Why INTPs Break Up from a Relationship

Summary

The video script discusses the tendency of INTPs to suddenly withdraw from relationships. It suggests that this behavior stems from initial doubts about the relationship's viability, which INTPs may ignore due to the other person's pursuit. The speaker, an INTP, shares personal insights and advises INTPs to be assertive and communicate early to avoid leading others on. They also recommend that non-INTPs seeking relationships with INTPs should encourage open dialogue to understand INTPs' feelings and intentions.

Takeaways

• 🤔 INTPs may drop a relationship suddenly due to initial doubts or lack of confidence in the relationship's future.
• 🧐 INTPs are cautious and analytical when approaching relationships, often taking many steps to ensure compatibility.
• 🚫 If an INTP doesn't actively pursue a relationship, it might indicate that they have reservations or have deemed the person unsuitable.
• 👥 INTPs might ignore early warning signs about a partner if they find some aspects of them likable, leading to a later realization that the relationship won't work.
• 👨‍❤️‍👨 INTP men might be more passive in relationships, allowing others to pursue them, which can lead to misunderstandings about their level of interest.
• 👩‍❤️‍👩 INTP women might find it challenging to set boundaries and stop a relationship that they have deemed unsuitable.
• 🔍 INTPs spend a lot of time analyzing their feelings and attraction to certain characteristics, which can lead to a clear understanding of what they want in a partner.
• 🤝 INTPs benefit from relationships with individuals who are more communicative and sensitive to relational dynamics, such as INFJs.
• 🚫 INTPs should take a stand and not let themselves be swayed into relationships that they have doubts about to avoid hurting themselves and others.
• 🗣️ INTPs are advised to have open conversations early on in a relationship to understand the other person's feelings and intentions.

Q & A

Why do INTPs sometimes suddenly drop off a relationship?

INTPs may suddenly drop off a relationship because they were not confident in the relationship from the beginning or they had already deemed the person they are investing in as someone they shouldn't be investing in, leading to a 'wake-up call' later on.

What is the role of caution in INTPs' approach to relationships?

INTPs approach relationships with caution, taking many mental steps to analyze compatibility and ensure they are making a good investment of their time and emotions.

Why might an INTP initially ignore warning signs about a potential partner?

An INTP might initially ignore warning signs because they find things they like about the person and hope for the best, which can lead to overlooking red flags.

How do INTP men typically behave in relationships?

INTP men may be more passive in relationships, allowing themselves to be pursued rather than actively pursuing, which can lead to apathy and a lack of investment in the relationship.

What is the importance of communication at the beginning of a relationship for INTPs?

Having a real conversation at the start of a relationship is crucial for INTPs to ensure they are on the same page and to prevent misunderstandings and potential relationship cut-offs later.

What advice does the speaker give to those pursuing an INTP?

The speaker suggests allowing the INTP to make the first move towards you, as this indicates they are genuinely interested and willing to step out of their comfort zone.

What does the speaker suggest non-INTP individuals should do when dating an INTP?

The speaker advises non-INTP individuals to engage in open conversations to understand the INTP's feelings and thoughts about the relationship and to ensure they see a future with you.

Why might INTPs be more compatible with certain personality types?

INTPs might be more compatible with personality types that are more sensitive and communicative about relational dynamics, such as INFJs, because they provide a platform for more conversation and understanding.

What is the speaker's perspective on the role of intuition in INTPs' relationships?

The speaker believes that as INTPs get older, their intuitive sense becomes stronger, helping them to better understand compatibility and the core of a relationship.

What does the speaker suggest INTPs do to prevent ending up in a relationship they are not confident in?

The speaker suggests that INTPs should take a stand and not let external factors push them into a relationship they are not confident in to avoid hurting themselves and others.

How does the speaker describe the process of INTPs analyzing relationships?

INTPs spend a lot of time processing and analyzing why they are attracted to certain characteristics and people, which helps them become more confident in their choices.

Outlines

00:00

🤔 Understanding INTP Relationship Dynamics

The paragraph discusses the tendency of INTPs to suddenly withdraw from relationships. It suggests that this behavior stems from a lack of initial confidence in the relationship or a realization that the person is not a suitable match. The speaker admits to having experienced this themselves and explains that INTPs are cautious in relationships. They mention that INTPs might ignore early warning signs and hope for the best, leading to a potential 'wake-up call' later. The paragraph also touches on the idea that INTPs spend a lot of time analyzing their feelings and compatibility, which can lead to a confident decision about who they are attracted to. It closes with the suggestion that INTPs should be more assertive in their relationships to avoid misunderstandings and potential hurt.

05:02

🙍‍♀️ Navigating INTP Relationships: A Call for Communication

This paragraph focuses on the challenges INTPs face in relationships and the importance of clear communication. It discusses the potential hesitation that can arise when an INTP enters a new relationship, given past experiences of sudden relationship endings. The speaker advises that having an open conversation early on can be beneficial. For those interested in an INTP, the paragraph suggests allowing the INTP to make the first move, as this can indicate genuine interest. It also highlights the potential difficulty INTPs can have in ending relationships if pursued by others. The speaker acknowledges their limited perspective as a male INTP and invites feedback from female INTPs. The paragraph concludes with a recommendation for INTPs to take a stand and engage in deeper conversations about the future of their relationships to avoid ending up in a situation that could cause harm to both parties.

Keywords

💡INTP

INTP is a personality type in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI), characterized by being introverted, intuitive, thinking, and perceiving. In the video, the speaker discusses the behavior of INTPs in relationships, particularly their tendency to withdraw suddenly. The speaker uses the INTP personality type as a framework to explain their observations about why they might drop out of relationships.

💡Relationship

A relationship in this context refers to a romantic connection between two people. The video script explores the dynamics of relationships, especially from the perspective of INTP individuals, and how they might approach and withdraw from them.

💡Sponsor

The term 'sponsor' is mentioned at the beginning of the transcript and likely refers to an advertisement or promotional message that precedes the main content of the video. It is not directly related to the main theme but sets the stage for the discussion that follows.

💡Wake up call

In the script, 'wake up call' is used metaphorically to describe a moment of realization or sudden awareness that prompts an INTP to reassess their relationship. It illustrates the point at which an INTP might decide to end a relationship due to a lack of confidence or compatibility.

💡Apathy

Apathy is described in the video as a potential INTP response to a relationship where they are not genuinely invested. It is used to explain how an INTP might allow a relationship to progress without actively pursuing it, leading to a potential sudden end.

💡Compatibility

Compatibility is a central concept in the video, referring to the match between two individuals in terms of their personality traits, values, and relationship goals. The speaker discusses how INTPs assess compatibility and how this assessment can lead to the decision to end a relationship.

💡INTP men

The video script specifically addresses the behavior of INTP men in relationships, suggesting that they might be more passive and require more initiative from their partners. It contrasts the approach of INTP men with that of other personality types.

💡Pursue

Pursue, in the context of the video, refers to the act of actively seeking to establish or maintain a romantic relationship. The speaker discusses how INTPs might react differently to being pursued versus pursuing others, which can impact the longevity of a relationship.

💡INFJ

INFJ is another personality type in the MBTI, mentioned in the video as a potential good match for INTPs. The speaker suggests that INFJs might be more attuned to relational dynamics, which could complement the INTP's approach to relationships.

💡ESFP

ESFP is a personality type mentioned in contrast to INTPs. The video suggests that ESFPs might be more impulsive and less reflective in relationships, which could lead to misunderstandings or conflicts with INTPs who prefer a more cautious approach.

💡Communication

Communication is highlighted as a crucial aspect of relationships in the video. The speaker emphasizes the importance of open and honest conversations for INTPs to assess their feelings and the future of a relationship.

Highlights

INTPs may drop out of relationships suddenly due to initial lack of confidence or doubts about the partner.

INTPs approach relationships cautiously, often analyzing potential partners carefully.

INTPs might ignore early warning signs about a partner if they find some aspects of them attractive.

INTPs can have a 'wake-up call' where they realize a relationship is not right for them.

INTP men may allow themselves to be pursued, appearing indifferent to the relationship's progress.

INTPs spend a lot of time processing why they are attracted to certain characteristics in others.

INTPs may recognize patterns in the types of people they are attracted to.

INTPs may not actively pursue relationships but rather go along with them.

INTPs may cut off relationships to avoid a worse ending down the line.

INTPs should communicate their feelings and thoughts about a relationship early on.

For non-INTPs interested in an INTP, it's suggested to let the INTP make the first move.

INTP women may find it challenging to stop a relationship if they are being pursued.

INTPs may benefit from relationships with types that are more courteous and communicative, like INFJs.

INTPs should take a stand and not let external factors influence their relationship decisions.

INTPs should ask themselves if they see a future with their partner to gauge the relationship's potential.

The speaker invites other INTPs to share their insights and experiences in the comments.

Transcripts

why do int peas just suddenly drop off a

relationship well figure out after we

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sponsor anyway yes so why do intps if

you have experienced this I will be

going in a relationship and everything

would be going great so it seems and

then all of a sudden there's a sudden

drop and I would be lying if I were if I

said that I had never done this myself

unfortunately but that's why intps tried

to take things very carefully and

cautiously when they are approaching

relationships so the simple answer as to

why that happens is because we were not

confident in the relationship to begin

with or we had already deemed the person

that we are now investing in is someone

who we shouldn't be investing in and

filings at some point in time later on

we kind of like have a wake up call as

to like why we shouldn't be

participating with this person now this

there's probably other reasons as well

and if you're 90 P I would love to hear

like if you had been in this situation

what caused you to cut off the

relationship over the reasons but for me

personally it would be because I had

already had determined this person is

not someone I should be developing with

but like as they like pursue you in a

way you start to kind of ignore the

signs that you were first recognizing

with that person and you kind of hope

for the best because you find things

that you do like about them and you

start to kind of invest with them but

you're not you're not actually acting

out to pursue that person at least for a

guy because it's very because like with

INTP men so int P is an es FPS es fps

all do more like they would pursue the

intp more and the int people kind of

just go with it and the EFP might feel

like they are having a successful

relationship when in reality the INTP

has just kind of been apathetic to the

situation and allowed themselves to get

to a point where they you know those

those they won't mind to see where it

goes they kind of they would be hopeful

to like how it turns out

but but then unfortunately at that point

is that you're running the risk of

having this cut off that happens within

like a month or two or maybe a little

bit longer so if you haven't seen my

video like how do you know an intp likes

you in my Strangeways I I'm trying to

articulate that intps take a lot more

care and mental caution when approaching

someone there's there's a lot of

vigorous steps that we would prefer to

take and if we aren't allowed to expose

steps and we bifurcate them and end up

finding ourselves in this relationship

that we never were confident in to begin

with then ultimately we will end up

waking up unless something does happen

like that's kind of where like the

prospecting part comes into play where

it's like we're open to something

happening and working out but I guess

the older intps get though they're gonna

be more even just younger ones but like

they the intuitive sense of kind of like

knowing where a person is and what's

going on with them and like the core of

the the compatibility of them and the

other person like we spend a lot of time

trying to process as to why we like

certain people and why we're attracted

to certain characteristics versus other

ones and and we'll rip through all

through those thoughts and so we become

very I guess confident into knowing what

kind of person we may

like and will recognize like

commonalities between different people

that we finally find ourselves intrigued

by but may or may not actually be

pursuing or at least recognize

attributes of people that are intrigued

by us it's like oh well for some reason

women that are attracted to me have a

father that's more quiet and their mom

it's very like plans things and

management and all that stuff and so and

normally they're like a younger child or

whatever you just kind of list all these

things so if you're someone who has

received this kind of unfortunate

experience one I'm sorry too

I'm trying to think like I guess it's

really up onto the onto the fault of the

INTP of not holding their position as

they should have because you wouldn't

know and then unfortunately now what if

you were to find another INTP and things

are working you might always have this

kind of hesitation in the back your mind

wondering is this actually working or is

it going to cut off and so I guess just

I don't know I guess having a real

conversation at the beginning of things

before things go too crazy but I would

if you're a girl I would suggest that

you allow the INTP to make a step to go

towards you and if they never do that

means that you are not on the forefront

of their mind and if you were to keep

pursuing them they may just kind of go

with it but that that's not good for you

because well it'll end badly for for a

guy or a girl intp so that for previous

when I meant like someone who's not 90 P

but is interested in the intp but if you

are a girl int P I mean I guess actually

probably shouldn't talk too much in this

area because I'm not a woman so anyone

who is an intp woman I would love to

hear your thoughts as to like what is

the best way for you because it probably

has some similarities but I can see that

like as a guy pursuing a woman which is

kind of like I would say a sign of like

the guy is actually willing to overstep

on comfort zones and themselves to

proclaim like their duty toward that

person or like I am choosing you and so

therefore I'm actually going to make

effort to like approach you and stuff

like that I can see how women intp can

keep intps can be more susceptible to

well a guy of pursuing them and then

having to figure out how to just like

stop it so I guess in any sense so the

girl will have to unfortunately have to

build a wall to be like no sorry we

can't go beyond this because I mean I've

already kind of deemed you this who you

are and this is not gonna work and I am

trying to save us from me or save me

from just kind of going with it and then

us ending terribly and then guys it's so

funny I just realized a really the same

thing so really it's just they're being

pursued somehow so a guy's intps and

girl intps they're both being pursued in

some way and and they're whatnot and so

that's why it's nice for like intps to

have interest in like wa say an infj or

other types that are a lot more

courteous when it comes to relational

dynamics they they're a lot more

sensitive to like where we actually at

and let's actually kind of figure this

out and it provides a platform for more

conversation and communication between

the individuals of like where they're

actually at and what they feel about

something but let's say like an es FP

they they won't really be courteous to

that so to speak and they just kind of

flop into it and keep pushing and and

there's other types too but yeah and

then you know you have on the

unfortunate ending so I hope that is

insightful to the situation

intps be like take a stand don't let

other things to kind of like allow you

to go through it and and end up hurting

you and the other person and other

people I guess

questions really dig around till I

figure out like what they feel about the

situation yes feel or think about the

relationship between you and them do

they see a future with you

and that's another thing it's like dwell

in that with them try to figure out what

they foresee between you and them

anyway um but there's only a limited

perspective of mine please tell me yours

in the comment section below and give me

your insights and all that stuff so I'll

see you guys another bit of another life

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