From stress to resilience | Raphael Rose | TEDxManhattanBeach
Summary
TLDRIn this insightful talk, a clinical psychologist from UCLA discusses resilience in the face of stress and failure, drawing parallels between the challenges faced by astronauts and everyday individuals. The speaker emphasizes the importance of embracing failure as a means to build resilience, suggesting that meaningful pursuits, gradual behavior changes, and self-compassion are key to overcoming stress and enhancing well-being.
Takeaways
- π Failure is an integral part of resilience and is necessary for personal growth.
- π§ Resilience is the ability to face life's stressors, bounce back, and recover, enriching one's life in the process.
- π¨βπ Astronauts, like many others, experience stress related to relationships, family, and work, highlighting commonalities in stress across different environments.
- π Chronic stress can have detrimental effects on health and well-being, including lowered immune functioning and memory issues.
- π People differ in their ability to manage stress and exhibit resilience, and we can learn from those who are more resilient.
- π€ Suppression of thoughts related to stress is not an effective strategy; attempting not to think about something can actually draw more attention to it.
- π Resilient individuals tend to have certain personality traits such as positivity, openness to new experiences, and strong social connections.
- π The science of training resilience is still developing, but understanding the characteristics of resilient individuals can guide us in building resilience.
- π Engaging in challenging activities, even if they lead to mistakes and failure, provides opportunities to learn and build resilience.
- π¨βπ§βπ¦ Personal stories of resilience, such as the speaker's father who survived the Holocaust, demonstrate the power of rebounding and recovery from adversity.
- π Behavior change is more likely to succeed when it is approached gradually and with compassion for oneself.
- π Astronauts manage stress by engaging in meaningful activities, such as taking photos of Earth, which can help shift focus away from stressors.
Q & A
What is the main topic of the speaker's talk?
-The main topic of the speaker's talk is resilience, specifically how to develop and promote resilience in the face of stress and failure.
What does the speaker do for a living?
-The speaker is a researcher and a clinical psychologist at UCLA, working with NASA on stress and resilience research.
What is the speaker's stance on the phrase 'failure is not an option'?
-The speaker argues that failure is not only an option but is required to promote resilience, as it provides opportunities to learn and bounce back.
What are some common stressors that astronauts face while in space?
-Astronauts face stressors such as power failures, meteor strikes, explosions, and concerns about their family and personal life back on Earth.
How does the speaker describe the impact of chronic stress on an individual's health and well-being?
-Chronic stress can be detrimental to health and well-being, associated with lowered immune functioning, memory issues, and cardiac problems.
What personality traits and factors are associated with resilient individuals according to the speaker?
-Resilient individuals are more likely to experience positive emotions, are open to new experiences, outgoing, and have strong social connections and integration.
What does the speaker suggest as a strategy to become more resilient?
-The speaker suggests engaging in meaningful pursuits, embracing challenges, and learning from mistakes and failures as strategies to build resilience.
What is the significance of the 'white bear' example in the talk?
-The 'white bear' example illustrates the ineffectiveness of thought suppression as a strategy for dealing with stress, showing that trying not to think about something can actually draw more attention to it.
How does the speaker's father's experience relate to the concept of resilience?
-The speaker's father, a Holocaust survivor, demonstrated the ultimate ability to rebound and recover from extraordinary circumstances, embodying the concept of resilience.
What are two key pieces of advice the speaker gives for behavior change to promote resilience?
-The speaker advises to make slow and gradual changes and to be compassionate with oneself, avoiding self-criticism, to promote resilience through behavior change.
What does the speaker suggest as a meaningful activity that astronauts use to manage stress in space?
-The speaker suggests that astronauts manage stress by looking at Earth and taking photos, engaging in a meaningful activity that allows them to focus away from stressors.
Outlines
πͺ Resilience: Embracing Failure as a Necessity
The speaker introduces the concept of resilience, emphasizing that failure is not just an option but a requirement for building resilience. Drawing from their experience as a researcher at UCLA and collaborator with NASA, they highlight that resilience involves facing stressors and challenges, learning from mistakes, and rebounding from failures. The speaker also shares that astronauts, despite their unique challenges in space, experience stress similar to our daily lives, particularly concerning relationships and monotonous tasks.
π The Power of Resilience: Traits and Examples
This section delves into the personality traits and behaviors that contribute to resilience. Resilient individuals are more likely to experience positive emotions and are open to new experiences and social connections. The speaker uses the example of a high school senior taking on various challenges to illustrate how resilience is built through facing difficulties, making mistakes, and learning to recover. They also share a personal story about their father, a Holocaust survivor, who embodied resilience by finding meaning and positivity in life after extraordinary hardships.
π§ Behavior Change: Small Steps and Self-Compassion
The speaker discusses the challenges of behavior change, advocating for a slow and gradual approach. They emphasize the importance of setting manageable goals, like flossing one tooth to build better habits gradually. The speaker also highlights the role of self-compassion in sustaining behavior change, noting that being kind to oneself when setbacks occur can enhance resilience. They provide practical advice, such as the five-minute exercise rule, to help incorporate positive changes without feeling overwhelmed.
π Finding Meaning to Manage Stress
In the final section, the speaker shares insights from astronauts who manage stress by engaging in meaningful activities, like photographing Earth from space. They stress that focusing on meaningful pursuits, rather than just trying to reduce stress, can shift attention away from stressors and promote resilience. The speaker encourages the audience to find their paths to resilience through activities that bring joy and meaning, and to embrace challenges, learn from mistakes, and celebrate accomplishments as part of their personal missions.
Mindmap
Keywords
π‘Resilience
π‘Stress
π‘Failure
π‘Challenges
π‘Mistakes
π‘Rebound
π‘Meaningful Pursuits
π‘Behavior Change
π‘Compassion
π‘Astronauts
π‘Gradual Change
Highlights
Resilience is the ability to face life's stressors and challenges, bounce back, and recover, enriching your life in the process.
Failure is not only an option but required to promote resilience.
Astronauts deal with stressors similar to those on Earth, such as relationships, family, and work demands.
Chronic stress can be detrimental to health and well-being, linked to lowered immune functioning and memory/cardiac problems.
Some people manage stress better and are more resilient; we can learn from their strategies.
Suppression is an ineffective strategy for dealing with stress - trying not to think about a stressor makes it more salient.
Resilient individuals tend to experience more positive emotions and less negative emotions.
Resilient people are open to new experiences, outgoing, and have strong social connections.
Becoming resilient is not simple; it involves more nuanced factors than just happiness and social connections.
Engaging in challenging activities can lead to growth, positive emotions, and new social connections, even if they result in failure.
The speaker's father, a Holocaust survivor, exemplifies resilience through rebounding and recovering from extraordinary circumstances.
Behavior change for resilience should be slow and gradual to increase the likelihood of success and sustainability.
Compassion towards oneself is crucial for effective behavior change and resilience building.
Exercise is a great way to promote resilience, but starting with small, manageable changes like a five-minute rule can be more effective.
Astronauts manage stress by engaging in meaningful activities like taking photos of Earth, which helps them move beyond challenges.
Finding and pursuing meaningful activities can help promote resilience by focusing attention away from stressors.
The speaker encourages embracing stress, taking on challenges, learning from mistakes, being compassionate, rebounding from failure, and enjoying accomplishments as paths to resilience.
Transcripts
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stress mistakes failure clearly I'm here
to give the feel-good talk of the day
I'm actually here to talk about
resilience as a researcher and a
clinical psychologist at UCLA I've been
working with NASA on stress and
resilience research for over 10 years
the very same NASA that has the
expression failure is not an option
associated with it well I'm here to tell
you today that not only is failure an
option it is required to promote
resilience resilience means you face
life stressors and challenges and you
bounce back and recover and in doing so
you can enrich your life so whether you
work at NASA or your job as a high
school student being resilient means you
face stressors not eliminate them to be
resilient means you learn from your
mistakes not avoid making them and to be
resilient means your rebound from
failure so any mistakes made during
today's presentation is all done in the
name of resilience do you know what
astronauts report is among the most
stressful things they deal with when
they're up in space a power failure a
meteor strike an explosion an alien
attack no that's how their kids and
family are doing back on earth without
them interestingly when it comes to
stress we are a lot more like astronauts
and other people who work in challenging
environments than you might think
astronauts well they're up in space can
worry about their relationships their
spouses and how their kids are doing
in school just like we do astronauts can
have conflicts with coworkers just like
we do they get stressed by health and
finances in space astronauts report that
the demands of their job and at times
the monotony of their job is among the
most stressful things they have to deal
with hmm
conflicts with peers stressful and at
other times boring work that sounds a
lot like high school to me a key aspect
of chronic stress is that it can be like
like relationships health problems or
work stress is that if you're not coping
well with it it can be detrimental to
your health and well-being chronic
stress can is associated with lowered
immune functioning chronic stress is
associated with memory and cardiac
problems good thing I remember that the
good news is that people manage stress
better than others and they are more
resilient and we can look to them to see
what they're doing well so how do you
become more resilient well still working
on that answer but first let's talk
about what does not seem to promote
resilience stress can really hijack your
brain it can really grab your attention
you ever try to avoid thinking about the
thing you're stressed about try to
distract yourself even suppress the
thought or image of whatever is
stressing you well to highlight that
idea I like all of you please now to
think about anything you want think
about anything you want but not a white
bear think about anything you want but
not a white bear go ahead
how'd that go did trying to suppress the
image work generally speaking
suppression is not an effective strategy
and while a white bear might not be a
stressful image for you it highlights
the point that when we try not to think
about something it brings our attention
more to that very thing
so if suppression isn't a good strategy
how can we become more resilient well
here's what we know about resilient
individuals associated with certain
personality traits and factors resilient
individuals are more likely to
experience positive effects so things
like happiness joy pleasure contentment
they're also less likely to experience
negative emotions like anxiety fear
sadness moodiness human jealousy
resilient individuals are open to new
experiences outgoing they embrace
challenges resilient individuals are oh
Solis are so socially connected and
integrated so to be more resilient just
be happy and have lots of friends it's
not that simple and like most things in
life the answer is more nuanced than
that so how do we become more resilient
the science on training resilience is
still relatively young but if we look to
what we know makes up resilient
individuals it can point us in some
important directions let's take the
example of a high school senior she
signs up for a challenging math class
she joins the debate team she volunteers
at a homeless shelter in her community
and she asked someone out to the prom
any and all of those experiences can
lead to meaningful and to growth and
more meaningful experiences it can lead
to positive emotions and it can also
lead to new social connections and
relationships she can improve her math
skills she can win the debate
competition she can feel pride at giving
back to her community and she can build
a new relation
and each and every one of those things
can result in mistakes and
disappointments failure even rejection
she fails a math class loses the debate
competition is turned down by her
potential prom date feels overwhelmed at
the state of things in our community
however even those undesirable outcomes
provide her the opportunity to learn how
to rebound and recover better from
stress and therefore promote resilience
well I didn't think about this while I
was growing up my first model for
resilience was my father my father was a
Holocaust survivor and he spent four
years of his life in concentration camps
doing slave labor and he was the only
member of his family to survive my
father sort of demonstrated the ultimate
ability to rebound and recover from
extraordinary circumstances he found
passion and starting a family after he
immigrated to the US he found dedication
and commitment to his career as an
engineer he never missed an opportunity
to be out on the tennis courts with
buddies and his off-color humor was his
example of positivity so we see an
example of the high school senior and we
see an example of my father how facing
life's challenges and pursuing meaning
can help promote resilience for most of
us modifying what we do to pursue more
meaning means changing something about
our behavior it also means finding the
time to do it now I'm in the behavior
change business essentially and it's not
the easiest thing to do so here are two
things to keep in mind when it comes to
behavior change slow and gradual
behavior change is more likely to
succeed and last often when we try to
undertake behavior change it seems too
overwhelming a task and we shortly fail
or give up
how many of you think flossing after
each meal is good how many of you make
the time to floss after each meal some
hands dropped so for those of you that
want to improve your flossing behavior
and to highlight this idea of slow and
gradual change I want all of you to
floss one tooth tonight anyone can floss
a tooth now I'm not saying the idea here
is to have the healthiest molar in the
history of dentistry but rather that it
highlights the idea that when we commit
to a manageable behavior change it makes
it more likely that we'll do it and then
once we start it's more likely we can go
out to the next tooth and the next tooth
but start with just one second thing
that's important when it comes to
behavior change is compassion be
compassionate to yourself don't be
self-critical behavior change is more
likely to be effective if you take that
stance how many of you think daily
exercise is important how many of you
exercise daily all right well exercise
is actually a great way to promote
resilience it can man it helps you
manage emotions helps improve cognition
helps your body heal and recover but
usually taking undertaking an exercise
regimen
can seem daunting and many people either
don't start or give up shortly after
starting think gradual change and try
the five-minute rule do any kind of
exercise for five minutes so it won't
have you running a marathon tomorrow but
it can have you walking around the block
and this is the crucial part when you
change your behavior and when you slip
up and change in your behavior and you
missed that walk be compassionate go
easy on yourself if yourself if you're
if you're self-critical you're more
likely to feel down and as a result
you're going to be less likely to think
you can actually change yourself you
change your behavior try a stance of
being compassionate so when you miss
that walk or that exercise excuse
yourself and see that you might be more
likely to rebound the next day and go on
that walk and if you are doing that you
are rebounding and recovering and
promoting resilience do you know what
astronauts say is among the most helpful
things they do for managing stress when
they're up in space they look at Earth
and they take photos of it now is it
that looking at our planet actually
reduces stress
well it's certainly relaxing but more
importantly it allows them to engage in
something meaningful and when they're
engaged in something meaningful that can
help them move beyond a particularly
challenging day engaging in something
meaningful can help them move beyond a
conflict for the time being that they
might have had with a co-worker it's a
subtle but important distinction but
doing something for the joy it brings as
opposed to it lowering your stress can
allow your attention to focus more on
the meaningful pursuit and the more your
attention is on a meaningful pursuit the
less it is focused on stressors like a
white bear so I encourage all of you to
find your paths to resilience through
meaningful pursuits it can be meditation
photography learning a new language
engaging your community more and as you
go on your own missions to Mars
whether that's navigating the 405 and
traffic doing your homework we're trying
to improve your health or your
relationships my message to you is to
welcome stress take on the challenges in
your life learn from your mistakes be
compassionate to yourself and to others
rebound from failure and enjoy your
accomplishments thank you
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