Simon Sinek's Advice Will Leave You SPEECHLESS (MUST WATCH)
Summary
TLDRThis script explores the distinction between stress and passion, emphasizing the importance of finding one's purpose beyond a job title. It offers five life lessons: pursuing what you want without hindering others, taking accountability for one's actions, the value of teamwork and helping others, the power of listening and being the last to speak, and maintaining humility despite success. The narrative uses anecdotes and historical examples to illustrate these principles, advocating for a life of passion, purpose, and personal growth.
Takeaways
- 🔥 The distinction between stress and passion lies in the personal connection to the work; stress is the result of working hard for something one doesn't care about, while passion is the drive to work hard for something one loves.
- 🧩 It's a common misconception that purpose comes from a job; people often tie their self-worth to their occupation, leading to a loss of purpose when they leave that job.
- 💡 Purpose is not defined by one's job; it's a broader concept that shouldn't be conflated with professional roles.
- 🏃♂️ The first rule to finding one's spark is to pursue what you want without hindering others from pursuing their desires.
- 👀 The story of the 'free bagel' illustrates two perspectives on life: one that sees the goal and one that sees the obstacles.
- 🤲 The importance of taking accountability for one's actions is highlighted by the historical example of 'puerto fever', emphasizing that sometimes we are the problem and must take responsibility.
- 🤝 The third lesson is about the importance of looking out for one another, as exemplified by the Navy SEALs' ethos of helping each other to achieve their goals.
- 🗣️ Listening and being the last to speak, as Nelson Mandela learned from his father, is crucial for effective leadership and ensures that everyone feels heard and valued.
- 💼 The difference between a supportive and a stifling work environment is highlighted by the contrasting experiences of a barista at the Four Seasons versus Caesar's Palace.
- 🏆 The recognition of one's position versus personal worth is a lesson in humility and gratitude, reminding us that perks and privileges are tied to the role we hold, not to us as individuals.
- 🌱 The final takeaway is the importance of patience, especially for the younger generation, in understanding that meaningful achievements and personal growth take time and effort.
Q & A
What is the difference between stress and passion according to the speaker?
-The speaker defines stress as working hard for something one doesn't care about, while passion is working hard for something one loves.
Why might people lose their sense of purpose when they retire or lose their job?
-People might lose their sense of purpose because they have closely associated their self-worth with their job, conflating their identity with their professional role.
What does the speaker suggest is a common mistake people make regarding their purpose?
-The common mistake is associating purpose solely with one's job, which can lead to a loss of purpose when that job is no longer part of their life.
What are the five little rules mentioned by the speaker to find one's spark and bring it to life?
-The speaker does not explicitly list all five rules in the transcript, but the first rule discussed is to go after the things that one wants.
What lesson can be learned from the story about the bagels in Central Park?
-The lesson is that there are two ways to see the world: focusing on what one wants or focusing on the obstacles that prevent one from getting what they want.
What historical example does the speaker use to illustrate the importance of taking accountability for one's actions?
-The speaker uses the example of 'puerto fever,' or 'childbed fever,' and how doctors were unknowingly spreading the disease until they started washing their hands and sterilizing their instruments.
What is the significance of the United States Navy SEALs in the third lesson provided by the speaker?
-The significance is that those who make it through SEALs training are not necessarily the strongest or most capable individuals, but those who are best at helping each other, emphasizing the importance of teamwork and mutual support.
What does the speaker suggest is the key to becoming an elite warrior, according to the SEALs?
-The key is not about individual toughness, intelligence, or speed, but about being really good at helping the person to the left and the right, highlighting the importance of taking care of each other.
Why does the speaker recommend being the last to speak in a group setting?
-Being the last to speak allows one to listen to everyone else's opinions, making them feel heard and contributing to the discussion, and also enables one to form a more informed opinion based on the collective input.
What is the main difference between the experiences of the barista Noah at the Four Seasons and Caesar's Palace?
-At the Four Seasons, Noah feels supported and able to be himself, while at Caesar's Palace, he feels like he's constantly being monitored for mistakes and just trying to get through the day.
What lesson does the former undersecretary of defense impart about the treatment one receives based on their position?
-The lesson is that the perks and special treatment one receives are not because of who they are as a person, but because of the position they hold, emphasizing the importance of humility and gratitude.
What advice does the speaker give to young professionals who feel they are not making an impact quickly enough?
-The speaker advises patience, explaining that significant achievements and personal growth take time and that the journey is often long and difficult, but worth the effort.
Outlines
🔥 Embracing Passion Over Stress
This paragraph discusses the difference between stress and passion, emphasizing that purpose is not solely tied to one's job. The speaker shares a personal realization that losing a job can lead to a loss of purpose if self-worth is too closely tied to professional identity. To find one's purpose, the speaker suggests five rules, starting with the importance of pursuing what one wants, illustrated by a story about a friend who chose not to wait in line for a free bagel, symbolizing the different perspectives people have on what's worth pursuing in life.
🤝 The Power of Accountability and Teamwork
The second paragraph delves into the importance of accountability and teamwork. It recounts the historical example of 'puerto fever' and how the simple act of doctors washing their hands revolutionized childbirth safety. This serves as a metaphor for personal accountability. The paragraph also highlights the ethos of the U.S. Navy SEALs, emphasizing that those who look out for their comrades are the ones who succeed, not those who simply want to prove their own toughness. The message is clear: taking care of each other and being the last to speak, allowing others to be heard, are critical to leadership and success.
🌟 Creating an Environment for Success
In the third paragraph, the focus shifts to the impact of leadership on the environment and the people within it. Using the example of a barista named Noah, the speaker illustrates how a supportive and caring work environment can inspire employees to love their jobs, as opposed to places where managers only focus on correcting mistakes. The narrative reinforces the idea that leadership is not about having the right people, but about creating the right conditions for them to thrive. Additionally, the speaker shares a story about an undersecretary of defense to underscore the lesson of humility and gratitude, reminding us that perks and privileges are tied to the position, not the individual.
🌱 The Importance of Patience and Self-Discovery
The final paragraph addresses the impatience of the younger generation and the desire for immediate impact. It uses the metaphor of climbing a mountain to explain that achieving goals takes time and effort. The speaker encourages the audience to have patience and to understand what truly drives and inspires them. The paragraph concludes with a reminder that the journey to fulfillment is a long one, but with the right mindset and desire, one can reach their summit.
Mindmap
Keywords
💡Stress
💡Passion
💡Purpose
💡Accountability
💡Helping Each Other
💡Leadership
💡Patience
💡Humility
💡Gratitude
💡Impact
💡Self-Worth
Highlights
The distinction between stress and passion lies in whether the work is for something one cares about or not.
People often mistake their job for their life's purpose, which can lead to a loss of purpose upon job loss or retirement.
Purpose is not tied to one's job title or daily tasks but is something more significant and personal.
Rule one for finding your spark is to pursue what you want without hindering others from doing the same.
The story of the bagels illustrates two perspectives: seeing what you want versus the obstacles to getting it.
Rule two emphasizes taking accountability for one's actions, learning from mistakes, and balancing credit with responsibility.
The historical example of 'puerto fever' demonstrates the importance of recognizing when one might be part of the problem.
Rule three is about community and mutual support, as illustrated by the ethos of the Navy SEALs.
Nurturing an environment of support and helping others is key to personal and collective advancement.
Rule four suggests the importance of listening and being the last to speak to ensure all voices are heard.
Nelson Mandela's leadership style highlights the value of listening and humility in leadership.
The story of the barista, Noah, shows how a supportive work environment can foster job satisfaction.
Leadership should focus on creating the right environment rather than just finding the right people.
The lesson of the 'ceramic cup' is about recognizing that perks are often tied to one's position, not personal worth.
Humility and gratitude are essential as one achieves success and recognition.
The importance of patience and understanding the journey to making an impact takes time.
The necessity for the younger generation to learn patience and the value of time in achieving meaningful goals.
Transcripts
working hard for something we don't care
about is called stress
working hard for something we love is
called passion
i think one of the mistakes that people
make is they think purpose comes from
their job i've been a whatever for so
many years and when then i
lose my job or i retire i now don't have
a sense of purpose because i've i so
closely associated my self-worth with
the job that i did i knew what my job
was i had a sense of purpose and one
wonders if those things are conflated
right which is i had a sense of purpose
for my job and then when i didn't have
the job all of a sudden i sense i woke
up in the morning didn't know what to do
the purpose is not your mos your purpose
is not you're a saw gunner your purpose
is not the job that you wake up to do
every day your purpose is something
bigger i have five little rules that you
can follow as you
find your spark and bring your spark to
life
the first
is to go after the things that you want
let me tell you a story
so a friend of mine and i
we went for a run in central park
the road runners organization
uh on the weekends they host races
and it's very common at the end of the
race they'll have a sponsor who will
give away something apples or bagels or
something and on this particular day
when we got to the end of the run
there were some free bagels and they had
picnic tables set up and on one side was
a group of volunteers on the table were
boxes of bagels and on the other side
was a long line of runners waiting to
get their free bagel so i said to my
friend let's let's get a bagel and he
looked at me and said ah the line's too
long
and i said free bagel
and he said i don't want to wait
in line
and i was like
free bagel
and he says nah let's it's too long
and that's when i realized that there's
two ways to see the world
some people see the thing that they want
and some people see the thing that
prevents them from getting the thing
that they want
i could only see the bagels
he could only see the line
because the rule is you can go after
whatever you want you just cannot deny
anyone else
to go after whatever they want you don't
have to do it the way everybody else has
done it
you can do it your way
you can break the rules you just can't
get in the way of somebody else getting
what they want
rule number two
in the
18th century there was something that
spread across europe and eventually made
its way to america puerto fever also
known as the black death of childbed
basically what was happening
is women were giving birth
and they would die within 48 hours after
giving birth
this black death of childbirth
was the ravage of europe and it got
worse and worse and worse over the
course of over a century and these
doctors and men of science wanted to
study and try and find the reason
for this black death of
childbed and so they got to work
studying and they would study the
corpses
of the women who had died and in the
morning they would conduct autopsies
and then in the afternoon they would go
and deliver babies and finish their
rounds
and it wasn't until somewhere in the
mid-1800s
that oliver wendell holmes realized
that all of these doctors were
conducting autopsies in the morning
weren't washing their hands before they
delivered babies in the afternoon
and he pointed it out and said guys
you're the problem
and they ignored him and called him
crazy
for 30 years
until finally somebody realized that if
they simply washed their hands
it would go away
and that's exactly what happened when
they started sterilizing their
instruments and washing their hands the
black death of childbed
disappeared the lesson here is
sometimes you're the problem
take accountability for your actions you
can take all the credit in the world for
the things that you do right as long as
you also take responsibility for the
things you do wrong it must be a
balanced equation you don't get it one
way and not the other
you get to take credit
when you also take accountability lesson
three take care of each other
the united states navy seals
are perhaps the most elite warriors in
the world
and
one of the seals
was asked
who makes it through the selection
process who is able
to become a seal and his answer was
i can't tell you the kind of person
that becomes a seal i can't tell you the
kind of person that makes it through
buds but i can tell you the kind of
people who don't become seals
he says the guys that show up with huge
bulging muscles covered in tattoos who
want to prove to the world how tough
they are
none of them
make it through
he said the preening leaders who like to
delegate all their responsibility and
never do anything themselves none of
them make it through he says some of the
guys that make it through are skinny and
scrawny he said some of the guys that
make it through you will see them
shivering out of fear
he says however
all the guys that make it through when
they find themselves
physically spent
emotionally spent when they have nothing
left to give physically or emotionally
somehow some way they are able to find
the energy to dig down deep inside
themselves
to find the energy to help the guy next
to them they become seals
he said
you want to be an elite warrior it's not
about how tough you are
it's not about how smart you are it's
not about how fast you are if you want
to be an elite warrior you better get
really really good at helping the person
to the left of you and helping the
person to the right of you
because that's how people advance in the
world
the world is too dangerous and the world
is too difficult for you to think that
you can do these things alone if you
find your spark i commend you now who
you gonna ask for help and when are you
going to accept help when it's offered
learn that skill
learn by practicing helping each other
it'll be the single most valuable thing
you ever learn in your entire life to
accept help when it's offered and to ask
for it when you know that you can't do
it
the amazing thing is when you learn to
ask for help you'll discover that there
are people all around you who've always
wanted to help you they just didn't
think you needed it because you kept
pretending that you had everything under
control
and the minute you say i don't know what
i'm doing i'm stuck i'm scared i don't
think i can do this
you will find that lots of people who
love you will rush in and take care of
you
but that'll only happen if you learn to
take care of them first lesson four
nelson mandela is
a particularly special case study in the
leadership world because he is
universally regarded as a great leader
you can take other personalities and
depending on the nation you go to we
have different opinions about other
personalities but nelson mandela across
the world is universally regarded as a
great leader
and he was asked one day
how did you learn to be a great
leader and he responded that he would go
with his father
to tribal meetings
and he remembers two things when his
father would meet with other elders
one they would always sit in a circle
and two his father
was always the last to speak
you will be told your whole life that
you need to learn to listen i would say
that you need to learn to be the last to
speak i see it in boardrooms every day
of the week even people who consider
themselves good leaders who may actually
be decent leaders will walk into a room
and say here's the problem here's what i
think but i'm interested in your opinion
let's go around the room it's too late
the skill to hold your opinions to
yourself until everyone has spoken does
two things one it gives everybody else
the feeling that they have been heard
it gives everyone else the ability to
feel that they have contributed
and two you get the benefit of hearing
what everybody else has to think before
you render your opinion to keep your
opinions to yourself if you agree with
somebody don't nod yes
if you disagree with somebody don't not
know simply sit there take it all in and
the only thing you're allowed to do is
ask questions so that you can understand
what they mean and why they have the
opinion that they have you must
understand
from where they are speaking
why they have the opinion they have not
just what they are saying practice being
the last to speak
one afternoon i went to buy a cup of
coffee and there was a barista by the
name of noah who was serving me noah was
fantastic he was friendly and fun
and he was engaging with me and i had so
much fun buying a cup of coffee i
actually think i gave 100 tip
right he was wonderful
so as is my nature i asked noah do you
like your job and without skipping a
beat noah says
i love my job
and so i followed up i said what is it
that the four seasons is doing
that would make you say to me
i love my job and without skipping a
beat
noah said throughout the day managers
will walk past me and ask me how i'm
doing if there's anything that i need to
do my job better he said not just my
manager
any manager
and then he said something magical
he says
i also work at caesar's palace and
caesar's at caesar's palace the managers
are trying to make sure we're doing
everything right they catch us when we
do things wrong
he says when i go to work there i like
to keep my head under the radar and just
get through the day so i can get my
paycheck
he says here at the four seasons i feel
i can be
myself
so we in leadership are always
criticizing the people we're always
saying we've got to get the right people
on the bus i've got to fill my wrong my
team i got to get the right people but
the reality is it's not the people it's
the leadership if we create the right
environment we will get people like noah
at the four seasons if we create the
wrong environment we will get people
like noah
at caesar's palace
there was a former undersecretary of
defense who was invited to give a speech
at a large conference about a thousand
people and he was standing on the stage
with his cup of coffee and styrofoam cup
and he took a sip of his coffee and he
smiled and he looked down at the coffee
and then he went off script
and he said you know last year i spoke
at this exact same conference
last year i was still the undersecretary
and when i spoke here last year they
flew me here business class
and when i arrived at the airport there
was somebody waiting for me to take me
to my hotel
and they took me to my hotel and they
had already checked me in and they just
took me up to my room and the next
morning i came downstairs and there was
someone waiting in the lobby to greet me
and they drove me to this here same
venue and handed me a cup of coffee in a
beautiful ceramic cup
he says i'm no longer the undersecretary
i flew here coach
i took a taxi to my hotel and i checked
myself in
when i came down the lobby this morning
i took another taxi to this venue and
when i asked someone do you have any
coffee he pointed to the coffee machine
in the corner and i poured myself a cup
of coffee into this here styrofoam cup
he says the lesson is
the ceramic cup was never meant for me
it was meant for the position i held
i deserved a styrofoam cup
remember this
as you gain fame
as you gain fortune
as you gain position and seniority
people will treat you better
they will hold doors open for you they
will get you a cup of tea and coffee
without you even asking none of that
stuff is meant for you
that stuff is meant for the position you
hold
it is meant for the level that you have
achieved of leader or success or
whatever you want to call it but you
will always
deserve
a styrofoam cup remember that lesson of
humility and gratitude you can accept
all the free stuff you can accept all
the perks
absolutely you can enjoy them but just
be grateful for them and know that
they're not for you
and so i keep meeting these wonderful
fantastic idealistic hard-working smart
kids they've just graduated school
they're in their entry-level job i sit
down with them when i go how's it going
they go i think i'm gonna quit
i'm like why
they're like i'm not making an impact
i'm like you've been here eight months
it's as if they're standing at the foot
of a mountain and they have this
abstract concept called impact they want
to have in the world
which is the summit what they don't see
is the mountain i don't care if you go
up the mountain quickly or slowly but
there's still a mountain
and so what this young generation needs
to learn is patience
that some things that really really
matter like love
or job fulfillment joy
love of life self-confidence
a skill set any of these things all of
these things take time
sometimes you can expedite pieces of it
but the overall journey
is arduous and long and difficult
all you need to do is have the will and
the desire to want to understand what
drives and inspires you
you
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