the line.
INTPs should communicate their feelings and thoughts about a relationship early on.
For non-INTPs interested in an INTP, it's suggested to let the INTP make the first move.
INTP women may find it challenging to stop a relationship if they are being pursued.
INTPs may benefit from relationships with types that are more courteous and communicative, like INFJs.
INTPs should take a stand and not let external factors influence their relationship decisions.
INTPs should ask themselves if they see a future with their partner to gauge the relationship's potential.
The speaker invites other INTPs to share their insights and experiences in the comments.
Transcripts
why do int peas just suddenly drop off a
relationship well figure out after we
hear a word from our sponsor mm-hmm I
will rejoice in Jerusalem and be glad in
my people no more shall be heard and
it's the sound of weeping in the cry of
distress good good message from from a
sponsor anyway yes so why do intps if
you have experienced this I will be
going in a relationship and everything
would be going great so it seems and
then all of a sudden there's a sudden
drop and I would be lying if I were if I
said that I had never done this myself
unfortunately but that's why intps tried
to take things very carefully and
cautiously when they are approaching
relationships so the simple answer as to
why that happens is because we were not
confident in the relationship to begin
with or we had already deemed the person
that we are now investing in is someone
who we shouldn't be investing in and
filings at some point in time later on
we kind of like have a wake up call as
to like why we shouldn't be
participating with this person now this
there's probably other reasons as well
and if you're 90 P I would love to hear
like if you had been in this situation
what caused you to cut off the
relationship over the reasons but for me
personally it would be because I had
already had determined this person is
not someone I should be developing with
but like as they like pursue you in a
way you start to kind of ignore the
signs that you were first recognizing
with that person and you kind of hope
for the best because you find things
that you do like about them and you
start to kind of invest with them but
you're not you're not actually acting
out to pursue that person at least for a
guy because it's very because like with
INTP men so int P is an es FPS es fps
all do more like they would pursue the
intp more and the int people kind of
just go with it and the EFP might feel
like they are having a successful
relationship when in reality the INTP
has just kind of been apathetic to the
situation and allowed themselves to get
to a point where they you know those
those they won't mind to see where it
goes they kind of they would be hopeful
to like how it turns out
but but then unfortunately at that point
is that you're running the risk of
having this cut off that happens within
like a month or two or maybe a little
bit longer so if you haven't seen my
video like how do you know an intp likes
you in my Strangeways I I'm trying to
articulate that intps take a lot more
care and mental caution when approaching
someone there's there's a lot of
vigorous steps that we would prefer to
take and if we aren't allowed to expose
steps and we bifurcate them and end up
finding ourselves in this relationship
that we never were confident in to begin
with then ultimately we will end up
waking up unless something does happen
like that's kind of where like the
prospecting part comes into play where
it's like we're open to something
happening and working out but I guess
the older intps get though they're gonna
be more even just younger ones but like
they the intuitive sense of kind of like
knowing where a person is and what's
going on with them and like the core of
the the compatibility of them and the
other person like we spend a lot of time
trying to process as to why we like
certain people and why we're attracted
to certain characteristics versus other
ones and and we'll rip through all
through those thoughts and so we become
very I guess confident into knowing what
kind of person we may
like and will recognize like
commonalities between different people
that we finally find ourselves intrigued
by but may or may not actually be
pursuing or at least recognize
attributes of people that are intrigued
by us it's like oh well for some reason
women that are attracted to me have a
father that's more quiet and their mom
it's very like plans things and
management and all that stuff and so and
normally they're like a younger child or
whatever you just kind of list all these
things so if you're someone who has
received this kind of unfortunate
experience one I'm sorry too
I'm trying to think like I guess it's
really up onto the onto the fault of the
INTP of not holding their position as
they should have because you wouldn't
know and then unfortunately now what if
you were to find another INTP and things
are working you might always have this
kind of hesitation in the back your mind
wondering is this actually working or is
it going to cut off and so I guess just
I don't know I guess having a real
conversation at the beginning of things
before things go too crazy but I would
if you're a girl I would suggest that
you allow the INTP to make a step to go
towards you and if they never do that
means that you are not on the forefront
of their mind and if you were to keep
pursuing them they may just kind of go
with it but that that's not good for you
because well it'll end badly for for a
guy or a girl intp so that for previous
when I meant like someone who's not 90 P
but is interested in the intp but if you
are a girl int P I mean I guess actually
probably shouldn't talk too much in this
area because I'm not a woman so anyone
who is an intp woman I would love to
hear your thoughts as to like what is
the best way for you because it probably
has some similarities but I can see that
like as a guy pursuing a woman which is
kind of like I would say a sign of like
the guy is actually willing to overstep
on comfort zones and themselves to
proclaim like their duty toward that
person or like I am choosing you and so
therefore I'm actually going to make
effort to like approach you and stuff
like that I can see how women intp can
keep intps can be more susceptible to
well a guy of pursuing them and then
having to figure out how to just like
stop it so I guess in any sense so the
girl will have to unfortunately have to
build a wall to be like no sorry we
can't go beyond this because I mean I've
already kind of deemed you this who you
are and this is not gonna work and I am
trying to save us from me or save me
from just kind of going with it and then
us ending terribly and then guys it's so
funny I just realized a really the same
thing so really it's just they're being
pursued somehow so a guy's intps and
girl intps they're both being pursued in
some way and and they're whatnot and so
that's why it's nice for like intps to
have interest in like wa say an infj or
other types that are a lot more
courteous when it comes to relational
dynamics they they're a lot more
sensitive to like where we actually at
and let's actually kind of figure this
out and it provides a platform for more
conversation and communication between
the individuals of like where they're
actually at and what they feel about
something but let's say like an es FP
they they won't really be courteous to
that so to speak and they just kind of
flop into it and keep pushing and and
there's other types too but yeah and
then you know you have on the
unfortunate ending so I hope that is
insightful to the situation
intps be like take a stand don't let
other things to kind of like allow you
to go through it and and end up hurting
you and the other person and other
people I guess
questions really dig around till I
figure out like what they feel about the
situation yes feel or think about the
relationship between you and them do
they see a future with you
and that's another thing it's like dwell
in that with them try to figure out what
they foresee between you and them
anyway um but there's only a limited
perspective of mine please tell me yours
in the comment section below and give me
your insights and all that stuff so I'll
see you guys another bit of another life
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