Why people fixate on INFJs
Summary
TLDRRen在视频中探讨了非INFJ人格类型的人对INFJ的过度迷恋现象。他表达了对这种强烈需求的不适感,并比喻了犹太人在历史上所受的过度关注。Ren建议人们不要刻意追求与INFJ建立关系,而应该让这种联系自然发生。他强调INFJ也是普通人,有优点也有缺点,人格类型本身并不能决定一个人的价值。他推荐了自己的两本书《INFJ:无限的灵魂》和《INFJ:在现代世界中寻找意义》,鼓励观众自然地与他人建立联系。
Takeaways
- 😀 视频作者Ren经常收到非INFJ人格类型的人询问如何吸引INFJ人格类型的人。
- 🔎 人们对于INFJ人格类型的人表现出了浓厚的兴趣,想要在他们的生活中找到INFJ。
- 🤔 Ren觉得这种对INFJ人格的强烈需求有些令人不舒服,他怀疑其他INFJ也会有同样的感觉。
- 📚 Ren用犹太人的例子来比喻,说明对某个群体过分的迷恋或兴趣通常不是出于好意。
- 🚫 他建议不要试图强迫或人为地将INFJ人格类型的人带入自己的生活。
- 🤝 人际关系应该基于人与人之间的自然化学反应,而不是基于人格类型。
- 🧐 INFJ人格类型的人并不比其他人格类型的人更特别,他们也有优点和缺点。
- 🌟 Ren强调,INFJ人格类型的人中也有杰出的、平凡的、勇敢的和懦弱的人。
- 📖 Ren提到他写了关于INFJ人格类型的书籍,如《The Infinite Soul》和《INFJ Life in the Modern World》。
- 👍 他鼓励观众如果喜欢视频就点赞,并在评论区分享他们的想法。
- 💻 Ren还提到了他有Patreon页面,观众可以通过这个页面支持他。
Q & A
视频作者Ren在视频中讨论了什么主题?
-Ren在视频中讨论了非INFJ人格类型的人对INFJ人格类型的人表现出的强烈兴趣,以及如何与INFJ建立联系和友谊。
Ren提到了哪些方式来吸引INFJ的注意?
-Ren并没有直接提到具体的方式,但他建议不要强迫或人为地去吸引INFJ的注意,而是让事情自然发生。
Ren对于人们强烈希望生活中有INFJ的态度是什么?
-Ren表示,这种强烈的需求或请求让他感到有些不舒服,他认为这种过度的迷恋通常会产生反效果。
Ren是如何比喻人们对INFJ的迷恋的?
-Ren用犹太人的例子来比喻人们对INFJ的迷恋,说明过度的迷恋通常会引起怀疑和不适。
Ren认为INFJ与其他人格类型相比有什么特别之处吗?
-Ren强调INFJ并不比其他人格类型更特别,他们也有各种各样的人,有优点也有缺点。
Ren建议如何与INFJ建立友谊?
-Ren建议不要试图人为地设计或策划与INFJ的友谊,而是通过自然的方式,基于个人之间的化学反应来建立联系。
Ren在视频中提到了几本书?
-Ren提到了两本书,分别是《INFJ:无限的灵魂》和《INFJ:在现代世界中寻找意义、目的和丰富、充实的生活》。
Ren如何看待人们对于特定人格类型的迷恋?
-Ren认为这种迷恋通常是不健康的,可能会导致人们忽视了人与人之间真实的联系和个性。
Ren是否鼓励人们去追求与INFJ的关系?
-Ren并不鼓励人们去刻意追求与INFJ的关系,而是建议让这种关系自然发展。
Ren在视频结束时提到了什么?
-Ren在视频结束时提到了他的Patreon页面,并鼓励观众如果喜欢视频就点赞,同时不要忘记给他的书留下评论。
Ren如何看待人们对于INFJ的过度理想化?
-Ren认为这种理想化是不合理的,因为INFJ也是普通人,有着普通人的多样性和复杂性。
Outlines
😀 如何吸引INFJ型人格的注意
Ren在视频中首先提出了一个经常被问及的问题:非INFJ人格类型的人如何吸引INFJ的注意并与之建立联系。Ren指出,尽管INFJ被认为是罕见的,但很多人似乎对INFJ有着浓厚的兴趣。Ren作为INFJ和内容创作者,对这种过分的关注感到有些不适。他通过类比犹太人的例子,说明了对特定群体的过度兴趣可能会引起怀疑和不适。Ren建议不要强迫事情发展,而是让人际关系自然形成,强调INFJ也是普通人,有着各种不同的特质,并不是所有人都值得钦佩。
😌 放下对INFJ的迷恋,顺其自然
Ren在第二段中继续讨论了对INFJ的迷恋问题,他建议人们放下这种迷恋,让事情自然发生。Ren强调INFJ并非特殊人群,他们和其他人格类型一样,有优秀也有平凡的人。他提醒人们不要基于人格类型去刻意建立关系,因为真正的联系应该基于个人之间的化学反应,而不是人格类型。Ren还提到了自己的新书《INFJ:无限灵魂》,这本书探讨了INFJ在现代社会中如何寻找意义和目的,并鼓励人们如果对INFJ感兴趣,可以阅读他的书来更深入地了解。最后,Ren邀请观众在评论区分享他们的想法,并提醒人们可以通过点赞和评论来支持他的视频和书籍。
Mindmap
Keywords
💡INFJ
💡非INFJ个体
💡性格类型偏好
💡人际关系
💡自然发展
💡过度迷恋
💡个体独特性
💡性格类型刻板印象
💡社交圈
💡有机联系
💡内容创作者
Highlights
Ren在视频中讨论了非INFJ人格类型的人如何想要吸引INFJ人格类型的人。
Ren指出INFJ人格类型被认为是罕见的,这可能是人们想要找到他们的原因之一。
Ren提到人们对于INFJ的强烈兴趣可能会让INFJ感到不舒服。
Ren用犹太人的例子来比喻人们对INFJ的过度兴趣可能会引起怀疑。
Ren建议不要过度追求INFJ,而是让事情自然发生。
Ren强调INFJ并不是特殊的人,他们和其他人格类型一样多样化。
Ren提醒人们不要基于人格类型来选择朋友或伴侣,而应该基于个人之间的化学反应。
Ren警告说试图人为地安排与INFJ的关系通常不会成功。
Ren提到INFJ和其他人格类型一样,有他们的优点和缺点。
Ren建议人们停止对INFJ的奇怪迷恋,让事情自然发展。
Ren提到INFJ在社交圈中的存在应该是基于人与人之间的联系,而不是基于人格类型。
Ren分享了他写的关于INFJ人格类型的书籍《The Infinite Soul》和《INFJ Life in the Modern World》。
Ren鼓励观众在评论区分享他们对视频内容的看法,包括其他INFJ。
Ren提到他的书籍可以帮助人们更好地理解INFJ人格类型。
Ren请求观众如果喜欢视频的话给他点赞,并在视频下方留下评论。
Ren提到他有一个Patreon页面,观众可以通过它来支持他的工作。
Ren以告别的方式结束视频,并祝愿观众享受他们的一天。
Transcripts
hello everyone it's Ren here well uh I
wanted to uh offer some thoughts on a
question that I often uh I'm often asked
either by email or in YouTube comments
that this question comes not from injs
but specifically from non-js who are
eager to catch the attention of injs to
maybe locate nfjs so maybe in the order
of things we would move from like uh
uh locating INFJs first of all because
they're supposed to be rare then
catching their attention then uh holding
their attention then maybe becoming
friends with INFJs keeping INFJs as
friends maybe you could say in some
cases go so far as to date an infj and
have a family with an infj what have you
so basically how to you know these
people and you'd be surprised like
they're quite common these people they
are not infg they are
quite clear and comfortable with the
idea of not being infj but they're
equally they seem to be equally clear
and comfortable with the idea of wanting
ings in their life right these people
for some reason and I I can't say I
completely understand the logic of it
but they seem to want INFJs in their
life and so they would ask me and
presumably they maybe ask other infj
writers or infj content producers uh
this very
question so I suppose this uh in this
video I will answer this
question and there will be many I ofj is
watching this answer as well so I'm
eager for their uh opinion on on this
you know uh to see if they agree with me
or not so
um to be completely honest and
upfront um this kind of
eager demand or
request uh is kind of always a little
bit uncomfortable to me I guess as a as
a Content producer but also as an nfj
myself
um and I suspect that I suspect if you
like that this on that I feel about this
like very intensively expressed interest
in having me in their life or having you
know injs like me in their life um
you know I just I just it puts me off a
little bit to be completely honest it
puts me off and I suspect it would put
other ings
off uh I was thinking about it earlier
trying to figure out where when this uh
feeling came
from and uh
the the analogy that came to mind the
first analogy that came to mind is the
analogy with the Jewish people
and Jewish people you know there are
people who are uh anti-semitic say or
something like that and then there are
people who are just like uh they don't
say that they're anti-semitic but they
are really really
interested in Jews they seem to be
really really interesting interested in
like uh Jewish people fascinated by
Jewish people and you you sort of want
to ask yourself why are people so
interested in Je je people um people who
are by no you know that about whom like
no evidence suggests that they are uh
like anti-semitic but since they just
have this fixated notion that Jewish
people are
fascinating
um rather than I don't know Arabic
people or Asian people you know Indian
or people from Bangladesh or whatever it
might be uh usually Jewish people find
that suspicious
H they the obsession with a particular
class of person just usually bows
nothing good right and um I'm not saying
that ings are the Jews of the
personality types but uh they have this
kind of Fascination they exert this kind
of Fascination for some people that you
might argue Jews exert as well in some
circumstances um so I would usually say
you know like the reality
is uh you're not you're never going to
be able to to
force events so that an an infj or
several INFJs are brought into your life
are brought into your Social Circle
there's no formula in fact it it's
likely to be extremely
counterproductive because uh the
behavior of people who are like that
usually would be like super positive
like if they know that you're infj
they'll keep telling you oh like your
infj this is so awesome I love INFJs and
so on there's nothing is more of a turn
up than this so I would just say like
try to stop feeling this weird
Fascination and let things happen you
know if it must happen it will happen
uh but usually it will it will happen as
a result of a person to person There's A
Train That's passing by I'm in a house
where there is like a lot of trains and
train tracks are right there so um it
will be a personto person thing it won't
be a person to type thing or type to
type thing um INFJs are not exceptional
people you know INFJs are like any other
PE type of people or PE people of
certain types among them are people who
are brilliant among them are people who
are normal every
day uh among them are people who are
admirable and people who are not
admirable people who are brave people
who are cowardly people who have lots of
Virtues people who have lots of vices
you know there's no that really tells
you anything about any of these things
just from the knowledge of someone is an
infg so just wanting infg Ines in your
life just doesn't make a lot of sense
and I will notice this so let it happen
organically if it must and if it happens
organically that's great but you'll see
that it will happen on the basis of
finding particular chemistry with a
person and not with a type so I would
say just don't try to engineer things
like things like these it will pretty
much never work out okay so anyway these
were my thoughts let me know in the
comments what your thoughts are
including other ings if you agree with
me and don't forget that I have written
elod will be entertained by this I do
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you next week guys enjoy the rest of
your day take care bye-bye
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