Gen Z Is The Softest Generation Ever | Joe Rogan & Abigail Shrier

University Of JRE
27 Feb 202409:10

Summary

TLDRこのスクリプトは、親権の専門家とは成功を遂げた大人を育てた人たちであるという視点から亲子教育について考察しています。成功した子供やその背景にある健康的な育て方、他文化の親子関係、若者の自立問題、現代の親権の課題などが取り上げられています。特に、親権の誤解や、子供たちが社会において感じる責任や自立を促す方法が焦点に当てられており、親権の重要性と親としての責任の再確認を促します。

Takeaways

  • 親権のエキスパートとは、成功を遂げ、安定した大人になってくれた子供を育てた人であるという考え方がある。
  • 成功した子供を育てた親は、その成功を自らの功績と主張する場合があるが、実際には子供が自力で突破口を找了った場合が多い。
  • 異なる文化では、親との共住が結婚時まで続くことや、家族が非常に紧密结合していることが一般的である。
  • 親の育児スタイルは、子供の将来の自立や社会的成功に影響を与える可能性がある。
  • 現代の若者世代では、自立しないまま親との共住を続ける傾向があると指摘されている。
  • 親は子供に社会への配慮や、他人の気持ちを理解する重要性を教えることができる。
  • 親の情感的なサポートは、子供の心の健康と発達に影響を与える。
  • 親権のエキスパートは、子供が感情を表現することに優しく、子供の感情を尊重する育児スタイルを好む傾向がある。
  • 子供が社会において適応するためには、自立し、困難に立ち向かう能力が必要である。
  • 親は子供が他人に対して配慮深く振る舞うこと、そして社会の規定を尊重するように教えることが重要である。
  • 親の育児態度や価値観は、子供の将来の人生に大きな影響を与える可能性がある。

Q & A

  • 親権とは何を意味しますか?

    -親権は、子どもの利益のために監護・教育を行い、子の財産を管理する権限であり義務です。【3】

  • 成功した親権者と失敗した親権者の違いは何ですか?

    -成功した親権者は、子どもを安定した大人に育て、それ以外の者たちは成功しない場合があります。成功した親権者は、子どもに自立させることができ、失敗した親権者は子どもが自分たちの方法で問題を解決しなければならない場合があります。

  • 親権者が子どもの親権をとる際の判断基準は何ですか?

    -親権者が子どもの親権をとる際の判断基準は、親権者と子どもの事情に基づいて決定されます。具体的には、親権者の過去・現在の監護状況、監護能力、意欲、教育環境、親族の援助などが考慮されます。【2】

  • 日本における親権制度の特徴は何ですか?

    -日本における親権制度は、婚姻中に父母が共同親権者となり、離婚後は単独親権となります。親権者が決まるまでの流れは、夫婦間の話し合い、調停や審判を経て、最終的には裁判所が親権者を指定することが特徴です。【2】

  • 親権を変更することはできますか?

    -親権を変更することはできますが、家庭裁判所の調停や審判を 통해行われます。親権者の変更は、当事者の話し合いによって行われず、CHILDの利益のために親権者を変更する必要性がある場合にのみ可能です。【2】

  • 子どもが幼い場合、父親が親権者になることは難しいですか?

    -乳幼児については、母性優勢の原則から母親に親権を認めるべきとする考え方がありますが、父親が主に子どもの面倒を見ており、離婚後の監護能力や意欲も十分だと判断されれば、父親の方が親権者としてふさわしいと判断される可能性もあります。【2】

  • 親権者が死亡した場合、子どもはどうなるのでしょうか?

    -親権者が死亡した場合、当然に生存する親が親権者となるわけではありません。未成年者については、親権を行う者がいないものとして、未成年後見が開始されます。生存する親が親権を希望する場合、親権者を変更する審判を申立て、親権者変更の審判により親権を行う者が改めて存在することとなれば、未成年後見は終了することになります。【2】

  • 子どもが親権者不在で育った場合、どのように成功することができますか?

    -子どもが親権者不在で育った場合、成功するためには、彼らの人生に良い影響を与える要素が存在することが重要です。たとえば、彼らが自立し、他人に依存できるようになることが、成功につながる可能性があります。

  • 他の文化での親権と比べて、日本における親権の見方は何ですか?

    -他の文化では、家族が非常に紧密结合している場合があり、結婚するまで家を出ない場合もあります。一方、日本の文化では、親権者が子どもを自立させ、自己支持するようにすることを重視している場合があります。

  • 親権者が子どもに対しての適切な教育方法は何ですか?

    -親権者が子どもに対しての適切な教育方法は、子どもの感情やニーズに応える一方で、彼らが社会の一部であることを理解し、他人のことを考慮する能力を育てることです。

  • 親権者が子どもを自立させることができない場合、どのような問題が生じる可能性がありますか?

    -親権者が子どもを自立させることができない場合、子どもは将来的に自己支持する能力を欠き、親権者或者其他に依存する生活を送ることになる可能性があります。また、社会的に適応できない場合があり、精神的な問題やストレスも生じる可能性があります。

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👨‍👩‍👧‍👦育児の専門家と成功した成人への道

この段落では、育児の専門家を育てることの真の意味とは、成功した、自立した大人を育てることであると説明しています。アクセスできない人々が多い中、一部の子供たちは困難な環境から逃れ、成功を収めるが、兄弟姉妹はしばしば苦労するという話です。成功した人物もいれば、54%の若者が親と同居することを選択している現代社会において、成長とは自立を意味するという文化的定義にも焦点を当てています。異なる文化では成人の定義が異なり、家族との絆を重視する場合があり、これは健康的であると主張しています。このセグメントは、現代の若者が直面する課題と、彼らがどのようにしてこれらの課題を克服し、健全な大人になるかということについて深く掘り下げています。

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🌍感覚過敏と社会的相互作用の挑戦

第二段落では、現代社会の一部で見られる感覚過敏やジェンダーに関する言葉遣いへの配慮など、個人のニーズや感受性に焦点を当てた行動の増加について議論しています。特に、ある社会主義者会議の例を引き合いに出し、会議中の小さな騒音に対する過敏な反応や、性別に基づく言葉遣いを避けるよう求める人々の態度が、社会や大学の環境にどのような影響を及ぼしているかを探っています。また、親が子供たちをどのように育てるべきか、社会全体として他人への配慮や共感をどのように促進するかというテーマにも触れており、親子関係だけでなく、社会全体が直面している感情的な課題と対応について深く考察しています。

Mindmap

Keywords

💡親権

親権とは、親が子供を育てる上で持つ責任と権利のことを指します。このビデオでは、親権の行使方法が子供の成長に大きな影響を与えることが強調されています。親が子供の感情や欲求に応えることで、子供が自己中心的或者是正しく育たない可能性があることが示唆されています。

💡成功

成功とは、達成感や自己実現感を伴い、目標や目的を達成することを指します。このビデオでは、親が子供の成功にどのような影響を与えるかが議論されています。特に、親が子供の感情や欲求に応えることで、子供が自己中心的または依存的になる可能性があることが指摘されています。

💡文化

文化とは、一定の地域や社会において共有される価値観、習慣、信仰、芸術、言語などを指します。このビデオでは、異なる文化における親権の形態や成人の定義が比較されています。特に、他の文化では家族が緊密に結びついており、結婚するまで家庭から離れることがないという習慣が触れられています。

💡独立

独立とは、自己の力で生計を立てる能力や、自己の意思で行動する能力を指します。このビデオでは、親権の形態が子供の独立性にどのように影響するかが議論されています。親が子供の全ての欲求や不便を解決する場合、子供は自己依赖的になり、独立しにくくなることが指摘されています。

💡社会

社会とは、人々が集まり、互いに相互作用し、助け合い、競争する集団を指します。このビデオでは、社会における個体がどのように振る舞うかが重要視されています。特に、子供たちが社会の一部として他人を考慮し、他人との関係を築くことが重要であることが強調されています。

💡教育

教育とは、知識、技能、価値観を伝授するプロセスを指します。このビデオでは、親権が子供の教育においてどのように重要であるかが強調されています。親の育児スタイルが子供の将来の人生に大きな影響を与えることが示唆されています。

💡精神的

精神的とは、心の健康や状態、思考、感情を指します。このビデオでは、現代の親権が子供の精神的発展にどのように影響するかが問題とされています。親が子供の感情や欲求に過度に応えることで、子供が精神的に弱くなり、社会での生活に苦しむ可能性があることが指摘されています。

💡親権の誤解

親権の誤解とは、親権の目的や方法について誤った認識を指します。このビデオでは、親権が子供の感情や欲求に応えることで、子供が強い心理的状態を築くという誤解があることが示されています。実際、親が子供の自己中心的な行動を許容することで、子供は社会で問題を引き起こす可能性があることが強調されています。

💡社会問題

社会問題とは、社会全体に影響を与える深刻な問題を指します。このビデオでは、親権の形態が社会問題につながる可能性があることが示されています。特に、親権が子供の自己中心的な行動を許容することで、社会に悪い影響を与える可能性があることが指摘されています。

💡親権の形態

親権の形態とは、親が子供を育てる方法やスタイルを指します。このビデオでは、異なる文化や時代において親権の形態がどのように変わるのかが比較されています。特に、現代の親権スタイルが子供の将来にどのように影響するかが問題とされています。

💡親権の影響

親権の影響とは、親が子供に与える教育や環境が子供の成長や人格形成に与える影響を指します。このビデオでは、親権の形態が子供の社会適応能力や独立性に大きな影響を与えることが強調されています。親が子供の欲求に応えることで、子供が社会での生活に苦しむことがあることが指摘されています。

Highlights

A parenting expert is defined as someone who has raised successful adults.

Success in parenting is not solely about raising exceptional individuals but also about nurturing stable, productive adults.

Some individuals succeed despite lacking positive parental examples, often becoming hyper-successful.

The notion that a successful sibling's achievements are solely due to parenting is often misplaced.

Cultural differences play a significant role in parenting styles and the concept of adulthood.

In some cultures, it's normal for adults to live with their parents until marriage.

The idea of 'healthy bird leaves the nest' reflects a cultural perspective on independence.

Some cultures have a tight-knit family structure where adults are expected to contribute to the family unit.

The concept of adulthood varies across cultures, with some emphasizing family bonds and others focusing on individual independence.

There's a concern about the current generation's tendency to rely on their parents beyond traditional milestones.

The idea of 'I can't' is becoming more prevalent among young adults, affecting their willingness to work and be independent.

Mental health is increasingly being used as a reason for not participating in adult responsibilities.

The ubiquity of therapy and the tendency to constantly discuss problems can contribute to a culture of oversharing and self-focus.

Parents have the power to change the current trajectory and instill a sense of responsibility and consideration for others in their children.

The example of a child screaming on a plane illustrates the importance of teaching children about societal norms and consideration for others.

Cross-cultural research suggests that in other countries, the idea of prioritizing one's comfort over societal norms is not accepted.

Emotional challenges in parents can affect their ability to teach their children about societal responsibilities and empathy.

The belief that gentle parenting always leads to gentle children is a misconception.

Parents should not solely focus on attending to their children's feelings but also teach them about societal expectations and norms.

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you know my take is if you want to talk

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about a parenting expert to me a

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parenting expert is someone who raised

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successful people to adulthood meaning

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people who are you know good stable

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adults who are productive who can be

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dependent on by others right but you

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might not have access to those why you

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don't I didn't have access to those when

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I was a child I didn't have access to

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people that had raised successful I see

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when you were a child yeah I didn't even

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look I know a lot of people today that

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had terrible parents right and they had

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terrible grandparents and they they

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never had an example of someone who

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raised good children they had the

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occasional child that was exceptional

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that made its way out of that [ __ ] up

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Maze and usually became hyper successful

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but the other siblings often times they

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a mess and sometimes the parents want to

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take credit for the hyper successful

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sibling you know like oh I I showed you

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the way like no you didn't do [ __ ] you

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know like that kid figured it out on

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their own without having anybody as a

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positive role model or example but I

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think that if they were successful there

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were certain Su good things in their

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life meaning they weren't on the couch

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they weren't the 54% of gen Z who

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doesn't want to live with anyone but Mom

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the these are 18 to 25 year olds sorry

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54% of them are living with parents well

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that's that old expression right the

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healthy bird leaves the nest right right

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there was something healthy there was

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some healthy message or example that

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taught at least made the kids think I

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can and the kids today are thinking I

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can't I need to be with Mom and Dad even

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at 18 to 25 yeah because it offers you

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comfort right yeah but then there's

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other cultures where people are happy

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and the families are very tight unit and

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people don't leave the house until

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they're married right that's not our

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culture so in those cultures I think

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it's a different situation and it is

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healthier meaning they have their own

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ways of doing things and you know they

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get a job and they don't get they don't

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leave the home until they're married and

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that is that is the way they Define

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growing up but in this culture we have

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always defined growing up is leaving

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your parents home getting some sort of

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job supporting yourself in some way

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making strong you know enduring

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relationships with others starting a

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family we have a vision in this culture

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and we are not producing that H which

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one's right which culture is correct

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though is the culture that that enfor

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family and and they have this very tight

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Bond and they don't leave until they're

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establishing their own family and then

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they that family stays in connection

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with the other family is that the way to

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do it or is the way we do it where we

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cast them out so I I tend to think that

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you know they have a version of

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adulthood in their culture it's just

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defined differently and those are people

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you can rely on they do become adults in

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other cultures depends who you're

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talking about but but in cultures like

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IND where families you know live with

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you know in the same home with extended

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family and as soon as you marry you go

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and live with the mom and dad they know

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how to do that so that the young people

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who are raising the family are you know

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absolutely Dependable independent adults

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right they're not sitting home playing

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Xbox while they're living with their

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parents right they're not that's the

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difference that's the difference it's a

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healthy ver it's different from ours but

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it is healthy and you can rely on those

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people they are raising children they

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are like being good neighbors right we

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got we got a generation who's sitting at

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home and doesn't want to show up for

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work because they think they have mental

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health issues I have to attend to my

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mental health I can't Trump was just

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elected I need to I need a mental health

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day yeah emotionally fragile yeah it's a

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problem right yeah what what's going on

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like it doesn't matter who's President

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get to work yeah codling yeah boy what a

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complicated thing and it's so

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complicated if you're a parent if you're

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dealing with this medical establishment

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that's so quick to prescribe drugs and

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you're dealing with this world where

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therapy is so ubiquitous and you're

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dealing with this world where people

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think that the way to handle things is

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to constantly discuss all these small

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problems and so that people can be heard

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you know we want people to be heard I I

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don't know if you've ever seen there's a

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hilarious video of this uh socialist

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meeting and um they they're they're

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calling each other comrades and one have

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you seen this video it's it's a

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wonderful video cuz one person um says

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could everyone please stop making as

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much noise because uh I'm easily

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distracted I forget the term that they

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use and then could you guys please do

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that just recognize that there's others

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around here us that are this is it

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listen to this this is amazing socialism

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thank you so much uh quick point of

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privilege quick point of personal

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privilege um guys first of all James

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Jackson Sacramento he him I just want to

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can we please keep the chatter to a

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minimum I'm one of the people who's very

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very prone to sensory overload there's a

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lot of whispering and chatter going on

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it's making it very difficult for me to

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focus please can we just I know it's

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we're all fresh and ready to go but can

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we please just keep the chatter to a

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minimum it's affecting my ability to

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focus thank you thank you comrade right

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comrad let's point of personal privilege

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yes please do not use gendered language

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to to address

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everyone it goes on further this that's

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just a clip of it but that's what you're

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dealing with right like and if you're

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going to a university and this is a part

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of the environment this is the culture

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that you are existing in it can't help

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but have some sort of an effect on you

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especially if you're young and

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impressionable and naive and you don't

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understand these people are mentally ill

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like that is that is a mental crippled

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person that point of privilege good luck

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good luck out there in the world you

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[ __ ] right good luck but I'll tell you

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this you know all these things there are

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things to be negative about or

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pessimistic about in society not this

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because you know what honestly parents

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have a an absolute ability to turn this

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around we don't need to let our kids

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down this way and tell them you need to

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silence an entire room because of your

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sensory discomfort we're going to focus

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on your sensory issues and we're going

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to tell an entire room of people to be

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quiet for you no the this thing happened

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to me that I thought like I was on a

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plane and I was seated behind these this

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family of four okay there were two

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little girls and one starts to scream

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and I mean scream like like it was

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painful to listen to and I hear the

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Father Tell her honey what's wrong are

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you what what did your sister do and

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she's screaming okay it is so loud it's

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so late at night and okay well let let

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me just see what I can do all right well

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don't be upset he never once said to her

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you know there are other people in this

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plane and when I ask people from other

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countries I talked to the emotions

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expert who does cross-cultural research

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I said what would they say in other

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countries about that and she said to me

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they would say that's bananas they would

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not believe in Japan that you do not

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tell your kid you know there are other

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people on this plane not just you we're

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part of a society we have to care about

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others it the world isn't just you and

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your feelings and that's a message

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parents can absolutely give to kids they

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don't have to say oh let me attend to

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your every discomfort they can say I

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know you're feeling a little discomfort

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we're in a room with a lot of other

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people we need to think about them so

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but you're also you're dealing with

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emotionally CH challenged parents

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parents could relay that message to

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children and tell them hey you're not

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the only person on this plane and you

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are ruining this flight this experience

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for a lot of people that are trying to

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sleep and trying to relax you are

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causing damage you're you're you're

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causing a problem these parents are

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[ __ ] up too you're not going to just

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fix them by having them fix their kid

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which is part of the problem is that

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there's no real test to see if you're uh

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emotionally stable enough to have

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children you just have children I don't

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think those parents are necessarily

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emotionally unstable I tend to think

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they've just got it all wrong they think

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the old school parenting is unloving and

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cruel and the most gentle parenting will

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produce the most gentle children it's

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not true but they think if I always ask

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a child how are you feeling and attend

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to her ever feeling I'm going to make

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stronger happier Kinder kids no you're

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not you're going to raise a child who

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thinks she can scream or think she can

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March into a room and silence the entire

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room based on her preference they aren't

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liberated to trust their own instincts

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and what they have seen work for

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others

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