How Do You Know if Someone Wants to Have Sex with You? | Planned Parenthood Video

Summary

This video explains the importance of clear, mutual consent in sexual encounters. It emphasizes that consent must be explicitly communicated, both through words and body language, and should never be assumed based on silence or pressure. The script covers key principles: understanding non-verbal cues, checking in with your partner, ensuring freedom to say no, being honest about sexual health, and recognizing that consent can be withdrawn at any time. It stresses the importance of respect, trust, and communication for a safe and pleasurable sexual experience.

Takeaways

• 😊 Consent must be explicitly given, not assumed.
• 👍 Consent means both parties are genuinely enthusiastic and into what’s happening.
• ❌ Silence or lack of resistance does not mean consent.
• 🧐 Pay attention to both verbal and non-verbal signals, such as body language.
• 😯 Consent can be sexy and doesn’t have to be awkward—clear communication is key.
• 🚫 It’s not consent if someone is drunk, high, or unconscious. Engaging in sexual activity with them is rape.
• 🔄 Consent is ongoing, and saying 'yes' once doesn’t mean 'yes' forever. People can stop at any time.
• 🛑 It's important not to pressure or guilt anyone into sex—they must feel free to say no.
• 💬 Be honest about birth control, STDs, and sexual history. Transparency is crucial in building trust.
• ❤️ Respect, trust, and communication lead to a more pleasurable and safe sexual experience for everyone involved.

Q & A

What is the only way to know if someone wants to have sex with you?

The only way to know for sure if someone wants to have sex with you is if they tell you explicitly. Consent must be communicated clearly.

What does 'consent' mean in the context of sex?

Consent means both parties are truly into what is happening, and no one is being pressured or guilted into it. It involves clear communication and mutual agreement.

Why does silence not equal consent?

Silence does not equal consent because true consent involves active participation and communication. Lack of a clear 'no' does not mean 'yes.'

Is it still considered rape if someone doesn't scream or fight back?

Yes, it can still be rape even if there is no fighting or yelling. Consent must be freely given, and absence of resistance doesn't imply consent.

How can body language play a role in determining consent?

Body language can indicate consent by showing signs of comfort or discomfort. Leaning in, kissing back, and appearing happy are positive signs, while pulling away or looking uncomfortable suggests the opposite.

What is an example of how to ask for consent in a non-awkward way?

Asking for consent can be done naturally, like saying, 'Wanna show me your bedroom?' or 'Can I take your shirt off?' It should feel respectful and open.

Why is it important that everyone feels free to say 'no' without pressure?

It’s crucial for everyone to feel free to say 'no' because pressure or manipulation can lead to non-consensual situations, which make for bad, unsafe sexual experiences.

Can someone consent to sex if they are drunk, high, or unconscious?

No, if a person is drunk, high, passed out, or unconscious, they cannot give consent. Doing anything sexual under these conditions is considered rape.

Why is honesty about birth control, STDs, or other sexual partners important?

Honesty about birth control, STDs, or other sexual partners is vital for trust, safety, and health. Both parties should know these details to make informed decisions.

Can someone change their mind about sex after saying 'yes' initially?

Yes, a person has the right to stop at any time, even if they previously said 'yes.' Consent is ongoing and can be withdrawn at any point.