If He Says This...RUN (towards him, he's a great guy!)
Summary
TLDRThe video script discusses the importance of recognizing 'green flags' in a potential partner, which indicate a healthy and fulfilling relationship. It highlights eight key green flags, including respect and kindness, willingness to apologize, maintaining a good relationship with exes, patience, consistency, having friends you like, being open about the future, and not putting you down. The script emphasizes these traits as predictors of a positive and supportive romantic relationship.
Takeaways
- 🚩 **Respect and Kindness**: A man should show respect and kindness, listen to you, care about your feelings, and be considerate.
- 🙏 **Willingness to Apologize**: It's crucial for a man to be able to apologize and learn from his mistakes, showing emotional intelligence.
- 🤝 **Good Relationship with Ex**: A man who can maintain a friendly relationship with his ex without romantic ties indicates maturity.
- 🌱 **Patience**: Emotional maturity is shown through patience, allowing for calm discussions and not rushing decisions or relationships.
- 🔁 **Consistency**: Consistent behavior in actions and communication is a sign of a reliable partner.
- 👫 **Friendship with His Friends**: Liking his friends can reflect positively on his character and values.
- 🌟 **Openness to Future Talk**: A man who is engaged and enthusiastic about discussing the future likely sees a place for you in it.
- 🏆 **Supportive of Achievements**: A great partner will celebrate your successes without trying to undermine or diminish them.
- 💬 **Communication**: Open and honest communication is key, avoiding gaslighting or manipulative behaviors.
- 💖 **Emotional Support**: A supportive partner will be there for both the highs and lows, building you up rather than tearing you down.
Q & A
What is the main focus of the video script?
-The main focus of the video script is to discuss the concept of 'green flags' in a potential partner, which are positive indicators that suggest a healthy and fulfilling relationship.
What are 'green flags' in a relationship?
-'Green flags' are positive signs in a person that indicate they could be a good partner, leading to a fulfilling and respectful relationship.
What is the first green flag mentioned in the script?
-The first green flag mentioned is respect and kindness, which is crucial for a healthy relationship.
Why is the ability to apologize important in a relationship?
-The ability to apologize is important because it shows emotional intelligence and strength, and it helps in resolving conflicts and maintaining a healthy relationship.
What does having a good relationship with an ex signify?
-Having a good relationship with an ex can indicate that the person has moved on and can handle past relationships maturely.
Why is patience considered a green flag in a man?
-Patience is a sign of emotional maturity and can lead to a more peaceful and understanding relationship.
What does consistency in behavior indicate about a person?
-Consistency in behavior suggests reliability and stability, which are desirable traits in a partner.
Why are a man's friends important when considering a relationship?
-A man's friends can reflect his values and character, as people tend to associate with others who are similar to them.
What does it mean if a man is open to discussing the future?
-If a man is open to discussing the future, it can be a sign that he sees a potential long-term commitment and is serious about the relationship.
Why is it a green flag if a man does not put you down?
-Not putting you down indicates respect and a supportive attitude, which are key to a healthy and nurturing relationship.
What is the author's name and where can viewers find more of his work?
-The author's real name is H and he writes under the pen name Brian Knox. Viewers can find more of his work on his website BrianKnox.com and his books on Amazon.
Outlines
🚩 Understanding Green Flags in Relationships
This paragraph discusses the concept of 'green flags' in relationships, which are positive indicators that a potential partner is worth pursuing. It contrasts these with 'red flags', which are warning signs to avoid. The speaker emphasizes the importance of looking for green flags such as respect, kindness, and the ability to apologize and learn from mistakes. These traits suggest a healthy and fulfilling relationship. The speaker also shares personal anecdotes and experiences to illustrate the significance of these green flags.
🤔 Evaluating a Man's Relationship with His Ex
The second paragraph delves into the significance of how a man interacts with his ex-partner as a green flag. It suggests that a man who can maintain a cordial relationship with his ex, without any awkwardness or romantic undertones, is indicative of emotional maturity and a positive past relationship. The speaker also touches on the importance of patience as a green flag, illustrating it through scenarios such as not interrupting during discussions and being understanding about time management. Consistency in behavior is also highlighted as a key green flag, implying reliability and stability in the relationship.
🌟 Recognizing Positive Qualities in a Partner
The final paragraph focuses on additional green flags to look for in a partner, such as having friends that one likes and appreciates, indicating similar values and a positive social circle. It also mentions the importance of a partner's enthusiasm when discussing the future, suggesting commitment and a shared vision. The speaker warns against partners who undermine or belittle achievements, emphasizing that a supportive and encouraging attitude is a green flag of a healthy relationship. The paragraph concludes with an invitation for viewers to share their experiences and thoughts on the discussed green flags.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Red Flags
💡Green Flags
💡Respect and Kindness
💡Apologize
💡Ex-Girlfriend
💡Patience
💡Consistency
💡Friends
💡Future
💡Putting Down
💡Emotional Maturity
Highlights
We often focus on what we're not looking for in a partner, such as red flags like frustration, arguing, or being ignored, rather than the green flags that can predict a fulfilling relationship.
Green flags are signals that someone is special and can offer a happy, fulfilling relationship, unlike red flags which predict a negative experience.
Respect and kindness are crucial green flags, including how a man treats not only his partner but also other people like waiters, family members, and strangers.
A man’s ability to apologize and learn from mistakes shows emotional intelligence, which is important in maintaining a healthy relationship.
A strange yet significant green flag is if a man maintains a good relationship with his ex, showing maturity and emotional closure.
Patience is a sign of emotional maturity. If a man is patient during heated discussions or stressful situations, it indicates stability in the relationship.
Consistency in behavior, such as following through on promises and maintaining communication, is a key indicator of a reliable and committed partner.
The friends a man spends time with can be an indicator of his character. If you like his friends, it reflects positively on him as well.
A man who engages in conversations about the future and doesn’t freeze or zone out during such discussions is serious about the relationship and sees you in his future.
A green flag is when a man doesn’t put you down or use you as the punchline of a joke, especially in front of others. This behavior shows respect and admiration.
Being able to be truly happy for you during your achievements and not trying to pull you down is a crucial green flag in both friendships and romantic relationships.
A good partner builds you up, making you feel loved and respected, rather than leaving you confused, frustrated, or questioning your self-worth.
Being calm and collected under stress or during tough situations is another indicator of emotional maturity and stability, essential for a healthy relationship.
Having a partner who is dependable, especially in showing up and not canceling plans, is a sign of consistency and respect for the relationship.
The video encourages viewers to reflect on the green flags they've observed in past or current relationships and to appreciate the value of these positive qualities.
Transcripts
we often focus on what we're not looking
for in a partner and the red flags we
should look out for you know things like
is that person an idiot that will ignore
me someone that will make me feel
frustrated or someone I will argue with
all the time and then when we think
about what we do want we may come up
with some superficial things at first
things like well they should look like
this and be this tall and have this type
of physique and have a sense of humor
and so on and we're actually describing
our type then but we may be missing
something absolutely crucial green flags
they should have a lot of green flags
see where a red flag means stay away
this is going to end badly a green flag
means go go ahead this person is very
special and being with them will
probably feel good and fulfilling and we
will not have to lie awake at night
wondering why they still didn't text us
back or why they suddenly got mad even
though we did nothing wrong or why
everything always has to be about them
or why they keep saying that's not what
I said when we are absolutely sure they
did or why they keep gaslighting us and
other horrible things because instead we
will feel loved and respected and valued
green flags predict that it could be
awesome to date this person or to be in
a relationship with them we will feel
happy most of the time not confused and
frustrated and when something bad
happens in our life they will support us
they will make make us feel better not
worse they will build us up not tear us
down so because I make videos for women
about men on this channel let's talk
about eight green flags a man could have
that can predict you may have a great
relationship with him if you don't know
me yet my real name is H I'm an author I
also use the pen name Brian Knox I write
about dating and relationships and other
topics and the first green flag you
absolutely have to look for if you are
thinking about entering into a
relationship with a man is respect and
kindness and I know you may think this
one is as obvious as the fact that water
is wet but you wouldn't believe how many
messages I've gotten over the years from
women who contacted me about a man who
did something that was clearly
disrespectful and unkind more than once
so we know it was not an accident and
yet they still wondered how they could
make it work with him they shouldn't
even try because he was missing this
green flag respect and kindness does he
listen when you talk does he care about
your feelings and he may not always
understand them but does he care that
you have feelings is he trying to
understand your feelings and is he
considerate and how does he treat other
people like waiters and strangers or his
family is he respectful towards them and
no no no he's not kind to waiters but
he's kind to me does not count here and
is he respectful during disagreements or
does a different person come out someone
you wouldn't want to be stuck in an
elevator with so to speak this is a
crucial green flag it says a lot about
how happy and fulfilled you will feel in
that relationship now here's another one
that is as important as the brakes on
your car is he willing to apologize and
to learn from his mistakes now you may
already know that this one is not easy
at all someone tells us we did something
wrong and we're supposed to say yeah
you're right I'm sorry I should have
dealt with that in a different way
without saying uh no you are wrong what
planet are you from I did that because
and then something that has absolutely
nothing to do with us as an excuse or
worse I did that because of you this is
just a reaction to what you are doing
I'm clearly not the bad person here you
caus this and with all due respect I
think you are exaggerating and I'm sure
if I would tell this to other people
they would agree with me cuz I'm the
good person here yeah it's pretty clear
that it's a lot easier to be in a
relationship ship with the first type of
person the person who's capable of
apologizing then with the second one it
takes a lot of strength and emotional
intelligence to not only realize we are
the ones that made a mistake when we
actually did but then to also set our
ego aside and to apologize to make it
right being able to do that is super
important in any relationship so it's
also very important that the man you
enter into a romantic relationship with
can do this as well especially if you do
not like fighting and silent treatments
or going to bed angry and also an
apology isn't just about saying I'm
sorry or and this is a bad one I'm sorry
you feel that way because that's not
even an apology it's about understanding
what went wrong and then making sure it
doesn't happen again if he can do this
this is a major green flag here's a bit
of a strange green flag in a man he
still has a good relationship with his
ex-girlfriend now before this confuses
you too much I'm not saying he should
see her every day or still have romantic
picnics in the park with her but for
example if he happens to bump into his
ex-girlfriend in the supermarket do you
see him suddenly drop to the floor
action movie style to then hide behind
the fresh bananas and melons so she
would not notice him or can he just walk
up to her to say hi is HE capable of
having a normal conversation with her if
things ended really badly between them
then this may say a lot about her she
may be the bad person but potentially
also Al about him he may be the bad
person and suppose you are with him in
that Supermarket it's definitely
interesting if a man does not want you
to meet his ex because of what she may
tell you of course which again can say a
lot about her but also about him we just
don't know if however he can say hey
Sarah good to see you again this is my
new girlfriend Caroline Caroline this is
Sarah my ex then that's a good sign so
it's a green flag if they can still be
friendly without it being romant
romantic because here's where this gets
a little bit deeper having a good
relationship with his ex also means he
doesn't feel awkward when he's around
her he could feel awkward because he
secretly wants to get back together with
her if the relationship is truly over
truly over it will feel like he just saw
an old friend a person he has good
memories with but someone from a
different chapter of his life that's in
the past now now just to make things
clear this video is about green flags so
him not having a good relationship with
his ex-girlfriend is not necessarily a
red flag if she for example treated him
badly he may never ever want to talk to
her ever again which is normal that pile
of bananas and melons may come in handy
then here is another green flag some
women forget to pay attention to he is
patient patience is a great sign of
emotional maturity and if you have ever
been with a man that still acts like a
six-year-old you know how important this
one is so here are some ways that you
can see that he is patient if you have a
heated discussion with him he lets you
talk and doesn't interrupt you nor does
he become defensive all the time when
you are getting ready to go out with him
and you say it will just take five more
minutes but you both know you still have
eight other outfits to try on he says
don't worry honey I'm just going to
perfect my Instagram scrolling technique
take your time well as long as it's not
his Tinder swiping technique this is a
green flag he also does not rush
decisions not when comes to the
relationship either he's serious about
what he's doing and he's patient also
how does he deal with stress does he
remain calm even though he feels a lot
of stress those are signs of him having
patience and emotional maturity green
flag number five he is consistent in his
behavior this means he does things like
call you when he said he would if you
send him a text message and the check
marks turn blue because he read it it
doesn't take him more than 24 to 48
hours to reply if you make plans with
him he almost never cancels them
especially not at the last minute in
summary his good behavior towards you
and the relationship is consistent his
behavior is not hot and cold it's not a
lot of affection and attention one day
and then he disappears for a week and
your messages remain unanswered here is
another sometimes overlooked green flag
you like his friends the people he hangs
out with a lot I think it was Jim ran
who once said that we are the average of
the five people we spend the most time
with well if you hate those five people
those five friends of his if you would
never ever want to spend an hour alone
with them then it's not looking good it
says a lot about him and who he is and
what his values are but if you do like
his friends well that says a lot about
him too great people wouldn't keep
hanging out with him if he wasn't a
great person as well our seventh green
flag is that he doesn't freeze when you
talk about the future see some men also
known as the uninterested ones zone out
as soon as you talk about the future
they are physically still present but
nothing of what you say registers or so
it seems because he is hearing it of
course he's just getting in his head
about it and maybe he wonders H do I
want her in my future see I know I don't
but how do I tell her that without
making her mad or without making her
leave me yeah this is a tough one maybe
I should ask chat GPD how to deal with
this so a green flag is when he loves
talking about the future and it's not
hard because he wants you to be in it
and there's no doubt about it now a
final green flag I really want to
mention he is not putting you down for
any reason Under the Sun and yes it was
just a joke is never a valid reason
either now there are many reasons why
someone can try to put us down bad
people do it to manipulate us for
example but even good people can do it
have you ever notice that a certain
friend who's very kind to you in person
loves to put you down when you are in a
group when other people are present
suddenly that person loves to make fun
of some of the things you do that's
never an accident they do it to feel
important to feel seen to feel powerful
at our expense even if it was just
supposed to be a joke they are still
using us for it hurting us because of it
Like A Parasite so in my opinion this is
not okay in a friendship but definitely
not in a romantic relationship now some
people try to put us down when we
achieve something you buy a new car and
they say yeah yeah it's great but you
know it's just not the color I would
have picked you get a promotion yeah
yeah yeah yeah it's great but I thought
you would get a bigger raise they didn't
really increase your salary by a lot see
what I mean they clearly are not happy
for us because whatever we achieved
seems to be hurting their own
self-esteem or what ever now a huge
green flag in a friendship but also in a
romantic relationship is when the other
person can be truly happy for us and
when we rise because of something we
have achieved they do not try to pull us
down a good partner will be there for us
during the hard times but also the good
times in our life so I wonder what are
some of the green flags you have already
noticed in the Great Men you met in your
life or the man you are with right now
so please let me and the other people
know that in the comments and I'm really
interested in that now if you want more
stuff that I'm not sharing over here
make sure to come over to Brian
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the search box thank you for still being
here at the very end of this video I
love it when you do that and the fact
that you do that is why I'm still making
these videos by the way it's for you
that I'm making them so I hope to see
you in another one
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